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Wednesday, November 22, 2017

Asking for it

Jen: How did you first sit down and have a serious conversation with your wife about your dressing?

Pandora: How long did it take you to find and/or settle into your style?

And did you go through the awkward "dressing much to young for your age" phase?




Lynn answers the questions, above, in the last half of this post.  Great answers, too!  

The first half deals with a bit of ME-TOO stuff....it does happen within our community. 

Some more thoughts about transgenders and society

Late middle age transition has another problem - most of us have been brought up that gender was binary, and not a fluid spectrum.  So if we want romance, it's much harder to find, as people of this generation often see transgenders as something that's neither fish nor fowl.  We're not completely women, and we're certainly not men.  Since we can't be defined well in their eyes due to how others in our generation view gender, we have a much harder time finding romantic partners, much less compatible romantic partners for us.


A few thoughts, from Marian.

Tuesday, November 21, 2017

TDOR, Uncle Frank, And Cousin Steve’

This will be only my second TDOR.  I never knew of this event until last year though I have been transsexual my entire life. 





Her first TDOR was last year, yet she began hormone replacement therapy in 1979.  There's a lot more to this post, however, and it concerns her Uncle Frank and Cousin Steve.  It's a sad story and worth reading. 

Monday, November 20, 2017

Four More Years!

IMG_0565I remember the very first MN T-Girl meeting at Cafe Southside in Minneapolis.  I arrived a little early and wondered if anyone would show up.  But a few people did, and now, 4 years and a whole lot of eyeliner later, the group is still going strong with close to 200 members.




Those who follow T-Central know how I value the importance of local transgender groups.  It looks like the Minneapolis T-Girls are going strong.  If you live in the area and are not a member, I can guarantee you that joining a group such as the MN T-Girls will provide lots of friendship and support.  Here's to many more years and many more members!  Four More Years!

Friday, November 17, 2017

Pressure to Transition

I had known some butch lesbians around my age when I was growing up but I didn’t start meeting many older butch women until after I detransitioned. Meeting them has been healing beyond words. 


This is an excellent from-the-heart and brutally honest post from a woman who transitioned to male and then detransitioned.  Take the time to read this one.  It's a very different point-of-view from an other detransition posts that have been featured on T-Central.

Thursday, November 16, 2017

My Outfit - Making It Work

That was certainly not the look that I would ever
go for!  I mean seriously, it is not like it didn't fit a little bit, it didn't fit a lot!  It was so bad, that I wondered why I even purchased it! 



Nadine did purchase it and she did make it work.  She's shared several pictures to prove it.  I think she looks great.  Love the top!  Love the skirt!  Love the look!

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Frankly my dears, I don't give a damn!

Chronologically, I may be a senior citizen, but in my mind, I am far from it. In my mind, I am a young woman and I plan to look like a young woman as long as possible.






You may have already seen this post, from Stana.  If not, drop her a comment.  Something like...."You GO Girl"......or how about, "You ROCK, Stana!"

Monday, November 13, 2017

Transition Timeline – 2.5 years

IMG_20150527_131630Quite frankly, I had no idea what I was doing.  Everything was scary and I had to quickly figure out clothes, makeup, hiding beard shadow, my voice, mannerisms, unlearning socialization, passing, dealing with social anxiety, getting clocked, dealing with legal ID issues, being part-time, coping with dysphoria, not to mention my studies and teaching. 


This post is another progress report, complete with pictures.  The pictures start off with a good looking guy, full of facial hair and lead into a very pretty woman who just happens to have a very smooth face.  Simply put: Rachael is gorgeous!  Go to Transition Timeline – 2.5 years, to see for yourself.

