Welcome to TransCisTer Radio! Do you like the word play within that?
Brian and Dana came up with the name and graphic to go along with our
show title. Personally, I love it!
Nadine has teamed up with a friend to do a podcast, and I love the name! Go to TransCisTer Radio for the back-story and a link.
As I got changed, somehow my makeup came together - at least I was
pleased with it :-) - and I did my best to help Michelle - someone new
to the group - with their slap too. Playing it forward and all that.
That's why we're here and it's good to be kind to others. Bless her,
Michelle sent me a PM on our forum to say thanks. How lovely is that?
I love my local transgender group and I love that there are other similar groups out there. This post, from Lynn, is just about the little moments prior to, during and after a gathering of the Nottingham Chameleons. If you live anywhere near Nottingham, England, you really need to join this group.
So I am pleased when I can say to Tina “I find it hard to believe
anything good about myself, or that anyone could have regard for me”.
Rather than suppress the feeling and have it manifest in tears I feel it
so can say the sentence with only a slight quaver in my voice. This is
progress. It means I get better at seeing who and how I am rather than
suppressing it because it is too painful to admit.
Clare often addresses trans related subjects that other bloggers rarely touch. In this case, Clare has written several times about the effect hormone replacement therapy has had on her emotions. Being Emotional is Clare's current post.
Being outed at work is a real peril of going out en femme. It
could result in the loss of your job and could negatively effect any
future employment. However, there are worse real perils of going out en femme... like the loss of your life.
Stana shares a bad experience and offers some wise words.
Laura Ann is a good friend and an excellent writer. She's a member of the local TG group I belong to, The River City Gems. I always encourage her, and any of you out there, to submit guest posts to T-Central. This one has got to be one of her best, and I do believe it could very well apply to me! Laura is monitoring, so feel free to leave comments here or send me an email (listed at the bottom of this page) if you would like to email her directly.
I recently read a post from one of our River City Gems members that talked about the difficulty that emerging transwomen have, with going out in public dressed in femme mode and presenting as women. An excerpt from this post:
"Stepping out into a public place can be humiliating, just knowing yourself that most people observing you will notice that you are really a man and not a cis woman."
I'd like to contribute my somewhat different opinion on this observation, a point of view derived from having lived as a transwoman full-time, post-transition, since June 2016. It's actually been a little longer than that, as I started shopping for groceries and clothes, and going to movies and restaurants, in full femme mode in March 2016, right after the River City Gems "Femme Friday" dinner that month. I left that event wearing a knit skirt, a very pretty knit blouse, 3" espadrille sandals, and a medium length wig; on the way home, I stopped at a Wal-Mart and spent two hours wandering the store, so deep in the Pink Fog that it's amazing I didn't drown. This was my first time alone in public, en femme, and no one looked askance at me, and the cashier actually complimented my nails, which I had just had done - a full set of acrylics - that afternoon. If you have read my other blog posts here on T-Central, you might know that I am in no way "passable": I'm 6'-2" tall in flats, I weigh 300 pounds, and I have an unmistakably male baritone voice. There's nothing I can do to change any of my physical attributes (except that I could lose the excess weight, of course). But I would still be too tall, too broad-shouldered, and just overall too "bulky" to ever pass as a born-female woman. Yet I have to live every day as I am, and interact with strangers at every turn, every time I go anywhere or do anything in public. I hardly ever get mis-gendered, and when I do, it's usually by someone with an obviously foreign accent, and I assume that they are from a country, or culture, in which gender pronouns are different ot not as clearly defined as they are in American English. Anyway, when I do get mis-gendered under these circumstances, it usually doesn't feel malicious or trans-phobic.
