The Choice

She believes that for the good of the family, and in following God, I should bury my desires and suffer if necessary.


The "She" in the excerpt, above, refers to Shannyn's spouse, and it's not an uncommon comment from a spouse.  

Shannyn has come alive!  Her total number of posts for July now equal her total for January-June.  What's going on with Shannyn?  Read her current post, The Choice, and then browse her blog.  You might want to check out, When Did You KNOW? When CAN You Know?.

Oh, and please leave this girl a comment!  She's been leaving comments on many of your blogs and deserves a few herself!

Polished

I don't often wear polish on my fingernails, primarily because I don't dress feminine for extended periods of time and it seems like a fair bother if it's just for a few hours. However, I wear toenail polish almost all the time.


Just a few comments about.....being Polished.

Home Alone - Day 3 - Get it together!

Alright I'm getting close now.  But oh sh*t, two teenage girls just rounded the corner and are heading directly toward me giggling and guffawing away.  


She writes good, she's funny, and she's loving life!  Meet Tanya, who has blogging since 2017 but has never been listed on T-Central.....until now.  Thanks to Shannyn for linking to Tanya's blog.

In this post, Tanya has a day out at Target.  Sound boring?  Um....NOT.  Read the post for more.

To Shade or Not To Shade

When you pose in a car, may I ask a favor? Please shed the sunglasses for the time to take a selfie. As a lesbian, I want to see your whole face.


Nadine has had many requests to shed the shades over the years.  What do you think?  I think she looks fab with or without and, really, it's her prerogative, right?  Read, To Shade or Not To Shade, for more pictures and comments.

Straight men's fear of knitting

Given the force the cultural gender conditioning has, the real mystery is not the trans women who join the Navy Seals before giving up their male lives. The true mystery is the ones who manage – against all odds – to express their true gender in face of all the jokes and the harassment.



It's another gem of a post, on a very different topic, from Jack.

Nothing to Say...

I've said before that it would have been easier if Tasha had done something bad and I/the kids could have hated her and moved on in whatever capacity that might have been. But we still love her a ton and want her to be happy with herself. This surgery is the icing on the cake. This is the one that means the most to her (besides the GRS, of course). She will no longer be misgendered under any circumstances. So, we support her.

Marni's spouse has transitioned.  In this post, Marni comments on a couple of feminization surgeries Natasha has had recently.  Both are serious surgery but one will affect the family the most.  Go to, Nothing to Say..., for the details.

‘Strange Solitude’

I flew home cross-country from New Jersey on the Saturday immediately following my father’s death on Wednesday night – family told me that I was not welcomed to be present at their home any longer. My father’s funeral home visitation was that Saturday – family told me that I was not welcomed to participate and greet visitors. My father’s funeral and Requiem Mass was that next day, the Sunday immediately following his death – family told me that I was not welcomed to attend Requiem Mass at their Catholic Church.



The author of this blog has led a very sad life, the result of an early transition from male to female back in the time when this was absolutely not accepted.  Her writing is compelling, yet very sad.  She really should write a book.  Read her latest post, but please read, Our Story Begins, first.

“The Emergence of Trans” – out now, read the introduction!

This book is intended as a statement of hope, and of possibility. It is about the context and consequences of trans emergence. It is about how “trans” becomes, and how we “become” trans. It is about how trans people are changed by the experience of emergence, and how trans emergence might change our worlds.


Dr. Ruth Pearce has announced a new book of articles relating to transgender life.  It includes Chapter 2: Reconceiving the Body: A Surgical Genealogy of Trans-Therapeutics; Chapter 7: On Being a ‘Wife’: Cis Women Negotiating Relationships with a Trans Partner and several other chapters.  Go here for the full details from Dr. Ruth.

Friend's Friday - 95 Degrees of Remarkable

The store is  (over)staffed by dozens of young, pretty girls of all sizes, shapes and colors.  AND and they ALL offered me a  " Hi".  





Velma has done a guest post on Rhonda's blog.  This one is about a warm day on the town.

