Time
after time I found myself returning to a single moment, standing in
front of a mirror looking at the girl who looked back at me. I knew what
I saw was me, the real, true me as I knew myself to be, heart and soul.
It was a thrilling, terrifying moment which took away my breath and set
my heart to racing. I can only say it was akin to looking into your own
eyes and finding your soul reflected there.
Rediscovery is just what it says. A lovely post from Kira that many should relate to.
I started thinking that there is a general feeling in the trans
community that all of the lives of anyone who wants to be female are
remarkably similar, and yet it’s not the case.
Indeed, it's not the case. Kate says that many of the stereotypes don't apply to her. Read, The Strangest Thing About Being Transgender, to find out just what those stereotypes are.
I seem to see two types of individuals who make for the most successful
transitions: the older and mature late transitioner who has thought
about this a lifetime and is as sure as they are going to be and the
very young and persistent transsexual who has been sure since day one.
Interesting comments on your personal journey of transition from Joanna. She includes a video from a female-to-male transsexual explaining possible biological causes for the transgender condition.
It's a short post on a very important subject.
Voice training.
For MtF's, it's just so important and so difficult. Read about how Marion is dealing with it and where she puts voice training on her priority list.
There is a hole in my vocabulary. I rarely talk about my genitals or
anyone else’s. I don’t like to use either scientific terms or slang. The
words sound foreign to me. Growing up, I pretended there was nothing
there, the way male and female dolls are smooth and intact under their
clothes.
You know, I have been known to utter almost exactly what Jamie Ray wrote, above. My close friends know that I hate the "P" word. There's one big difference, however, between Jamie Ray's pretending nothing's down there and my own: Jamie Ray is FtM.
It's an interesting perspective from "the other side of the coin", which is featured far too seldom on T-Central. The Empty Pouch in My Boxer Briefs, is from Jamie Ray's blog, A Boy and Her Dog.
My Husband’s A Woman Now: A Shared Journey Of Transition And Love
by Leslie Fabian, tells the story of a late-in-life transition from the
spouse’s point of view. Fabian is in her sixties when her husband
David, to whom she has been married for twenty years, finally comes to
terms with the fact that he is not “just” a cross-dresser, but actually
transgender, and needs to live his life as a woman.
An excellent book review from Adrienne, who refers to herself as a cis-woman married to a trans-woman.
My Husband's A Woman Now, is from Adrienne's blog, Translucidity.
“God made them male and female, Adam and Eve. I know it’s hard, but you
can’t change your sex. It’s not God’s will. But I’m glad you’re coming
here. I encourage you to keep doing so.”
I read this post and thought.....seriously....are these people really still out there? Alas, they are, of course. This ugly statement occurred in a beautiful church, from someone who is presumably not a regular attendee. Dr. Eleanor Burns answered the transphobic questions she was asked, held her head high, and went on her way with absolutely no thoughts about moving on to another church.
Please visit Eleanor's blog, A Belated Existence, to read about her experience with Transphobia.
I can't share any quotes from this blog post, but it's very worthy of featuring.
This is an interview with Jan Hamilton, now known as Abigail Austen as explained in the interview, a British Soldier who had since transitioned.
Go to Abigail Austen for the interview and Vivienne's commentary.
For many, many years Jules told me that she was worried because I
appeared to be anorexic to her.Why?
Well because no matter how much
weight I have lost I have never been satisfied and have always told her
that maybe I would be happier if I lost a bit more. This has worried
her and minding her concerns I have always tempered my weight loss
desires.
I totally get this post from Nadine. I was accused, by both my wife and people at work, of having an eating disorder. I didn't. I least I think I didn't but, like Nadine, I just wasn't (and still am) not happy with many things about my body.
The point to all this jabber is riding in an elevator as a trans woman just could be the most paranoiac experience I have next to bathrooms.
For reasons unknown to me, many trans folks (including me) have read Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, that Hunter S. Thompson book about two crazy dudes driving to Las Vegas.
The title of Cyrsti's current post made me assume that she must have read the book or seen the move. It certainly got my attention and I decided it was time for another visit to the Condo. In this post, Cyrsti talks about "Fear and Loathing" on the Elevator. It's all over at Cyrsti's Transgender Condo.
I am sitting on an emotional swing. Each day it gets more
intense. Genetic females have had a lot longer than me to come to terms
with the rollercoaster of moods but everyone who experiences it has to
start somewhere. I can’t ‘man it out’ anymore, 40 days and 40 nights of
HRT and I’m already losing subjective cognition of my testronic
existence; slowly the maleness fall from grasp.
Colorful comments on the effects of HRT, gender dysphoria, being a woman and her journey in general are all part of this very interesting post from Amy. All of ending with this:
This is only the beginning, it has to hurt to get better, this is how
we heal. We show ourselves now in survival so we can prosper when we
come to truly thrive.
If you're considering hormone replacement therapy, Amy's description of her experiences is a must read.
The problem was though I was never truly happy, I even
shaved my hair and grew stubble to try and hide it and be the opposite of what
I wanted to be, but the feelings of Gender Dysphoria never goes away no matter
how much I try to hide it. If anything they are stronger and keeping everything
locked in again became so hard. It has been tearing me up inside and I couldn’t
keep going any longer, I needed to let it out again.
It's always interesting to see or hear a coming out story from one of our sisters or brothers. My own is pretty crazy. In Danielle's case, she wrote a letter to her family and, for the most part, the results were positive, although one family member (guess who!) has struggled with it. The excerpt, above, is from her letter to her family.
My Coming Out Story is from Danielle's blog, Lost in Transition.
Going back a few years, I remember my first attempts. Learning to walk
in heels took ages. Oddly, I didn't seem to mind getting the hours in. I
used to Hoover regularly before work, because it would help me keep my
balance and the maneuvering around the house, meant I wasn't just
walking up and down. Yes, the comedy value of a Queen video wasn't lost
on me, either :-)
Walking in heels, learning to apply makeup (please will someone help me???), shopping in enemy territory.....Lynn's been there, done that, bought the (fill in the blank). Another entertaining post from Lynn Jones which includes an ample dose of that lovely Brit humor.
Learning to walk, is from one of the longest running blogs listed on T-Central, YATGB.
Each trans person who objects to an admirer will have their own reasons
for not liking having them around and I am sure there are almost as many
reasons as there are trans people. At the core of the problem, I would
argue, is the belief that the admirer is reducing all trans persons to a
sexualised and possibly fetishised object.
While the title may be misleading, since this post has to do with admirers (otherwise known as "tranny-chasers"), it makes sense after you read Daniella's post. I rarely see a post dealing with this subject and Daniella has some interesting and balanced thoughts on the subject.
Some more thoughts on acceptance is from the blog, Daniella's Ramblings.
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[image: Source: Rue La La]
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My nails...
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Love 'em!
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Anti-LGBTIQ literature in the Spanish language
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Violett und Schwarz und Weiß
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Hallo ihr Lieben,
Wenn ich diesen Beitrag online stelle, genießen wir hoffentlich die
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Blog Entey #130! - Where Everbody Wants To Know Your Name
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Regarding coming out...
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In Thru the Out Door
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Trans Balltom Culture in Vietnam
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noun: imposter syndrome The persistent inability to believe that one’s
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In a ‘Barbie’ world…
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(Re)starting Vocal Feminization
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Endless Shortlist of Paradox(es)
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Fast Forward
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Guest Author: Jessica Michelle Polacek
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hopeless
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Georgia Queen
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May I present: From our recent travels, a picture taken in Savannah, GA. We
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Las Vegas 2023
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Skirts and Boots.
