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Friday, September 18, 2020

Walking on eggshells

Yet now I am still torn – by now I recognise that the woman in me is more than just a bit of light stress relief or some internal kink working itself out. But there is no playbook for this…


 

 

 

Dee has shared her thoughts with us and I bet there are many (myself included) who can relate to this post.

Thursday, September 17, 2020

Hot and cold

I’m conscious of the old advice that no good story starts off talking about the weather. But…  We had a brief hot spell due to air from the tropics visiting our western European climes, but we’re now back to jeans and boots weather. On that note of the turning off the weather, so too does the Trans situation seem to be warming back up. 

 

We  L*O*V*E  Lynn's posts!  This one is just an update, but it looks like good news for the Cham's.

Thanks, as always, to Lynn for linking to T-Central on her blog. 
 

Wednesday, September 16, 2020

Sex Talk With A Transgender

So what is Conversation?

 

 

 

 

The answer to the question, above, is addressed, as are others.  TransSingle is a transgender dating blog site that is just full of information on the subject.  Some of the posts may be considered "R-Rated" but this one can be read by anyone.  It's so good to see this group posting regularly.   I'm sure there are many up will benefit from it.

 

Gender Dysphoria vs. Body Dysphora

.......recently I had an added incentive for wanting to write it. I had a telephone intake on 9/1/20 for bottom surgery. Initially the person conducting the intake, who is a transwoman herself, said having the surgery is not about if your trans enough. I was put a bit at ease, since, while things have moved on since earlier surgery approval processes, I was worried about having to present the standard story of I knew like for ever.

This may be an "opinion" piece, from Steph, but I enjoyed reading her justification on when and when not to use these terms.  It's easy reading and she makes a lot of sense.  I'm sure she would like to hear your opinion.
 

Tuesday, September 15, 2020

Online event: LGBTI+ Rural life during COVID-19

We want to ensure that LGBTI people living rurally are heard when it comes to social, economic and community recovery. 

 

 

 

 

Thanks to Tish, for posting this.
 

Monday, September 14, 2020

7

There are so many "new" girls who never got to hear you laugh, yet know of you from the stories that I and others who were blessed to know you tell.  I sent a message to someone who never got the chance to meet you.  I said "She [you] was a phenomenon.  She was so strong in so many ways, yet so fragile.  That was, in a way, her glory, and it was her end." 

 

 

 

 

So sad and so much emotion in this post, from Sophie.  I shed a few tears and you may also.
 

Wednesday, September 9, 2020

As a Public Service

This post comes as the result of an online chat. Coline and I were talking about hormone therapy. She has noticed something interesting and potentially valuable that we need to share so I went along with her idea to write a post here because it is clear she is right. This is information that our sisters in the community could benefit from. I did mention that few and maybe none of the sisters stop by here now, but, well, how can it hurt to post this? So, here we go!

 

 

Such a great post from our friend, Halle!  She comments on the effects of HRT and even includes a little money saving hint from Coline.
 

Sunday, September 6, 2020

A look back: September

Talking of going back, another month rolls by and it’s time to take a flick through the posts of September’s gone. Compared to the heat of summer, this first step into Autumn is when I seem to come into my own.


 

As a long-time blogger, Lynn has the opportunity to look back and, of course, to share those "looks back" with us.  This look back, takes us from 2019 to 2014.  Looking good, Lynn!

Saturday, September 5, 2020

Our History - Hermann Freiherr von Teschenberg

6 July 1866 – 6 November 1911 was an Austrian barrister, translator, and an LGBT rights activist.

 

 

 

Yes, WE were out there prior to this century!  Here's a fascinating post, from Rhonda, on one of us from the past.
 

Sunday, August 30, 2020

Brr... and other things you may want to know

So, there is a lot of information out there about HRT, but most of it is quite clinical and deals with subjects like dosage amounts, expected effects, and rough timelines... then there is what you didn't really know and wished someone told you.

What a great post, from Joanne!  This is what trans-blogging is all about.  

