I,
like many crossdressers, do not have universal approval from my family
so it will not be possible for me to dress as I would like to, not only
on Christmas day itself but for around three weeks over the festive
period.
Cool down.....
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Hallo ihr Lieben,
Hello, dear visitors
Translation button on the right side.
So schnell kann es bei uns gehen. Sonntag noch in der Liegewiese in der
Saun...
Game faces
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Whether you are transgender or not but especially so, there are two game
faces to have available at all times. Depending on the individual, one says
both...
Brainwashing! Part 1
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[In Depth Report]
A bunch of billionaires are trying to brainwash the children and the
right-wingers are loving it! And the conservatives are eating it u...
Keystone Redux
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I started this article on Monday, the day after returning from the 14th
annual Keystone Conference in Harrisburg, PA. It was my second time
attending. Yes...
It’s Not and Who Cares
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I know I overthink and I used to feel that I overthought my outfit whenever
I would go out en femme. Buuuut I kinnnnda think many of us consider
countless ...
A Second Trump Presidency ...
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Would Be A Nightmare Scenario For Transgender People
By
Lil Kalish
Apr 18, 2024
*My Note: This is an in-depth look at what has happened in Florida under...
Parliament on the Cass review
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There were valuable allies speaking on the Cass review in Parliament, and
we should celebrate their bravery. Their points were ignored. Kirsten
Oswald, spe...
Saying Goodbye
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When my eyes failed last year I owned four motorcycles (and two cars). I
decided to keep two of the motorcycles for sentimental reasons -- and also
possi...
WORDS OF WISDOM
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I learned to dream through reading, learned to create dreams through
writing, and learned to develop dreamers through teaching. I shall always
be a dream...
Smut
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*A word of warning*: this whole post is going behind a line break because,
well, it's probably all TMI related (and definitely about smut on the
internet...
A spate of messages, a fix costing nothing
-
It's been very nearly six months since I drove away Sophie, my second-hand
Volvo XC60 with the prized-but-no-longer-made five-cylinder (D5) diesel
engine, ...
The doctor
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*Addendum to previous post *
I forgot to talk about the rest of the bank holiday weekend in the week
before LFF !
Sunday I went to the Yorkshire Air ...
Getting past my personal transphobia
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I feel like I am in the middle of a self-reflecting phase so I have lots of
thoughts recently that may come out on the page like verbal diarrhea. So I
ap...
For Mike
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I sat on my sofa Easter night, watching a movie with my roomie/bestie
Linda. I also zipped through Facialbook, when I saw it.
My dear friend F.M. (Mike)...
Earrings.
-
So not breast cancer then. One harmless lipoma and the rest gynaecomastia.
All the same, the circumstance of a non-transitioning, non-medicating, sort
of m...
Not doing owt
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Hi, Ahh, a week’s staycation, a night out, and a long weekend? Well, colour
me well chuffed and tiptoperoo 🙂 Engage smug mode 🤓 ( For the non
Midlands Ma...
St Brynach's Cuckoo
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Outside the church of St Brynach, in Nevern, Pembrokeshire, is a fine
celtic cross. On the saint's feast day, April 7th, the first cuckoo of the
year will...
Working plushie
-
I was delighted to receive my Coco Peru doll all the way from Canada. She
comes with a glow-in-the-dark alien friend.
I've always liked Coco Peru w...
Better luck next time
-
I just received a text purporting to be from Scotiabank (Bank of Nova
Scotia) telling me my access card “Has Been Disabled As Of New Security
Improvements”...
Sole purpose
-
...given that I knew I would be servicing a new cock, I had already decided
that when it entered the room, I would subserviently be knelt on the floor,
nea...
California Vacation - Day 01
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Today was a day I'll remember for a while. Not only did I have to finish
packing (and I forgot a few things), but I had some experiences which were
v...
Transgender Day of Visibility
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31st of March is Transgender Day of Visibility, a day to celebrate and
visibility matters whether that's a character in Doctor Who or just someone
being ...
A poem for TDOV
-
Content warning: mentions transphobia, murder, death of trans kids, fascism
and JK Rowling Visibility was never our problem You can see us just
fine.The ta...
I am torn
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I am torn between happiness and shame I am torn between being brave and yet
scared I am torn between being authentic yet still hiding behind a mask I
am to...
Transgender Day of Visibility 2024
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For various reasons I haven't had the opportunity to get out much in 2024,
but to mark Transgender Day of Visibility here's a reminder of happier times
...
They Burned Witches Too
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Many people outside society’s description of “norm,” have felt embarrassed
because they were made fun of, guilty because they were “taught” that it is
w...
FEMME: Porn By Women for Women and Men
-
40 years ago I began my friendship with the great feminist erotic pioneer,
Candida Royalle, who is now the subject of the recently published excellent
biog...
Time Is Running Out!
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OK, that title was a tad melodramatic --- but I just noticed that I haven't
posted a new article the entire month of March! So, in order to rectify ...
Is it any wonder why I truly hate sports?
-
I once had an old friend accuse me of ruining her cherished childhood
memories of her time on the swim team. Her evidence? I told her that our
team’s head ...
[Philosophy] OnlyFantasies….
-
Sooo, after a number of years of umming and ahhing I finally started an
OnlyFans site. Not for revenue, as the tax-man eats most of my earnings
anyway, but...
Finally did it!
-
I hemmed and hawed over getting a breast augmentation for a while now, but
last summer's bikini shopping pushed me over the edge.
Now, I recognize that b...
And yet you’re doing harm…
-
It was ten, maybe fifteen years ago, when I saw the ad in our lobby asking
for volunteers to join the community group. I figured it would be a chance
to me...
Marking time…
-
Well it had to happen at some point: I’ve run out of things to say again!
Way back in the earliest days of this blog, I mentioned that I’d been too
busy do...
A wedding
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*I don't look too happy here but the emotion was running very high at this
point* Some time ago I wrote about my love for wedding dresses, (The Dress
(m...
A Decade.
-
As I am close to the time I first came out to my family, looking back feels
both like yesterday and forever ago. I remember handwriting those notes to
both...
Careful The Things You Say
-
Growing up in the 1950s and 60s meant that being different was
unacceptable. What I felt in my bones was confusing; desires for something
that was forbidde...
