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Monday, November 23, 2020

Obituary: Jan Morris, a poet of time, place and self

 

Jan Morris, who has died at the age of 94, was one the finest writers the UK has produced in the post-war era.

Her life story was crammed with romance, discovery and adventure. She was a soldier, an award-winning journalist, a novelist and - as a travel writer - became a poet of time and place.

She was also known as a pioneer in her personal life, as one of the first high-profile figures to change gender.

 

Thanks to Coline for sending me this link, from the BBC website.

Thursday, November 19, 2020

Hedwig

Who knows the story of Hedwig, raise your hand.

Hmm… I don’t see many hands raised.


 

I'm always looking for a unique post which, of course, is trans related.  I think this one qualifies.   

So, do you know the story of Hedwig?  If not, Diana gives us a brief synopsis.   Seems that there is a movement to get a transgender actor to play the part of Hedwig.  Makes sense, right?  Maybe not.  Read Diana's post for the details.

Oh, and just what little corner of the Nutmeg State does our blogger live in anyway?  Anyone know?   

Friday, November 13, 2020

For Your Consideration: COVID-like Isolation, Extended Into The Past

Most of the people that have expressed care and support and love for me, they live very far away. It's not like I can risk anyone's exposure and go visit them. And OMG, how much I want to. I have a ridiculous amount of hugs to give for recent kindnesses. But I can't.


The pandemic of 2020  has affected virtually everyone on the planet in one way or another, and that includes Shannyn.  It's not just being infected with this horrible virus; for many who have managed to stay healthy, it has meant loneliness and isolation which, for some, can be worse than the disease itself.  Shannyn has a few words on the subject.

Monday, November 9, 2020

I Love A Success Story - Sarah McBride

Democratic activist Sarah McBride willbecome the nation's first person who publicly identifies as transgender to serve as a state senator, after winning Tuesday's election in Delaware, CNN projects. become the nation's first person who publicly identifies as transgender to serve as a state senator, after winning Tuesday's election in Delaware, CNN projects.

 

 This is a success story!
 

Wednesday, November 4, 2020

Mom learns a lesson


Basically, Mom made a mistake.


 

 

I love to see blog posts from the mom's (and dad's) of transgender kids.  How I wish I had a mom like GenderMom.  In this post, she says she made a mistake with her daughter and she's not ashamed to admit it.  What was the mistake?  Go here for the answer.

Tuesday, November 3, 2020

Uncomfortably Numb

It is a enormous change to go from wandering around a mall that we visit in boy mode to the same mall in heels and a skirt.  All of a sudden we are looking over our shoulders, we are scanning the area for anyone who might know us, keeping alert of anyone who may want to harass us.  We have to do this.  We have to be aware of who is near us, who could harm us. 


 

 

 

 

A blog post well worth reading today, from Hannah.

Sunday, November 1, 2020

No, not all trans people “always knew” since childhood

Consistent with the findings of other publications, the authors reported that “a few months to a few years elapsed from the moment youth reached self-understanding to when they first came out to others.” However, their experiences were not homogeneous and did not follow a single straightforward path – instead, the authors identified three distinct pathways of development and disclosure among these youth.


For those of you, like myself, who are interested in the science of being trans, this blog post may be of interest. 
I find a post like this one absolutely fascinating!

Thursday, October 29, 2020

3 Month “Graduation”

I had my final post op appointment in person today and got some confirmation and a little reassurance.
 

 

 

I must admit that I am so, so remiss in not featuring Haven's blog since her gender affirmation surgery.  For some reason, her blog still shows up on T-Central under the old name and I'll try to fix that.  This post is a three month update, from Haven.  Things have not gone quite as well as planned, but she's doing better.

Tuesday, October 27, 2020

Fifteen Years Later

Back in October 2005, a young (ish) chap sat with his back to the garden, in a room that’s no longer there. Autumn sunlight glowed against the wallpaper, but the man was lost in his thoughts, staring at the computer’s bulky monitor. Should he press ‘post’ or not? There’s a dilemma of the modern world many folk don’t have.