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So I went to my niece's wedding as planned. Here we both are:
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So… How did it go?
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Tennis Anyone?
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Image Courtesy Renith R
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Tennis Anyone?
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Kind of Curiosity
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Manchester Gold!
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a ...
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A Year Later
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I guess it's time. No time like the present, they say.
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New & Improved!
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Kandi’s Land has been significantly upgraded. Check it out!
5 months ago
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Transgender Day of Visibility 2023
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If a picture is worth a thousand words, than how much value is there to a
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March 31, 2023 - International Trans Day of Visibility - St. John's Event 12.15 pm out from of the Rooms
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Friday March 31, 2023 is the 15th annual International Trans Day of
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5 months ago
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more evidence that Lisa Marchiano invented "transgender social contagion"
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cover image for my recent Medium post
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5 months ago
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From The Other Side (Facebook boy-mode)
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Latest ac...
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Album Review: Anna Secret Poet- Shoutin’ Into The Void
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What Do The Wives Think of Us?
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This article, going way back to 2002, is still relevant today if not more
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conversa...
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It's Now or Never
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Thank you for the emails and your comments here checking to see if I'm
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get dep...
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Out and About - My Regular Escapades En-Fem
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I, like many other TG’s, enjoy days out en-fem and often visit TG support
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my...
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What’s going on with Justin Cascio: January 2023
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An instructional genealogy series, speaking engagements, and where I'm
writing about health and Mafia families in 2022 and 2023. Continue reading →
8 months ago
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You Otto Learn To Let Things Go
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God, I haven’t been here in so long. Not really sure where to start. Let’s
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I had...
8 months ago
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Maddie on the Move
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“Let’s go on a road trip” is the best six words you can say to me. It’s no
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used...
9 months ago
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ferm living glas
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*Glass & Mirrors – ferm LIVING*. WebGlass & Mirrors. We use a broad range
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tablewar...
9 months ago
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Radio Silence
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It’s been a while since I have been around, no real presence on social
media, and not even window shopping for anything femme. Generally, by this
time, I w...
9 months ago
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Ponytail5
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You might only see 4 as the 1st on is hidden. I am posting this now so I
can link it to reddit. I have to say since Stephie came four years ago, I
have bee...
9 months ago
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Some Simple Questions
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The topic of JK Rowlings transphobia trundles on mainly because she
continues to be bigoted and hateful towards trans people. For anyone that
does suppo...
9 months ago
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Mischief Night and Turnip Lanterns
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BRING BACK THE BRITISH TURNIP LANTERN! A long time ago, (oh well; the 60's
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kids h...
10 months ago
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Flygirl
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Thanks to those lovely folks at Clumsy Cabaret and Tiny Rebel Cardiff I
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more than ...
10 months ago
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A Month of Freedom
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Hey, I hope you're all doing OK lovelies. x
So for about the last month my partner had to go away. Can you guess what I
got up to while she was gone? ;)
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10 months ago
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As good a time as any
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This might be as good a time as any to stop since the beginning of another
chapter of my life seems like a duly appropriate milestone. I can now say
with...
1 year ago
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Hi everyone, just wanted to let you all know that someone has stolen some of my pictures to use as…
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Hi everyone, just wanted to let you all know that someone has stolen some
of my pictures to use as their own on Trace and possibly other places. I do
not...
1 year ago
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That Letter To My Wife
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Thanks for the mail I received from my last blog. It’s amazing how up
lifting your messages of support are to me. THEY DO MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
Thank you. ...
1 year ago
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Cats, Dogs, Walruses and a Bit of Sex
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I've always been a bit antisocial, preferring the company of animals, even
though I've never possessed a pet, and with my ecological background I am
sens...
1 year ago
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Windows: The Stash, The Dream and The Wardrobe
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ver the years I have, apart from going
on about my stockings, nails and heels, mentioned more than once my
frustration about having my Stash in boxes i...
1 year ago
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My New Novel Disgusta is Here!
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*Available now in print and electronic formats!*
1 year ago
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Thanksgiving
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Trigger warning! This post speaks bluntly about my grandchildren getting
hurt in an accident. It is not happy and uplifting. If you have horrible
me...
1 year ago
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Taking a Break
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I have been writing for a long time. I even won an award for writing when I
wrote for World Wide Hippies. Unfortunately, I am not in a good place. I
lost m...
1 year ago
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Intersectionality – Do you know what it is.
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Do you know about this? Do you know how it fits in your life? I know right
now in the […]
1 year ago
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Space Elevator
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The white body I wear is mine, but ill-fitting and not me. A phantom body
that is also mine and is me rides within like a ghost, teasing my brain
with each...
1 year ago
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#biologicaltrans
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If there is one thing that gender-critical or anti-trans people do not
understand, it is biology. If there is one thing that they and the
anti-woke culture...
1 year ago
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...and then some time passed
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Hard to believe that its been 7 years since my last posting. I've been
busy.
Since I last posted, several positive events have happened with a multitud...
1 year ago
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Ten Years Later…..
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When I posted about my journey as a transgender football fan last May, I
never pictured that I wouldn’t write anything for nearly a year. There has
been pl...
1 year ago
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A Tale of Two Court Cases
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It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. I’d love to know just
what gets into the minds of Scotland’s judiciary, when they can make two
judgeme...
1 year ago
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Love again.
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She looked and could not find what her heart was missing. Forgetting what
it was like to touch another Gave up the search, thinking she is cursed
Disadvant...
1 year ago
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Purse
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I had it for years. Sandy colour with shiny silver embroidered brand logo
on the face. A single popper to keep it shut and a zip down the edge for
coins. I...
1 year ago
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Matt Walsh & Piers Morgan You Ain’t Trans Experts So Shut The Fuck Up!
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With the increasing inevitably of armed conflict in Ukraine, I’m sure
there’ll be an increasing frequency of barstool generals in Wetherspoons
pubs across ...
1 year ago
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Full Circle
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My blog and I go way back. Way, way, way back. I just peeked back at my
first post in my earliest blog. It was June 2004.
Back in those days blogs we...
1 year ago
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Times Square Was My Beat
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To correspond with my appearance in Crime Scene: The Time Square Killer
(streaming now on Netflix), I publish this article from my archives. It is
a far le...
1 year ago
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Shareable mantras for 2022.
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This past weekend, deconstructing Christmas became absolutely necessary.
More pine needles lay under my tree than remained on the branches. And
Saturday ...
1 year ago
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Stars. Needles. Poop. Plates. Wishes.
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Aside from (very) occasionally checking my horoscope, I am not big into
astrology. That being said, however, I do kinda believe in it and its
impact on us...
1 year ago
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It’s been almost 8 years.
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As someone who is on the neurodivergent spectrum, I often am faced with a
lot of challenges in my daily life and one of those happens to be time
blindness....
1 year ago
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Breasts are Awesome
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A talk about my shiny new cheat assets. Breasts I'm talking about my
breasts.
1 year ago
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I’ve moved the blog!
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Continue to https://schrodingerswardrobe.blogspot.com/ for further
infrequent ramblings!
1 year ago
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Confessions of a Bad Girl
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I did a bad thing. A very bad thing. I watched a YouTube video. I am a bad
girl. Let me explain. (Saffers please feel free to skip the next seven
paragraph...