The point I am trying to make is that I disagree somewhat with the statement quoted above, in that I don't think that most strangers observing me are clocking me as trans, or as a "man in a dress". And even the ones that do seem more likely to simply ignore the fact that I am trans as irrelevant - most people, at least adults, are far too busy with their own concerns to bother with harassing strangers, even transgender ones. In these three years that I have been living full-time as a (trans)woman, every time that I have been clocked, and the person clocking me has actually approached me, it has been to share something nice; often, they have a family member or friend who is trans, or I get complimented on my nails or my outfit, or they ask where I bought my handbag. These are positive interactions in other words, and not sneers, ugly laughs, or trans-phobic insults or threats. Men hold doors open for me all the time, and when I drop in at Lane Bryant or Torrid to look at the latest offerings, I get treated exactly the same as any other customer. In fact, sometimes I get the impression that the sales associates at these stores are in fact clocking me as trans, and they then go out of their way to make me feel extra-welcome in their stores.
I've been saying this for years, but it bears repeating: you don't have to be afraid to go out in public presenting as a woman. At least here, in Sacramento, California, it's safe enough. I wouldn't do something patently stupid like shoving my way into a biker bar and shouting "I'm transgender! Anyone here got an issue with that?". But if you just dress conservatively and in age-appropriate fashion, you can have a wonderful time being trans-femme in public. I do suggest the following steps:
1. You've got to shave off or cover up obvious body hair. You can't go out en femme, in public, your arms and legs looking like you borrowed them from a grizzly bear, and with a dense forest of chest hair peeking up through the neckline of your clothing, and expect this to be ignored. If you have a lot of arm hair, you have to at least wear long sleeves. I'm aware that, for many of you, shaving off body hair is not something you can do, for a variety of reasons, but you have to at least make sure it isn't showing.
2. Go easy on the makeup if you are past age 50. If you look around at random cis-women, for example at a shopping mall or supermarket, you won't see many older women wearing glam makeup to a casual dinner or to go to a movie or grocery shopping.
3. For heaven's sake, if you are past age 30. no mini skirts. If you wear a dress or a skirt, it should at least be knee-length, or mid-calf if you can stand to wear a skirt that long in this hot summer weather.
4. Try for the middle ground on your breast form sizing: a "C" cup. Huge breast forms will draw attention to you, and you want to be as unremarkable as possible if you are trying to avoid being clocked. I rarely wear forms at all anymore, even though I am only an "A" cup and unlikely to ever grow any more at my age, no matter how much estradiol I take. I hardly have any boobs at all, which is not typical for a woman with my body mass index, but I figure I am less noticeable this way than if I wore my size 14 "D" cup forms. And it's a lot more comfortable - breast forms in summer weather are miserably hot and sweaty.
5. Overly long or unnaturally "bright" colored wigs draw attention to you. Most women over 50 wear their hair no more than shoulder length. Save the long, beautiful hair for major holiday events like Christmas parties . If your wig says age "25" but a close look at your face or hands says "60", you're going to get clocked if you haven't already been.
6. Less jewelry is better than a lot. If you should happen to fall into a swimming pool, you probably don't want to be so loaded down with necklaces and bracelets that you get dragged to the bottom and drowned.
7. Most important of all: Attitude. You must believe in yourself, and that you have every right to be out in public en femme. It is my personal belief that, whether you are part-time, as are most of the River City Gems members, or full-time like myself, we are all equally transgender women. I can't figure any other explanation for why we all do what we are doing, i.e., going to Gems events or Trans-Pride festivals in the first place, dressed in women's clothing, and wearing wigs, makeup, and breast forms, and taking up women's names. I submit that there is something in every one of us, an "inner girl" if you will, that has been crying for release since we were kids, or you probably wouldn't be reading this, and I wouldn't have written it in the first place. So own it! Own it fully and be happy with who you are. Put on your girl clothes and go out to lunch at a favorite restaurant, then head for the Mall and browse to your heart's content. Go to Lane Bryant and ask for a bra fitting. The sales associate is going to know you are trans, and SHE WON'T CARE! She will respect that you are in her store asking for help, and she will respect you for having the courage to be there. Go into Torrid and pick out a cute bathing suit and try it on. At 5:00pm, head for a restaurant and have dinner, then a movie. If you are too apprehensive to try this yourself, alone, put together a GNO, and go out with some friends.
