It seems impossible to me now it was over seven years ago when Liz and I
went out on New Years Eve and I took my first small doses of estrogen.
Years later I can thank the meds for softer skin, longer hair, breasts
and on certain days, crazy emotions.
I always love to see blog posts like this one from Cyrsti. It's honest, from the heart, writing like this that can help so many who are still trying to find themselves. In this post, Cyrsti looks back over the past decade which, for her, was a double edged sword.
Well, here we are, now as a WordPress self-hosted site. Wow! Can you
believe it? Do you know what that means? After 10 years of blogging, I
finally have chosen to take ownership of my blog. Wow! That took way
too long!
Same blogger, same blog name, new address and what may be, for some of you, a new name for the blogger. You'll know this fabulous blogger by her true name now.....Kelly, and she rocks!
This post explains what's going on and this is Kelly's latest post. Now, while you're visiting Unordinary Style, you absolutely must grab a cup of coffee or tea and take a few minutes to read Kelly's updated ABOUT page, which make for some interesting reading.
“Is she going to die?” I ask the firefighter. It’s been 20 minutes since
I’ve dialed 911, my wife is lying collapsed on the living room floor of
our rural ski cabin. Shortly after, the paramedics and firefighters
showed up, lifted Dana’s shirt to attach her to a heart monitor, only to
have it all disconnected in a flurry. The words “load and go” is all I
had heard.
You're going to want to read this suspenseful and emotional post to the end. After that, consider leaving a comment to Dana's wonderful Transgentle Wife.
Ever Lovely Mrs J continues her polite and gentle quest in challenging
rudeness to LGBTQ+ people and being an open ally but keeping my secret,
bless her.
An understanding spouse can make so much difference in the life of someone trans. That's not really what Lynn's post is about, but the relationship between those two is just one of the things I just love about reading her blog. [....and the shout-out to T-Central at the end has nothing to do with my featuring this post :)]
Those who have followed my blogs for a while, will know that I have
argued against transgender separatism, people who think they are so much
more trans than other transgender people that they have the right to
decide who is in and who is out.
Mixed in with all of the holiday greeting posts from our many bloggers, was this one, from Jack Molay. It's well worth taking the time to read.
Our stockings are unstuffed and our presents opened. Poor Colin’s
coughing up a lung and has a fever, I hope he doesn’t have bronchitis.
He’s staying home and resting today while I go visit family at my
sister’s place. Despite Colin not feeling well, Christmas has been good
this year.
For many in the LGBT community it is an especially lonely time, they
might not have seen their family since they came out to them. Their
families and children have disowned them. Sometimes when we do attend
the gathering, we feel like outcasts, like the square peg in the round
hole, we just don’t fit in, we are tolerated when we bring our partners
or ourselves to the table.
A really nice holiday greeting from one of the Nutmeg State's long time trans bloggers.
To all my friends and readers: during this joyous season, may you have a
wonderful and Merry Christmas, and the best holidays ever. And don’t
eat too much!!!
I hope you all have an amazing holiday season! I wanted to share some of the pictures from my last photo shoot for En Femme because they are about as festive as you can get.
To all my readers, let me send you best wishes for the time of year. I
hope your year ends peacefully and happily, you get some lovely presents
and that you also get a decent break from all the rush.
Plated hair and leggings. The scratching sound of a blade dragging along
the ice to stop. Dark mascara and glossy eyes. Floating along the ice
that had been freshly laid but still wet where hired boots had been
rushed onto the rink. Music filling the wonderland and Christmas trees
hanging from the roof.
It's now Christmas Day, and this is Hanna's Christmas Eve Special, but it's all good. More beautiful writing, from the girl who's always thinking.
We don't have time in our lives to not be our authentic selves and
follow our own path. All we have in life is our own journey, our special
journey which is a gift. This gift should not be wasted on pleasing
everyone, but ourselves. We need to accept ourselves for who we are,
not cater to people who have their own plans for our lives.
I,
like many crossdressers, do not have universal approval from my family
so it will not be possible for me to dress as I would like to, not only
on Christmas day itself but for around three weeks over the festive
period.
Many of you
will remember this alternative version of the "Night Before Christmas"
from last Christmas eve. I hope this become a tradition for many
Christmas eves to come. Enjoy and have a Merry Christmas and Happy
Holidays.
