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Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Transgender Patient Care

Heading to the doctors as a trans person is stressful. This stress can be compounded by feelings of embarrassment, shame, anger... I could go on but why bother. 



Katherine, our Silly Trans Woman, has done a serious post about Transgender Patient Care.  She includes a link to a University of California article on the topic, which will be helpful to both transwomen and transmen.  This link will also be posted in the T-Central Articles and Papers section.

Monday, April 24, 2017

Transitioning 401

I found quickly, there was a huge difference between looking good as a cross dressed man and a transgender woman seeking a level playing field in the world.







Cyrsti takes a look at her levels of transition as if they were college courses.  Read Cyrsti's post to discover just what the class content is in Transitioning 401.

Sunday, April 23, 2017

Heroes

The thing is, as someone who does hide who they are, it can be quite tiring. I'm so glad I don't have to pretend when I'm around the Ever Lovely Mrs J. The fact that I can be just me, rather than putting on the mask of male behaviour, is incredibly liberating.



Like the last post, from Nadine, Lynn mentions her understanding wife in, Heroes.   There's an analogy with superheroes in this post.....something about hidden identities.....something many of us are familiar with. 

Saturday, April 22, 2017

White Tunic

Besides, have you ever noticed that the standard female outfit these days is jeans?  Well I have.  It tends to be a bit odd while being the only one in the nail salon wearing something except for jeans!  But frequently that is where I find myself. 



There's really not much to this post, from Nadine, and that includes mention of the white tunic.  Nevertheless, it's significant that she and her wife can take time to get their nails done together at a salon.  What a wonderful relationship. Oh, and she looks just fab in that tunic!

Thursday, April 20, 2017

More on Clothes

I'm coming round to the viewpoint that people (especially men) who limit themselves to their "designated" clothes are just plain weird.






A few comments about clothes - old and new, from Jonathan.

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

the hot pink bra

“Every woman needs a pink bra” the young sales girl tells me.






Against her better judgement, Joanna bought a pink bra.  Why?  Read the hot pink bra for a feel-good blog post.

Feminine Differential – Treated Nice

How was I dressed? – White pants, off-white knit sleeveless sweater, high heels, and I had just left my hairdresser. Could I change the tire myself? Of course – I have done it many times and even taught my family members to do it. However, changing the tire myself was going to make me late at best and would likely ruin the outfit.  



Rhonda had a flat tire.  Was the Feminine Differential a help or a hindrance?  The answer may just be in the title, Treated Nice, but do go to Rhonda's post just to make sure!

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

3 months on testosterone

Changes have been occurring at a comfortable pace.  I’ve gained maybe 8 pounds, mostly in my abs, shoulders, and pecs.  I get more dark hairs on my chin and upper lip, which just means I gotta use the tweezers more often!  My voice definitely dropped within the last month – I’d say that is the most noticeable thing. 



And, there's much more to report after 3 months on T.

Two years on…

Crossdressing affected my life – for a very long time – a number of years, then not for the best part of 12 months, then intensely so for the best part of five months.   I really can’t imagine going back now.  Recent life events have made me look at my own existence in more detail than I ever have done before.



If crossdressing is dominating your life, you may want to read this post.  Well written.

Monday, April 17, 2017

Transition Update - Month 20

My hair has been getting longer and longer. It is very nice to enjoy a full head of hair. Though I am learning to deal with the days when long hair is a bit of a curse. Then there are the times when you over heat due to the hair that covers your neck.



Emotional development, physical development, skin issues, hair growth, ofactory senses and new developments.  It's all in Aleana's Month 20 update on her journey.

Sunday, April 16, 2017

Which cubicle in the ladies' loo?

Is it a desperately important issue? Well, for some nervous souls it might be. We feel most vulnerable with knickers dropped in a public place. And moreover a place where (if someone else comes in) neither can avoid listening to the other, and where there may be an unwanted social encounter as one or other emerges from the cubicle after flushing the loo. 



With due respect to Hannah, this time it's Lucy who's thinking again.  Why, or why, do you choose a particular stall?  Thoughts to ponder, from one of our longest bloggers.

Why?

That was the beginning. Soon I was trying on bras, girdles, slips, blouses, skirts, dresses, hats, gloves, earrings, necklaces, bracelets and I even began experimenting with cosmetics whenever I was home alone.






If you missed this one, from Stana, it's short and sweet and starts with her mother's stockings.

Saturday, April 15, 2017

The things I never knew before Julie…

When I read about trans people, I read the same narrative. The trans person knew since they were a young child and were insistent and persistent (unless it was unsafe for them to do so). But nothing is one size fits all and that includes gender.


