By the time
I got up enough nerve to leave my car, the "costume walk" was long
past. Sitting at the bar I felt the need to justify why I was dressed as
I was; like an explanation was a needed? The bartender's comment,
after my long dissertation, "I am sure that this will not be the last".
No truer statement was ever said.
It's Halloween, 2019, and Rhonda tells us about her first time out on that very special holiday.
This surgery is a lot less scary than FFS was. For one, I've now been
through a pretty involved surgery. So nothing is going to be a surprise
this time around. Top surgery is actually a much, much simpler procedure
in terms of surgical complexity and in terms of recovery.
Brooklyn's Faith DeBrooke is about to endure another surgery....Top Surgery.
Like any other skill, you just gotta start small and keep practicing.
Something clicked with me and makeup a year or so ago - keep it simple
and have extremely low expectations. That has served me well. And as
such, the handful of times that I've done makeup this year, I've
actually enjoyed it.
A few comments, from Tanya, about makeup.
Many of you know me from my previous blog. However, due to situations
beyond my control, I am shifting my posts to this blog, as I can not
remove all references to certain people from my old blog.
Just a quick note that Marian has changed the name of her blog. The reason is in this post.
I’d wanted some for ages. Seen them around in the shops but they were
never quite perfect. The lines were either too big, or not quite the
right colour or the shape was just not right for me. Then I’d see a
women with the exact pair that would be perfect but there was no way I
would stop a complete stranger in the street and say, “Excuse me, where
did you get your trousers from?”
Only Hannah could write such a captivating post about a pair of trousers.
Branching from a modest, quiet cul-de-sac, at the end of a modest-length
driveway, sits a modest home. The People Who Used To Live Here reside
within these walls. To a large extent, The People Who Used To Live Here
exist on divergent paths, and while the ties that bind still exist, many
of those ties are of a legal or nominal nature only. The bonds of
family fade with each passing day.
You will feel the emotion in this post, from Shannyn. Wonderfully written, yet very sad.
The last year and a half has been difficult at Sox cottage. The news
that my illness is incurable cancer has obviously been the most
difficult thing my soul mate and I have had to deal with. I have been on
chemo therapy for most of this time. Extending my life so I have time
to spend with my most dearest is priceless.
These are words we certainly do not like to hear from one or our bloggers, or anyone else. Bobby is strong, however, as she shows in this post. If you've never left a comment, you should consider writing one to Bobby.
During all the years when I was desperately hoping and wondering and
panicking about if I really could or should actually do this thing and
embark on a transition, well it occupied my every thought and writing a
blog about it was a good way of getting it all out of me rather than
keeping things bottled up inside.
Kristy, an Irish girl, is now post-transition! In this post, she reviews the past year, and a good year it was!
Real-life experience (RLE) is a process where transsexual and
transgender people live full-time in their preferred gender identity for
a period of time, in order to demonstrate that they can function as a
member of said gender. —Wikipedia
My friend, Stana, shares her thoughts about the Real-Life Experience.
As I read through the paper from Harry Benjamin I find different essays
buried inside. I will pull them out and put them here. One of the
interesting ideas I find is that so very little has changed, and that
this information is out there is recorded and yet we still struggle
against society and the medical community. Our plight is improving and
maybe in another 100 yrs our will not suffer the way we have. I can only
hope. Any way here is an essay title 'I am a transsexual' author
unknown.
A nice find, from Bree, who was once a very prolific blogger.
David transitioned in Toronto in the 1980s. He said his initial
motivation was transvestite. How would he know? Transvestites, or cross
dressers, might dress occasionally or compulsively for a sexual thrill,
but the thrill wears off and they want to dress normally again. Yet he
saw a gender clinic and was prescribed oestrogen. He must have had some
diagnoscible signs of transsexualism.
This one is a very interesting post, from Clare. It's a story of a transition, de-transition and then a re-transition.
Then when I was 14, I came up with a brilliant idea! I could be my own
sister! I started wearing girl’s clothes every night for a different
reason. In my mind, it was to remember my sister and what she would have
become. And I started to experience new types of girl’s clothing other
that the swimsuits I’d been wearing.
Our journey's are all different in some way but this one, from Amber, is unique.
A few weeks ago the Ever Lovely Mrs J mentioned a firm to me called Snag Tights.
They are very much not a 'one size fits all' company. Instead, they
offer a variety of sizes for the long, the short, and the tall - as
someone once sang. Intrigued, I thought I'd have a look at their site,
and maybe invest.
Tights....a necessity (opaque at least) for those of us (like me!) who don't shave our legs! Lynn has a review.
On the first visit to my therapist, I was given a questionnaire to
complete. One of the questions was, “What is your sexual preference?’
Without hesitation, I wrote, “I want to be a girl.”
Time for an oldie but a goodie. Nice post, from Billie, in 2010.
I have
always been aware that getting dressed and “getting out” provided a lift
(pun intended). However, I never noticed that just a quick walk in my
heels also provided an endorphin hit.
Endorphins and heels. They go together like cake and frosting. Read all about it, from Rhonda.
This year I was so proud and impressed with this student. They
approached me at the start of the year, and told me they are
transgender, and that they are male, and that they would prefer to be
called Leo! I was so excited for them! Wow! How cool to understand
such an awesome thing at such a young age.
It's so nice to see Nadine so accepted as a trans teacher. In this post, she writes about one of her students who came out to her.
If you are able and if you want to go out and if you are frightened
about it, really, it’s easier than you think. I am not sure why you
wouldn’t if you are able. For almost 50 years, I didn’t have the
circumstances and I get that. But if you’re sitting at home wishing you
could go out, do it. Use your head. It’s really not that complicated.
It's easier than you think, says Kandi. This post tells you about a fun day out and about.
A High Court Judge Has Ruled That "Mother" No Longer Means "Woman"
Caroline forwarded this link to me, from BuzzFeed. Her comment: This shows just how stupid the law is and how vicious the UK media can be.
The other day I spotted a very stylish looking trans girl in
my suburb (well, I’d be damn surprised if I’d mis”read” her). Tall,
lovely mini dress, flatter heels than I’d have chosen (but, hey,
nobody’s perfect!) and spot-on makeup.
I was so tempted to say hi, compliment them on their look, but decided not to, in part remembering what you’d written.
But I’m thinking about what I do if/when I see someone en
femme, while I’m in guy mode? Do I say something, or (at most) smile in
as friendly a way as possible (trying not to be at all creepy)?
Hannah addresses this often asked question in the latest edition of "Ask Hannah".
There was I time when I would have said yes to the question – do you crossdress?
Ummm.......want to explain that, Stephie? She does, and you can go here to read it.
The other week an email arrived in the Chameleons inbox. It wasn't from a
trans person, someone related to some who's trans, nor a training
enquiry.
So who was this email from? Go to Lynn's post to read about a subject I rarely see mentioned in the trans-blogs.
Since it is somewhat off-topic for Transgender in State -- as of today renamed Transgender Out of State.
Long time blogger, Robyn, has a new name for her blog. Transgender in State is now Transgender OUT of State. Why? Read Two Wheels Out of State, for the answer.
Welcome to the newly named, “Beth Overthinks It” blog.
Same girl. Same Beth. Same blog. Different name (remember Right Brain, Wrong Body?)
In this post, Beth tells us about her visit to the Blue Ridge Pride Festival.
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