 

Here's a shout-out to one of our long-time bloggers and a great on-line friend.  Lynn's blog has hit the 15 year mark.  Be sure to go over YATFB and give her a virtual high-five!

Sunday, October 25, 2020

Life Changes

There are times in our lifetime when something happens that changes your life for ever even though we may not realise it at the time. Fifty two years ago the weekly magazine Titbits produced an article entitled 'She Men'. The front cover of the magazine had a photo of a young woman with the headline "This Is A Man" 'Read the incredible facts inside'.
 

Those of us who are old enough to have grown up without the Internet can certainly relate to this post.  If you were in your teens, or even younger, you had few ways to find out about yourself.  For me, it was the library, with a handful of books and magazine articles.  Andrea relates her experience when she found this magazine article.

Friday, October 23, 2020

Permission to go shopping

Her suggestion was to keep putting out small changes – to start wearing more of my colourful clothes, and deliberately investing in one or two pastel feminine colours and start co-ordinating. Not necessarily out and female tee’s, but move away from the dark green and blues that make up 99% of my male wardrobe.


 

It was a good therapy session for Dee.  It involved clothes!  How can that not be good?!!

Sunday, October 18, 2020

What is top surgery? A guide to top surgery for trans men and transmasculine individuals

This procedure is typically done by transgender men or non-binary individuals who need a more traditionally masculine appearance to match their gender identity.


Trans Express links to a good article on the subject of top surgery.

Saturday, October 17, 2020

Purging

The number one reason most of us purge is because, as they say, going on the wagon.  We are stopping all this crossdressing thing and going “straight”.  “No more dressing, just going to appreciate my boring male clothes for the rest of my life.”       


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is a topic that is, sadly, probably familiar to most of you who are reading this.  No matter where you are in the spectrum, I'm betting that you have purged at least once.  As for me?  Been there, done that, bought the [fill in the blank] more than once.....  Nice guest post, By Stephanie Julianna, on Kandi's blog.


Thanks, Kandi, for including a link to T-Central on your blog!

Wednesday, October 14, 2020

The Convenient Women: A Response to a Dismissive Transsexual

Get over it girls.  We’re not better nor worse than you.  We’re just different.  Let us be.  Celebrate us, as we celebrate you.


 

 

Ah, the "I'm more trans than you" subject has risen it's ugly head yet again.  A very solid response indeed....

Sunday, October 11, 2020

When it all goes well

A number of weeks ago, I was talking with the Ever Lovely Mrs J about the (now long passed) birthday situation and my lovely partner asked – with a cheecky smile – if there was anything I wanted in the fancy department.

 

 

Ah, the Ever Lovely Mrs J.....   Lynn is so lucky to have her!  As is often the case with Lynn's posts, this one comes with photos.   Guess who's showing us a new look?
 

Friday, October 9, 2020

DON'T UNDERESTIMATE YOUR INFLUENCE

Some folks may believe that their lives aren't important or don't matter. You may be influencing someone and may not know it. Another person may be on the cusp of living authentically because you are actually doing it.

 

 

 

 

Short post.  Quality content!
 

Thursday, October 8, 2020

Saying Hello

Have you ever encountered another person in public whom you considered to be transgender or a cross dresser? Have you tried to strike up a conversation or just walked the other way?


Good question, from Cyrsti.  Here's my answer:

Yes, many times I have encountered, in public, someone I believed to be trans.  No, I never said hello.  Why?  Well, for two reasons.  1 - I didn't want to make the trans woman (in this case, not referring to trans guys) know that I read her and, 2 - I really didn't want to out myself.

Cyrsti has a different take on this, thanks to a comment on her blog from Emma.  Go here to read more.

Trans person who manages a sexual abuse helpline for women explains what trans and cis women have in common

Carter underlines that the endless debate about trans women’s access to such services is in itself  invalidating and damaging. When cis women fight to exclude trans women from our services, she adds, they are essentially saying that trans women’s lives aren’t as important as their own.  

What a great post, from The Independent, a UK website.  You can find the link at Trans Express.
 