We have reached Christmas Eve and it suddenly feels as though it has
come upon me all too quickly even though by doing this Advent calendar I
should be prepared.
December 20, 2019 – My last outing of the year. One of my favorite
places to be. Third Friday, a monthly event I have been able to attend
now these past few months.
I know where I stand. JK Rowling is a dumpster fire who endorses
bullying and harassment in the workplace. She’s like the racists in the
50’s.
There's been a lot of blogging recently about some comments made by Joanne Rowling, the Harry Potter author. Yeah, the same author who writes under the male pen name of Robert Galbraith.....THAT JK Rowling. Which post to pick? Well, Kathleen and Colin sum it all up pretty well in this short post.
When I first introduced myself to the group, I proudly declared to
everyone “I’m a transgender woman.” This was so important to me,
because this was going to be my family and I wanted to be open and
honest from the get-go. The reaction shocked me. There were claps and
cheers and smiles from everyone. I still get tears thinking about it.
Need to read a "feel-good" blog post right now? This one will do just fine! And, just what group did Maddie out herself to? I'm not telling! You'll have to read The Power of Music for the answer.
O, what a natural thing, putting it all together and going
out into the world. And yet how becoming Petra remains an intoxicating,
all-encompassing, fully immersive neutron-bomb of glory.
Petra, once a very active blogger, hasn't posted since 2017.....until now. It so good so see a formerly active blogger do an update. In this one, Petra just says a bit about makeup and feeling good just being Petra.
Many of us when we're first coming we dream of the “Gold Standard” being
about to integrate in society where no one identifies us as being trans,
but over time reality sets in that we will never reach that goals. I
also realized that most people really don’t care how I looked, most
people just want to buy their groceries and get home to make dinner for
their families.
She's like the Energizer Bunny! Diana first started blogging in 2006, at least on Blogspot, and she just keeps on writing! In this post, she writes about that "privilege" of being able to pass as a woman.
I had a video call on my tablet some weeks ago. My Nan, she taps around
on her tablet until something happens, usually on social media, but
sometimes she calls me by accident. “Hiya.” I said loudly.
“Oh! I didn’t realize I did that. How did that happen?”
“Can you see me?” I had the camera switched on and I could see that at
my end in the corner of the screen but hers was switched off.
“No, all I can see is a girl.”
That comment, from Hannah's Nan, made me smile. After all, Hannah was the girl on the screen. It's another wonderfully written post, from Hannah, that warms the heart.
They tend to come at night, when I feel isolated and alone, and they are
fueled by every notion of doubt and guilt. Not a coherent line of
thoughts, but a sticky paste of “bad”. The racing heart, feeling of
suffocation, overheating body, it’s all there, you know, to make it more
fun. I don’t get to die, just feel like I am, over and over.
Ever had a panic attack? Maybe they're all different, but what Beth describes above is exactly how I feel when I have one. While Beth does mention the trans side of things, this post is not necessarily relating panic attacks to being trans.
It appears that gender identity, is for most people, a difficult issue
to address as it reaches deeply into our religious and societal
boundaries, making it a taboo topic that many would rather snicker at or
ignore. Yet, there are so many worldwide that are somewhere on the
Transgender spectrum. This is not a small group, just a silent one. Many remain in "hiding" rather than be criticized and ostracized.
Terri is the blogger in this post and part of the CHICAGO NOW blog group. Read more here.
For some reason I have it fixed in my brain I had surgery in April 2019,
even though it was March. It might be because those first few weeks
were so dislocating and painful, I’ve tried to block them out.
Heather has written an very detailed review of her life, post-GCS + 8 months. She includes this:
Content warning: graphic descriptions of vaginoplasty recovery,
surgical care, biological processes, emotional distress, and sex.
I really appreciate posts like this one. If you're thinking of GCS, or about to undergo it, this post is for you.
If you’re reading this, you’ve somehow found your way to a new home
for YATGB. I have tweaked the title a little in that it’s now Yet
Another Transgender Blog.
Slightly new name and an new URL Lynn has gone off on her own and dumped Blogspot. Been thinking about that myself. Read all about it here.