1 year ago
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(20) One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest - 1975
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First of all, as I would suggest with all these movies, before reading this
review, see the movie if you haven't. I can't talk about this one without
spo...
1 year ago
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It’s a book!
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Dear friends, I just wanted to make sure you knew about my latest news: My
book! (It’s officially coming out in print tomorrow, and you can probably
find i...
1 year ago
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Solderer Of Fortune
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One Year After, and it's been a long year.
One year after what, you say? Last year I came back from the BornHack
hacker camp in Denmark, to find ...
1 year ago
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Magic morning [image: 🌄]
1 year ago
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What is “Hate Crime”?
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You have a few options if you live in Fife and need to report a hate crime.
You can report the incident directly to Police Scotland at Police Scotland
Onli...
2 years ago
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Jenna’s Journal - September 2021
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Normal 0 false false false false EN-GB X-NONE X-NONE
2 years ago
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Coming out of Covid-19 hibernation
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The Covid-19 pandemic has been tough for transgender people. Coming out of
lockdown means having to socially transition all over again.
The post Coming o...
2 years ago
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Another Brief Check In
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Hello all. I hope everyone is having a good summer. This is just (another)
brief post.
As I mentioned in my last post, it's been a difficult few months...
2 years ago
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Farewell
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I’ve been thinking hard about ending this blog and have decided it’s time.
When I first started this it was to leave testament of my coming out and
transit...
2 years ago
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Drifting...
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I'm drifting.
What is “drift”? According to Gretchen Rubin, drift is the decision you
make by not deciding, or by making a decision that unleashes c...
2 years ago
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Rainbow Reading: April 14
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Bite-sized reviews of the LGBTQ books I’ve read in the past week. All
titles are linked to their Goodreads page. Between April 7th and 13th, I
read: Stray ...
2 years ago
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One Year
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Yes, I've been on a one year sort of hiatus. Nothing big happened but just
got wrapped up in things. Will try and post more and start up again. No
chang...
2 years ago
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Why I Left Twitter
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in January of this year I took the difficult decision to leave Twitter. It
was necessary for my own mental health. Having reflected now for a couple
of mon...
2 years ago
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First pages of my book
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This excerpt is not formatted or proofread for publishing yet, but I am
excited to share it. Real progress on this telling of my life though is
exciting...
2 years ago
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Short Story: Gloom Dispelled
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“Who is she?” Tiriana asked. “Who are you talking about?” Virion asked in
return, deflecting his girlfriends question. “You know who I’m talking
about,” Ti...
2 years ago
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Happy 14th Birthday CJ!
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I blinked those tired, hurried, worried blinks of a mom and suddenly I’m
here. A mom with a nearly-18-year-old and a 14 year old. Yes. CJ is 14.
He’s 14 an...
2 years ago
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Help! Jane! Stop This Crazy Thing!! JAAANNNNEEEEE!!!
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Hey Buckaroos and Buckaritas.
I hope the world has been treating you nicely, as you deserve. Depending on
your current location of stomping grounds, Things...
2 years ago
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Reflections on 2020 (Taking Chances) and Looking ahead to 2021 (Making a positive difference)
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Hey Lovelies, It has been a really long time since my last post. Literally
a year! I haven’t written my reflections post in time, so half of this post
will...
2 years ago
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Merry Christmas
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Merry Christmas to one and all, may your day be filled with happiness and
joy. 😁 ❤️ BY FOR NOW
2 years ago
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House of Ill Repair
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*It may be years until the day*
*My dreams will match up with my pay.*
* "Mushaboom"*
* ...
2 years ago
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What is Transphobia?
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(TW/CW: Discussion of transphobia, discussion of paedophilia, brief mention
of rape counselling services.) Today I want to do a quick (by my standards
– on...
2 years ago
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On exceptionalism
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*The exceptional Jennifer Lawrence*
Sometimes I hold my hands out, palm upwards, in the manner of a
Pentecostalist awaiting the descent of the Holy Spirit...
2 years ago
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My Best Sex Ever Was With a Trans Woman
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Why Being Intimate with Your Transgender Lover Could Be the Best Experience
of Your Life Sexual encounters can happen in different ways and between
people ...
2 years ago
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The Love Story
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Before this last week, my most recent memory telling a story which caused
someone to cry was when Katie and I broke up. As we sat in therapy and I
asked th...
3 years ago
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Well, there you have it…
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Time flies doesn’t it? And again, perhaps it doesn’t? When I consider
that three years (today in fact) have passed since I went full time, it
seems lik...
3 years ago
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2020′ Blog addition
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I got a bit sidetracked by a move to my new high-rise in February to a
place all our own just Oscar and I! I’m grateful for my wonderful friends
Ben and Te...
3 years ago
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The last post
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The sun filters through the trees. The dappled shade keeping me cool as I
lay on the sun bed. Pain and discomfort slowly ebbing away as the pain
killers ki...
3 years ago
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Whinge with mother
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Mick Jagger and his merry men called them ‘Mothers little helpers’. Sadly,
I am not a mother. Antidepressants I’m referring to. I have been popping
these f...
3 years ago
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Posting from the front
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Now that my dad has passed, things have started to settle down to a new
normal. My brother and I have been talking more often, and XGFJ no longer
posts ...
3 years ago
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It’s Still OK to Make Eye Contact During a Pandemic (video)
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An update and message of love from yours truly It’s a time that has most of
us practicing physical distancing to prevent the spread of a microscopic
and ...
3 years ago
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Transient life, transient humans
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We are transient – traveling from one state to another, and sometimes
combination of different states at once. Hello once again. Sharing this
blog with som...
3 years ago
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Like a dick pic that runs out of the room
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How’s that for click bait (or aversion therapy)? Read on, or not. I
understand. Obvious CW apply. My mate and I were sharing sexual awakening
stories, as y...
3 years ago
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From the waist upwards [Flickr]
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Sandra M. Lopes posted a photo:
[image: From the waist upwards]
Flattr me!
3 years ago
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Transitions: From My Heart to Yours
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On this day, seven years ago my world changed. I learned a new word;
transgender became part of my vocabulary. Along with that I learned about
the differen...
3 years ago
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New Year, Same Stef?
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I know it’s a bit belated, but Happy New Year! It’s finally 2020 and all I
can say is where the hell did all the time go? Didn’t Y2K just happen? When
did ...
3 years ago
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Sideways career
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Right... Second attempt at this post 😀
This is a bit of a long story, but rather than keep everything cryptic, and
saying it at the end I'm going to do it...
3 years ago
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Holding on
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“Is she going to die?” I ask the firefighter. It’s been 20 minutes
since I’ve dialed 911, my wife is lying collapsed on the living room floor
of our r...
3 years ago
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Time to Upgrade
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November 5th, 2010 - I began this blog. When I started out, I did what
many bloggers do, I headed to Blogger.com. It is a nice friendly platform
"back e...
3 years ago
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Inside Out
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Surface elements that reveal the core
Abide a moment, Dear Reader, while I reacquaint my fingers with the
keyboard. They (my fingers) are stumbling about ...
3 years ago
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I Miss 2012
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I was 16, it was the last year of high school. My school had two different
buildings in different parts of the city, the first had from kindergarten
to the...
3 years ago
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Transferring to a new Blog
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Due to circumstances beyond my control, I am forced to close down this blog
and open up a new one. Please visit my new blog, "Dotting I's and Crossing
T...
3 years ago
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Standing Up, Speaking Up, Moving Up
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It’s almost a year since I posted anything on this blog. Just a case of
real life taking over I suppose. During all the years when I was
desperately hopi...