Whipping Girl 3rd Edition to Be Released in March!
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I'm happy to announce that a 3rd edition of my first book Whipping Girl: A
Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity will be
coming ...
AI Image Generation
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It’s a strange world that we live in. Now that generative AI is so
commonplace, it’s reasonable to start distrusting everything that you see
and read. Th...
Literally living the dream
-
Happy New Year! While I am acutely aware that not everyone has had either
the will or the opportunity to bring in the New Year with a celebration, I
counte...
Shine
-
Did progress actually stop when I felt like how things are was the place I
was happy to be? I mean I didn’t make any conscious decision to stop making
actu...
At long last…an update (and a new podcast episode)
-
It’s been a very long time since I last posted here, and over two years
since we made a new podcast episode. This is largely due to the fact that
my beauti...
Overthinking Feminism?
-
Hey.
I hope you're well and staying safe and sane in the current climate in the
UK and the rest of the world. Just when you feel like things couldn't get...
ObserVation: Hand-me-downs overs
-
omething weird happened last month. Ok I use the word far too often but
still it was not something I was expecting and I hesitated somewhat before
reacti...
Cynthia, Are you there?
-
I’m not gone, still here, just really busy. 2023 has been a really
interesting year for me. I’m not going to get into great detail but suffice
to say there...
Finaly Doing Something Good With My Life
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Another couple of years on the run, a sleep apnea diagnosis which has
suddenly made my life much easier, an anonymous small house in a small town
wi...
Next chapter
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I'm here. There's lots to process since Mom's passing.
I think the best possibility is to relocate to the family home in
Massachusetts. Knowing that Dad...
IN OUR BLOOD: The Mafia Families of Corleone [Book]
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IN OUR BLOOD: The Mafia Families of Corleone introduces the reader to a new
way of understanding how the criminal fraternity operates: how it
originated, w...
Holy Skedaddles!
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I've been thinking for awhile to start a new blog. I'm leaning towards
writing about parenting with a dickhead of a backseat driver called
Challenging Ment...
Triumph
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Returning with growth and experience. It’s been a while,but I have grown by
leaps and bounds on my journey. Hope you will come along with me and find
out w...
Secrets and Lies in Alabama
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Fair warning: this story doesn't end well.
On Quora this week I came across the tragic story of Fred L. "Bubba"
Copeland, the mayor of a small town in Al...
October 2023 - Time for an update.
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Almost four months since my last entry, I suppose this sums up my present
life, KD only is a small part of these days as I get distracted by other
but go...
I Can't Stand Much More Of This
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Over on her "Condo" my friend Cyrsti has been writing a bit about what it
means to be trans, this sort of makes a nice change from the crossdresser
blog ...
Fairy Tail Ending
-
Back once again, managed to get through most of 2023 without feeling any
need to post anything much at all. But here we are. On the off chance that
I never...
Ten year anniversary of this blog!
-
Ten years ago, today, I started “janitorqueer.” I wanted to write about
being queer, specifically genderqueer, and about being a janitor. Mostly
though, I ...
The Ultimate Sacrifice
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Back in April this year I made the ultimate sacrifice; I went and got my
hair cut short. Despite all my best efforts to grow it long, my Dad's
death ult...
Endless Shortlist of Paradox(es)
-
Hello out there. I think I always start off with “it’s been a while since I
last shared”. This is in itself the first apparent paradox these days. On
the o...
Fast Forward
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I have not blogged in three years. This blog post is a short one to say
that I'm still around. I had pulled down all of my blog posts a year or
two ago...
Guest Author: Jessica Michelle Polacek
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(My friend Jessica has been doing some awesome queer history of Wisconsin
on Facebook, but this summary was too good to not pass on. – hbk)
Continuing our ...
Georgia Queen
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May I present: From our recent travels, a picture taken in Savannah, GA. We
had a fun ride, and the lunch from thee snack bar was actually decent! Mandy
Tennis Anyone?
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Image Courtesy Renith R
on UnSplash
Years ago I felt the need to attempt to copy many of the most popular
feminine mannerisms and/or activities I could f...
Tennis Anyone?
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Image Courtesy Renith R
on UnSplash
Years ago I felt the need to attempt to copy many of the most popular
feminine mannerisms and/or activities I could f...
Kind of Curiosity
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“I’ve got to get stuff from the garage and the boots so we can clear the
table” I heard him say from behind the garden fence.“Oh, that’s ok. Go sort
it out...
Montana-hang your head
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Montana legislature.... what are you thinking? Well, it's clear you're not
thinking. You have elected to attempt to tell people who they are, and who
th...
A Year Later
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I guess it's time. No time like the present, they say.
A year ago today, I experienced my last real feminine day. I wrote about it
in Wednesday on Saturd...
What Do The Wives Think of Us?
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This article, going way back to 2002, is still relevant today if not more
so. It was written before the gender identity explosion. It came up in a
conversa...
It's Now or Never
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Thank you for the emails and your comments here checking to see if I'm
okay. Well I thought I was, until certain things happened that caused me to
get dep...
Out and About - My Regular Escapades En-Fem
-
I, like many other TG’s, enjoy days out en-fem and often visit TG support
groups and TG events, but also get to visit national trust properties with
my...
Maddie on the Move
-
“Let’s go on a road trip” is the best six words you can say to me. It’s no
secret I love driving. I think it all started when I was a baby. My parents
used...
ferm living glas
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*Glass & Mirrors – ferm LIVING*. WebGlass & Mirrors. We use a broad range
of types of glass in our collection. We use soda lime glass for glass
tablewar...
Ponytail5
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You might only see 4 as the 1st on is hidden. I am posting this now so I
can link it to reddit. I have to say since Stephie came four years ago, I
have bee...
Some Simple Questions
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The topic of JK Rowlings transphobia trundles on mainly because she
continues to be bigoted and hateful towards trans people. For anyone that
does suppo...
Mischief Night and Turnip Lanterns
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BRING BACK THE BRITISH TURNIP LANTERN! A long time ago, (oh well; the 60's
and 70's) children in the West Riding made Turnip Lanterns and most of us
kids h...
