In time a transitioner realizes that much of passing is not to do with
the specifics of how one speaks, whether a scarf is worn this way or
that and how perfectly some make-up may be applied. It is the level of
confidence with which the individual goes about her business.
The quote, above, is from Mel's well written post,
Passing Illusions, from her blog, Mel's Musings.
It's been 2 1/2 years since Mel first stepped out into public presenting as a female. Now, she reflects on how she felt about passing then, and just what passing means to her now. It's a good read, whether or not you are in transition.