Owning yourself is to accept that your identity as a (trans)woman is just as valid as her identity as a cis-women is to any woman born "assigned female". Your womanhood is just as valid even if it's only a few hours a month that you can indulge it. Owning and accepting this will induce the change in attitude I'm taking about here: you will cease to be apprehensive. You'll relax and enjoy your girl time fully. You'll walk tall and proud to be who you are. You'll actively seek out store clerks, and ask for that bra fitting with a sparkle in your eye and a smile of happy anticipation on your face. You will come to regard nail salon appointments as all-too-brief periods of ultimate relaxation and fun, even if you can only indulge in them a couple times a year.
You have absolutely no obligation to feel guilty or like an object of ridicule when you go out in public presenting as a woman. I submit that "Transwomen are women, full stop". A lot of people would argue with me on this point, especially if the disagreement involves part-time vs full-time life, but I believe that whatever it was that led us all to cross-dressing in the first place is the same thing, whether an individual part-time CD does or does not eventually transition. For some of us, gender dysphoria was more severe than for others, and if our circumstances allowed it, we transitioned if that was the only thing we could do to find peace and happiness in our lives. Most part-time CD's won't ever be driven to transition, thanks to having deep emotional support from their spouses and other family members. But that we are all the same in our gender identity as transwomen, or as bi-gender in the case of a few of you, at some level, I have no doubt. Your happiness is important in the end, and it affects every aspect of your life. Unhappy people suffer more illnesses, are less productive at work, their marriages don't work as well as they might, their kids suffer too, and in this small area of life, I am trying to put it out there that you don't have to be unhappy. You can indulge your inner girl out in public a few hours a month, safely. You've only got this one life, and if for some unknown reason your body anatomy, your spirit, and your gender identity don't all synchronize perfectly, that's nothing to be ashamed of. It isn't "your fault" or "your choice" that you were born transgender, and no one should want you to have to suffer for it. I think that in some ways, being transgender is an extraordinary gift; born as males, we are being given a glimpse into both the external and internal lives of "the other half" (the "better half"?). So be yourself in joy. And by all means, try on a really cute one-piece women's bathing suit sometime, if you haven't already; they feel really nice. If being a transwoman is to have a soul made from a framework of rats and snails and puppy-dog tails, with an admixture of sugar, spice, and everything nice layered on top of it, like sheetrock on 2x4's in the walls of your house, then so be it. Live in joy however you can, and take pride in being fully who you are, in every aspect of your life.
Hugs!
Laura-Ann Charlot
Yesterday was the first day I wore a dress to Sunday Mass. Normally I
wear a top and a skirt or pants because dresses can be hit or miss for
tall women. If it rides up above my knees I spend a good chunk of my day
pulling it down. It drives me nuts:)
This is a style post, as in what outfit goes best with your body. It's not a a blog about wearing a dress to Sunday Mass, although I'd like to hear more about that. I do love that Joanna can be comfortable attending Mass as herself.
I am
unaware of anyone in my era, whose parents allowed the son to explore
his femininity. E.g. took him shopping, went to the prom, or spent the
summer as a girl. Lovely as they are, these beautiful fantasy stories are just what they are - fantasy. If
anything like that happened to you, please share. I am sure many would
love to hear about your positive real-life cross gender experience as a
child/teen.
Rhonda did this post a few weeks ago. I wanted to wait for the comments and then feature it. There are a few nice comments, including one addressing Rhonda's "fantasy" question.
We need to understand these LGBTQ kids, respect them, and make ways for them to belong just as they are. They’ve been around since the beginning of human existence. And I’d say they make up at least 20 percent of our population.
Julie's post is full of statistics and makes for interesting reading.
It's that time of the year where I start missing my teenage years,
nevermind the fact that was the moment my life went to shit, the
beginning of the end. And it makes me remember this blog, I haven't
updated in a while so I figure I'd make a quick post.
Here's an update from Siul, a Brazilian TS blogger since 2011, who hasn't posted in over a year.