Sunday, November 12, 2017

Am I a "real woman"? Thoughts on Transition from the wrong side of age 60 - TC Guest Post

A guest post, by Laura-Ann Charlot, of the River City Gems.  (guest posts are always welcome)

laura_ann.072 at yahoo.com

A transwoman friend of mine - I'll call her "Grace" here, to protect her privacy -  was recently in a conversation with a cis-woman friend of hers, who repeatedly used the phrase "a real woman", in a context that implied that Grace isn't one. Grace's transition, now in it's 5th year, has proceeded as far as HRT, but she has not had any feminizing or gender re-assignment surgeries, and she might never have any; that is her choice to make, and she doesn't feel any pressing need to have any gender transition surgeries at the moment. Now Grace is about 20 years younger than I am, and by anyone's standards, I would say that she is drop-dead beautiful, even with no makeup, in grubby clothes to do gardening or housework, and with her own not-very-long hair instead of the much longer wigs she wears most of the time. But what makes a woman? Is it an "X" chromosome? Ovaries and a uterus? If so, we M-to-F trasgender persons are doomed to second-class status in the perception of woman-purists, I guess.

At least for however much time I am likely to have on this Earth, there will not be any way for a geneticist to clone a female reproductive tract for me in a laboratory, or any surgeon with the skill to install those "parts" inside me even if they were available. Besides which, I'm 61, and a bit past the age of child-bearing, I think. So what makes me, or my friend Grace, go about claiming to be women?
   

Since I can't ever have female "pieces and parts", there must be something else that makes me think "I am not a guy anymore, assuming I ever really was one in my mind; I am now a woman (or a transwoman, if you prefer)". Without those ovaries, I have to use estradiol supplied externally, and I have to take androgen blocking drugs to suppress my testosterone (at least until I have GRS, if I ever do). Then there are my physical attributes, most of which can't ever be made to look womanly: I'm 6'-2" tall in flats, with the typical broad shoulders, big hands, and narrow pelvic bone of a born-male, and I am a lot bigger in almost every proportion - except the two that I'd like to be bigger - than most natal women. I know that I need to lose weight, so speaking to my current 300 pound bulk, which makes me a favorite customer of certain purveyors of plus-size women's clothing, that at least I have in my power to do something about. A surgeon can at least partially correct the structure of my facial bones, but there's simply nothing to be done about those shoulders, hands, and the un-feminine ratio of my hip to waist sizes.
   

How about my presentation? My state of mind? My self-perception of who I am? Ah, now we approach the important core of the matter. There are times when I feel pretty, like last night as I was getting ready to join some River City Gems friends at a GNO party. I wore a very nice, knee length knit dress in a dark green and blue pattern, my favorite pair of boots, in a medium brown shade of faux-suede with 2-1/2" block heels, very comfortable, and very feminine; I felt wonderful wearing that outfit. And it's not often that I wear a dress, I am a skirt-and-blouse girl. I received several compliments on my outfit and my makeup last night, and not just from my Gems friends, but from a couple of cis-women too.
   

But those other times, oh Lord, when I don't feel so pretty: those times, usually in the cold light of morning, when my back is hurting and I feel every minute of my 61 years weighing on me. When I know that I look like the aftermath of a really bad train-wreck, or like death on a cracker, with my hair looking like a bird's nest that someone just exploded with an M-80 firecracker, no makeup on my blotchy, worn-out face, no jewelry, nail polish coming off in chunks because I haven't had a mani/pedi for two months, and my legs, at least the part showing under the hem of my skirt, looking like hell because I'm not hiding them under hosiery at the moment.
   

I look in the mirror, bleary-eyed, but what I see isn't "him" any more, despite the awful condition I am in when I first climb out of bed in the morning: I see Laura-Ann - there she is! - and I smile, thinking, "Wow, I'm still alive, I get one more day to be myself. To appreciate the gifts I have been given, and to love my family, my friends, and myself. To interact with the world as a woman (who happens to be transgender). One more day to hold my beautiful Pauline in my arms and have some cuddle time with her."
   