3 years ago
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Working on a New Book
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Hi everyone! Excited to announce I am 21k words into writing my first
novel! It’s an adult vampire-lesbian action sci-fi thriller. Vampires!
Lesbians! Tran...
3 years ago
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September 2019 - New Mk 3 Blog commenced.
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I have not updated this blog for a while for many reasons but I have now
decided to commence Mark Three Blog of K.D.s life were you will now find it
here -...
4 years ago
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‘Modern Love’ essay: the gift that keeps giving
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The essay that keeps giving returns to the spotlight, in a manner of
speaking. Modern Love editor Daniel Jones has revised his compilation of
essays to coi...
4 years ago
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Lucy's thoughts - one year on
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Recently it was the 1 year anniversary of the Sunday Mirror article. So
much has happened in that year, personally for us and for Trans Radio UK.
As part o...
4 years ago
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I Am Female
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If you have been reading some or all of my blog, the title of this post
will seem a bit odd. From previous posts it should pretty obvious that I’m
a woman....
4 years ago
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Full Circle
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Felix stood at the edge of the clearing. Within it stood a small, homely
cottage. A simple sign on the door read “A Tailor’s Touch.” This is the
place, rig...
4 years ago
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Life as a Trans Opera Singer
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The National Opera Studio asked me what it was like, to be a trans opera
singer – and how we could all make our industry better. So I wrote them
this – I...
4 years ago
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Cold
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When everything is dark and the church gives no light, what should you do?
4 years ago
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A Smile That Could Light up a Room
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"I have a lot of questions for you. Do you have any for me?", I asked.
"Yes!", she said. "How do you do it? How have you kept yourself from
transitionin...
4 years ago
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I'M BAAAAAACCCKKKK!!!!!
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I AM BACK BIACHES!!!
HAHAHA!!!!!
Did y'all miss me?
I've had such a great, difficult, exhausting, confusing and wonderful few
years since I last posted.
...
4 years ago
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Easter Rising
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It’s been a few months since my last blogpost, and I felt today was a good
day to count my blessings. Tonight is the 3rd night of Passover, and the
day tha...
4 years ago
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The Southern Strategy Is Real
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The Southern Strategy is real and I have the proof – a PDF of a May 17,
1970 NY Times article where they interviewed Kevin Phillips, the man who
created th...
4 years ago
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Wow..so, where to start!?
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Its obviously been quite a while since I wrote here. Truth told, I had
almost forgotten about this page until I was listing relevant experience
for a magaz...
4 years ago
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Clearing Dad’s house
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When Dad died, it didn’t shock me — I’d been expecting it for a while. And
coping with his funeral was OK, too. But neither affected me so much as the
chor...
4 years ago
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What The Heck Is A Conservative Christian TG Gal?
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I use the phrase "conservative christian TG gal" to describe myself, but
wanted to clarify that phrase briefly in a blog post. The "conservative"
in my d...
4 years ago
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Afterword
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If you’re wondering where the rest of this blog has gone, I’m sorry to
disappoint but after hinting at it for a while, after reaching a particular
mileston...
4 years ago
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Sometimes
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Sometimes I look in the mirror To make sure I’m still there I trace the
scars That I made Five … More
4 years ago
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They Taught Me
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They taught me that I’m pretty. But I shouldn’t talk, because nobody will
listen. I shouldn’t try hard, because nobody will care. I shouldn’t cry,
because ...
4 years ago
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GRS – 3 Surgeries and One Beautiful Nightmare (Part 3/3)
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[Content warnings for graphic depictions/images of bodily functions,
surgery, suicide, mental illness, swearing] This is Part III of my little
tale about h...
4 years ago
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Detaching Myself from My Dysphoria
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The other day, I was trying to imagine how my life would be different if
I’d never suffered from gender dysphoria. The point wasn’t to create a
fantasy lif...
4 years ago
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Purging -- Part 2
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Last month I wrote about how I have emotional attachments to everything in
my closet. I'm thinking there are many others like me.
Occasionally I am asked...
4 years ago
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Notes for a sketch - thinking on Mermaids
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Small cafe, two middleaged women, A and B, sitting down at a table talking
in Northern English accents.
A - So whats been happening whilst I've been down So...
4 years ago
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2018 Review - Part 2
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Part 1 of my review of 2018 covered the goals I set myself. Part 2 deals
with all the other things that happened this year, and there has been quite
a bit ...
4 years ago
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Progress, slowly slowly.
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So things seem now to be heading in a scary but ultimately more positive
direction for me at last. After a recent discussion with my wife she now
seems to ...
4 years ago
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Nothing to Say...
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Just kidding. I have some stuff to say, my loyal readers.
I'm sorry I haven't kept up with this blog, but do you people really want
to know each week that ...
4 years ago
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see postings on facebook 11 17 2018
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i haven't posted anything in awhile mainly because i spend most of my
posting time on facebook.
so any of my followers can catch up on my postings there
4 years ago
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Time to Say Goodbye
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In honor of Samhain and Scorpio season, I’m making a decision to clear
something from my life that hasn’t really been active for a while. I’ll no
longer be...
4 years ago
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Life Update
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Where has this blog been? Where have I been? Where am I going?
4 years ago
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Ok, just to spout out an opinion and my understanding of UMBRELLAS.
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There often and lately seems to be a question of who is trans? Who is more
trans? Who suffers more? Who has it harder? Who is an ally and who is part
of th...
4 years ago
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Brighton
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So last Tuesday we took ourselves orf to spend a couple of days away and
stay with friends in Brighton. Well it got slightly extended and we came
home on S...
5 years ago
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UPDATE ON MY HEART AND MIND
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People have been asking me how things are going in our families journey in
the transgender world, but also my heart. Here is how my heart and soul
are fee...
5 years ago
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Turns Out I Was Right
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Seems the setbacks I deemed minor actually were minor. I’m down 1.2 lbs
from yesterday, and right back on track with where I was two days ago. I
could se...
5 years ago
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Review of The Fence by Lusty Soul
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At one time in my life — for most of it actually — I was a male of the
species. As I read this story by Lusty Soul, long forgotten memories of the
overpow...
5 years ago
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May You Find Peace
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I have made peace with myself, and can no longer in good faith leave or
recommend the content I once posted here. Those writings were my best
desperate ho...
5 years ago
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It’s been awhile
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Warning: this post is different. It talks about things that may make some
readers uncomfortable – especially ones that know me personally and in
parts it ...
5 years ago
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Panties – A Special Pleasure
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In our recent poll on lingerie that trans girls and crossdressers prefer,
panties tied for first place with 25% of the vote. I don’t profess to
having th...
5 years ago
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Profile: Alex
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You can call me… Alex I identify as… Gender-fluid/non-bianary As far as
third-person pronouns go, … they/them and female pronouns sometimes he/him
feels ri...
5 years ago
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This Ain’t About Jobs (10/20/17)
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Maybe you saw or heard about the memo put out by Attorney General Jeff
Sessions on October 4th that essentially ordered the Justice Department to
do a comp...
5 years ago
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Last indolent Spinster Almost Daily Report from DOXA 2018
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My last laconic lazy one take video chatting about the last couple days of
the festival DOXA 2018
5 years ago
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Finale
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Unfortunately, I am finding that this blog and my life is being used far
too often as a political football to promote various agendas and the actual
messag...
5 years ago
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Finale
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Unfortunately, I am finding that this blog and my life is being used far
too often as a political football to promote various agendas and the actual
messag...