Thanks, Joanne, for including a link to T-Central in your blog.
 

Saturday, August 29, 2020

August 2020 - Still in limbo!

I am in a state of limbo and not even considering K.D. wants either! Strangely I am writing this entry because I’m bored and the reality I have nothing to write about! ;-)

 

KD has been out and about for 15 years....until now.  Covid 19 plus sheltering in place had just put a stop to everything involving KD.  She's Still in Limbo

I want to note that the link sends you to KD's newer blog, which hasn't been listed on T-Central as of late.  I fear that i may have accidentally deleted it.  Sorry, Girl, and I do thank you for including a link to T-Central on your blog!
 

Imagine the following…

Imagine the  following: A new law  bans blond women from......

 

 

 

Vert short, but not so sweet.....
 

Sunday, August 23, 2020

Transgender Spectrum Conference, Day Two

My main lesson from the two days of hearing the presenter’s stories is my issues with being a crossdresser (mainly wife issues) are pretty minor league compared to others with more serious gender issues. That, and people are people, and a reminder to be more tolerant of others who are different from me.

 

 

 

 

This is a guest post, on Kandi's blog, from Dee.  It's a post about a transgender conference she attended in 2017.  Who knows when the next similar conference will be in your area or mine.  A broad-spectrum conference like this one is so good all of us so we can better understand and respect each other.

Sunday, August 16, 2020

A look back – August

As another month rolls by in a cycle of rinse and repeat home office malarkey. Shall we flick through the YATGB photo album? 

 

 

This post is a week old but, gosh, I've been so busy as of late that I missed this one, from Lynn.  It's another one of Lynn's "looking back" posts, where she shares snaps of (guess who) from August's gone by.  If you missed this one, as I did, enjoy.

Thursday, August 13, 2020

Chest Binding

 Anonymous asked:

Hey I’m not really sure where to go with this question so I thought I would ask some people via tumblr- My youngest sister just asked me what I thought if she would start binding her chest, she didn’t mention transitioning but it seems like something most girls transitioning would go through.  


A response from our good-looking TransGuy, to the question above.

Monday, August 10, 2020

How I Explain Myself

When interacting with anyone, no matter the situation, I am 100% open and honest. Obviously, no one thinks I am a woman. I make no secret that I am not Kandi all the time. I make no secret that I am married to a woman, am heterosexual, have grown children.

 

 

 

 

 

Kandi doesn't hesitate to explain herself to anyone who asks.

Thanks, Kandi, for including T-Central in your list of links.

Saturday, August 8, 2020

Don't feed the trolls


When we talk about transphobia, we're generally not talking about the fear aspect of the word, we're talking about extreme or irrational dislike of trans people.

 

Really good advice, and always my own personal policy, from Joanne,

Oh, and thank you, Joanne, for featuring a link to T-Central on your blog!

Wednesday, August 5, 2020

Feminine Differential - Amazing Palette

I like that the top is blousey and is a color that I could mix/match with many other items. I seldom buy something now just to go with one piece unless I am thinking/planning for a dressy event.





I always like to feature this series of posts, from Rhonda.  This girl has style! 

Thanks, Rhonda, for including a link to T-Central on your fab blog!

Friday, July 31, 2020

Converse

During our collective chat I was reminded of some old research, in which the specialist suggested – and I’ll paraphrase – that the real rub isn’t being trans, it’s not being able to express that. 




Social distancing has brought a stop to most if not all TG group get-togethers.  Lynn writes about on-line chats.  Not the same as being there but what else can we do right now?  Sometimes, you just need quality time with the "like-minded".

Sunday, July 26, 2020

The Crossdressers Voice

Having heard girls for different (english speaking) nations adopt this method I have come to the conclusion they have almost invented the 'tranny accent', which to my mind is not a good thing. I have been on an evening out and could hear someone talking behind me, and I instantly knew it was a crossdresser without seeing the person. 