As good a time as any
-
This might be as good a time as any to stop since the beginning of another
chapter of my life seems like a duly appropriate milestone. I can now say
with...
That Letter To My Wife
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Thanks for the mail I received from my last blog. It’s amazing how up
lifting your messages of support are to me. THEY DO MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
Thank you. ...
Cats, Dogs, Walruses and a Bit of Sex
-
I've always been a bit antisocial, preferring the company of animals, even
though I've never possessed a pet, and with my ecological background I am
sens...
Thanksgiving
-
Trigger warning! This post speaks bluntly about my grandchildren getting
hurt in an accident. It is not happy and uplifting. If you have horrible
me...
Taking a Break
-
I have been writing for a long time. I even won an award for writing when I
wrote for World Wide Hippies. Unfortunately, I am not in a good place. I
lost m...
Space Elevator
-
The white body I wear is mine, but ill-fitting and not me. A phantom body
that is also mine and is me rides within like a ghost, teasing my brain
with each...
#biologicaltrans
-
If there is one thing that gender-critical or anti-trans people do not
understand, it is biology. If there is one thing that they and the
anti-woke culture...
...and then some time passed
-
Hard to believe that its been 7 years since my last posting. I've been
busy.
Since I last posted, several positive events have happened with a multitud...
A Tale of Two Court Cases
-
It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. I’d love to know just
what gets into the minds of Scotland’s judiciary, when they can make two
judgeme...
Love again.
-
She looked and could not find what her heart was missing. Forgetting what
it was like to touch another Gave up the search, thinking she is cursed
Disadvant...
Full Circle
-
My blog and I go way back. Way, way, way back. I just peeked back at my
first post in my earliest blog. It was June 2004.
Back in those days blogs we...
Shareable mantras for 2022.
-
This past weekend, deconstructing Christmas became absolutely necessary.
More pine needles lay under my tree than remained on the branches. And
Saturday ...
Stars. Needles. Poop. Plates. Wishes.
-
Aside from (very) occasionally checking my horoscope, I am not big into
astrology. That being said, however, I do kinda believe in it and its
impact on us...
Confessions of a Bad Girl
-
I did a bad thing. A very bad thing. I watched a YouTube video. I am a bad
girl. Let me explain. (Saffers please feel free to skip the next seven
paragraph...
(20) One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest - 1975
-
First of all, as I would suggest with all these movies, before reading this
review, see the movie if you haven't. I can't talk about this one without
spo...
What is “Hate Crime”?
-
You have a few options if you live in Fife and need to report a hate crime.
You can report the incident directly to Police Scotland at Police Scotland
Onli...
Coming out of Covid-19 hibernation
-
The Covid-19 pandemic has been tough for transgender people. Coming out of
lockdown means having to socially transition all over again.
The post Coming o...
Another Brief Check In
-
Hello all. I hope everyone is having a good summer. This is just (another)
brief post.
As I mentioned in my last post, it's been a difficult few months...
Farewell
-
I’ve been thinking hard about ending this blog and have decided it’s time.
When I first started this it was to leave testament of my coming out and
transit...
Rainbow Reading: April 14
-
Bite-sized reviews of the LGBTQ books I’ve read in the past week. All
titles are linked to their Goodreads page. Between April 7th and 13th, I
read: Stray ...
One Year
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Yes, I've been on a one year sort of hiatus. Nothing big happened but just
got wrapped up in things. Will try and post more and start up again. No
chang...
Why I Left Twitter
-
in January of this year I took the difficult decision to leave Twitter. It
was necessary for my own mental health. Having reflected now for a couple
of mon...
First pages of my book
-
This excerpt is not formatted or proofread for publishing yet, but I am
excited to share it. Real progress on this telling of my life though is
exciting...
Short Story: Gloom Dispelled
-
“Who is she?” Tiriana asked. “Who are you talking about?” Virion asked in
return, deflecting his girlfriends question. “You know who I’m talking
about,” Ti...
Happy 14th Birthday CJ!
-
I blinked those tired, hurried, worried blinks of a mom and suddenly I’m
here. A mom with a nearly-18-year-old and a 14 year old. Yes. CJ is 14.
He’s 14 an...
What is Transphobia?
-
(TW/CW: Discussion of transphobia, discussion of paedophilia, brief mention
of rape counselling services.) Today I want to do a quick (by my standards
– on...
On exceptionalism
-
*The exceptional Jennifer Lawrence*
Sometimes I hold my hands out, palm upwards, in the manner of a
Pentecostalist awaiting the descent of the Holy Spirit...
My Best Sex Ever Was With a Trans Woman
-
Why Being Intimate with Your Transgender Lover Could Be the Best Experience
of Your Life Sexual encounters can happen in different ways and between
people ...
The Love Story
-
Before this last week, my most recent memory telling a story which caused
someone to cry was when Katie and I broke up. As we sat in therapy and I
asked th...
Well, there you have it…
-
Time flies doesn’t it? And again, perhaps it doesn’t? When I consider
that three years (today in fact) have passed since I went full time, it
seems lik...
2020′ Blog addition
-
I got a bit sidetracked by a move to my new high-rise in February to a
place all our own just Oscar and I! I’m grateful for my wonderful friends
Ben and Te...
The last post
-
The sun filters through the trees. The dappled shade keeping me cool as I
lay on the sun bed. Pain and discomfort slowly ebbing away as the pain
killers ki...
Whinge with mother
-
Mick Jagger and his merry men called them ‘Mothers little helpers’. Sadly,
I am not a mother. Antidepressants I’m referring to. I have been popping
these f...
Posting from the front
-
Now that my dad has passed, things have started to settle down to a new
normal. My brother and I have been talking more often, and XGFJ no longer
posts ...
Transient life, transient humans
-
We are transient – traveling from one state to another, and sometimes
combination of different states at once. Hello once again. Sharing this
blog with som...
Like a dick pic that runs out of the room
-
How’s that for click bait (or aversion therapy)? Read on, or not. I
understand. Obvious CW apply. My mate and I were sharing sexual awakening
stories, as y...
Transitions: From My Heart to Yours
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On this day, seven years ago my world changed. I learned a new word;
transgender became part of my vocabulary. Along with that I learned about
the differen...