5 years ago
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Interesting Article on CNN - Why girls can be boyish but boys can't be girlish
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One topic that I find fascination is the idea of shifting gender
stereotypes and how people, particularly "men" who enjoy trandtionally
"female" things, ar...
5 years ago
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one more cup of coffee
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TW The hustle for work continues, which is discouraging but necessary. I’m
having relationship issues, as all anyone wants to do is date. Decided
that’s ...
5 years ago
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This Week's Calogrenant
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Herder Grin
calogrenant.com
5 years ago
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Online competition redux
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Back in April 2016, I mentioned an online competition where I won a
voucher, which I used to buy a skirt and dress, both in size XL.
According to their si...
5 years ago
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Day 1,245: Moments Frozen in Time
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I have to admit, we had a pretty good run here at So There’s That. 21
podcast episodes and 32 blog posts over the course of a year. And a little
bit of n...
5 years ago
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Flying Solo in Vegas, Part 2
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While I was happy I had arrived at my hotel room without any problems, I
was tired, hungry, and a little sweaty from the journey. I was also behind
my pla...
5 years ago
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I wasn’t sure what my curtains are trying to tell me, but then I clued in…..
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40 Days till surgery. 😂😂😂😜 I’m really excited, somewhat petrified but
not of the actual procedure and the pain after, but of the stay in a
hospital. I ...
5 years ago
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What's in a Name?
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Many years ago, while the internet was still in its infancy, I started
looking to find out information from other transgender individuals. At that
time bul...
5 years ago
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Sunday November 19, 2017 - Finally
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I started this Journey in Feb/March of 2010, when after the early death of
some clients and friends , I decided at 54 years of age, it was now or
never.
B...
5 years ago
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Where is the Washing machine?
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We were watching tele and caught the end of a who-dun-it. It involved the
death of a rugby coach and he was murdered for being a cross-dresser or
transgend...
5 years ago
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25 October Journal
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Well Folks, I am still working on my other post. I think it will be part of
the next book of my life, rather than the end of this one. I am closing
this bl...
5 years ago
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Fingernails
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little things aren't they, fingernails? Certainly nothing to get upset
about. But for me fingernails seem to have become the straw that broke the
camel's...
5 years ago
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Apples & Apples
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It was my second year at the Hendersonville Apple Festival in NC. The
previous year I went with my wife, we had a great time and enjoyed the day,
despit...
6 years ago
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The Penultimate Post
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It has been a while since I have blogged on here.... a long while. The
gaps between my blog posts have slowly widened as I have begun to find
myself, more...
6 years ago
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Excuse our dust, but we have moved!
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I have moved my blog over to a dedicated hosting provider, and we have
successfully migrated over to the WordPress platform. We have our own
domain name, a...
6 years ago
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On the Pride Center of the Capital Region, terfs, and Why Martha Harvey Needs to Resign
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CW: lots of swears, lots of terfs (A quick aside on the word terf because
I’m going to use it about a thousand times. It’s not a slur. Here’s a
doctor tell...
6 years ago
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Trying to reconnect with my children
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A lot has been written in the media about cis parents who grow to accept a
transgender child. Sadly, very little is available about the opposite
scenario ...
6 years ago
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That’s all folks……….
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Between 1955 and 1959, 143 episodes of “The Adventures of Robin Hood”
emerged from a tiny studio in Walton on Thames and burst onto black and
white telli...
6 years ago
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That’s all folks……….
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Between 1955 and 1959, 143 episodes of “The Adventures of Robin Hood”
emerged from a tiny studio in Walton on Thames and burst onto black and
white telli...
6 years ago
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ABC TV Cancels Downward Dog Show
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“Every Day my dog looks at me exactly the same way, like I’m the most
beautiful thing he’s ever seen. And, I just thought, what if we could see
ourselve...
6 years ago
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With Purpose
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The title of this post really highlights the way I’ve felt the last several
months and the experiences I’ve had the chance to take in. Since my last
updat...
6 years ago
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With Purpose
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The title of this post really highlights the way I’ve felt the last several
months and the experiences I’ve had the chance to take in. Since my last
updat...
6 years ago
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Transgender and LGBT++ Rights promised in UK Party Manifestos
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This piece is not written to influence how you vote in the general Election
on June 8th. it’s too late for that and in my humble opinion getting May
out of...
6 years ago
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Trans Twitter Gives Bad Dating Advice
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Trans Twitter Gives Bad Dating Advice — “You have much gold upon your
head,” They answer’d all together: “Buy from us with a golden curl.” —
Christina Ro...
6 years ago
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It has been a long time…
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since my last post. I’m still here. I am still battling with the trauma
of multiple surgeries, a disfiguring scar on my forearm, a devastating
betrayal f...
6 years ago
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I'll miss this platform
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But I don't think I'm going to keep using it. It's sad, because I've been
writing here for such a long time, and blogging for myself is therapeutic,
even i...
6 years ago
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Sex, Drugs and Southern Hospitality: An Interview with Sam Peterson
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Sam Peterson’s Trunky (Transgender Junky): A Memoir of Institutionalization
and Southern Hospitality is the rare book that’s formally experimental AND
impo...
6 years ago
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India Willoughby, transvestites deserve protection too
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Hi India, How are you? Years ago we used to frequent the same forum site
so even though we’ve never met, I view you with the same fondness I feel
for a...
6 years ago
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Thoughts and Updates
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I can't believe it's been almost a year since I've posted anything. Time
flies and we don't...
So...my marriage is still going strong. It's pretty much ...
6 years ago
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And happily ever after...
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Family snuggle timeI've retired from blogging. I've been channeling my
creative energy into other hobbies, and I'm feeling uninspired to write
about my wi...
6 years ago
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Questions related to the surgery
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As mentioned in my previous post i said i would post the questions i asked
the surgeon’s assistant. Also, this post is NSFW as there are some details
regar...
6 years ago
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We Need A “Standards of Care” for Detransitioners
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One of my biggest takeaways from attending the recent USPATH conference is
that many clinicians and other providers sincerely want more information on
unde...
6 years ago
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What I’m talking about
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Ok so many of you will have seen this photo, absorbed and passed it by. I
just caught it on a video artical on the BBC website. Quite frankly I was
surpr...
6 years ago
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Watching When We Rise on ABC
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I've been watching *When We Rise*, the four part miniseries on ABC about
the birth and development of the LGBT movement in America and the parts
played in ...
6 years ago
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The door is open
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One of the things that is true; and that I have been pondering, is
that when you come out, your family comes out. I mean; once I am full time,
then al...
6 years ago
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Trying Out A New Name
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I wrote just over a month ago about my anxieties about going away. It’s now
less than a week until I actually go which is really exciting. I’m pumped
to se...
6 years ago
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Stuck In The Middle Again
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How to start? I said long ago when I made my choice to back our new
President that when he did things I felt were wrong I would call him out on
it. Today i...
6 years ago
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New pics … at last!
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Finally got some long overdue “girl-time” yesterday – first time for over 2
years. I really shouldn’t leave it so long because it isn’t good for my
genera...
6 years ago
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Why I'm so passionate about the issues of others.
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*It's been 2.5 years since I've posted. I said I would post if I had
something to say and today, I do. Please note the experience I write about
does not in...
6 years ago
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We Interrupt This Program
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After writing once a week for four years. I’ve finally decided is time to
switch things up and stop posting on schedule and only post when I feel
like it. ...