Wednesday, October 7, 2020

Forgive us if we seem to you like men


Forgive us if we seem to you like men.


 

 

 

 

It's a sweet and beautiful poem, from Clare.

Tuesday, October 6, 2020

Two Steps Forward...

Maybe I am hesitant because I know people I actually know outside the interwebs might read this now. I have packed 30-plus years into the 2-plus years of this blog, and so for someone who's known me for the longer period, I worry about it being too much, too shocking, too bizarre.

Shannyn has opened herself to family now and it's two steps forward.....

 

Thanks, Shannyn, for the link to T-Central on your blog!
 

Wednesday, September 30, 2020

Aspirations of September

What to put on my fridge door for a gender identity aspiration though. I certainly don’t want a photo from an operating room or a picture of Miss Rachid or Mr Suporn and neither do I want a photo of a clothes shop or a selection of make-up. These aren’t really my goal and besides, this is too big an aspiration. It needs to be more granular. Bite-sized chunks. After all gender identity is a whole book and I need just another chapter on the door.




Oh, Hannah has such a way with words!  Although we're nearly into October, she recently wrote about her aspirations for September and it involves just what to put on the fridge door.  A very wise girl, Hannah takes very little steps into the feminine side of the gender divide, and this is yet another one of them.

Tuesday, September 29, 2020

Advice

Dear Abby: Should grandma tell girl, 7, that her playmate is transgender?

 

 

 

Now, that's an interesting question.  Abby had an answer to the question.  Was it a good answer?  Go to Diana's blog and tell her what you think via a poll she has posted.
 

Old crossdressers never die, they just fade away

When one dies, you can bet the farm that their obituary will not mention their trans name or mention that they were a member of a trans support group. And unless you know their birth certificate name, you will never know that they died. As far as you know, they just stopped attending support group meetings, stopped exchanging emails with their trans friends or stopped posting to their blog and they just fade away.

 

Oh, so true, Stana.  I have known so many trans folks over the years. many via email.   So many of them have just faded away, never to be hear from again.  It makes you wonder.....

Monday, September 28, 2020

How to They/Them

I received a copy of How to They/Them from the publisher via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.

 

I must say that I've never been a fan of they/them pronouns but I very much respect those that prefer these pronouns and I do use them when the situation arises.  This post is a review of a book, by Stuart Getty, on the subject.  Alex is the blog author and does frequent book reviews that are always listed on T-Central.  

Wednesday, September 23, 2020

Fake It till You Make It

I think much of my remaining paranoia with the public goes back decades ago when I was faking it to making it as a woman.


 

Somehow, this girl seems to be able to write good stuff for us every day!  I don't know how Cyrsti does it!  This post is short and sweet but, as with every post from Cyrsti, you learn a bit more about her.

Friday, September 18, 2020

Walking on eggshells

Yet now I am still torn – by now I recognise that the woman in me is more than just a bit of light stress relief or some internal kink working itself out. But there is no playbook for this…


 

 

 

Dee has shared her thoughts with us and I bet there are many (myself included) who can relate to this post.

Thursday, September 17, 2020

Hot and cold

I’m conscious of the old advice that no good story starts off talking about the weather. But…  We had a brief hot spell due to air from the tropics visiting our western European climes, but we’re now back to jeans and boots weather. On that note of the turning off the weather, so too does the Trans situation seem to be warming back up. 

 

We  L*O*V*E  Lynn's posts!  This one is just an update, but it looks like good news for the Cham's.

Thanks, as always, to Lynn for linking to T-Central on her blog. 
 

Wednesday, September 16, 2020

Sex Talk With A Transgender

So what is Conversation?

 

 

 

 

The answer to the question, above, is addressed, as are others.  TransSingle is a transgender dating blog site that is just full of information on the subject.  Some of the posts may be considered "R-Rated" but this one can be read by anyone.  It's so good to see this group posting regularly.   I'm sure there are many up will benefit from it.

