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Monday, May 31, 2021

Back (in black)

So what changed? Partly the realization that I will never be the late teens to twenties girl who has been inside my head for as long as I can remember, but more importantly because, since the middle of 2019, Susie started to venture outside the house and into the wider world. And with that, a realisation of the importance of blending in, of how women of a certain age (it's impolite to ask, but you can make your own estimation from the pictures below) looked and dressed when out and about. 


Susie has changed and writes about it in this post.  She has not posted to her blog in 5 years and, perhaps, for good reason.  Read, Back (in black), for the reason why.


Sunday, May 30, 2021


This story is about me and facing this very same question at times. I am not the only Transgender person who faces this dilemma.



A very serious, and well thought out, blog post from Aleana.

Wednesday, May 26, 2021

How can you beat gender dysphoria without transitioning?

Felix Conrad has written an interesting article on how you can cope with gender dysphoria if you cannot or will not transition.

Go to Jack Molay's site for the link.

Sunday, May 23, 2021

It’s Hopeless

Why do I continue beating my head against a wall? I recently ran the following personal ad on a web site I have referenced in the past (local arts community), well over a month ago





Go here to read Kandi's ad and the responses.

Saturday, May 22, 2021

Two days ago

I got my hysterectomy done!



Congrats to one of our Trans-Guys!

Thursday, May 20, 2021

Smashing through the roadblock

Anyone who has read my ramblings for any length of time will know that since discovering I am trans, one of the biggest worries has been how my mum would react. I was all set to tell her at Christmas but then we were sent back into lockdown and I just could not come out to her over the phone or via video chat.



So, DeeDee told her Mum, but you will have to read the post to find out how it went.

Loved the title of this post, by the way!  Kind of says it all.

Monday, May 17, 2021

Taking care

The good news on the above is having had the cognitive behavioural therapy course, or perhaps having been there before and come through the other side, there’s another approach to things. Rather than let my emotions rule me, it’s about the deep breath and saying Hang on, might I just be a bit knackered? Am I sleeping enough? Eating right? Could it be, that I’ve just had enough?


Lynn knows how to read her body and seems to follow the same practices I do when I'm down.  I liked this post, and she includes a nice photo from a night out with the Chams.

Wednesday, May 12, 2021


Sometimes a blog post can say a lot in just one sentence.

Saturday, May 8, 2021

Swimsuit edition II: boobwatch

Third time was perfect: not too hazy, just enough cloud to give the sky some texture, and a sea that was just about lively enough to be interesting, but not dangerous. I’d already picked my theme: I got a red swimsuit and an inflatable Baywatch-style float, and a couple of party balloons for tits (I didn’t want to accidentally dip my usual falsies in the sea; I’d already done that in a freshwater loch…).


Fab post, from Miss Twist.  It's a Bay Watch photo shoot on the beach along the North Sea.  Oh, it must have been cold!

Sunday, May 2, 2021


So if you think purges work, I am sorry to tell you that they truly never work.  You will dress again, in months, years or even decades, but you will dress again.  And it will feel wonderful.  Just accept it.   




I tend to gravitate to the posts I can relate to.  Sadly, this is one of them.  Here's a guest post, in Kandi's Land By Stephanie Julianna, on the subject.

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