Julie's mom, Michelle, lists seven things she never knew before Julie came along.

Thursday, April 13, 2017

Survivor contestant outed as Trans

In his argument as to why he should not be voted off the show, Varner tried to turn his fellow castaways on Zeke by outing him and saying that the fact that Zeke hid that he was transgender “reveals the ability to deceive.”


Photo: CBS.com






Last night's reality show, Survivor, on the American network CBS, resulted in one of the contestants being outed as transgender.....by a gay man.  If you saw it, it was quite emotional.  There are a bunch of blog posts on the subject, but none from our list of bloggers.  Here are a couple:

GLAAD responds to outing of CBS 'Survivor' contestant Zeke Smith

CBS's 'Survivor' Shocks With Gay Man Outing Transgender Contestant

 

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

Max Tara Breast Form Review

My immediate thoughts were, they were huge, and super soft!  I purchased the 300 gram size.  I thought that would be an okay size as they were advertised as an A or a B cup breast. 




So you need breast forms.  Do you purchase the $200 (US) forms or the $45 (US) forms?  How do you know what size to get?  Were they huge, as Nadine thought initially?  The answers to all of these questions (and more!) are in Nadine's Max Tara Breast Form Review.

Monday, April 10, 2017

When Is Transition Over?

Personally, I don’t even like the word transition.  To me it is misleading.  It means that we’re going from one thing to another.  We’re not doing that, though.  We already are this thing that we’re supposedly transitioning towards.  It’s true that our bodies change and how society sees us and treats us changes, but who we are stays the same.


Well said in a wonderful post.

Saturday, April 8, 2017

Sam Kane

Sam Kane, who has transitioned M-F-M, with vaginoplasty, then some sort of operation to create an “approximation” of male genitalia, has now transitioned back, but does not feel she needs further surgery. "Does it really matter what’s “down there?” "What’s in your head, heart and soul only matters". Well, that is the fashion. We all had The Operation back then, now increasing numbers don’t. And we object to journalists prying and disclosing what is between our legs, in prurient, sly, giggly articles for Daily Mail readers to get shocked or turned on over. 




Sam Kane is a London lawyer, born male, transitioned to female, detransitioned to male, and transitioned again to female.  Despite all of this, He/She/He/She has done pretty well for herself.  She lives in a 3 million British Pound (3.7 million dollar) home and drives a red Mercedes. 

Clare has a lot to say about Sam Kane in her latest post, which is a good read.

[photo: DailyMail.com]

Thursday, April 6, 2017

The Standard

I have been crossdressing since I was ten years old.  I guess I didn’t realize it then, but even when I was younger, I always wanted to look a certain way when dressed — that which I was told was the best way to look.  Recently, with the support of my spouse, I have been able to express myself fully including wig, makeup and any and all of the other feminine accoutrements of which you can think. 


From the Crossdresser Heaven site, Eve comments on The Standard women live with every day, and how it has affected her place in life.

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

caveat emptor

I don’t envy the partners of older transgender people. We who have taken so long to come to terms can compare our progress to a patiently moving snail. We lurch along to finally come to a resting place that often surprises the partner who justifiably can claim false advertising, but even sometimes ourselves who were certain our resting place was elsewhere on the spectrum.


No truer words were ever written.  

Caveat emptor: Let the [partner] beware.  

Monday, April 3, 2017

Cross Gender Hormones

Yikes! That is not much growth; I always thought they said we would be slightly less than our mother’s.




Diana links to a recent study.  The results?  There's a clue, above.  Go to Cross Gender Hormones for the rest of the story.

Sunday, April 2, 2017

Think a Thought For Fate

I felt cared for. “You’ll just feel a little sting now.” I’ve had so many blood tests these last twelve months that I wasn’t really bothered but either way that initial sting was still there and this time the needle would remain in my arm for what felt like at least two or three minutes. I never look. I don’t mind blood unless it’s my own, at least not until the caps are on those vials and they’re all laying on the metal tray in all their deep rose glory.


This is simply another post documenting Hannah's gender journey.  In this case, a blood test....actually several.  It's Hannah's writing style, however, that makes this such an enjoyable post to read.  Oh, and she wanted that job by the sea.  Did she get it?   Go to, Think a Thought For Fate, to find out.

Saturday, April 1, 2017

Friday the last day of Diva Las Vegas and our last day in Las Vegas.

Today is the end of Diva Las Vegas, wow it went by so fast. We were up late again last night. I am going to need a vacation to recover from my vacation, one reason I took Tuesday off.


Susan and friends did Diva Las Vegas.  It was a week of dining, gambling, meeting new friends, fast cars and picture taking.  Just a bunch of girls having fun!