 

Gender Dysphoria vs. Body Dysphora

.......recently I had an added incentive for wanting to write it. I had a telephone intake on 9/1/20 for bottom surgery. Initially the person conducting the intake, who is a transwoman herself, said having the surgery is not about if your trans enough. I was put a bit at ease, since, while things have moved on since earlier surgery approval processes, I was worried about having to present the standard story of I knew like for ever.

This may be an "opinion" piece, from Steph, but I enjoyed reading her justification on when and when not to use these terms.  It's easy reading and she makes a lot of sense.  I'm sure she would like to hear your opinion.
 

Tuesday, September 15, 2020

Online event: LGBTI+ Rural life during COVID-19

We want to ensure that LGBTI people living rurally are heard when it comes to social, economic and community recovery. 

 

 

 

 

Thanks to Tish, for posting this.
 

Monday, September 14, 2020

7

There are so many "new" girls who never got to hear you laugh, yet know of you from the stories that I and others who were blessed to know you tell.  I sent a message to someone who never got the chance to meet you.  I said "She [you] was a phenomenon.  She was so strong in so many ways, yet so fragile.  That was, in a way, her glory, and it was her end." 

 

 

 

 

So sad and so much emotion in this post, from Sophie.  I shed a few tears and you may also.
 

Wednesday, September 9, 2020

As a Public Service

This post comes as the result of an online chat. Coline and I were talking about hormone therapy. She has noticed something interesting and potentially valuable that we need to share so I went along with her idea to write a post here because it is clear she is right. This is information that our sisters in the community could benefit from. I did mention that few and maybe none of the sisters stop by here now, but, well, how can it hurt to post this? So, here we go!

 

 

Such a great post from our friend, Halle!  She comments on the effects of HRT and even includes a little money saving hint from Coline.
 

Sunday, September 6, 2020

A look back: September

Talking of going back, another month rolls by and it’s time to take a flick through the posts of September’s gone. Compared to the heat of summer, this first step into Autumn is when I seem to come into my own.


 

As a long-time blogger, Lynn has the opportunity to look back and, of course, to share those "looks back" with us.  This look back, takes us from 2019 to 2014.  Looking good, Lynn!

Saturday, September 5, 2020

Our History - Hermann Freiherr von Teschenberg

6 July 1866 – 6 November 1911 was an Austrian barrister, translator, and an LGBT rights activist.

 

 

 

Yes, WE were out there prior to this century!  Here's a fascinating post, from Rhonda, on one of us from the past.
 

Sunday, August 30, 2020

Brr... and other things you may want to know

So, there is a lot of information out there about HRT, but most of it is quite clinical and deals with subjects like dosage amounts, expected effects, and rough timelines... then there is what you didn't really know and wished someone told you.

What a great post, from Joanne!  This is what trans-blogging is all about.  

Thanks, Joanne, for including a link to T-Central in your blog.
 

Saturday, August 29, 2020

August 2020 - Still in limbo!

I am in a state of limbo and not even considering K.D. wants either! Strangely I am writing this entry because I’m bored and the reality I have nothing to write about! ;-)

 

KD has been out and about for 15 years....until now.  Covid 19 plus sheltering in place had just put a stop to everything involving KD.  She's Still in Limbo

I want to note that the link sends you to KD's newer blog, which hasn't been listed on T-Central as of late.  I fear that i may have accidentally deleted it.  Sorry, Girl, and I do thank you for including a link to T-Central on your blog!
 

Imagine the following…

Imagine the  following: A new law  bans blond women from......

 

 

 

Vert short, but not so sweet.....
 

Sunday, August 23, 2020

Transgender Spectrum Conference, Day Two

My main lesson from the two days of hearing the presenter’s stories is my issues with being a crossdresser (mainly wife issues) are pretty minor league compared to others with more serious gender issues. That, and people are people, and a reminder to be more tolerant of others who are different from me.

 

 

 

 

This is a guest post, on Kandi's blog, from Dee.  It's a post about a transgender conference she attended in 2017.  Who knows when the next similar conference will be in your area or mine.  A broad-spectrum conference like this one is so good all of us so we can better understand and respect each other.