New Year, Same Stef?
-
I know it’s a bit belated, but Happy New Year! It’s finally 2020 and all I
can say is where the hell did all the time go? Didn’t Y2K just happen? When
did ...
Sideways career
-
Right... Second attempt at this post 😀
This is a bit of a long story, but rather than keep everything cryptic, and
saying it at the end I'm going to do it...
Holding on
-
“Is she going to die?” I ask the firefighter. It’s been 20 minutes
since I’ve dialed 911, my wife is lying collapsed on the living room floor
of our r...
Time to Upgrade
-
November 5th, 2010 - I began this blog. When I started out, I did what
many bloggers do, I headed to Blogger.com. It is a nice friendly platform
"back e...
Inside Out
-
Surface elements that reveal the core
Abide a moment, Dear Reader, while I reacquaint my fingers with the
keyboard. They (my fingers) are stumbling about ...
I Miss 2012
-
I was 16, it was the last year of high school. My school had two different
buildings in different parts of the city, the first had from kindergarten
to the...
Transferring to a new Blog
-
Due to circumstances beyond my control, I am forced to close down this blog
and open up a new one. Please visit my new blog, "Dotting I's and Crossing
T...
Standing Up, Speaking Up, Moving Up
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It’s almost a year since I posted anything on this blog. Just a case of
real life taking over I suppose. During all the years when I was
desperately hopi...
Working on a New Book
-
Hi everyone! Excited to announce I am 21k words into writing my first
novel! It’s an adult vampire-lesbian action sci-fi thriller. Vampires!
Lesbians! Tran...
September 2019 - New Mk 3 Blog commenced.
-
I have not updated this blog for a while for many reasons but I have now
decided to commence Mark Three Blog of K.D.s life were you will now find it
here -...
‘Modern Love’ essay: the gift that keeps giving
-
The essay that keeps giving returns to the spotlight, in a manner of
speaking. Modern Love editor Daniel Jones has revised his compilation of
essays to coi...
Lucy's thoughts - one year on
-
Recently it was the 1 year anniversary of the Sunday Mirror article. So
much has happened in that year, personally for us and for Trans Radio UK.
As part o...
I Am Female
-
If you have been reading some or all of my blog, the title of this post
will seem a bit odd. From previous posts it should pretty obvious that I’m
a woman....
Full Circle
-
Felix stood at the edge of the clearing. Within it stood a small, homely
cottage. A simple sign on the door read “A Tailor’s Touch.” This is the
place, rig...
Life as a Trans Opera Singer
-
The National Opera Studio asked me what it was like, to be a trans opera
singer – and how we could all make our industry better. So I wrote them
this – I...
A Smile That Could Light up a Room
-
"I have a lot of questions for you. Do you have any for me?", I asked.
"Yes!", she said. "How do you do it? How have you kept yourself from
transitionin...
I'M BAAAAAACCCKKKK!!!!!
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I AM BACK BIACHES!!!
HAHAHA!!!!!
Did y'all miss me?
I've had such a great, difficult, exhausting, confusing and wonderful few
years since I last posted.
...
Easter Rising
-
It’s been a few months since my last blogpost, and I felt today was a good
day to count my blessings. Tonight is the 3rd night of Passover, and the
day tha...
The Southern Strategy Is Real
-
The Southern Strategy is real and I have the proof – a PDF of a May 17,
1970 NY Times article where they interviewed Kevin Phillips, the man who
created th...
Wow..so, where to start!?
-
Its obviously been quite a while since I wrote here. Truth told, I had
almost forgotten about this page until I was listing relevant experience
for a magaz...
Clearing Dad’s house
-
When Dad died, it didn’t shock me — I’d been expecting it for a while. And
coping with his funeral was OK, too. But neither affected me so much as the
chor...
What The Heck Is A Conservative Christian TG Gal?
-
I use the phrase "conservative christian TG gal" to describe myself, but
wanted to clarify that phrase briefly in a blog post. The "conservative"
in my d...
Afterword
-
If you’re wondering where the rest of this blog has gone, I’m sorry to
disappoint but after hinting at it for a while, after reaching a particular
mileston...
They Taught Me
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They taught me that I’m pretty. But I shouldn’t talk, because nobody will
listen. I shouldn’t try hard, because nobody will care. I shouldn’t cry,
because ...
Detaching Myself from My Dysphoria
-
The other day, I was trying to imagine how my life would be different if
I’d never suffered from gender dysphoria. The point wasn’t to create a
fantasy lif...
Purging -- Part 2
-
Last month I wrote about how I have emotional attachments to everything in
my closet. I'm thinking there are many others like me.
Occasionally I am asked...
Notes for a sketch - thinking on Mermaids
-
Small cafe, two middleaged women, A and B, sitting down at a table talking
in Northern English accents.
A - So whats been happening whilst I've been down So...
2018 Review - Part 2
-
Part 1 of my review of 2018 covered the goals I set myself. Part 2 deals
with all the other things that happened this year, and there has been quite
a bit ...
Progress, slowly slowly.
-
So things seem now to be heading in a scary but ultimately more positive
direction for me at last. After a recent discussion with my wife she now
seems to ...
Nothing to Say...
-
Just kidding. I have some stuff to say, my loyal readers.
I'm sorry I haven't kept up with this blog, but do you people really want
to know each week that ...
see postings on facebook 11 17 2018
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i haven't posted anything in awhile mainly because i spend most of my
posting time on facebook.
so any of my followers can catch up on my postings there
Time to Say Goodbye
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In honor of Samhain and Scorpio season, I’m making a decision to clear
something from my life that hasn’t really been active for a while. I’ll no
longer be...
Brighton
-
So last Tuesday we took ourselves orf to spend a couple of days away and
stay with friends in Brighton. Well it got slightly extended and we came
home on S...
UPDATE ON MY HEART AND MIND
-
People have been asking me how things are going in our families journey in
the transgender world, but also my heart. Here is how my heart and soul
are fee...
Turns Out I Was Right
-
Seems the setbacks I deemed minor actually were minor. I’m down 1.2 lbs
from yesterday, and right back on track with where I was two days ago. I
could se...