Lucky One

How lucky am I though at this moment to have such choices in what I can do with my future and still at an age to make it worth while. There are always days when it feels like the complete opposite, ‘why didn’t I do something sooner?’, ‘Why am I not more feminine?’ et. al. But then something will trigger a different point of view, a certain angle in the mirror, a different perspective on the size of my fingers, seeing a women with a bigger nose than me (me-ow). A friend said the other day ‘My god, you’ve got little boys hands.’ Well, half way there I guess.


I so love Hannah's posts.  They're just beautifully written and you always want to read them from start to finish.  In this post, Hannah is feeling good about life.

"Boy or girl?" Are they the only choices?

Funny, after all the nonsense about trying to hush schools in the 80s on talking about being gay, here we are again in 2019, with another group of people trying to keep the kids from learning.




Lynn just keeps writing quality posts that beg to be featured!  This one involves educating public on live as a transgender child.

facial hair

A real gift for transwomen on a budget who cannot afford expensive laser or electolysis or at the very least an aid to those methods. 





Joanna has a fabulous suggestion on removing facial and body hair, for those on a budget.  Despite my close ties to so many in our local trans community, this is all new to me and you can bet I'm going to try it out!  To find out all about it, go here.

This Bird You Can Not Change

It took years for me to find a place, and though I have changed in some ways, war and just living will do that to you, I was always the same girl who pretended to be a boy with her friends on the second floor of a house, wishing she could get away from a small town to be herself.



Elizabeth has written a very nice post, built around the words of Lynyrd Skynyrd's Free Bird

Dorian Electra: ‘I’m not a woman dressing as a man. It’s more complex’

She says that her transmasculine image was partly influenced by artists like David Bowie, Bono (!), Liberace, Prince, and Austin Powers. 



Interesting synopsis of a recent interview with Dorian Electra, published in The Guardian.

My first time going out someplace as Susan

Now I remember the night really well as most of us do as it is such a pivotal point in our lives, I just can’t remember exactly when it was. I think it was in the late 90’s maybe 1998 or 1999 but the date is not important.


Susan writes about her first time out.

announcement

As I'll never be able to afford any surgeries, my transition has stalled.  This morning I contemplated de-transitoning, but I'd rather die than go back.









Sophie has been a wonderful blogger for nearly 10 years.  Now, she's thinking about dropping the blog.  I think this girl needs a boost, so browse through her blog and do leave a comment if you wish.

Wearing The Pants

Someone asked recently what my reply would be to a request to speak to the man of the house. After being taken aback a lot, thinking how primitive that idea always was, then remembering how prevalent that sort of thinking was not that long ago, I replied that I would probably say "He isn't in right now. Can I take a message?" 






Halle has finally settled into a comfortable and NORMAL life in the body she should have been born in.  Read, Wearing the Pants, for more on the subject.

No, I don't mind

"I can't wait to get home and take off my bra you know what I mean ladies?"





When two of our T-Central bloggers were having lunch together their server made the comment, above, to them.  For Joanna's and Halle's reaction, go to Joanna's short post, No, I don't mind.

Something Completely Different

Yes, here at T-Central … a feature about someone other than a blogger. 

For me, it started two days ago when Joanna embedded an interview on her site; YouTuber Natalie Wynn talking with Krystal Ball on The Hill’s program Rising. I will be honest; I watched the first half, thinking - what a smart and witty cis-woman Natalie is, someone who is fun to watch and who speaks with the authority of one who does her homework.

As it turns out, Natalie is a trans-woman, who transitioned in full view of her public and her critics. If you don’t think that is brave, clearly you don’t know someone who has transitioned. 

On top of that, because she has a public platform, she is being seen, unfairly, as a representative of trans-people. 

Natalie’s YouTube channel, which she refers to as “.. a long, theatrical response to fascism”, is called ContraPoints. Many of you are going to say, why, of course, I know Natalie because I’m one ContraPoints' well over 600 000 subscribers. 

