tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post8008175645212232488..comments2024-01-31T18:34:20.733-08:00Comments on T-Central: Crossdressing Thoughts & Reflections - SallyHallehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-73338837205732288452011-02-08T11:08:20.033-08:002011-02-08T11:08:20.033-08:00Hi Sally
I'm very pleased to have re-found T-...<i>Hi Sally<br /><br />I'm very pleased to have re-found T-central and through it you. I shall promptly put a link on my own blog.<br /><br />I understand a wife needing to ask questions and to determine the extent her life is to be affected/ threatened. My own wife has supported to a great extent my cross-dressing but has said she would have been off in a flash if she thought I wanted to be fulltime or transition. <br /><br />Your wife appears to 'allow' a great deal and that is fine; each has to find their own limits. <br /><br />Labels can sometimes be useful in helping 'other' people understand where or what we are, but first we have to understand it ourselves.<br /><br />I am fairly resolved on the matter. I am happy to be under the transgendered banner, or to be called a t-girl, but consider myself a cross-dresser (=same as transvestite in UK English). <br /><br />In the end though, it is not what you are called but how you feel and how you act. We all have to find a level at which we feel totally at ease with ourselves.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Maybe we will stay in touch.<br /><br />Hugs <br />Tina xx<br /><br /><br /><b>TinaCortina</b><br />http://tinacortina.wordpress.com/</i>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-28518252060772468062010-12-13T22:33:07.394-08:002010-12-13T22:33:07.394-08:00I don't find words confining. We use words to ...I don't find words confining. We use words to communicate. Sometimes, we call those words "labels." They're just words. I don't see why <i>cross-dresser</i> would confine someone in any way. It simply says something about how a person goes through life.<br /><br />I can't see that a person who self-defines as <i>cross-dresser</i> or even <i>transvestite</i> would be limited in anyway. Unless they let a word limit them.<br /><br />I was never uncomfortable with calling myself <i>transsexual</i> before I transitioned. It described what I was, quite accurately as it turned out.<br /><br />I will say, however, and not for the first time (and probably not for the last time), that transsexuals aren't under any umbrellas except those that keep off the rain. I don't express a gender identity different than the norm. I'm terribly normal. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-66072634129111318472010-12-12T15:01:59.624-08:002010-12-12T15:01:59.624-08:00I appreciate the sentiment that "we are who w...I appreciate the sentiment that "we are who we are" but words are all we have to communicate what it is that we are. I do agree that the labels that are floating around have been ill-defined, and can be loaded with extraneous connotation. Labels are necessary to understand ourselves and describe ourselves, but what we need are better labels, labels that draw meaningful, non-judgmental lines and which can then be focused with well-chosen adjectives to communicate our state of being and of mind to others, within our community and to outsiders.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-22244366376122707362010-12-11T13:54:06.105-08:002010-12-11T13:54:06.105-08:00It is not a question of spite or exclusion. It is...It is not a question of spite or exclusion. It is simply of understanding that unless different words MEAN different things, then how are we to understand and recognize DIFFERENCES? Is Blue better than Red? No. They are simply different<br /><br />Imagine the chaos if a red light meant the same as a green lightAnnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02696670919817140802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-38235762638674799982010-12-11T11:06:21.874-08:002010-12-11T11:06:21.874-08:00Sally,
That is a fantastic post :) Thanks so muc...Sally, <br /><br />That is a fantastic post :) Thanks so much for sharing. I especially can relate to your description of the mutual discomfort between your SO and you in discussing labels. Thanks for putting those thoughts so clearly. P.S. I'll have to see if I am up to the reading challenge!<br /><br />Calie,<br /><br />Thanks for the great site and for this series on CD'ing. I have enjoyed both posts a great deal, and I look forward to reading what comes. <br /><br />Mel :)Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17314797647795825545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-68421096036117830912010-12-11T07:29:59.268-08:002010-12-11T07:29:59.268-08:00Thanks for sharing Sally. The words are all loaded...Thanks for sharing Sally. The words are all loaded of course, and they all confine, limit and unfairly freeze the person they are referring to in an instant that does not give the full person full credit.<br /><br />We must use words though, with all the limitations they have.<br /><br />We must hope, I suppose, that the words are employed by the people who hear them and read them generously and inclusively, rather than spitefully and exclusively.<br /><br />Nice words here today. I hope that everyone takes them in a generous, inclusive way. Thanks again.<br /><br />Best - PetraPetra Bellejambeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15325233285694315036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-20686364742357155842010-12-11T05:22:11.169-08:002010-12-11T05:22:11.169-08:00Thanks so much for having me, Calie! You do such w...Thanks so much for having me, Calie! You do such wonderful work here with T-Central, and I'm absolutely delighted to be able to contribute.Sally Bibraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10380766673885084474noreply@blogger.com