Review of The Fence by Lusty Soul
-
At one time in my life — for most of it actually — I was a male of the
species. As I read this story by Lusty Soul, long forgotten memories of the
overpow...
May You Find Peace
-
I have made peace with myself, and can no longer in good faith leave or
recommend the content I once posted here. Those writings were my best
desperate ho...
Panties – A Special Pleasure
-
In our recent poll on lingerie that trans girls and crossdressers prefer,
panties tied for first place with 25% of the vote. I don’t profess to
having th...
Profile: Alex
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You can call me… Alex I identify as… Gender-fluid/non-bianary As far as
third-person pronouns go, … they/them and female pronouns sometimes he/him
feels ri...
This Ain’t About Jobs (10/20/17)
-
Maybe you saw or heard about the memo put out by Attorney General Jeff
Sessions on October 4th that essentially ordered the Justice Department to
do a comp...
Finale
-
Unfortunately, I am finding that this blog and my life is being used far
too often as a political football to promote various agendas and the actual
messag...
Finale
-
Unfortunately, I am finding that this blog and my life is being used far
too often as a political football to promote various agendas and the actual
messag...
one more cup of coffee
-
TW The hustle for work continues, which is discouraging but necessary. I’m
having relationship issues, as all anyone wants to do is date. Decided
that’s ...
Online competition redux
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Back in April 2016, I mentioned an online competition where I won a
voucher, which I used to buy a skirt and dress, both in size XL.
According to their si...
Day 1,245: Moments Frozen in Time
-
I have to admit, we had a pretty good run here at So There’s That. 21
podcast episodes and 32 blog posts over the course of a year. And a little
bit of n...
Flying Solo in Vegas, Part 2
-
While I was happy I had arrived at my hotel room without any problems, I
was tired, hungry, and a little sweaty from the journey. I was also behind
my pla...
What's in a Name?
-
Many years ago, while the internet was still in its infancy, I started
looking to find out information from other transgender individuals. At that
time bul...
Sunday November 19, 2017 - Finally
-
I started this Journey in Feb/March of 2010, when after the early death of
some clients and friends , I decided at 54 years of age, it was now or
never.
B...
Where is the Washing machine?
-
We were watching tele and caught the end of a who-dun-it. It involved the
death of a rugby coach and he was murdered for being a cross-dresser or
transgend...
25 October Journal
-
Well Folks, I am still working on my other post. I think it will be part of
the next book of my life, rather than the end of this one. I am closing
this bl...
Fingernails
-
little things aren't they, fingernails? Certainly nothing to get upset
about. But for me fingernails seem to have become the straw that broke the
camel's...
Apples & Apples
-
It was my second year at the Hendersonville Apple Festival in NC. The
previous year I went with my wife, we had a great time and enjoyed the day,
despi...
The Penultimate Post
-
It has been a while since I have blogged on here.... a long while. The
gaps between my blog posts have slowly widened as I have begun to find
myself, more...
Excuse our dust, but we have moved!
-
I have moved my blog over to a dedicated hosting provider, and we have
successfully migrated over to the WordPress platform. We have our own
domain name, a...
Trying to reconnect with my children
-
A lot has been written in the media about cis parents who grow to accept a
transgender child. Sadly, very little is available about the opposite
scenario ...
That’s all folks……….
-
Between 1955 and 1959, 143 episodes of “The Adventures of Robin Hood”
emerged from a tiny studio in Walton on Thames and burst onto black and
white telli...
That’s all folks……….
-
Between 1955 and 1959, 143 episodes of “The Adventures of Robin Hood”
emerged from a tiny studio in Walton on Thames and burst onto black and
white telli...
ABC TV Cancels Downward Dog Show
-
“Every Day my dog looks at me exactly the same way, like I’m the most
beautiful thing he’s ever seen. And, I just thought, what if we could see
ourselve...
With Purpose
-
The title of this post really highlights the way I’ve felt the last several
months and the experiences I’ve had the chance to take in. Since my last
updat...
With Purpose
-
The title of this post really highlights the way I’ve felt the last several
months and the experiences I’ve had the chance to take in. Since my last
updat...
Trans Twitter Gives Bad Dating Advice
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Trans Twitter Gives Bad Dating Advice — “You have much gold upon your
head,” They answer’d all together: “Buy from us with a golden curl.” —
Christina Ro...
It has been a long time…
-
since my last post. I’m still here. I am still battling with the trauma
of multiple surgeries, a disfiguring scar on my forearm, a devastating
betrayal f...
I'll miss this platform
-
But I don't think I'm going to keep using it. It's sad, because I've been
writing here for such a long time, and blogging for myself is therapeutic,
even i...
Thoughts and Updates
-
I can't believe it's been almost a year since I've posted anything. Time
flies and we don't...
So...my marriage is still going strong. It's pretty much ...
And happily ever after...
-
Family snuggle timeI've retired from blogging. I've been channeling my
creative energy into other hobbies, and I'm feeling uninspired to write
about my wi...
Questions related to the surgery
-
As mentioned in my previous post i said i would post the questions i asked
the surgeon’s assistant. Also, this post is NSFW as there are some details
regar...
We Need A “Standards of Care” for Detransitioners
-
One of my biggest takeaways from attending the recent USPATH conference is
that many clinicians and other providers sincerely want more information on
unde...
What I’m talking about
-
Ok so many of you will have seen this photo, absorbed and passed it by. I
just caught it on a video artical on the BBC website. Quite frankly I was
surpr...
Watching When We Rise on ABC
-
I've been watching *When We Rise*, the four part miniseries on ABC about
the birth and development of the LGBT movement in America and the parts
played in ...
The door is open
-
One of the things that is true; and that I have been pondering, is
that when you come out, your family comes out. I mean; once I am full time,
then al...
Trying Out A New Name
-
I wrote just over a month ago about my anxieties about going away. It’s now
less than a week until I actually go which is really exciting. I’m pumped
to se...
New pics … at last!
-
Finally got some long overdue “girl-time” yesterday – first time for over 2
years. I really shouldn’t leave it so long because it isn’t good for my
genera...
Why I'm so passionate about the issues of others.
-
*It's been 2.5 years since I've posted. I said I would post if I had
something to say and today, I do. Please note the experience I write about
does not in...