Here is a sample of her work:

Taking on Ben Shapiro

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9bbINLWtMKI&t=1141s

Blowing away Blanchard and Bailey and their defence of the theory of autogynephilia: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6czRFLs5JQo

Before watching those, however, this talk she gave last September at the XOXO Festival is a very good introduction to Natalie and her work. 

LGBQ = SO T = GI/E

I remember one time when I went up to Fantasia Fair early and at the B&B there was a group of lesbians staying there for Women’s Week, the B&B put out wine and cheese at 5. On one side of the living room sat the lesbians and on the other side sat the trans people, I forget how it started but somehow the topic of “coming out” came up and we began telling our stories. A couple of bottles of wine later we were one group not two.


There are some in the trans community who feel that the "T" should be removed from the "LGB_Q". I've got to admit that I have leaned in that direction.  Diana links to an article that supports the bond between the gay/queer community and the trans community and has some comments of her own.

Birds do it. Bees do it. But can Katie and I do it?

I can’t Google-search “how to learn how to have sex with your previously male-bodied, transgender female partner” without getting a lot of unwanted search results.








Natalie very tactfully touches on a subject rarely discussed in the T-Blogging world.  This subject is just so important in our world and Natalie, the spouse of a transwoman, has stated it so well.

The End

After 12-1/2 years, I have decided to put an end to this blog. I am tired of writing it, have nothing new to say and want to spend the time doing something else.



Please tell me it isn't so, Stana.  

Femulate has been an institution in our community, as has Stana.  I've been following this blog from nearly the first day.  Stana, via Femulate first helped me to better understand myself and later helped me to grow my own blog. Femulate has also helped grow T-Central tremendously, especially it the early years.  It used to be that all T-Central referrals came from Femulate.  I can't begin tell you how much I have appreciated the power of Femulate in helping other trans-related blogs to grow.

Stana has always kept Femulate up to the highest standards.  This quality has translated into many non-trans readers, such as spouses, trying to understand more about us.

I've met Stana more than once.  She's the real-deal, and I do hope she's OK.

Go here for her most recent, and currently last post.

Go here, for a recent post that I found very troubling, yet fulfilling when I got to the end.

Please also read Rhonda's Femulate Tribute.

Learning to be

The reality is that I cannot go back and fix things to make everyone happy, I cannot undo the mistakes and anger, the childishness and spitefulness. I was an unhappy child who grew into an arrogant and angry adult, further spurred on by being mistaken as male, so I got privilege as well. 




Elizabeth says so much in this relatively short post.  The post is a month old, but still very much worth the time to read.

Seven years of being Kate later….

.........on July 2nd 2012 I technically started the journey and it was a strange journey ever since. Over the course of seven years hormones have changed my face, my body distribution and caused me to grow breasts, not to forget the surgery that finally completed my transition. But even now, sitting here with a vagina between my legs and the aforementioned breasts on my chest, it still doesn’t feel real.


Here's an update, from Kate.

a kick on the backside

"You know Joanna, 1/3 of my patients don't follow through with a medical transition and live like you. If this works for you then keep it up. I think it's wonderful"




Amen!  Read more about Joanna's visit with the doctor and find out just who got "a kick in the backside".

Passing Privilege?

First of all, I am not a big fan of the passing comment at all and always like to refer back to Stana's Femulate comment referring to how she always passed with care, by using her horn, flashing her lights etc.


Tell it like it is, Girl!  What a great post, from Cyrsti, and a fab comment, from Stana!

My Magic Dress

When you have a shapeless shape, how do you create a pleasing figure? Magic. That's what this dress does -- its design transforms nature. Yay!





Not much to this post except for some awesome pictures!

Qualities in Dating Transgender Women

Today’s talk is about the qualities you must have in order to successfully date transgender women.



This post is from Amanda, who has been doing this fascinating blog for several years.  It's listed on the right side of the T-Central home page.  The blog is full of many interesting scenarios and is probably of most interest to younger transwomen.