6 years ago
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Love and Loneliness
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*"I've looked at love from both sides now".... Joni Mitchell.*
Down on the seawall in my town, a few blocks from where I live, the benches
that look ...
6 years ago
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New Year, big changes.
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*Happy **New** Year!*
I begin the new year letting go of some important things. First up is the
pseudonym I have used for years. ‘Haust’ is gone, ...
6 years ago
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Questioning the Fluctuations
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This isn't the scribbling I intended (or promised) to note as I stated in
the last entry. However, it is part of my developing thoughts on this
future sub...
6 years ago
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Yuletide greetings.
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*Soon be nobody left now that Leonard Cohen is gone too... Someone else who
had to deal with depression and his music soothed my troubled soul. Just
sad to...
6 years ago
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Victoria’s Secret – The Show
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Hey, so yesterday it was time for the amazing show. I haven’t seen the show
but I took a look at a lot of pictures and it seemed amazing and I can’t
wait t...
6 years ago
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Week 85:Top Surgery Update:The collage above starts at 8 days...
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*Week 85:*
*Top Surgery Update:*
The collage above starts at 8 days post-op (image bottom left) and then
clockwise shows my chest at 10 ...
6 years ago
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Heroes and Hope
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It’s times like these that make me feel the most hopeless. I haven’t always
been good at dealing with feelings like this. But when the future looks
bleak, ...
6 years ago
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Cultivation Corner Starting Seeds
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So you want to sprout those ganja seeds you found in your stash?
First off I want you to be sure that your grow space will be warm enough
for seed germinati...
6 years ago
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I am able to talk again
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I am back on deck and I think more in control of myself than I have been
for quite some time. Will be making more additions to this blog as I go
along. The...
6 years ago
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Ringing the changes part 2
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So, my first post about how I changed my name with various organisations
was starting to get a bit long, so this is a continuation. The first can
be seen ...
6 years ago
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September 22 2016
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Thank you. Thank you for the last four years. Thank you for letting me
into your hearts, for letting me be a part of your day, for letting me
bounce my th...
7 years ago
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My response to a post by Tyler Charles Austen
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Dear Mr Austen, On 26th August 2016, you made a post on your eponymous
blog (that means you named it after yourself) called “I Can’t Believe I’m
Saying Th...
7 years ago
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Last Post
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So this is it. The last post I’ll make here (for the foreseeable future
anyway). I’ve moved my fitness adventures over to
http://transtriathlete.com and I’...
7 years ago
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A rediscovered poem
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I found this in my 2013 dream journal, from when I was still in the closet.
My dreams were born from above, not below, or if below, in the primal
ember ...
7 years ago
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This is goodbye (A happy one)
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This is going to be my last post on It’s ok to be a glow stick. I am sad to
be saying goodbye but my life has changed dramatically and sadly, there is
no r...
7 years ago
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Identity Crisis
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I have lost my identity.
I'm not sure if I'm still mom, wife, daughter or 911 dispatcher.
If I'm not any of the above, then who am I besides lost?
7 years ago
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Goodbye
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It's been a couple of months since I last posted, despite my desire to do
an A-Z on the issues I find important. My absence was caused by many
things, but...
7 years ago
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The gym experience
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My fitness in recent years has been something that I have felt has become
very important to me. I remember starting running back in the time when I
was dea...
7 years ago
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The Post-GRS Blues
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On Twitter during the week, I joined in a conversation about Gender
Reassignment Surgery and general fears regarding such a huge operation.
Personally, GRS...
7 years ago
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Me...
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Realized I hadn't posted in a while. That will change starting with an
updated picture of me.
7 years ago
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A new audience
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I am feeling a little humbled. I was asked last week at my college to talk
about transgender issues, to my college group of counsellors in training. I
star...
7 years ago
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A new audience
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I am feeling a little humbled. I was asked last week at my college to talk
about transgender issues, to my college group of counsellors in training. I
star...
7 years ago
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Mid-Year Check In
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At the beginning of this year, I wrote a post about my love of new
beginnings and my resolutions for 2016. I was not too lofty in my goals; I
attempted to ...
7 years ago
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My Return and First Time Out… again
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I’ve been trying to collect my thoughts the last few days. They have been
a jumble of emotions, mostly good. I haven’t felt this way in a long time
and f...
7 years ago
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Thoughts on the Orlando shooting
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There is something surreal, in moments like this, about being a privileged
member of an oppressed minority. I can breeze through airport security
with whi...
7 years ago
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Honestly Geraldine, why do you need to crossdress?
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This is the very tentative first step by a somewhat bewildered ordinary man
who discovered that at sixty years of age, I needed to crossdress. I hope
to de...
7 years ago
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At work
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It's definitely time for me to start thinking about when and how I'm going
to transition at work. Outside of work I'm now living as myself pretty much
full...
7 years ago
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The First Mothers’ Day
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If last year we celebrated the last Father’s Day, this year we introduced
the first Mothers’ Day. And yes, the apostrophe is in the right place. I
admit to...
7 years ago
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On Being A Transwoman in a Bathroom
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To be perfectly honest, I am actually really surprised this is a topic that
presidential candidates are addressing. Seriously, it’s one thing for
people to...
7 years ago
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Feeling Positive Again :)
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I had been feeling really down about things over the last few months and I
know that my recent posts on here haven’t been very positive about my
situation....
7 years ago
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A good weekend
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It’s been a good weekend. I actually feel pretty confident that I could
pass one day. I know that’s not the most important thing, but it matters a
lot to ...
7 years ago
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A good weekend
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It’s been a good weekend. I actually feel pretty confident that I could
pass one day. I know that’s not the most important thing, but it matters a
lot to ...
7 years ago
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Goin' to North Carolina. Why Do I Feel Like A "Freedom Rider"?
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In NO WAY am I comparing what Transgender people are going through in North
Carolina to what Black Americans went through before and during the Civil
Right...
7 years ago
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My 100th post…
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This is my 100th post. I was hoping to make it a special one with a
description of another outing as Valerie, in my new modern “blending”
outfit. Unfortuna...
7 years ago
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Back
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Where is she? When is she coming back? What's happening in Tammy World?
These are all questions I've gotten over the last few months. Questions
shouted...
7 years ago
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Ghosts
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So it has been almost a year since I last posted. It is not that I’ve had
a lack of things to write about, more of a case of writers block – finding
words...
7 years ago
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Not sure what to say..
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I am not sure what to do, or what to say, depression is my only constant
“friend”, with me all the time, someone I hate, yet never hates me back.
Medical m...
7 years ago
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Back to the Stone Age.
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I think the song is fitting, It is not mine, the opinions on this page are
mine. In posting this video, I am in no way saying that this group believes
as I...
7 years ago
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Come Up to the Lab: My Gender Workshop
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Ever since Time Magazine proclaimed a “Transgender Tipping Point” a year
and a half ago, I’ve been exploring trans identities and expressions that
aren’t i...
7 years ago
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hiatus
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just wanted to let you all know that Will is doing fabulous in recovery
(tracking everything diligently on @journeyintomanhood) and in England for
his se...
7 years ago
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Reminder: Follow my new blog! This one is closing imminently
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This is just a quick reminder, in case anyone who cares missed it the first
time, that GenderDrift is being turned into a private blog where it can
rest pe...
7 years ago
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Time to myself
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Recently I have been lucky to have a few evenings to myself to let Jenny
out of the wardrobe. Most of these occasions have been just in my room as
usual, ...