We Interrupt This Program
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After writing once a week for four years. I’ve finally decided is time to
switch things up and stop posting on schedule and only post when I feel
like it. ...
Love and Loneliness
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*"I've looked at love from both sides now".... Joni Mitchell.*
Down on the seawall in my town, a few blocks from where I live, the benches
that look ...
New Year, big changes.
-
*Happy **New** Year!*
I begin the new year letting go of some important things. First up is the
pseudonym I have used for years. ‘Haust’ is gone, ...
Questioning the Fluctuations
-
This isn't the scribbling I intended (or promised) to note as I stated in
the last entry. However, it is part of my developing thoughts on this
future sub...
Yuletide greetings.
-
*Soon be nobody left now that Leonard Cohen is gone too... Someone else who
had to deal with depression and his music soothed my troubled soul. Just
sad to...
Victoria’s Secret – The Show
-
Hey, so yesterday it was time for the amazing show. I haven’t seen the show
but I took a look at a lot of pictures and it seemed amazing and I can’t
wait t...
Heroes and Hope
-
It’s times like these that make me feel the most hopeless. I haven’t always
been good at dealing with feelings like this. But when the future looks
bleak, ...
Cultivation Corner Starting Seeds
-
So you want to sprout those ganja seeds you found in your stash?
First off I want you to be sure that your grow space will be warm enough
for seed germinati...
I am able to talk again
-
I am back on deck and I think more in control of myself than I have been
for quite some time. Will be making more additions to this blog as I go
along. The...
Ringing the changes part 2
-
So, my first post about how I changed my name with various organisations
was starting to get a bit long, so this is a continuation. The first can
be seen ...
September 22 2016
-
Thank you. Thank you for the last four years. Thank you for letting me
into your hearts, for letting me be a part of your day, for letting me
bounce my th...
My response to a post by Tyler Charles Austen
-
Dear Mr Austen, On 26th August 2016, you made a post on your eponymous
blog (that means you named it after yourself) called “I Can’t Believe I’m
Saying Th...
Last Post
-
So this is it. The last post I’ll make here (for the foreseeable future
anyway). I’ve moved my fitness adventures over to
http://transtriathlete.com and I’...
A rediscovered poem
-
I found this in my 2013 dream journal, from when I was still in the closet.
My dreams were born from above, not below, or if below, in the primal
ember ...
This is goodbye (A happy one)
-
This is going to be my last post on It’s ok to be a glow stick. I am sad to
be saying goodbye but my life has changed dramatically and sadly, there is
no r...
Identity Crisis
-
I have lost my identity.
I'm not sure if I'm still mom, wife, daughter or 911 dispatcher.
If I'm not any of the above, then who am I besides lost?
Goodbye
-
It's been a couple of months since I last posted, despite my desire to do
an A-Z on the issues I find important. My absence was caused by many
things, but...
The gym experience
-
My fitness in recent years has been something that I have felt has become
very important to me. I remember starting running back in the time when I
was dea...
The Post-GRS Blues
-
On Twitter during the week, I joined in a conversation about Gender
Reassignment Surgery and general fears regarding such a huge operation.
Personally, GRS...
A new audience
-
I am feeling a little humbled. I was asked last week at my college to talk
about transgender issues, to my college group of counsellors in training. I
star...
A new audience
-
I am feeling a little humbled. I was asked last week at my college to talk
about transgender issues, to my college group of counsellors in training. I
star...
Mid-Year Check In
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At the beginning of this year, I wrote a post about my love of new
beginnings and my resolutions for 2016. I was not too lofty in my goals; I
attempted to ...
My Return and First Time Out… again
-
I’ve been trying to collect my thoughts the last few days. They have been
a jumble of emotions, mostly good. I haven’t felt this way in a long time
and f...
Thoughts on the Orlando shooting
-
There is something surreal, in moments like this, about being a privileged
member of an oppressed minority. I can breeze through airport security
with whi...
Honestly Geraldine, why do you need to crossdress?
-
This is the very tentative first step by a somewhat bewildered ordinary man
who discovered that at sixty years of age, I needed to crossdress. I hope
to de...
At work
-
It's definitely time for me to start thinking about when and how I'm going
to transition at work. Outside of work I'm now living as myself pretty much
full...
The First Mothers’ Day
-
If last year we celebrated the last Father’s Day, this year we introduced
the first Mothers’ Day. And yes, the apostrophe is in the right place. I
admit to...
On Being A Transwoman in a Bathroom
-
To be perfectly honest, I am actually really surprised this is a topic that
presidential candidates are addressing. Seriously, it’s one thing for
people to...
Feeling Positive Again :)
-
I had been feeling really down about things over the last few months and I
know that my recent posts on here haven’t been very positive about my
situation....
A good weekend
-
It’s been a good weekend. I actually feel pretty confident that I could
pass one day. I know that’s not the most important thing, but it matters a
lot to ...
A good weekend
-
It’s been a good weekend. I actually feel pretty confident that I could
pass one day. I know that’s not the most important thing, but it matters a
lot to ...
My 100th post…
-
This is my 100th post. I was hoping to make it a special one with a
description of another outing as Valerie, in my new modern “blending”
outfit. Unfortuna...
Back
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Where is she? When is she coming back? What's happening in Tammy World?
These are all questions I've gotten over the last few months. Questions
shouted...
Ghosts
-
So it has been almost a year since I last posted. It is not that I’ve had
a lack of things to write about, more of a case of writers block – finding
words...
Not sure what to say..
-
I am not sure what to do, or what to say, depression is my only constant
“friend”, with me all the time, someone I hate, yet never hates me back.
Medical m...
Back to the Stone Age.
-
I think the song is fitting, It is not mine, the opinions on this page are
mine. In posting this video, I am in no way saying that this group believes
as I...
Come Up to the Lab: My Gender Workshop
-
Ever since Time Magazine proclaimed a “Transgender Tipping Point” a year
and a half ago, I’ve been exploring trans identities and expressions that
aren’t i...
hiatus
-
just wanted to let you all know that Will is doing fabulous in recovery
(tracking everything diligently on @journeyintomanhood) and in England for
his se...