Sunday, August 16, 2020

A look back – August

As another month rolls by in a cycle of rinse and repeat home office malarkey. Shall we flick through the YATGB photo album? 

 

 

This post is a week old but, gosh, I've been so busy as of late that I missed this one, from Lynn.  It's another one of Lynn's "looking back" posts, where she shares snaps of (guess who) from August's gone by.  If you missed this one, as I did, enjoy.

Thursday, August 13, 2020

Chest Binding

 Anonymous asked:

Hey I’m not really sure where to go with this question so I thought I would ask some people via tumblr- My youngest sister just asked me what I thought if she would start binding her chest, she didn’t mention transitioning but it seems like something most girls transitioning would go through.  


A response from our good-looking TransGuy, to the question above.

Monday, August 10, 2020

How I Explain Myself

When interacting with anyone, no matter the situation, I am 100% open and honest. Obviously, no one thinks I am a woman. I make no secret that I am not Kandi all the time. I make no secret that I am married to a woman, am heterosexual, have grown children.

 

 

 

 

 

Kandi doesn't hesitate to explain herself to anyone who asks.

Thanks, Kandi, for including T-Central in your list of links.

Saturday, August 8, 2020

Don't feed the trolls


When we talk about transphobia, we're generally not talking about the fear aspect of the word, we're talking about extreme or irrational dislike of trans people.

 

Really good advice, and always my own personal policy, from Joanne,

Oh, and thank you, Joanne, for featuring a link to T-Central on your blog!

Wednesday, August 5, 2020

Feminine Differential - Amazing Palette

I like that the top is blousey and is a color that I could mix/match with many other items. I seldom buy something now just to go with one piece unless I am thinking/planning for a dressy event.





I always like to feature this series of posts, from Rhonda.  This girl has style! 

Thanks, Rhonda, for including a link to T-Central on your fab blog!

Friday, July 31, 2020

Converse

During our collective chat I was reminded of some old research, in which the specialist suggested – and I’ll paraphrase – that the real rub isn’t being trans, it’s not being able to express that. 




Social distancing has brought a stop to most if not all TG group get-togethers.  Lynn writes about on-line chats.  Not the same as being there but what else can we do right now?  Sometimes, you just need quality time with the "like-minded".

Sunday, July 26, 2020

The Crossdressers Voice

Having heard girls for different (english speaking) nations adopt this method I have come to the conclusion they have almost invented the 'tranny accent', which to my mind is not a good thing. I have been on an evening out and could hear someone talking behind me, and I instantly knew it was a crossdresser without seeing the person. 


OK, I really hate the title of this post because it certainly does not apply strictly to crossdressers.  Many who are transitioning or have transitioned still face this issue and it's unique to those of us who are male-to-female transgender.  I have met many who transitioned more than 20 years prior who still face this issue.  Andrea doesn't have the answers but she certainly brings up some good points as to how NOT to communicate with your voice. 

Saturday, July 25, 2020

Ask Hannah!

I was wondering if you have any advice for clothing selection for very muscular legs? I am an avid cyclist and between genetics and cycling have massive leg muscles, especially my quadriceps. Even by male standards they are very large. What clothing choices would you suggest to minimize their impact on feminine appearance?






Go here for Hannah's response and, as usual, it includes a few photos!

How Did I Get Here?

On occasion too, I get so desperate for new blog posts, I have been known to journey back through the old dusty Cyrsti's Condo blog posts for ideas. What I discovered was I was far more interested in the outward impression I was making as a transgender woman than my inner self. 


This is a short one but I really like what Cyrsti was trying to get across in the post. A very positive post!

Wednesday, July 22, 2020

Being Overly Critical

I was just reading someone’s opinion on a website about MtF transgender voice therapy and something struck me, how critical are you of gender “tells?” The specific thought someone posted was in saying that while they have heard many transgender women speak they are still aware that the person was born AMAB.  [Assigned Male At Birth]


Kelly has learned so much about what it is to be a woman, since transitioning, yet she still lives under the stigma of being assigned male at birth.  Being Overly Critical is an apropos title for this post.

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