OK, I really hate the title of this post because it certainly does not apply strictly to crossdressers.  Many who are transitioning or have transitioned still face this issue and it's unique to those of us who are male-to-female transgender.  I have met many who transitioned more than 20 years prior who still face this issue.  Andrea doesn't have the answers but she certainly brings up some good points as to how NOT to communicate with your voice. 

Saturday, July 25, 2020

Ask Hannah!

I was wondering if you have any advice for clothing selection for very muscular legs? I am an avid cyclist and between genetics and cycling have massive leg muscles, especially my quadriceps. Even by male standards they are very large. What clothing choices would you suggest to minimize their impact on feminine appearance?






Go here for Hannah's response and, as usual, it includes a few photos!

How Did I Get Here?

On occasion too, I get so desperate for new blog posts, I have been known to journey back through the old dusty Cyrsti's Condo blog posts for ideas. What I discovered was I was far more interested in the outward impression I was making as a transgender woman than my inner self. 


This is a short one but I really like what Cyrsti was trying to get across in the post. A very positive post!

Wednesday, July 22, 2020

Being Overly Critical

I was just reading someone’s opinion on a website about MtF transgender voice therapy and something struck me, how critical are you of gender “tells?” The specific thought someone posted was in saying that while they have heard many transgender women speak they are still aware that the person was born AMAB.  [Assigned Male At Birth]


Kelly has learned so much about what it is to be a woman, since transitioning, yet she still lives under the stigma of being assigned male at birth.  Being Overly Critical is an apropos title for this post.

Tuesday, July 21, 2020

Ms Blue Sky

IMG_1376I have realised that most of my fear of mum/work are not as great as they once were. I have been reassessing what is important to me and how much I am willing to change and it is still obvious that I will need to move, but I am sensible enough not to do that until I have gotten to HRT.


Dee is feeling pretty good about herself right now, all things considered, even though coming out to Mum and work remains in the future.

Monday, July 20, 2020

Shackles Loosed – The Power Of Coming Out

Her eventual conclusion; she just couldn’t live with a man who believed he was a woman. And to some degree understandably so.  Eventually, on the advice of a counselor she divorced me for this reason. That hurt deeply, but was not much of it not my own making?



It's been a long time since we've featured a post from Crossdresser Heaven.  You'll want to read this one.

Saturday, July 18, 2020

The last post

A fact that is worth pondering is more people will die from cancer this year than are predicted to die from Covid19. When this threat is over, perhaps the government will put as much effort into cancer as they have with this virus………


I'm so sorry I missed reading this post, from a week and a half ago.  It's Bobby's last post and the quote, above, will give you a clue as to it's content.  We're so going to miss this blogger, who's been writing since 2013.  Peace be with you, girl.....

Friday, July 17, 2020

Sunday Susan time

.......I will get someone who will tell me I am going to Transition and that is not what I want, it is not what is right for me. Yes, when I am Susan, I really think of myself as Susan and yes during that time I really do wish I was Susan but that is only part of my life. When I am not Susan, I am happy with my male self. This is what is right for me.

It was a wonderful and fun Sunday in Portland, Oregon, and Susan made the most of it

Thanks, Susan, for including a link to T-Central on your blog!

Dreams of Old Revisited

The dream of so many transgender people- to magically wake up in the body which you should've been born with.  I used to take long walks when I was a teen (see: Peace and Quiet, above) to sort out my head.  Hormones were rushing, causing changes I didn't want.  The girls were becoming women, and, due to delayed adolescence, I was still me.  It wasn't fair!  In any case, I didn't WANT the changes that were coming my way.  But, come they did, and there was nothing I could do about it.  All the wishes in the world weren't going to prevent it.




In a very interesting and easy-to-read post, Sophie takes us through the dreams that came true in her life and those that never did.  

Thursday, July 16, 2020

Feminine Differential - Anklet

I love wearing an anklet.  I started about 20 years ago and off-and-on wore one until I either lost or misplaced it. Recently I repurchased and love the look.  A subtle act of feminine differentially, especially when the it is delicate or has a small charm.