I read these articles with two sets of eyes. The first were my medical
eyes: was this the sort of thing that, as a doctor, would be helpful for
me to read? The answer is clearly yes. The second were my transgender
eyes: was this the sort of thing that, as a trans person myself, I would
want doctors to read and know? The answer is also a clear yes. There is
no doubt that transgender people are becoming more and more visible;
their care has been, in the main, not that great; most doctors have very
little training in care of transgender people, and reliable resources
for doctors to draw upon are few.
If you're like me, someone who is always trying to learn more about the science of being trans, you may want to read this post, from Vivienne. She found a magazine in her hospital with some really good articles. Best of all, it's all on the Web, for us to read. You can find the link, and a review, in Vivienne's post, Shifting Sands.
I think about how in the closet I am, despite how often I go out and how
active I am online, not only with my website but with Twitter and
Flickr as well. I think about how much this side of me is a secret and
how some of my closest friends have no idea (as far as I know) about
Hannah.
What a fabulous blog post, from Hannah. This one is all about coming out and just how difficult it is to do so. Oh, do I relate to this. Sometimes the person you've come out to will embrace you (check). Sometimes you'll be rejected (check). The title, Meeting Your Heroes, may appear not to have anything to do with post, but it all comes together in the end.
To disclose, or not disclose, that is the question. Whether 'tis nobler
on the first date to be silent. To keep quiet and learn about each
other, or take a moment to be out there early...
Good post, from Joanne. To disclose or not to disclose.....that you are trans.
.......are those who don’t know me assigning a gender by virtue of my name?
Especially by new correspondents, who haven’t met me yet? They may get a
bit of a shock if we eventually meet!
Mandy's given name, which I'm assuming is not Mandy, is a name used by both genders. Seems like some in Mandy's neighborhood email group are assuming the wrong gender for this male crossdresser. The post includes a nice picture of the girl in blue standing next to her sweet, heritage blue ride.
Over the years, I have two ex wives (one is deceased) one ex fiance,
long gone since before I joined the Army and a partner (Liz) who I have
been around for over eight years now.
In a short post, from Cyrsti, she writes on a subject I seldom see discussed in T-Blogs.....Ex-Wives.
It doesn’t matter how far down the gender thing journey you are there
are always those moments when you just wonder what next and loosing our
way a little.
In another wonderfully written post, that so many can relate to, Hannah writes about losing her way in the gender journey. She ends up, however, discussing some things she wants to do and the places she wants to visit when she has reached the end of the journey.
Ever Lovely Mrs J continues her polite and gentle quest in challenging
rudeness to LGBTQ+ people and being an open ally but keeping my secret,
bless her.
If you are be sure you can change your life for the better. Reach out to the nearest LGBTQ center and see if they can help!
To all my readers, let me send you best wishes for the time of year. I
hope your year ends peacefully and happily, you get some lovely presents
and that you also get a decent break from all the rush.
Happy Holidays, everyone. And best wishes for the New Year.
I,
like many crossdressers, do not have universal approval from my family
so it will not be possible for me to dress as I would like to, not only
on Christmas day itself but for around three weeks over the festive
period. 
December 20, 2019 – My last outing of the year. One of my favorite
places to be. Third Friday, a monthly event I have been able to attend
now these past few months.
If you’re reading this, you’ve somehow found your way to a new home
for YATGB. I have tweaked the title a little in that it’s now Yet
Another Transgender Blog.
I read these articles with two sets of eyes. The first were my medical
eyes: was this the sort of thing that, as a doctor, would be helpful for
me to read? The answer is clearly yes. The second were my transgender
eyes: was this the sort of thing that, as a trans person myself, I would
want doctors to read and know? The answer is also a clear yes. There is
no doubt that transgender people are becoming more and more visible;
their care has been, in the main, not that great; most doctors have very
little training in care of transgender people, and reliable resources
for doctors to draw upon are few.
I think about how in the closet I am, despite how often I go out and how
active I am online, not only with my website but with Twitter and
Flickr as well. I think about how much this side of me is a secret and
how some of my closest friends have no idea (as far as I know) about
Hannah.
.......are those who don’t know me assigning a gender by virtue of my name?
Especially by new correspondents, who haven’t met me yet? They may get a
bit of a shock if we eventually meet!