Friday, March 31, 2017

Making the Hidden Visible - Imaginary Playmates, Trans Visibility and Sex Positivism

 
 
The picture [below] is me: out proud, sexy, unashamed, posing on a wall looking carefree and happy. I'm Trans-historied. My gender status is legally female. The photo was taken by my husband who is legally married to me here in the UK. Gay and Trans rights are so much better now than before. Indeed some question whether we still need to campaign and fight for them. I've even wondered so myself.
 
 
What a positive blog post, from Jane.  She wrote this post to take note Transgender Day of Visibility.  Things are so much better now, for the trans community, than they were a few years ago, but we have only touched the tip of the iceberg, as Jane notes in the last sentence of her post:
 
The woman in the picture above would need to cover up to please so many people, even though it would stop her keeping cool. She is still considered a man in many countries, her marriage to her husband is not legally recognised. Today, visibility for sexual orientation, gender and sexual freedom is more needed than ever.

Thursday, March 30, 2017

Moving forward

It seemed to me transition is a cul-de-sac. It is so tempting because you know what you have to do, and you feel you are moving forward until you hit the wall- for me an operation with results I did not like was the wall. Dressing works like addiction, I said. At first it is really nice, but eventually you have to do it to make life tolerable.




In another good post, from Clare Flourish, Clare relates meeting with a friend who is beginning transition.  Clare was going to tell her not to, but held back.  Read, Moving forward, to find out why.

Hypothesis

Transgender is an adjective.  As In transgender man, woman, person activist, author, etc. The definition: denoting or relating to a person whose sense of personal identity and gender does not correspond with their birth sex. 





Rhonda has done a two-part post and, as with our previously featured post from Daniella, Rhonda's posts deal with the definition of transgender.

What is Rhonda's hypothesis?  You'll have to read A United Front, first, then go to the second post to find Rhonda's hypothesis.

 

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Who ‘Qualifies’ as a Transgender Person?

In my opinion even, at the far end of the spectrum, the male identifying crossdresser who only occasionally slips on a lacy g-string is displaying gender non-conformity and is therefore a transgender person.






Some would disagree with that statement, but Daniella does a good job justifying it.   Who ‘Qualifies’ as a Transgender Person?, is well thought out and a good read.

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

New and Notable - Trans* Reads

Sally comments on three new books that may be on interest.

 

TRANS*AM is a book which looks into relationships between cis-men and transwomen.

Housewife documents the relationship between a woman and her then-husband who transistions.

Transitioning together is another relationship book involving a 20-year marriage and a spouse who transitions.

More on all of these at New and Notable - Trans* Reads.
 

Monday, March 27, 2017

Temptation

The Ever Lovely Mrs J was kind enough to let me borrow some fancy heels.







It's just another day in the life of Lynn Jones.  You know....heels, hair, jeans, skirts....the usual.  Love Lynn's posts!  They're just filled with Temptation!

serenity

How I want to live out the rest of my life provided I stay healthy is a question which will be answered in due course. The only person you can control is yourself and everything else is beyond your grasp allowing us only an influence which disappoints when we realize it is not of the magnitude that we expected.


Joanna has a new look to her blog, and a new attitude.   Is it Serenity?

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Creepy Behaviour

So men think I'm cruising them, and women think I'm mentally undressing them or generally being creepy. As I answered in one of your earlier surveys, what I need is a big sign that says: “I'm looking at your clothes not your body. No, really!”




The point Jonathan is trying to make in this post is that he likes to look at the clothes women are wearing when in public.  To most women, this look could be deemed "creepy"....undressing them with his eyes, etc.  Jonathan, however, is just admiring their clothes.   Read more in Creepy Behaviour.

Monday, March 20, 2017

Wobble and more!!

This week Lucy had another wobble and had doubts if she is doing the right thing. These seem to come in cycles. This was caused by a post-op friend of ours saying how difficult and lonely life was for her. This started Lucy off.... The world these days is far more accepting than it used to be and together we can face anything.


I like to feature Avril's posts.  They're the read deal....two loving partners, transitioning together.  Lucy survived the "wobble", but then she had to deal with "Pandora Gate".  Don't know about "Pandora Gate"?  I guess you will just have to read, Wobble and more!!

Sunday, March 19, 2017

Twilight Zone - Nails II

The house was full of remover smell when we got back and as suspected I got that look. I just shrugged my shoulders. She wanted to see my hands. I tried to keep my distance and wave them around a bit. I was in panic that with her eagle eyes she would see any colour I missed!