7 years ago
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Being a Gender Critical woman born trans is a very lonely place to be
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My understanding of gender critical theory is limited.
There's no reference text anywhere explaining it, and questioning GC
theorists on their own turf nev...
7 years ago
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Blogging about it….
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I started this blog because I wanted to help people in a similar situation
to me. I was younger and never proclaimed to have all the answers.
Sometimes the...
7 years ago
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Debunking Bathroom Myths
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*Debunking Bathroom Myths*
Original article by *Brynn Tannehill *can be viewed *Here*
*When the Houston Equal Rights Ordinance was defeated, the ostens...
7 years ago
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RUMBLED. BUT IT TURNS OUT TO THE GOOD
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As per usual on a Wed evening I make my way to the Butterfly Club support
premises to get my self ready to face the world. Nothing new in that. And
as per ...
7 years ago
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Caitlyn Jenner Speaks at Chicago House Event
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Caitlyn Jenner Speaks at Chicago House Event:
grvsmth:
sometranslady:
grvsmth:
sometranslady:
snowflakeespecial:
This isn’t a funny story. Trying on y...
7 years ago
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Postscript
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I thought that my urge to blog had departed. It hasn't... but I do need to
move on. Angie's Aspirations — aka About Angie — was written from the
perspecti...
7 years ago
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Got A Little Beautified…
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Not much here, but I went out for a bit of a day, treated by a couple of
friends, and had my brows waxed and got my hair done. Here’s the results.
I s...
7 years ago
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17 Months on T Update
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17 Months on T Next week marks 17 months on T, nearly one and a half
years. I cannot believe I have not posted any update for 5 months, time
just really h...
7 years ago
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10 Ways to Destroy the Earth
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my mother died in this room now it is occupied by my nieces whenever they
sleep over a playroom i currently occupy it sleeping on the lower bunk of
their l...
7 years ago
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U want to be her!
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[image: U want to be her!]
7 years ago
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Become a girl
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[image: Become a girl]
7 years ago
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Still Here
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I realized last week that I hadn’t written a blog…or a Facebook post…or a
journal entry…or much of anything in five or six months. Part of me was
bothered ...
8 years ago
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5 months in
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*Continued**, from April 5th 2015*
5 months since the hospital I still don't know much about it.
Dissociative Identity Disorder.
My amnesia isn't just ha...
8 years ago
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Through The Looking Glass
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I’m not sure exactly when it happened, but it did. That is, I stopped
considering myself “transitioning.” What does that mean, exactly? Am I
where I want t...
8 years ago
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*Hey!*
So... tomorrow school begins again.
This schoolyear I am planning to come out and start dressing, acting,
talking, etc. like a girl. Honestly, it's ...
8 years ago
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Been Sick
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Isn’t amazing? We tend to think we are the masters of the planet. Then, a
debilitating illness hits and we become subservient cry-babies. Something
crawl...
8 years ago
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Transition Is A Banquet
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Transition is not a one-way street, or a bowling lane with the bumpers up.
Transition is not a recipe with precise measurements, or a fixed
curriculum, or ...
8 years ago
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It’s Inherent
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The frequency and unexpectedness with which being transgendered asserts
itself is ever a source of amazement. Regardless of how deeply in
background one ma...
8 years ago
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This Rain
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Originally posted on chester maynes:
Abruptly, water gushes from the sky. I hear the storm drops too loud. Wind
creeps cold on my skin. Thunder slits these ...
8 years ago
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Telling a Friend
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I recently told a friend about Amy. I didn't go into many details or show
him pictures or anything, but it felt good to talk about and get a positive
reac...
8 years ago
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And Last
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I used that subject last week as well.
It happens. Click to enlarge (the cartoon not the imagination)This is a
hard post to organise and a hard post to wr...
8 years ago
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The world keeps on turning.
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So I guess it’s time to get back into this blog of mine. I mean I’ve been
gone for so long and really it’s just time to start again. Since my last
real b...
8 years ago
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Why Bruce Jenner, Andreja Pejic and other Trans Celebrities Still Don’t Matter
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Recently there have been a number of celebrities that have come out to
announce that they define as transgender. For some of them it wasn’t a
shocker, for ...
8 years ago
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On Reconciling my Beliefs, Depression and Gender
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Howdy. Sorry it's been a while, I am simply the most infrequent blogger in
the world... I've been buried under piles of work for what seems like
forever, a...
8 years ago
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End game...
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So things didn't get better...I slipped further and last Tuesday I went to
my scheduled appointment...when she saw me the choices were go home for a
matter...
8 years ago
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Handbags & Glad Rags……….
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I always feel a bit rotten about writing a new post when I have so many
posts from others to …
Continue reading →
8 years ago
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Commenters and deep thoughts
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I would like to start by apologizing for the long break between posts. A
little thing called life intervenes and my writing suffers. Family, health,
work, ...
8 years ago
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Jenna Talackova, and the importance of transitioning when young
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I greatly admire Jenna Talackova, the beautiful, sexy, and courageous M2F
transgender model, beauty contestant, reality television star, and actress.
I ...
8 years ago
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Motorhead Girls
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Motorhead Girls ... we are girls who love cars, trucks, bikes, planes, and
boats. Anything with a motor. Maybe we love some of them, maybe we love all
of ...
8 years ago
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Shutting down
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I've decided that I am not, after all, the blogging type.
I never managed it in my other identity either, so I don't know why I
should be surprised.
So,...
8 years ago
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Dangerous Situation
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***** This post might be triggering ***** Something really scary happened
last evening. I was standing outside with a friend (who is also homeless
and we u...
8 years ago
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Saying goodbye
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I came to a turning point about 12 months ago when I read an article by
Mary Jacklyn Moss. In the article she talks about when her child
transitioned and h...
8 years ago
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Could it really be THAT easy?
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So, not going to get too excited here, but bear with me, kay? Last night, I
decided to talk to Phyl about her withdrawals and pulling away. I wanted to
try...
8 years ago
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One Year as Me!
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Dianne Piggott
10/30/2013
One year. Just one year. One entire year. All of one year. One circle of
the Earth around the Sun.
A year ago t...
8 years ago
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Cumberbatch and his offense offence
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Poor old Benny Cumberbatch…him and his big old posh, ex slave owning gob.
Actually I feel for the bloke. Trying to do his best for British actors of
colour...
8 years ago
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Coming out on Facebook.
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I have a relatively small number of friends on facebook, I keep it that
way, I don’t add anyone I meet. Everyone on my friends list is actually my
friend o...
8 years ago
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New Hair … :) Trying different looks :)
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So the new wig arrived… and figured a day off would be fitting to try it on
:) Here are a few pics… Ya short and sweet post … :P Peace and Love!
Tamara :)
8 years ago
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Transgender Q&A
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When it comes to the subject of transgender and the LGBT community, I think
that there are three different types of people. The first (and the fastest
gro...
8 years ago
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I is for Identity Politics
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Hello all. For my first post of 2015, I am going back to blogging through
ye old alphabet. Today I is for identity politics. Identity politics are
how ...
8 years ago
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Leelah, and all the others who struggle
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Happy New Year!
I'm so sorry I don't update regularly! I have been off school for a couple
weeks, so I have no good excuse, but I hope you all had a wonder...
8 years ago
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A New Christmas with family
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As anyone can expect the end of the year can bring surprises and lots of
joy to one's heart and soul. This year is really an exception for Kay and
I, as w...
8 years ago
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On the other side!