In that moment, it doesn't matter if I get mis-gendered on a phone call, or dead-named by someone who has known me for 25 years and is so used to calling me "Larry" that using that name is automatic. I know that being mis-gendered and dead-named by my friends and family isn't being done with malicious intent, and that even total strangers who do it don't intend to hurt me. I have a deep male voice that's stuck somewhere between bass and baritone, and it's just a fact of life that I'll be mis-gendered from time to time because of it. But what the hell, when I look in that early-morning mirror, and my first thought is "Laura-Ann, you look like hell but you are a happy girl this morning", that is all any of us can ask for, I think.
   

To love myself, at last, and to know, as I approach the start of the 17th month of my HRT next week, that gender transition was the right choice, and the path I really needed to take; the joy I live in now is all the justification I need. If I were to have a conversation like Grace did, with a friend who is unwittingly using language that de-legitimises my womanhood, I hope I will remember these things, and not take umbrage at being called out as transgender and not "a real woman". Okay, I am not a cis-gender woman, I got that. I will never have ovaries, or a uterus, or ever know what it feels like to give birth to a new human being, or to have a girl's childhood experiences of playing with Barbie dolls instead of Tonka trucks. But I had a mostly joyous life as husband to a wonderful woman, now sadly deceased way before she should have left this world, and almost all of what I know about this Universe, and my place in it, and about people, and relationships, came from my life experience as Larry, as the guy that I thought I was. I would be foolish to reject that life now. I like the way Sabrina Symington, a transwoman and graphic artist in Vancouver, B.C. puts it: "The best parts of the guy I was are still a part of me, and all we had to throw away in our transition was the sadness". I couldn't say it better.
   

If any of you reading this are in the early stages of transition, or haven't started HRT or even gender therapy yet, don't let other people who may not have your best interests at heart influence you unduly. Only you, yourself, can decide who you are, where you want to go in life, and how you want to get there. If something inside you is whispering that your assigned-at-birth gender doesn't feel right, those are whisperings that you should heed, and spend however much time you need to understand them. You should at least consult a gender therapist if you are in any distress about your gender. A good therapist will not tell you specifically that you are, or are not, transgender; his or her job is to help you understand who and what you are for yourself, in your own mind, and then to help you make whatever decisions you need to make, yourself. Transition isn't necessarily difficult, but it isn't easy, either. Especially if you are married, and/or have a job in a State that doesn't provide legal protections to your employment as a transgender person, you will face difficulties. But if you look around, you can usually find transgender support resources in the larger towns and cities, and good therapists.
   

Whatever decisions you arrive at, like whether to transition or not, to have GRS or not, and how/when to let your loved ones know you are trans, if you decide that you are and need to transition, I hope you will find the love and acceptance that I did when I came out. This world is a long way from being a perfect place for anyone who is LGBTQ, but it's slowly getting better. Good luck, and best wishes for the upcoming Holidays and the start of 2018 in seven weeks.  

Friday, November 10, 2017

Lucy so far....... 13 months on HRT



I'm still waiting for all the big mood swings that everyone keeps talking about but she seems to be exactly the same as she always been with the exception of a couple of spiky moments which are not too bad.


I love to see progress reports from our bloggers in transition.  In this case, the report is from Lucy's incredibly supportive and loving soul-mate, Avril. 

Lucy so far....... 13 months on HRT

Thursday, November 9, 2017

Getting a pap smear as a transmasculine person

I don’t have a gynecologist.  I haven’t had one for probably 15 years.  The reason for that is because I felt so out of place there, so I let that aspect of my health passively slip away.  I’ve always gone to the dentist twice a year.  I was really into chiropractic care for years, consistently.  I’ve gotten eye exams.  I regularly go to a therapist and a psychiatrist.  I even have a primary care physician, and more recently, an endocrinologist.  But I’ve neglected and avoided anything related to my junk (this is just my preferred term for what I got going on down there…)


Included in JQ's "junk" is a cervix and a checkup of that particular body part is the subject of this blog post.  As Shawn points out in a comment, a hysterectomy eliminates the requirement for a pap smear in those transmen who elect to go with the surgery.  Great post, from Janitorqueer.

Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Why Aren’t You Wearing a Dress

A dress is an ideal garment, in my opinion, because it requires so little preparation to wear. All you have to do is take one off the hanger in your closet and put it on. Skirts and tops are more complicated. You can end up with a dozen tops and skirts and then you have the problem of matching them up. You may also end up with a very messy closet. I like a dress because the top is already coordinated with the skirt..

So...... Why Aren’t You Wearing a Dress?  Nicely thought out, by Tasi.

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

The Why Factor

Steph asked me what do I get out of coming to the Chameleons and dressing as Lynn? That's quite a question, and one I'm not sure I fully answered back then.





I'm sure Lynn is wondering why it took me so long to feature this post.  Perhaps it's the misspelled words?  (Behaviour....favourite....I mean Gmail does recognize that these words are clearly misspelled :-) .

The Why Factor is just that.....why does Lynn like to dress up as a woman.  I'm sure we all have our own answers to that question, but Lynn does a nice job of addressing it.

Monday, November 6, 2017

Loss, loss and loss

I loved my hair long before, but I could never give a reason not to get it cut to a “professional” men’s length without giving away who I really am. So, at the urging of my manager one day, I cut it off to put forward a more professional male persona as I was trying to get a better position. I regretted it the moment I did it, and I felt a traitor to myself.


While Beth comments on losing (as in cutting) her hair, this post is about more than the loss of hair.  Loss, loss and loss is about coming out.

Saturday, November 4, 2017

#MeToo: Some Thoughts

Having a man follow you and saying that he likes the way you look is a very unpleasant experience. Walking past a whole group of men intent on you as a sexual object is frankly terrifying. 






Excellent and well written thoughts, from South Africa's, Daniella.  It's a long post, but worth the time to read it. When you do read it, ask yourself if what Daniella has experience in South African cities compares to what you might have seen or experienced in your own city.  I think you'll agree that her thoughts are shared by other women and transwomen world-wide.

Friday, November 3, 2017

Fashion Stages of a Crossdresser

It is widely reported that irrespective of what physical age a crossdresser begins dressing, they will invariably go through different fashion stages which explains the all too apparent look of short skirts and tight blouses seen on many crossdressers.  They’ll  follow a fashion development pathway that is typically comparable to that of a normal woman but without the influence of feminine socialization experienced by natal women.


This is a very good and, oh-so-true (IMHO) blog post, from Tasi. According to Tasi, there are four Fashion Stages of a Crossdresser.

Thursday, November 2, 2017

Adam’s Apple - Hiding a Prominent Trachea

Having a visible "Adams' Apple" has never been a problem for me. Just luck of the draw, I guess.





For many, it is a problem.  Rhonda discusses temporary and permanant solutions in, Hiding a Prominent Trachea.

Monday, October 30, 2017

taking stock

.....so on the one hand, we have females who are (tragically, ironically) defending their “turf” as being the sole owners of the Gender “Woman”. which, contradictorily, is also recognized by many of them as being a set of Man-imposed chains holding them in bondage to a role that is submissive, inferior and victimized.
…and on the other we have males who claim (correctly) that to be a Woman is achievable by any Human Being regardless of Sex, since Gender is culturally produced and Sex is not.

The Outpost is a new blog listing on T-Central, and I want to thank Jack Molay (Crossdreamers, et all) for alerting us to Birdy's terrific blog.  Taking Stock, pt 2, (there is a part 1) is a good post to feature from Birdy because you'll learn a lot about just what is going through her head.  Grab a cup of coffee or tea, or whatever, and take the time to read this post.  I guarantee once you start reading it, you'll read it to the end.

Sunday, October 29, 2017

doubting you are trans

Our brains are wired differently than cisgender people but I have never at any point thought I was crazy. Hence, the only possibility left was that I was suffering from a perversion.
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As is almost always the case, Joanna has a lot to say without a lot of words (and that's a compliment, Joanna!).  This time, it's doubting you are trans.

