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Sunday, April 5, 2020

How to solve the transgender problem in sports

I am sure some of you will argue that all of this will get pretty boring. Keep in mind, though, that this is all about fairness. Sports is not about having fun.

This post has the ultimate answer to the question.  It's a wonder no one thought about this before.  I just wish Jack had posted this on April 1st....

Saturday, April 4, 2020

What to do with my closet

Funny how my clothes have moved and switched spots over the years, at first it was the women’s clothes hidden away like a secret and now it’s the men’s clothes that will be going into hiding. 

It's short and to the point, but perhaps unanswered, from Jessie.

Friday, April 3, 2020

Diary of a Locked-Down T-Girl 2

I am thus having to present as male when at home (the schools are closed and we are in lockdown so the girls are ‘around’ 24/7). Fortunately many of my everyday clothes are actually women’s clothes that have been pressed into service… My jeans are women’s jeans, some of my shoes are women’s shoes, some of my jackets and shirts are women’s etc. So it isn’t too bad. Not ideal of course but not too bad…

It's always nice to hear from our South African friend.  In this post, Daniella's pretty much tells it like it is.

Sunday, March 29, 2020

The New Reality?

As I've often said, a gender transition starts with one being honest with self. As hard as that may be to do, the follow-up is to then to be honest with everyone else. In my case, my wife did not accept my cross dressing, but she has been so wonderful in how she has transitioned along with me.

Cyrsti quotes Connie's comments on a prior post.  This post is about self acceptance along with gender transitioning and the effects on wives and family.

Tuesday, March 24, 2020


How does the play into Trans related things? Well, you would think that working from home on the long term would very much play into my favour. That would have been true where it not for the Ever Lovely Mrs J’s firm sending folk home and, of course, the school closures too. Ah well, I’m sure I’ll be fine. 

Lynn writes about the whole COVID19 working-at-home life experience but also discusses the ramifications of social distancing on being trans.  Not sure I put that as eloquently as I should have, but you get the point.  Go here for the post.

Sunday, March 22, 2020


I wasn't going to write about this, but in this time of isolation, in this time of deep depression... I need to talk about this.

Always one of those long-time bloggers who writes from the heart, Sophie needs to share her thoughts.  This post involves her wife.  It starts with bad news and ends with a lovely, long hug.  You'll just have to read the News, to find out what's going.

Monday, March 16, 2020

Are We Really a Community?

I chose one “stupid” word and now I am the devil. If you have a problem with something I have said, say so to ME. I’m now just sitting here blowing off steam and wanted to get this off my chest in a public forum.

People, trans or not, can be brutal on a public forum.  It's happened to me and I'm sure it's happened to many of you.  Some will say, via their keyboard, things they would never say to your face.  Here's a shout-out to Kandi, who recently got flamed and just wants to "clear the air".

Thursday, March 12, 2020

My second visit

My therapist mentioned today that the fear of being judged is what leads to anxiety and on my first visit, I think I had that anxiety in full force. I mean, this is a first visit. She doesn't know me, I don't know her, and I am about to talk about an aspect of me that the vast majority of people I know aren't aware of. That's an anxious moment!

Blogging, for those of us who are trans, means sharing our journey with others.  Whether our bloggers realize it or not their posts are read by many over a few weeks, even though a particular post may be left with no comments.  In this post, Joanne tells us about her second visit to a therapist.  I'm sure her comments about the visit will help others now and in the future.

Sunday, March 8, 2020

You Need to Calm Down

You are somebody that we don’t know
But you’re comin’ at my friends like a missile Why are you mad? When you could be GLAAD?

I loved this post!  You go girl!

Monday, March 2, 2020

Should trans women be allowed in women’s sports?

Lowering T-levels seems fair enough, and something most trans women will desire anyway. But some people argue that years of testosterone running round their bodies before this will have had a permanent effect, giving trans women an advantage.

Should trans women be allowed in women’s sports?  Andie, a transwoman, has really thought this out and provides some food for thought.

My Secrets

My legs are my best assets, so I show them off by wearing short skirts and high heels. Heels make my legs even more shapely and short skirts reveal the results.

Stana shares some of her secrets with us......Style secrets.

Sunday, March 1, 2020

On Why I No Longer Blog Here

Greetings to all Catholics, queers, and other assorted readers. After a long absence I’ve decided to explain why I no longer post here. The short answer is that I’m no longer Catholic.

