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Here's an update from Lindsay, in Kenya.  She's been blogging for over 10 years, but we haven't heard from her in a few years. When bloggers just go away, it always concerns me because I often fear the worst.  Thanks so much, Lindsay, for the update.

First Step Worries

I have been in hiding so long that I think Nicole is finally trying to break out and be free. It seems the only issues that are keeping her locked away revolve around money and stability. I need money to move out but also need to pay my obligations to my “old” life.


Some not-so-uncomon thoughts, from Nicole.

Still Here...

Hello all. It's been a long time. There's been a lot going on, so let me get right to it.





Time for a shout-out to one of my fav redheads (who I haven't seen face-to-face since before she transitioned)!  LOVE that hair girl!  We haven't heard from Cass for a while.  She did this post simply to bring us all up to date.

Town Girl Lives in Countryside

The problem with the gender clinics, and this isn’t a criticism as such, that they have a proverbial check-list, Have you told your family and friends? Have you told work? Have you changed your name? Here are some hormones, you’ll see the surgeon in N months. Thank you and goodbye.



I just cannot resist featuring Hannah's posts.  Her posts are just fun to read and so well written.  As is always the case, gender seems to find it's way into her blog posts, and this one is not an exception.

Facial Femization Surgery: The Insurance Blues

There's something I always say, on Gender Rebels or to the listeners who write up. Transition is the time when you discover how strong you really are and how strong you always have been. And it is. I really think that is true.



Faith got her FFS surgery coverage turned down by her insurance company.  It was, and rightfully so, very emotional for her but she's stronger now than ever before and she's not going to give up.

DRAB-GABBING no more

Our hostess at T-Central posts so rarely that I fear some may not have noticed it flash by on our list below!

Calie is one of the founders of the DRAB (dressed as a boy) - GAB luncheon meetings at the River City Gems. As one who would have benefitted so much back in my deep stealth days, it seems to me that such luncheons should be a part of any trans group's monthly rota.
In her post DRAB = DRESSED AS A BOY, Calie also makes some very good points on the topic of late transitioners. As she writes "I've got to say that some of the aging early transitioners seem have the crazy belief that if you haven't transitioned by age 30 you're either dead or you're not a transsexual".

She posts so rarely and writes so very well. Head over to Calie's Chronicles and read DRAB = DRESSED AS A BOY.

Young researcher is looking for trans people engaged in gender-affirming hormone therapy

Christy is a counseling psychology doc student at the university of Memphis.  She  is conducting dissertation research on experiences with hormone therapy and how comfortable trans individuals feel telling doctors about their side effects. 


Here's a shout-out to Jack and Sally, at Trans Express, for helping this student get the word out.  A link to Christy's survey is included in the post.

Finding Jeans That Fit

I have my old faithful jeans that I tend to wear until thread bear.  I know the style is toward the distressed look but the old me, when it starts falling apart, time to replace. 




Is there anyone out there, male or female, who can't relate to the title of this post, from Rhonda?

Not Up For Debate

.......a Japanese courts decision to uphold the requirement for surgical sterilisation before allowing their gender identity to be legally recognized.


This has got to be a joke, right?  Apparently not.  Our Girl has been posting since 2007.  Her posts are always short and to the point, this one included.

Genital Confirmation Surgery (GCS), March 2019

She asks me a question: what are your expectations?








She's been blogging for 8 years and she's finally there.  Heather met with her surgeon and was asked the question, above, just before she entered the operating room.  For her answers and much more leading up to the surgery, read, Genital Confirmation Surgery (GCS), March 2019.

Accepted But Excepted

One thing I have noted though, that while I have been mostly accepted, I have been excepted from a few things.






A good title always helps to get a blog post read and this one caught my eye right away.  The title says it all.  For anyone trans, MtF or FtM, the title, Accepted But Excepted, will resonate.

Caught Between A Rock And A Hard Place

For us all we want is to live our lives in peace. We don’t want special rights or treatment we just a job, a roof over our heads, and food on our plates.
But for many trans people those are out of our reach.


Some sobering thoughts, from Diana.  Some things never change.  Why?

12 Week-Recovery, 12-Month Relapse… & Uncelebrated Anniversaries

About 13 months ago I wrote a euphoric post about my gender reassignment surgery. I do remain extremely pleased about the physical result, it looks like it should, and not half bad at that… but the ongoing overall recovery has been a total disaster!


Andrea has had serious complications from her gender reassignment surgery.  I feel so bad for her, but she doesn't want your pity.  The purpose of this post is not only to update her readers but to educate anyone contemplating GRS on the possible complications.

Conformity as Identity or Survival?

I’ve known trans women who have been out for years that still hesitate to wear “women’s clothing” out in public because of the potential for bad responses. Hell, before I ever knowingly met another trans woman in my life, I knew butch cis women with the exact same worries about getting side-eyed or harassed if they put on a skirt or too much makeup, and those fears weren’t unfounded. They’d get misgendered even by people who knew they were cis. People are cruel, y’all know that.


An excellent post, from Zinnia Jones.

When a Forehead Reduction Procedure Makes Sense

Another common reason why people seek forehead reduction procedures has to do with their perceived level of femininity. Depending on the degree of recession and the size of the forehead, a high hairline is often considered a very masculine trait – something that makes women feel less-than-stellar.


I remember the wife of a trans friend telling me years ago that wearing my hair with bangs will give a more feminine appearance by not showing my high hairline.  How right she was.  A close friend, who transitioned, had the forehead reduction process done, and it did make quite a difference.  Rhonda explains why you may want a forehead reduction procedure in this post.

The Balancing Act

As I walked by, I was struck by how much people just didn't seem to care. I could go about my business and no one pointed, yelled, or caused trouble. I don't say that as a passing thing, I say that as a society thing. Sure, there are a few nutters - and there probably always will be - but modern folk seem used to us now and I'm cool with that. Indeed, that feeling of coolness was quite pervasive and made me feel like this was just another day. Perhaps that the seductive part of this: it starts to feel very normal.


It was a grand day out, for Lynn.  3 miles in heels and a lovely day of shopping.  Who could ask for more, but it's always a Balancing Act for a part time girl.

Expressing emotions, as a trans woman

If you transition male to female, and take hormones, the sensation of your emotions becomes more immediate, more demanding. They impinge on you.




MtF hormones do affect your emotions, and Clare has some comments on the subject.

Five Years Living Truth

I can't believe I've survived this long.  I really can't.  I thought for sure that either I would've been murdered or done it myself by now.  Like most things as I age, it seems like the blink of an eye, yet was agonizingly long.  I am a FAR different person than I was when I first announced my Truth to the world.

Sophie, a wonderful blogger who I have followed for years, has written a five year anniversary post.  It's a good summary of the 5 years since she went full time.  Do read this one and please take the time to congratulate her and let her know you appreciate her blog. 

WSJ TERF BS: One Frustrated Response

I’m not going to glorify the article by linking to it, but there was a miserable piece of TERF bs in the Wall Street Journal yesterday. I attempted to start a point by point rebuttal but I got too frustrated, so here’s what I wound up with instead.


Don't you just love Helen Boyd?  I've read her books and, while I don't agree with everything she says, this lady has moxie.  Needless to say, she has a few comments about the article mentioned above.  Her comments are short and to the point and worth reading.  The article, however, requires a subscription to read it and, frankly, I'm glad I can't.