Saturday, October 28, 2017

Andrea’s Tips For Laser Hair Removal… as a Patient

At the end of the laser treatment session, when I got up off the bed I was a trembling wreck! But a glass of water and a bit of chat with the nurse settled me down. Maybe that’ll work for you too.



The quote, above, is just one of 20 practical tips from Andrea.... someone who has been there.

Friday, October 27, 2017

Trans community

When I transitioned I decided I would make my community in normal society. I left the Northern Concord and the Sibyls behind, but more recently when I have spent time with trans folk I have relaxed. I am with my kind. It’s a good feeling. Sharing experiences might strengthen us and give us tips.





This is an interesting post, from Clare.  She starts off by saying, There is no trans community, and I feel that is a shame.  At this point, I wondered just what she is talking about.  The trans community in my city is huge, and there are several trans groups in the UK.

After reading the post, I believe what Clare is referring to (Clare - please correct me if I'm wrong) is that there really is no community for post-ops.  Clare mentions that some post-ops avoid being with others in the trans community out of fear of being clocked by association.  I have seen this, and she is absolutely correct, yet I have also seen how lonesome some of my friends are and how they have shed their friendships with others who are trans because of the "guilt by association" factor.  I haven't transitioned and, when with my post-op friends, always present myself as male.  They feel comfortable around me for that reason.  When I asked one once if she would continue to be around me if I was presenting female, she sadly said "no, not in public" because she would be clocked.....

Trans community, is another well written post, from Clare.

Thursday, October 26, 2017

If A Daughter Identifies As A Boy How Do You Talk To Her About Issues Affecting Young Women?

If a daughter identifies as a boy, and rejects being a woman, how do you have those talks about issues specifically relating to young women? Recent cases of sexual exploitation of young women may be issues that a girl who is lesbian or who rejects femininity would also feel to be irrelevant to her, because she feels herself to be ‘different’ to ‘those women’ so it could never happen to her. But in the case of a daughter who identifies as a boy, referring to issues which affect young women may be felt as complete betrayal. It could never happen to her because she’s not a woman.




This is a re-post, with comments, from Psychology Today.  Good information for parents.

Monday, October 23, 2017

"People like you"

As he was leaving, he said he handed me a little flyer and said "so you know our doors are always open, and we welcome people- especially people like you."









Oh, did I see red when I read this one, from Sophie.  You will too.  Read more about, "People like you".  Be sure to read the previous post she links to, from 2016.   

Sunday, October 22, 2017

My biggest mistakes as a mom were on Halloween.

On both occasions Harry wanted to go trick-or-treating as a girl. But I didn’t let him. I cared more about protecting him from teasing. And I worried about what others might think of his dad and me for letting our boy be a girl. I, I, I, and me. See the pattern?





The mistake is revealed in the paragraph, above.  Julie has much more to say on the subject, however, in another of her several Halloween related postsShe does link to all of them.

9 months on T injections

When I started in January, I gave the whole venture 6-8 months.  I thought I’d start getting uncomfortable with the level of masculinization by that time, and I’d stop.  Not for good, just for a while, to level back out, and then most likely start again within another year or two.  Something like that.  BUT!  I really like what’s going on. 



JQ is another blogger who shares his own personal experience in the transition process.  This post is for the guys.  He really likes what's going on, but there is one thing he doesn't like, and I have to agree.  Read, 9 months on T injections to find out just what that is.

Saturday, October 21, 2017

Made-up

.......we'd sorted out a foundation that worked with my existing primer and powder. I know the latter may be old school, but a light dusting of powder really helps set my makeup. Oh, and if you're not using a primer, you're missing out. In addition to that, I quizzed her about lip liner, and after some pro-tips, I had improved my lipstick technique too. What's not to like?



Lynn was lucky enough - in male mode - to get into the back room of an establishment specializing in makeup, cosmetics and beauty.   Working with a makeup artist, she learned a bit more on the subject of being made-up.