Abi may have gotten herself into a bit of a bind over a bit of nail polish.  You'll have to read, Twilight Zone - Nails II, to find out!

Saturday, March 18, 2017

If the Skirt fits, keep it!

week 31a 1So after two weeks of more serious blog posts it’s back to the flipperdy, flippant world of Jenny nonsense.




If the Skirt fits, keep it!   And, if it doesn't...... Read more, from Jenny,

Friday, March 17, 2017

Nipples

A question: do you ever have a passing wish that your nipples were bigger, and had a better shape? By which I mean looking significantly more shapely and protuberant, just as if a host of milk-hungry babies had been sucking voraciously at them - with permanent effect?



With a title like this, I'm sure long-time blogger, Lucy, knew I would pick up on this post.  Lucy transitioned several years ago.  She's comfortable in her new body and has even made additional improvements like shaping and weight loss.  But, if only she could just add a bit to her nipples.  She ponders this in her appropriately name post.

Thursday, March 16, 2017

LGBT Privilege?

I distinctly remember the first couple of conversations I had with men. I was naive and shocked when I received a total lack of respect. Privilege then became a very big deal, tipped to the male side.






Privilege seems to be the topic of the week on a few blogs.  We take a trip to Cyrsti's Condo for the third featured post on the subject.

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Past vs Future

Ya know folks, In all this transitioning stuff, I have had to learn something. Make peace with the past and leave it there, or there will be no future.





Past vs Future is an emotionally thrown-together post, from Candi.  Good reading and good advice for anyone in transition or considering transition.

Things Never To Say To a Trans Person

I want to point out that this isn't an article about being politically correct. I am not saying these things because it is progressive or an attempt to further an agenda. I am posting this stuff because we are all human and all worth of respect and that includes respecting how someone expresses and experiences their own self.


Once in a while, it's good to feature a post, like this one.  When looking at the the key words in Google searches that have led someone to T-Central, it's pretty obvious that many come to this site to learn more about those who are transgender.  Things Never To Say To a Trans Person can be taken as good advice, from Katherine Jean.

Monday, March 13, 2017

Male Privilege & Trans Women

.......is a woman who is suppressing her gender and suffering from gender dysphoria actually experiencing the world as a man? Also, if we know that a gay man doesn’t experience male privilege in the same way a straight man does, and we know black men don’t experience it the same way white men do, then isn’t it possible that trans women, before they transition, also don’t experience it the way cis men do? 


Somewhat in keeping with the theme of the previous featured post, from Paula, here's another post involving the question of Male Privilege.   Today, it's Helen Boyd, on Male Privilege and Trans Women.

Sunday, March 12, 2017

Privilege

I was used to feeling safe, secure and self confident.   It was a bit of a shock to experience the reality of being a woman in London in the 21st Century ~ and for a girl like me London has to be one of the safest cities in the world.  






Paula looks back at male privilege and how losing it has affected her life, as a full time woman.

Early Days of Transition: A Phenomenology of Change

Some trans people insist that in transition they didn’t change their genders, they changed their bodies to align with the gender they’ve been since birth. But for me, I don’t think I really had a well-defined sense of gender at birth. It had to be shaped into existence by the regulations of society on how boys and girls are “supposed” to act.


I don't know much about Rachel, but I just love her writing.  I could easily feature every one of her posts.  She has a lot to say, she says it well, and most T-Central readers can certainly relate to much of it.

In Early Days of Transition: A Phenomenology of Change, Rachel talks about the awkward days when she first began her transition and needed to re-learn the "mechanisms of gender behavior".

Saturday, March 11, 2017

Changing my HRT regimen

One of the things being trans has forced me to do is experiment with my body to become more comfortable with it. These experiments have ranged from the innocuous, like wearing different clothes and growing my hair out at different times in my life, to the more risky modification of my hormonal balance to drive physical changes. 




In week 161 of her transition, Heather is considering injectable estrogen. She shares her thoughts in, Changing my HRT regimen.

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Feminine Differential - Your Glasses

I like the way I look in glasses. In years past I wore contacts but found myself wearing glasses as Rhonda that were clear non-prescription. That was a lot of trouble for nothing. In my opinion, I believe that glasses soften my face and feminine frames take that a step further. 


Rhonda does look fab when wearing glasses!  Actually, she looks fab with or without glasses, but the eye glasses just add that extra touch.  She has some suggestions and comments on this subject in another entry of her Feminine Differential series.

The picture on the right shows a couple of our favorite bloggers.  Rhonda, on the left, and Joanna Santos, on the right.  The two recently met and had time to dine together twice.  You can read about this in Joanna's post, my dinners with Rhonda.

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