I always love to read Rhonda's Feminine Differential series of blog posts.  This time, is all about the anklet, and it's not just for women. 

Thank you Rhonda, for including a link to T-Central on your blog!

Monday, July 13, 2020

Purify and Detox

Yesterday’s moth was still on the wall. A little thing, “Are you still here?” I asked wondering why he hadn’t left via the open window in the afternoon and what he could possibly want that made him stay here. I could have got a cup and gently evicted him into the rainy dark night but it felt like the one bit of non-conversational company I needed right now. At least I probably needed some kind of conversation given I was asking questions to a moth.



Only Hannah can take a moth on the wall and relate it to her feelings about gender.  I really wonder if that month wasn't a "she".  Hannah's thinking again, and writing it down for you in her unique way.

Sunday, July 12, 2020

Trans women, simply explained

There is no such thing as “trans ideology”. I am a trans woman. I do not seek to define womanhood for any other woman. I don’t define women’s sexuality, or how women should dress or behave. I want freedom for women to be who they are, because I need that freedom myself. When we say “my gender identity is female” or “I am a woman” we are psyching ourselves up to do what we do not understand but want more than anything else in the world- to express ourselves as women.

Trans women defined?  Clare says, "keep it simple".

Saturday, July 11, 2020

Remedy

There are certain tunes that run through me. Music that makes me want to get up and move. To feel the energy held within and to get up, dance, and be lost in the freedom of just enjoying. The way the growling roll of low guitar makes you prowl, to the stuttering jolt of electro, or leaning in to pop’s high kitch.


The Remedy?  Well, the way Lynn describes her taste in music, perhaps it has something to do with the tunes she loves?

Friday, July 10, 2020

Struggling

Technology had already allowed us to know more people and know those people less. The roots we grew in relationships do not have the time to germinate anymore. It has also, even more recently, eliminated the need to actual be somewhere. Now we Zoom everything.



Kandi's struggling right now as many of us are.  There's that lack of human contact and interaction, you know?  She lets it all, well said, out in this blog post.

Thursday, July 9, 2020

Tomima Talks - The Bra Straps of Summer Why - Because We Need To Know.

Did she intentionally pick that blue bra to wear with her yellow tank knowing the straps would show?






Let those bra straps show, or not?  Rhonda prefers NOT and has some suggestions to keep them out of site. 

Thanks to Ronda for including a link to T-Central on her blog.

Monday, July 6, 2020

Aging Well

My Book!Moisturizers and eye creams are my best friend. I have been using both for about 20 years and it makes a difference.







They really do make a difference!  I've been using them for years also.  Go here, for Stana's post.

Go here for Stana's Fantasia Fair Diaries book!






Sunday, July 5, 2020

Lockdown

So to that non-trans person I would now ask how would you feel if you were restricted as to what you wear, how you lived your life and where you can go, not for three months but in many cases for years, decades, a life time? Almost certainly they would not relish the idea, but for many of us in the trans spectrum this has been our life, for years..............


Andrea talks about the lockdown, but not the one you're thinking of.  She feels that most of her life has been in lockdown, simply because she can't be the person she wants to be.  Interesting thoughts, from Andrea.

Saturday, July 4, 2020

A Review of a Transgender Book.

“It’s a myth that gender identity is formed for life within the first five years of life. While that might be true for many people, it is not a universal truth as my own life is a clear counter-example (and internet research tells me I’m not alone).” I can personally testified that Williams is right here. I did not fully identify as a woman until I was 59, and I defy anyone to say I am not trans enough or woman enough for that matter.

This featured post is a long one, so grab a cup of tea or coffee or whatever and enjoy this review from Stephie.  She includes many quotes (like the one at the top of this page) from the book, titled Trans-Gressive, A Transwoman on Gender, Feminism, and Politics, by Rachel Anne Williams.  Stephie gives the book six stars out of five.  I think she liked it!