Being trans

In the mood I am in now, I might just reassure myself. Transition is a way to live more comfortably and authentically in the World. It is not easy, and I lost some friends when I transitioned, yet I knew it was what I had to do, and it has been my path to self-acceptance.






Clare, always brutally honest when she writes, discusses transitioning.  She has said many times that she has had second thoughts, post surgery.  She has more to say on the subject of Being Trans.

Friday, October 20, 2017

First Transgender Doll

For those asking: the doll is considered to be the first ‘transgender’ doll because it’s based on an individual who is trans. Of course it is still just a regular girl doll because that’s exactly what I am: a regular girl!


The title pretty much says it all.  Do read the post.  Rhonda has a question for you at the end.

Thursday, October 19, 2017

In Sync

Sometimes I'm a little slower than the average bear. This morning when I woke up, I had to brush my hair out of my face immediately and thought what a pain!







 This one, from Cyrsti, is short and feels good.  Made me smile!

It’s Time to Reject Objectification And Harassment for All Women NotJust a Selection

In spite of those who mistakenly argue we enjoy male privilege; objectification, harassment and abuse are a regular occurrence for Trans women too. Most of us suffer in silence.





Jane shares some awful childhood and adult experiences in an effort to prove her point.

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Breast Form Review

HPIM0018cropped.JPGHello, my name is Daniella and I am addicted to my forms. That is right people I have succumbed. I have finally upgraded from my rice filled knee high nylons to ‘proper’ breast forms. I by proper I mean ‘proper’. I have acquired a pair of self adhesive forms with detachable, realistic nipples! I know I know, how the mighty have fallen.



There's the bundled up sox, rice bags, water filled ballons and......breast forms.  Daniella has a lot to say about her experience with forms.

How to Halloween for Transgirls

Halloween is my absolute favorite time of year.  Not only is there an abundance of candy and there are plenty of opportunities to party. Plus, you get to dress up in a costume and be whoever you want! Maybe that's why transgender people, gender-queer people, and crossdressers love October so much. When you're not out to the people in your life, Halloween gives you a chance to dip your toe in so to speak. You can present with your preferred gender expression in a safe and accepting environment. And for one night you get to be your real self without anyone judging you.


Ah.....Halloween......dress up time!  A few comments on the subject, from Faith.

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

A story of desistance

He developed a fantasy that living as girl would be easier because he could escape from the pressures of being a man. This fantasy was connected to his self-confidence. Whether the fantasy is realistic or not, the pressures on young men to perform are very real. His fantasies got stronger during periods he was having difficulty with relationships and life and diminished during periods he was having success.


TWT transitioned from male to female at age 19 and de-transitioned 20 years later.  If you're considering transitioning, this is a blog you should browse.  There are those who are happy, having transitioned into the body and gender they should have been born in/with.  And, there are those who transitioned and later found that transitioning was not the answer to their issues.  TWT is among the latter and one of the rare ones who shares his experiences with us.

In, A story of desistance, TWT re-posts the thoughts of guy who's life experiences, as it relates to gender in his early years, were not unlike his own.  Again, if you're asking yourself if you should transition, reading posts like this one may assist you in better evaluating yourself.....along with a good therapist.

Please note that this post can best be termed as "R rated".

Monday, October 16, 2017

Biological Basis for The Transgender Experience

.....articles like this offer great insight into our minds but the findings in these studies should not be used solely to validate our experience. 





Katherine links to a Scientific American article and offers her own thoughts on the subject.

Sunday, October 15, 2017

A True Love of Mine

If I have GRS, an expense I am still trying to justify, it won’t change us. We will have different equipment to work with, that is a physical thing. The surgery wouldn’t define me any more than my lack of surgery now does, it will simply allow me to be more of who I am.


This is a blog post about something I'm all about.  Love and marriage and being trans.  If you're trans and in a relationship, or considering a relationship, you will enjoy reading A True Love of Mine, from Beth.

