Lessons Learned: Avoid Purging

If we’re not okay about who we are yet, and that we don’t have the support we need, we can’t cope with the pressure. That stress pushes us to the drastic action: often, throwing it all away in a purge. I would add here that I absolutely do not judge anyone who’s purged.

Oh, I'm so glad that there is no judgement from Lynn, for I am certainly among the guilty.  This is an excellent post that I'm sure many can relate to.

Three decades and hundreds of transfeminine breast augmentations show rare regret and trends toward larger implants

Our anatomical baseline is very different from that of adult cis women, with a recent study finding that 7 in 10 trans women developed breasts of less than an A-cup after three years of feminizing hormone therapy, and only 58% stating that they were satisfied with their breast size.
 

Great blog post, from Zinnia Jones, which includes links to various studies done recently.  If you're thinking about BA, you'll want to read this one.

Proud to be trans?

So you can't really be proud to be trans. Unless you're a total narcissist, which I think is what the traditional sin/failing of pride is really all about. 

 

Some interesting thoughts, from Sue.  If you're questioning her comment, above, she explains it well in this post.
 

Confidence!

Perhaps my first transgender girlfriend who used to meet up with me in straight  sports bars said it the best, I passed out of pure stubbornness.  A nice way of saying I wasn't the best looking woman in the room but a woman none the less.
 

Confidence....so easy to say the word but when you first step out, it all seems to go away!  

For Katie

She was buried in a military cemetery under her birth name.  So the name Katie Ward passes into memory, kept only by those who knew her Truth.  I don't know how many of her family knew about Katie.  I think her daughter did.  In any case, we the transgender community have a responsibility to not just keep her memory alive, but to rise to the challenge that her service demands.  She showed us how caring and helping others can be done, and it's up to us to step up and continue her work.
 

 

Sophie lost her mentor, Katie.  This post is a wonderful tribute to Katie.

Yes, kids like mine ARE everywhere!

Earlier this year, parents from around the world shared their stories with me about raising their beautiful trans children. 

A wonderful post from a wonderful mom.  Hopefully, you can read the New York Times links.

Some Me Time

The sea breeze had been blowing my hair all over the place so I put a hair tie in, low down and allowed my hair to drape over my left shoulder. With that top and my hair in it’s more feminine form there was no hiding that femininity away.

 

 

I've said it so many times before....Hannah has such a way with words.  Her writing makes you feel like you're there with her.  This one starts of with a dream of living in the city, followed by life in the country and ending with a walk on the beach.  Go here to enjoy Hannah's writing style and her Me time.

9 Years Blogging - Back Again For One Weekend Only

It's been about 9 years since I started this blog. How time flies! I feel like I should do some kind of retrospective or something, but life has pretty much stood still for the last 15 months or so, so there isn't really anything to reflect on apart from the amount of time I've spent at home and all of the junk food I've eaten (big thanks to Just Eat and Deliveroo!).

It's a little bit about the past year (not doing much), a bit about shopping, and a lot about makeup.  Our Part Time Girl has an update for us.

Oh, and while you're visting her site, be sure to check out her detailed personal T-History page.

Codex: Sophie 3.0

This entry will be updated as needed, and it's been a while, so NEW EDITION!.  It's sort of a resource for the Blog.  Here you'll find basic definitions of terms and who the people are that I reference most often.
 

 

 

 

 

Ooh!  It's another update, from Sophie!  I love bloggers who give regular updates and Sophie is one of the best.   This update is especially for those who are new to Sophie's long-running blog and also those who just want to know more about what it's like to be trans.