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It’s been a few days since I last posted on my blog, and for good reason.
Thursday, 11th December 2014 I finally had the surgery I had been waiting
so lon...
8 years ago
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Saying goodbye
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The time has come for me to say goodbye and put this blog to bed. I doubt
anyone reads it anymore, but I’m the type of person who likes closure, so I
gue...
8 years ago
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Xmas 2014
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I thought I should drop a post in, and wish everyone a happy Xmas.
If you should be reading this, and you are a Pagan like my son, or any of
the non-christ...
8 years ago
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11-18-2014 Entry: Pulling Back the Transgender Curtian
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Two days from now will be Transgender Day of Remembrance, which I am sad to
say that before this year, I knew nothing about. I just finished scrolling
thro...
8 years ago
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No Big Deal
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My daughter started high school last month.
The other night she told my wife and me that there's a transgender girl in
her homeroom. During the summer ...
8 years ago
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I finally legally exist!
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On July 1st, 2014 it finally happened. The law that made it impossible for
me and many others like me to change their gender on any official documents
drop...
8 years ago
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A Controversial Stance On The Word “Queer”
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Controversial new video about the use of the word queer in the LGBT
community.
8 years ago
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8 Steps on How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Immediately
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If you are trying to get your ex boyfriend back, but are fighting and get
no results, then you should know this is a common thing that tons of girls
go thr...
8 years ago
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Pigtails
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Last night as I was hugging Kegan good night, I started playing with her
hair and realized her hair is at that almost long enough to put into a
super short...
9 years ago
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She Returns
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Gee, that was a long time coming, wasn't it?
I managed to survive from February to July at the Good Samaritan House at
Westgate. This is a Christian-run fa...
9 years ago
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The Maker of Noses
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Like many of you, I enjoy music, and I look to it for inspiration and
support. My taste in music is quite eclectic, ranging from hymns through
jazz and roc...
9 years ago
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July 18th 2014
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I know I haven't posted in a long time, things have just gotten crazy
around here. We were finally able to get pregnant with our third, and
recently found...
9 years ago
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been proven wrong
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I have had many people walk in and out of my life. And a lot of them have
been anything but nice to me. Over the years most of my friend have turn
against...
9 years ago
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Tumor no more
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On January 8, 2012 I was informed that the fight to live was over, I would
not be getting my last Chemo treatment, all scans have no cancer traces in
them ...
9 years ago
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*I think it is time to completely let my fears of letting those who know me
in my life, but may not know 'me' now because I did what I needed to do for
my ...
9 years ago
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Vote for Sophia
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I'm running in a mock election and I need your votes. You might be asking
why I need your vote, and *how in the heck did I wind up in politics?* Well,
my ...
9 years ago
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Keepin’ On
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When I was driving home from work this afternoon I started to think of this
blog and its lack of updates. I think the general trend is that when I
dress mo...
9 years ago
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A Question
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So, I've been doing this girl thing for a while now.
It's good, but there is some weirdness...
Has anyone else experienced this?
[Bumps into a doorjam, o...
9 years ago
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Day 105: Whiskey Aging… DONE!
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So after nearly 3 and a half months it’s done! I ended up with a bottle
and a half of sweet, dark whiskey. It’s amazingly easy to do. At this
point, I’m ...
9 years ago
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Here's a Little Something No One Told You
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Milestones are things to be celebrated. In our culture we have only a few
of them high school graduation, marriage, parenthood, (divorce), and death.
Other...
9 years ago
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Sweeping the Ashes
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“Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn't stop for anybody.”
“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems
don't rhyme...
9 years ago
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Another new chapter
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*or the next stop on the timeline...*
*Anyway, as some of you may remember, in a galaxy, far, far..wait, wrong
story.*
*I married my other half 13 years a...
9 years ago
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I'm coming out and I want the world to know...
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As the weeks went by I've became more and more emboldened with my
transition. I started buying more clothes, and started laser hair removal.
On Christmas...
9 years ago
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It has been too long since last I blogged
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Yes, I know, more than two years have gone by, and some of you may be
wondering if all is well. YES! Everything remains wonderful. We've now been
happily m...
9 years ago
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It's "her's"
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I've been living as woman for two years now, two really good years. I was
and still am one of the lucky few. I have gone through this transition
without lo...
9 years ago
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Paula Deen Quote
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“I feel like ‘embattled’ or ‘disgraced’ will always follow my name. It’s
like that black football player who recently came out. He said, ‘I just
want to...
9 years ago
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Link to my daughter’s blog post
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Here’s something my daughter posted today… Hexydezimal A fallen angel
returns. hexydezimal.wordpress.com Questions for the Transgender Community
Happy bela...
9 years ago
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Holiday Time
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I hope everyone’s been safe and sane all year, and that the holiday season
brings you joy and happiness – and lots of good prezzies. Here’s hoping
those ...
9 years ago
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Three Unwise Men
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Yet another bawbag is frothing at the mouth.
This latest cretinous oaf, a Russian actor of whom this reporter at least
has never heard, says he would "stuf...
9 years ago
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Hanging in, hanging out, hanging on
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It has been a while since I have posted anything here. Up to this point, I
have maintained this blog as a combination of sporadic articles, and the
occasio...
9 years ago
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I Dreamed a Dream in Times Gone By...
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This past week has been especially difficult because of the second coming
out of 'Marcy' Michael's female alter gender identity. My strife is
entirely i...
9 years ago
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I realised to day that I still have this account open.
I have moved all of my blog to my website, www.sarah-savage.com
Thanx
9 years ago
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Enough
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Originally posted on Nuclear Unicorn:
My approach to Cathy Brennan has long mirrored my approach to Ann Coulter;
I generally refuse to dignify their delibe...
9 years ago
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Ether Radio
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Last Tuesday I took the day off work to run errands. Around 8:30 in the
morning I was sitting in my boyfriend's car by a gas pump. Peter was
inside colle...
10 years ago
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Hatred, Transphobia & Twitter storms..
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I'm far from surprised that this has blown up like it has.. To be honest it
was only a matter of time, Trans people put up with an awful lot, I don't
want ...
10 years ago
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Solace for the Soul
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I made it back to Arizona safely. No cops, no sandstorms, and no video. I
tried filming a quick vlog but was repulsed with the way I looked. With the
rela...
10 years ago
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The Wedding and the Beach House
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It was a balmy June Saturday in Napa valley, California. The winery
Heather’s cousin Rosalind had chosen for the wedding was beautifully placed
amidst rol...
11 years ago
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Retrospect - Spring 2011 - The Highs and Low of being a TGirl
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Widemouth Bay, CornwallBy the spring of 2011 I felt that things were going
quite well and that with my new image I was well on the well to achieving
the g...
11 years ago
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Queer Utopia
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Up until last month, I hadn’t been abroad for years. Two trips to Crete,
aged 13 and 14, and then I found myself in a desert. A travel one. As a
student in...
11 years ago
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I suppose an introduction is in order...
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I'm a woman living on the Left coast of America with a very much
appreciated spouse of over a decade and a half. We can usually be found
co-living our lif...
12 years ago
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A BLOG ON BLOGGER? OLDER POSTS FOUND BY LINK.
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After a flat out hectic two months I am sitting here with no pressing
commitments except perhaps to try and cure this terrible cough and sore
throat. In th...
14 years ago
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Reality TV
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I was reassembling the bike last weekend with radio 4 on drip-feed and
heard a piece about people who live a second life on the Internet. It
appears that f...
14 years ago
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