Thursday, July 2, 2020

Little things that help

Anyway, as I happened drop a teaspoon, I caught sight of my toes. They don’t usually see much sunlight, them being less that very pale was unusual. My next thought that popped into my head was a bright pink varnish would look ace.



Can't go out and about right now as your real, or other, self?  Never fear, there are Little things that help!

Wednesday, July 1, 2020

Trans in Quarantine

It’s no secret that COVID-19 has changed everyone’s lives.  What seems normal is being challenged on a regular basis.  No more hugging other people.  No more going out to restaurants.  No more in-person chorus rehearsals.  It feels a lot like stepping back inside the closet, and for many in the transgender/non-binary community, that’s what has happened.




The theme of the last featured post on T-Central was how the blogger's life has changed for the worse, while sheltering in place.  This post, from Maddie, takes a completely different view on the subject of this horrible time we live in right now.

Time to say Goodbye

Feeling that due to my health issues I’m in a higher risk group I decided early on, 109 days ago to be precise, that I should shelter as much as possible to try to keep myself safe.





Like so many in this horrible time, Tish has had to shelter in place and has lost much of the social life that we humans so need. She is also saying goodbye to a part of her life over the past years.  It really saddens me to hear this, since a similar part of my life has meant so much to me.  Go here to read about it and consider leaving Tish a comment.   For all of those sheltering in place, without the ability to socialize, even a comment on a blog can be very welcome.




Sunday, June 28, 2020

2 Year Anniversary

Lately I have heard from many people something along the lines of “Well, I am sorry, but I am having a hard time because I knew you as male for SO long.” What I would like to say is that, no, I am the sorry one for having deceived you for so long. 



Kelly is celebrating a special date for her in this post.  She also discusses the use or incorrect pronouns and misgendering.  Included are some great pictures of her, from age three on up.

Tuesday, June 23, 2020

41 days until surgery!

What if there’s a new wave of COVID-19 cases now that we are re-opening businesses prematurely? What if I get sick right before surgery? What if I get down there and find out that the hair removal wasn’t sufficient because I missed 2 months due to COVID shutdowns? What if the doctor says that my weight is too much of a problem since I’ve put on 20 pounds in the last year? 


No matter what the surgery is, we all have those "what-if" thoughts.  Let's hope that none of these "what-if's" materialize and it's smooth sailing all the way to her quest to be whole.

Saturday, June 20, 2020

Please take the time and watch

Her title does not do justice to what is being said and how she is replying. I love to support positive stories and comments about my community. So many in my community are trying to change how the world views us. Please take the time and watch this video and if you can please put a like up for her.




Aleana links to a really well done video, from Maya, with her response to the recent J. K. Rowling comments about transwomen.

Tuesday, June 16, 2020

What is the difference between sex and gender?

I love the following photo of her, because it makes it so clear that she is using feminine gender expressions to express her real gender, XY chromosomes be damned.


It's another good essay blog, from Jack Molay.  Well written and thought out.  Oh, and if you want to see the photo, mentioned above, you need to read the post.

Sunday, June 14, 2020

UK Survey Seeking Response From Those Who Are Trans


Hi everyone,

My name is Ed from the Chartered Institute of Personnel Development, the professional body for those in HR and involved in the management and development of people. I run research at the CIPD and am also the chair of the CIPD LGBT network.

I wanted to share with you a survey we are conducting which explores the working lives of trans people in the UK, which we're running in partnership with Aston University. We hope to use the findings to inform the advice given to employers and the government regarding trans and wider LGBT issues. Ultimately we want to improve the support HR professionals provide to trans people at work.

The survey is anonymous and can be found here: https://astonbusinessschool.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_6MbXZwqQVFiw5aB

We are trying hard to reach our target of 150 responses but really need help and support.

If you can help, it would be greatly appreciated if you could complete the survey if you are trans, and if you could share with your networks and friends too.

Thank you very much for taking the time to read this. I'd love to hear any thoughts you have and also if you'd like to learn more about the research, just drop me an email: e.houghton@cipd.co.uk

Thanks so much.


[note that this survey only applies to UK residents]

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