There are many Catholics, myself included, who consider themselves trans.  This post, which I just noticed from a few months ago, should be of interest to the Catholic readers.

Friday, February 28, 2020

Dressing up as a bloke

I’m a bloke. Well, at least physically. Socially, mostly yes, but in my head and my heart, it’s a little more complicated. If you’re reading this, either you’re very lost on the Internet, researching something, or you may have a similar situation.

Sometimes, some of us just have to wear a suit and tie.....

Monday, February 24, 2020

A Christian view of trans

Christian theology supports trans people and transition unequivocally. The Bible recognises and values trans people. As Peterson Toscano said, a man carrying a water jar was doing women’s work, which was beyond shameful for a man in that culture- she must have been trans.

So many, including myself, have struggled with this topic.  Clare has some good words on the subject.  She notes that this post is not written for atheists.

Thursday, February 20, 2020

Gender Exhausted

With much of the gender thing at the lowest point it’s been in so long I questioned whether there was anything left there. Dreading every letter posted through the door might be the next appointment for the Gender Identity Clinic and I had nothing I could have taken them other than lacklustre, indecisiveness and disorientation.

Reading a blog post from Hannah is such a pleasure.  I've mentioned so many times before that I love her writing.  So honest.  So open.  So....feminine.  

In Gender Exhausted, Hannah is again thinking out that gender thing......still questioning it.  When I read her posts, they just come across to me as written by a woman, so what's to question?  An easy question for me to ask, but a difficult question for me to answer about myself.  Take some time to read her well written posts and come to your own conclusion.

Tuesday, February 18, 2020

A safe place to talk about gender variance and cross-gender dreams

Many people are confused about their gender and the feelings that follow from such a confusion. There is a lot of shame and guilt involved, as there are so many out there who look down upon people who have dreams and fantasies about being “the other gender”.

If there are sexual feelings involved, this becomes even more problematic. A lot of people do not dare to talk about that kind of crossdreaming. 

Some fear that they are transgender. Others fear that they are not transgender enough. Others are some shade of nonbinary and some just want to play with gender roles and gender expressions.

Here's a shout-out to Jack and Sally for creating A safe place to talk about gender variance and cross-gender dreams. 

Monday, February 17, 2020

Am I Passing?

The moment I stopped trying to pass, guess what, the clocks stopped, well they didn’t matter anymore. I was now just doing what was comfortable for me, the cosmetics I wanted, my own hair, my own breasts, my own style. In trying to pass I was trading the discomfort of pretending to be male with the discomfort of trying to be the woman I felt everyone else expected.

This post is full of really good words of wisdom, from Beth.....a must read for anyone asking the question, Am I Passing?

Sunday, February 16, 2020

Everything is Fine Here ...

I am posting one final time to say goodbye properly.

Halle is saying goodbye to her Two Spirits blog.  I've followed this blog from the very beginning.  Although Halle and I have never met I feel, through the magic of her beautiful written words, like I know her as a sister.  Alas, and like many who have completed their transition, Halle simply has nothing more to write about on the subject of two spirits.  Indeed, she is but one spirit, and that is all woman.  Go here for her final post and to a link to her other blog.

Saturday, February 15, 2020

Why Do I Dress?

As I woman I choose to dress as a woman. Of course this form of dress for a woman is socially constructed in the sense that woman are expected to present in certain ways. So why do I dress like a woman if it is a socially constructed form of dress?

Stephie has the answer to her question, above.  Go to Why Do I Dress, for the answer and more.

Tuesday, February 11, 2020

Puberty blockers can be beneficial for trans girls even in late adolescence

.......puberty blockers can have a beneficial effect on height in adolescent trans girls even when started at Tanner stage 4 or 5 of their natal puberty.

This post, from the Gender Analysis group, is for the parents of trans kids.  It deals mostly with the effects of blockers and HRT on the final adult height of a transwoman.  The effects on trans-boys are also discussed.  Very interesting....but what can I say, I'm into this stuff while wishing all of this was available when I was a pre-puberesent.

Sunday, February 9, 2020

Hidden memories of disgust

I remember hushed discussions of trans people and of particularly butch women who seemed to be taking masculinity ‘too far.’ At the time I remember agreeing, silently, that men were bad and looking too much like a man was bad. I was frequently read as male myself, but that was ok. I found that I enjoyed the ambiguity and fluidity of sexuality and gender. 

You'll want to read these very candid thoughts from an older trans-guy.  I really enjoyed this post.

