the chicken or the egg

To me it’s the most obvious thing in the world that my gender identity was shaped much before my sexual identity was. What happened is that eventually upon meeting, the latter came into conflict with the former. This causes an unconventional situation but not the stuff that paraphilias are made of. 


More from Joanna on a subject she feels very strongly about.  As usual, from Joanna, her points are well stated in the chicken or the egg.