Friday, October 13, 2017

another coming out

“I am trans” I said matter of factly.
She looked at me and smiled and said:

“Really? That’s so neat”




Need a "feel-good" post to read?  Try, another coming out, from Joanna.

Thursday, October 12, 2017

An Unexpected Visit in Dreamtime

"Womanhood is wonderful, and it fits me so much better than the life you have preserved. I've paid a price for sure, but I don't regret anything that I had to do. You and I are different in some very important ways D..... , otherwise we wouldn't be having this conversation in this howling wind on this cool afternoon."





What a wonderful post from my friend, Halle.  I had somehow missed seeing this blog post until now, and it does deserve to be featured.  In this post, Halle shares a dream she had which involves a discussion between her current self and "his" former self.  Very well written and very much worth taking the time to read.

Fingernails

I feel having his long tranny nails is more important to him than my peace of mind.  It's not nice to feel you're so far down someone's priorities, below even their nails, especially when you feel you've made so many changes in your life for him and got used to so many weird things.


Pennywife doesn't like long nails.....on men or women.  Her spouse is a crossdresser and it appears his insistence on keeping his fingernails long could result in shortening the term of his marriage. 

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

Real self, female self

McGrath asked what I wanted. I said I wanted to be a housewife, and my memory is that just by snorting and facial expression he indicated dismissive contempt of this impossible fantasy.



Real self, female self is yet another excellent post from Clare.  Clare expresses her own feelings prior to transition and after transition and, by sharing these thoughts, she can help many of us better understand our own feelings of dysphoria.



HRT - Month 27

Well it seems like life is teaching me a few new lessons. With HRT come changes that Transwomen are not told about. So has been the case this month. Let me break it down just a little for you.




I'm so thankful for our trans-sisters, and brothers, who share their experiences.  In this one, Aleana brings us up-to-date with Month 27.  An excellent post!

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Transgenderism Encourages Rigid Gender Stereotypes

Look at those gender identity tests such as COGIATI and SAGE, which ask you a series of questions about your personality traits and abilities to score how masculine or feminine you are. Answer with too many “girly” answers, and you’ll be told that you are a good candidate for hormone replacement therapy (HRT) with or without sex reassignment surgery (SRS).


Ralph has made some very good comments in this post.  It's well worth reading this short post, if you have questions about yourself.

I don't believe his blog has been featured in the past. 

A little bit more about Ralph, from his "about" page:

What this site is NOT about is the male to female transformation process. If your journey has taken you down that road and you wish you could be a girl — part time, full time, any time — I wish you well, but you won’t find anything of interest here. For reasons that have taken two years and dozens of blog posts for me to explain, that’s not part of who I am. I prefer dresses and skirts to pants, it’s true, but I wear them on my own terms as a man who happens to like those things. Here you’ll find — and you are encouraged to participate in — discussions on why we do it, what makes us who we are, fashion likes and dislikes, deep theological musings, and how it affects our relationships with friends, lovers, and the world.

Supergirl: A Transgender Girl's Thoughts

The biggest reason that I love this show is that it has used its story lines as metaphors to discuss important social issues like the refugee crisis, immigration, xenophobia, and of course, LGBTQ rights. With the third season of the show coming out soon, I thought this would a good time to discuss how I think Supergirl touches on the transgender experience in ways that really resonated me with me, even if that wasn't necessarily the intention of the writers.
 
 
 
This is a very nice review, from a transgender woman's perspective, of the Supergirl series on the American network, The CW.  Season three starts soon.

Monday, October 9, 2017

A transgender marriage? What’s the big deal?

What’s the big deal? We’re just a normal married couple leading a typical life.







Diane has been blogging since 2010.  She writes from the perspective of a spouse in a male-to-female transgender marriage.  She and her wife are currently living in the Netherlands.  She is a former writer for the Boston Globe.  What’s the big deal?  Read more here.

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