Friday, February 7, 2020

Transitions: From My Heart to Yours

On this day, seven years ago, my younger child told me that she was a he. That he was transgender, wanted to start hormones – “T” as he called it, need to bind his chest to hide his female form and definitely needed to start seeing a therapist so he could get a letter to start said “T.” He told me he had gender identity disorder and gender dysphoria.

Oh, what a wonderful post from a wonderful mom.  Read this blog and find out just what happened in the past 7 years with Mom and Hunter.  This one is a must read!

Thursday, February 6, 2020

Masculinity and Trans Woman Intuition

I often wonder if these were the formative years when I learned how I had to be as ultra masculine as possible to get by. Of course I was scared to death my Mom would discover my "secret." I knew there would be no "understanding" of any desire to be a girl.

I always like posts on subjects that are not often explored by our bloggers.  In this one, Cyrsti writes about growing up in an very male household environment and how she got to understand masculinity.  It's a subject that some of you might relate to.  As is always the case, with Cyrsti, this post is short and an easy read.

Monday, February 3, 2020

I Was Laughed At

I was in a grocery store going past the aisles and a group of 4 kids (from about 6 to 12) laughed as I turned into the aisle after the one they were at the end of. Now granted they could have been laughing at something else, but they were looking at me, and tried to repress their laughter when I looked at them.

Stephie's thoughts on being laughed at.

Thursday, January 30, 2020

At Work En Femme Again

I had a great experience. I got a few “you look too good” comments, but I just took them in stride. The most attractive woman in our company, a tall “to die for” blond, visited my cubicle and wanted to check out my makeup job. She was surprised that I did my own makeup.

I was not aware of this, but Stana had two blogs prior to Femulate.  One was A Passing Interest and the other was NFem.  In this featured post, Stana looks back at a post she did in 2003 about a workplace Halloween contest.

Wednesday, January 29, 2020

Feminine Differential - The Ideal Heel Height

Sure, I do have several of the 100 mm beauties that my friend describes as "limo heels"; wear when you are dropped at the door, make the entrance and head to your seat shoes. 

Did you know that there is a way to calculate your ideal heel height?  If not, read Rhonda's latest post.

Just Like A Woman (1992)

Watching it recently, you notice the use of the term "transvestite" dates the film and there's a constant feel of heteronormality, throughout.


Old film.  New review.  It's all brought to you by the demigirl from Wilshire.



Tuesday, January 28, 2020


Jazz Jennings has had a tougher transition than her doctors expected. In the last two years, the teen reality star and LGBTQ+ activist has undergone multiple gender confirmation surgeries, and her doctors are now revealing more details about what went wrong in the new season of TLC's I Am Jazz, People reported.

Long time blogger, Diana, is always out there with news and comment.  This one is about GRS complications.

Saturday, January 25, 2020

Big anniversary

This Thursday, 23 January, was a big anniversary.

Yep, it's 10 years for Sue.  To find out just what she did 10 years ago, read her post.  Hint: It involved the UK Angels.

Oh, and how about her first blog post?  Go here to read Everybody's Doing It.

Thursday, January 23, 2020

My Transitioning Goals for the New Year (2020)

I hope to make the same amazing progress that I have made since July 2019 (see – My Amazing Progress). This includes going out in only woman’s clothing and with makeup on on a full time basis. I was able to do the makeup thanks to my girlfriend teaching me how to do it and helping me choose the right foundation and blush.

Stephie lays out her plans for 2020.  If you want to hold her to her plan, you need to read her Transitioning Goals for the New Year.

Wednesday, January 22, 2020

Walk A Mile In Her Heels - Tawni

I was so very fortunate to be found by a genetic girl looking for someone just like me. Barb, who was and is my Goddess, met me and we fell in love. For eight years I had someone who loved and adored Tawni more than Joe, while still being married. Barb brought out all of the best of Tawni and as Joe, as the person I was always meant to be, a mix of the two persons.

The words, above, are from Tawni.  It's all part of a really nice interview, conducted and written by our friend, Shannyn.

Jess 2.0

This is a long, post that starts out one a low note and ends in a high note. 

If you've note seen this blog, it's about a terrific mom and her teenage daughter.  In Mom's words:

They said, “it’s a boy”, but they lied.   Experience the transition from male to female from a parent’s point of view.

The screen shot, on the right should be all it takes to get you to read this long, but fabulous blog post.

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