Time to myself
-
Recently I have been lucky to have a few evenings to myself to let Jenny
out of the wardrobe. Most of these occasions have been just in my room as
usual, ...
Blogging about it….
-
I started this blog because I wanted to help people in a similar situation
to me. I was younger and never proclaimed to have all the answers.
Sometimes the...
Debunking Bathroom Myths
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*Debunking Bathroom Myths*
Original article by *Brynn Tannehill *can be viewed *Here*
*When the Houston Equal Rights Ordinance was defeated, the ostens...
RUMBLED. BUT IT TURNS OUT TO THE GOOD
-
As per usual on a Wed evening I make my way to the Butterfly Club support
premises to get my self ready to face the world. Nothing new in that. And
as per ...
Caitlyn Jenner Speaks at Chicago House Event
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Caitlyn Jenner Speaks at Chicago House Event:
grvsmth:
sometranslady:
grvsmth:
sometranslady:
snowflakeespecial:
This isn’t a funny story. Trying on y...
Postscript
-
I thought that my urge to blog had departed. It hasn't... but I do need to
move on. Angie's Aspirations — aka About Angie — was written from the
perspecti...
Got A Little Beautified…
-
Not much here, but I went out for a bit of a day, treated by a couple of
friends, and had my brows waxed and got my hair done. Here’s the results.
I s...
17 Months on T Update
-
17 Months on T Next week marks 17 months on T, nearly one and a half
years. I cannot believe I have not posted any update for 5 months, time
just really h...
10 Ways to Destroy the Earth
-
my mother died in this room now it is occupied by my nieces whenever they
sleep over a playroom i currently occupy it sleeping on the lower bunk of
their l...
Still Here
-
I realized last week that I hadn’t written a blog…or a Facebook post…or a
journal entry…or much of anything in five or six months. Part of me was
bothered ...
5 months in
-
*Continued**, from April 5th 2015*
5 months since the hospital I still don't know much about it.
Dissociative Identity Disorder.
My amnesia isn't just ha...
Through The Looking Glass
-
I’m not sure exactly when it happened, but it did. That is, I stopped
considering myself “transitioning.” What does that mean, exactly? Am I
where I want t...
-
*Hey!*
So... tomorrow school begins again.
This schoolyear I am planning to come out and start dressing, acting,
talking, etc. like a girl. Honestly, it's ...
Been Sick
-
Isn’t amazing? We tend to think we are the masters of the planet. Then, a
debilitating illness hits and we become subservient cry-babies. Something
crawl...
Transition Is A Banquet
-
Transition is not a one-way street, or a bowling lane with the bumpers up.
Transition is not a recipe with precise measurements, or a fixed
curriculum, or ...
It’s Inherent
-
The frequency and unexpectedness with which being transgendered asserts
itself is ever a source of amazement. Regardless of how deeply in
background one ma...
This Rain
-
Originally posted on chester maynes:
Abruptly, water gushes from the sky. I hear the storm drops too loud. Wind
creeps cold on my skin. Thunder slits these ...
Telling a Friend
-
I recently told a friend about Amy. I didn't go into many details or show
him pictures or anything, but it felt good to talk about and get a positive
reac...
And Last
-
I used that subject last week as well.
It happens. Click to enlarge (the cartoon not the imagination) This is a
hard post to organise and a hard post to w...
The world keeps on turning.
-
So I guess it’s time to get back into this blog of mine. I mean I’ve been
gone for so long and really it’s just time to start again. Since my last
real b...
On Reconciling my Beliefs, Depression and Gender
-
Howdy. Sorry it's been a while, I am simply the most infrequent blogger in
the world... I've been buried under piles of work for what seems like
forever, a...
End game...
-
So things didn't get better...I slipped further and last Tuesday I went to
my scheduled appointment...when she saw me the choices were go home for a
matter...
Commenters and deep thoughts
-
I would like to start by apologizing for the long break between posts. A
little thing called life intervenes and my writing suffers. Family, health,
work, ...
Motorhead Girls
-
Motorhead Girls ... we are girls who love cars, trucks, bikes, planes, and
boats. Anything with a motor. Maybe we love some of them, maybe we love all
of ...
Shutting down
-
I've decided that I am not, after all, the blogging type.
I never managed it in my other identity either, so I don't know why I
should be surprised.
So,...
Dangerous Situation
-
***** This post might be triggering ***** Something really scary happened
last evening. I was standing outside with a friend (who is also homeless
and we u...
Saying goodbye
-
I came to a turning point about 12 months ago when I read an article by
Mary Jacklyn Moss. In the article she talks about when her child
transitioned and h...
Could it really be THAT easy?
-
So, not going to get too excited here, but bear with me, kay? Last night, I
decided to talk to Phyl about her withdrawals and pulling away. I wanted to
try...
One Year as Me!
-
Dianne Piggott
10/30/2013
One year. Just one year. One entire year. All of one year. One circle of
the Earth around the Sun.
A year ago t...
Cumberbatch and his offense offence
-
Poor old Benny Cumberbatch…him and his big old posh, ex slave owning gob.
Actually I feel for the bloke. Trying to do his best for British actors of
colour...
Coming out on Facebook.
-
I have a relatively small number of friends on facebook, I keep it that
way, I don’t add anyone I meet. Everyone on my friends list is actually my
friend o...
New Hair … :) Trying different looks :)
-
So the new wig arrived… and figured a day off would be fitting to try it on
:) Here are a few pics… Ya short and sweet post … :P Peace and Love!
Tamara :)
Transgender Q&A
-
When it comes to the subject of transgender and the LGBT community, I think
that there are three different types of people. The first (and the fastest
gro...
I is for Identity Politics
-
Hello all. For my first post of 2015, I am going back to blogging through
ye old alphabet. Today I is for identity politics. Identity politics are
how ...
Leelah, and all the others who struggle
-
Happy New Year!
I'm so sorry I don't update regularly! I have been off school for a couple
weeks, so I have no good excuse, but I hope you all had a wonder...
A New Christmas with family
-
As anyone can expect the end of the year can bring surprises and lots of
joy to one's heart and soul. This year is really an exception for Kay and
I, as w...
On the other side!
-
It’s been a few days since I last posted on my blog, and for good reason.
