tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post4995724181218366961..comments2024-01-31T18:34:20.733-08:00Comments on T-Central: Crossdressing Thoughts & Reflections - PetraHallehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-55801796341227140182010-12-12T13:05:39.481-08:002010-12-12T13:05:39.481-08:00@Calie,
Both you and Ariel in your comments displ...@Calie,<br /><br />Both you and Ariel in your comments displayed the words "just" in a kinder light than I had conjured up, and your view makes a lot of sense.<br /><br />Stirred my brain a little in fact. I think I may even get a blog post out it.<br /><br />Thanks so much. <br /><br />And thanks too for the opportunity to write for your audience. This has been a privilege.<br /><br />Fondly, PetraPetra Bellejambeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15325233285694315036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-50233700863497702352010-12-12T08:53:29.268-08:002010-12-12T08:53:29.268-08:00Petra, I'll confess to using the term, "J...Petra, I'll confess to using the term, "Just a crossdresser" more than once. I believe I even used it in a blog post. But, I didn't use it, and don't use the term, in a bad kind of way. More like an envious kind of way. When your mind is constantly flooded with thoughts of transition, you simply cannot turn it off. My many CD friends have described their feelings to me and they can turn it on and off. So, would I like to be "just a crossdresser"? Yes I would, because then I could turn it off.Caliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-50690855841888253042010-12-10T05:52:09.898-08:002010-12-10T05:52:09.898-08:00Everything that widens our outlook and makes us mo...Everything that widens our outlook and makes us more open to others should be valued by society. <br /><br />If only the experiences you describe, and their broadening effect could be repeated in some measure by everyone. What a fine world it could be; a world where understanding and caring about both sides of the gender experience is the norm. <br /><br />Thank you for writing so well. You are 'just' an amazing inspiring human being!Hallehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847654451426257182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-61694776529224393402010-12-08T11:10:31.462-08:002010-12-08T11:10:31.462-08:00@Ariel
Fine point, well taken. It is a good insti...@Ariel<br /><br />Fine point, well taken. It is a good instinct to allow the most generous interpretation of anything we hear said about us, and "just" in the context you raise here is moored in a hope for good, simple, happy outcomes. I get that. <br /><br />Thanks for bringing the thought, and for your work here with TC.<br /><br />Love your Avatar by the way. I am mad about shawls....Petra Bellejambeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15325233285694315036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-54800736285205524012010-12-08T10:48:57.992-08:002010-12-08T10:48:57.992-08:00Petra, here's another take on "just."...Petra, here's another take on "just." It came from my partner when I first realized that I probably needed to transition, and it probably comes from many other partners in similar situations: "Maybe you're just a cross-dresser."<br /><br />In that case, "just" doesn't diminish "cross-dresser." Rather, it's the hope that you can be a cross-dresser rather than having to transition -- that what you need is to express your feminine side rather than to be female. My partner would have been happy if that had been the case. She rather liked my femininity. It was my need to be female that was much more difficult for her.<br /><br />Thanks for a glimpse into your world!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-91036895647932583762010-12-08T10:01:10.644-08:002010-12-08T10:01:10.644-08:00Glad to see someone tackle the idea of "just&...Glad to see someone tackle the idea of "just" being a crossdresser. It's an unfortunate term that happens all to regularly. <br /><br />I have to wonder if it sets one up for a bit of competitive one-ups-manship. You know, the I'm not just a crossdresser because I do this or that?<br /><br />It's unfortunate that crossdressers are shamed into hiding. Good to see folks like Eddie Izzard out there.Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00129944492482478212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-58215285074990096272010-12-08T07:44:12.013-08:002010-12-08T07:44:12.013-08:00@Jenny - I see now that I read your comment far to...@Jenny - I see now that I read your comment far too quickly to pick up your nicely turned words. I am far too quick to assume a posture of dignified high-horsedness. <br /><br />A Just Cross Dresser. I like it. <br /><br />And, hey, everybody else, go read Jenny's superb blog.Petra Bellejambeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15325233285694315036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-84027745307460893802010-12-08T07:32:43.037-08:002010-12-08T07:32:43.037-08:00@ Janie, @ Anne. Sincere thanks.
@Deena - Simple ...@ Janie, @ Anne. Sincere thanks.<br /><br />@Deena - Simple terms? I have tried long and hard to find simple terms. Epic fail. I have a 3,000 word essay in 2 parts up on Voyages en Rose that comes as close as I have yet been able to. Link to Part 1 here: http://voyagesenrose.blogspot.com/2010/10/laundry-and-art-of-cross-dressing-part.html<br /><br />What do I get? A pretty intoxicating mix of things, and yes, excitement is part of the cocktail, but the excitement is not of a sexual variety. As an adolescent, yes it was, but here approaching entry into my 6th decade, well, not so much. Mostly I get a very heightened sense of being alive, very still, and very much in the moment. Does this help? <br /><br />Why is the best question, because it never gets fully solved. Thanks sincerely for asking.<br /><br />@Jenny, by all means. I think as far as labels go, in this part of my life, there is no better label. Happy, proud in fact, to answer to it.Petra Bellejambeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15325233285694315036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-15118585566664836852010-12-08T05:27:41.246-08:002010-12-08T05:27:41.246-08:00Since that is a just argument, can I call you a ju...Since that is a just argument, can I call you a just crossdresser?Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08027942517258679266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-86365161856357317232010-12-07T19:39:03.918-08:002010-12-07T19:39:03.918-08:00I wonder... I know a few cross dressers and they, ...I wonder... I know a few cross dressers and they, like you, always skirt a fundamental issue (pun intended). There is no delicate way to ask this question so I'll just be crass and ask what you get out of wearing women's clothing? Does it excite you? Or maybe you feel feminine but can't quite grapple with the concept? I am not asking to be insulting but rather to get your open and straightforward opinion. Can you tell me in simple terms that even a ditz like me can grasp? Why?Deenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14347031772197022065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-36274775799593074082010-12-07T17:18:58.317-08:002010-12-07T17:18:58.317-08:00Brilliant! Clarity at last. Bravo!Brilliant! Clarity at last. Bravo!Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02696670919817140802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-18440358262526989932010-12-07T15:07:15.434-08:002010-12-07T15:07:15.434-08:00I am always left somewhat in awe wondering how Pet...I am always left somewhat in awe wondering how Petra manages her magic, creating clarity from fog, and music from noise - just by arranging regular words on the screen. <br /><br />This post deals beautifully with the differences between those who don't want to transition and those who have, will or would. But, I would add that there has been some muddling at the opposite end of the spectrum as well, between crossdressers who fetishize femininity and those who embrace it, with the result that the latter group is often mistaken for, or lumped in with the former.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-68632318120126816152010-12-07T14:33:09.981-08:002010-12-07T14:33:09.981-08:00Amen Ms. Sapphire. Words are indeed powerful.
Lo...Amen Ms. Sapphire. Words are indeed powerful. <br /><br />Looking forward to yours, and delighted to meet you here! Thanks for the encouragement on this post.<br /><br />Best - PetraPetra Bellejambeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15325233285694315036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210993542438732066.post-40647140111287511842010-12-07T14:26:32.185-08:002010-12-07T14:26:32.185-08:00Very well said, Petra. Calie was kind enough to al...Very well said, Petra. Calie was kind enough to allow me to do an upcoming post, and it stems from my wife asking if I was 'just' a crossdresser. For such a small little word, it really has a lot of power to restrict and confine us, doesn't it?Sally Bibraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10380766673885084474noreply@blogger.com