Thursday, 11th December 2014 I finally had the surgery I had been waiting
so lon...
Saying goodbye
-
The time has come for me to say goodbye and put this blog to bed. I doubt
anyone reads it anymore, but I’m the type of person who likes closure, so I
gue...
Xmas 2014
-
I thought I should drop a post in, and wish everyone a happy Xmas.
If you should be reading this, and you are a Pagan like my son, or any of
the non-christ...
No Big Deal
-
My daughter started high school last month.
The other night she told my wife and me that there's a transgender girl in
her homeroom. During the summer ...
I finally legally exist!
-
On July 1st, 2014 it finally happened. The law that made it impossible for
me and many others like me to change their gender on any official documents
drop...
Pigtails
-
Last night as I was hugging Kegan good night, I started playing with her
hair and realized her hair is at that almost long enough to put into a
super short...
She Returns
-
Gee, that was a long time coming, wasn't it?
I managed to survive from February to July at the Good Samaritan House at
Westgate. This is a Christian-run fa...
The Maker of Noses
-
Like many of you, I enjoy music, and I look to it for inspiration and
support. My taste in music is quite eclectic, ranging from hymns through
jazz and roc...
July 18th 2014
-
I know I haven't posted in a long time, things have just gotten crazy
around here. We were finally able to get pregnant with our third, and
recently found...
been proven wrong
-
I have had many people walk in and out of my life. And a lot of them have
been anything but nice to me. Over the years most of my friend have turn
against...
Tumor no more
-
On January 8, 2012 I was informed that the fight to live was over, I would
not be getting my last Chemo treatment, all scans have no cancer traces in
them ...
-
*I think it is time to completely let my fears of letting those who know me
in my life, but may not know 'me' now because I did what I needed to do for
my ...
Vote for Sophia
-
I'm running in a mock election and I need your votes. You might be asking
why I need your vote, and *how in the heck did I wind up in politics?* Well,
my...
Keepin’ On
-
When I was driving home from work this afternoon I started to think of this
blog and its lack of updates. I think the general trend is that when I
dress mo...
A Question
-
So, I've been doing this girl thing for a while now.
It's good, but there is some weirdness...
Has anyone else experienced this?
[Bumps into a doorjam, o...
Day 105: Whiskey Aging… DONE!
-
So after nearly 3 and a half months it’s done! I ended up with a bottle
and a half of sweet, dark whiskey. It’s amazingly easy to do. At this
point, I’m ...
Here's a Little Something No One Told You
-
Milestones are things to be celebrated. In our culture we have only a few
of them high school graduation, marriage, parenthood, (divorce), and death.
Other...
Sweeping the Ashes
-
“Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn't stop for anybody.”
“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems
don't rhyme...
Another new chapter
-
*or the next stop on the timeline...*
*Anyway, as some of you may remember, in a galaxy, far, far..wait, wrong
story.*
*I married my other half 13 years a...
I'm coming out and I want the world to know...
-
As the weeks went by I've became more and more emboldened with my
transition. I started buying more clothes, and started laser hair removal.
On Christmas...
It has been too long since last I blogged
-
Yes, I know, more than two years have gone by, and some of you may be
wondering if all is well. YES! Everything remains wonderful. We've now been
happily m...
It's "her's"
-
I've been living as woman for two years now, two really good years. I was
and still am one of the lucky few. I have gone through this transition
without lo...
Paula Deen Quote
-
“I feel like ‘embattled’ or ‘disgraced’ will always follow my name. It’s
like that black football player who recently came out. He said, ‘I just
want to...
Link to my daughter’s blog post
-
Here’s something my daughter posted today… Hexydezimal A fallen angel
returns. hexydezimal.wordpress.com Questions for the Transgender Community
Happy bela...
Holiday Time
-
I hope everyone’s been safe and sane all year, and that the holiday season
brings you joy and happiness – and lots of good prezzies. Here’s hoping
those ...
Three Unwise Men
-
Yet another bawbag is frothing at the mouth.
This latest cretinous oaf, a Russian actor of whom this reporter at least
has never heard, says he would "stuf...
Hanging in, hanging out, hanging on
-
It has been a while since I have posted anything here. Up to this point, I
have maintained this blog as a combination of sporadic articles, and the
occasio...
I Dreamed a Dream in Times Gone By...
-
This past week has been especially difficult because of the second coming
out of 'Marcy' Michael's female alter gender identity. My strife is
entirely i...
Enough
-
Originally posted on Nuclear Unicorn:
My approach to Cathy Brennan has long mirrored my approach to Ann Coulter;
I generally refuse to dignify their delibe...
Ether Radio
-
Last Tuesday I took the day off work to run errands. Around 8:30 in the
morning I was sitting in my boyfriend's car by a gas pump. Peter was
inside colle...
Hatred, Transphobia & Twitter storms..
-
I'm far from surprised that this has blown up like it has.. To be honest it
was only a matter of time, Trans people put up with an awful lot, I don't
want ...
Solace for the Soul
-
I made it back to Arizona safely. No cops, no sandstorms, and no video. I
tried filming a quick vlog but was repulsed with the way I looked. With the
rela...
The Wedding and the Beach House
-
It was a balmy June Saturday in Napa valley, California. The winery
Heather’s cousin Rosalind had chosen for the wedding was beautifully placed
amidst rol...
Queer Utopia
-
Up until last month, I hadn’t been abroad for years. Two trips to Crete,
aged 13 and 14, and then I found myself in a desert. A travel one. As a
student in...
I suppose an introduction is in order...
-
I'm a woman living on the Left coast of America with a very much
appreciated spouse of over a decade and a half. We can usually be found
co-living our lif...
A BLOG ON BLOGGER? OLDER POSTS FOUND BY LINK.
-
After a flat out hectic two months I am sitting here with no pressing
commitments except perhaps to try and cure this terrible cough and sore
throat. In th...
Reality TV
-
I was reassembling the bike last weekend with radio 4 on drip-feed and
heard a piece about people who live a second life on the Internet. It
appears that f...
I,
like many crossdressers, do not have universal approval from my family
so it will not be possible for me to dress as I would like to, not only
on Christmas day itself but for around three weeks over the festive
period. 
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