Gender reassignment surgery, or whatever you want to call it, is
certainly not touted by the professionals as an easy or straightforward
procedure and it takes a lot of genuine effort on all sides to get to
the point when surgery is offered. I have always felt that surgery
promoters in the trans community can be very irresponsible in the way
they suggest it is a solution to dysphoria and a panacea for lots of
other life problems that trans people experience. This surgery is a
serious deal. But the number of times it goes wrong is disturbing me. I
no longer believe that I have unlucky friends but that there is a
fundamental problem with the surgery itself.
I believe Sue's comments in this post refer to her friends who have had surgery in the UK. I must say that I know many in the USA who have had male-to-female GCS and, although virtually all of them have had minor issues, all of those I know have come out OK, once past the period of healing, nerve regrowth, etc. Nevertheless, if you're planning this surgery, it's good to read everything you can get your hands on, and that includes, So you still want that surgery?
If your audience is inclined to be sympathetic with trans people, you
can claim to be too- but only in theory, never in practice. You do not
oppose the decent transsexuals, you say, the ones who want no trouble;
but you claim that any actual trans woman is not truly transsexual. You
say they have autogynephilia, and ignore the fact that theory is
discredited. You claim they have penises, though most trans women want
surgery. Insist that they are all men.
Sad, but pretty true. A good post, from Clare.
I simply cannot imagine a life as Kandi without volunteering. If this
option were not available, Kandi would either be an alcoholic or she
would not exist and I would be a fat, slob drunk. No question.
Service and non-profit organizations are always looking volunteers, so why not volunteer and do it in girl mode, says Kandi. It works for her and she's had no issues. Read more at, It’s Show Time or No Time.
I was in my early thirties when we started to date and I knew who I was,
I knew this was not a phase, I knew I was not going to outgrow this
side of me. I believe in full disclosure in relationships and it was
only fair that she knew everything about me. It also stressed me out
keeping something, especially this, from her. I knew that this was
sometimes a deal-breaker in relationships and she needed to know as soon
as possible.
What an excellent blog post, from Hannah. This is one of those that I like to call a "must-read". Doesn't matter where you are in the "spectrum", if you have a girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, partner, or whatever, you need to read this post.
Oh My God! Did I just endure a forty five minute cab ride with a half blind driver?
There must be more to the story, right? It's just a very short post, but check it out.
Today's a big day for me! Today I cross the threshold.
Yes, today is a huge day for Faith. Read Milestones and Frustrations for the whole story and then take a minute to drop her a congrats.
I remember my first PRIDE, my introduction to an LGBT world that until
that point was totally foreign to me. I remember the early shame. But
the thing I remember most was getting to a point where I just didn't
care. I was living my life on my own terms and couldn't afford to let
the judgement of others dictate how that would play out. That focused
mindset is as true now as it was then.
Gosh, Donna's been blogging for a long time now......for nearly 10 years, and I've followed her blog for much of those 10 years. In this post, she reminisces a bit about the early days of coming out trans, but also talks about her pretty normal routine now, as a post-op.
As I sat in the car afterwards trying to figure out what happened, I
cried. Is this really what she thinks of me? Is it what they all think
of me? How do I tell Katie the space we both thought was safe isn’t
anymore? Do I tell her this and ruin her perception of the safe space?
The author of this blog is the wonderful spouse of a transgender woman. Blogs like these always hit me hard. As I've written in my own blog, I'm all about love and marriage and staying the course without transitioning. As a result, I always relate to the blogs listed on T-Central that are authored by the spouses and partners of those who are trans.
So, what upset her so much to create such shame? You'll have to read the post to find out. After that, go to her first post, An Introduction: The Outing. You may also want to check out her resources page.
If you are like me, then there is nothing quite like the joy of
anticipation that comes from pre-ordering a book that speaks to your
heart, and then having it arrive days, weeks, or months later . . . like
a little present to yourself. There is just something special about a
book you have waited for.
From drag to crossdressing to transitioning, Sally has reviews of new books from across the spectrum.
I also wanted to share this drawing that my daughter M. made (She gave me permission to share it with you, by the way. I think
she’s pretty proud of it.)
Want to read "feel-good" post? You'll love this one.
One of the questions at last night's transgender - cross dresser support
group meeting was what was your earliest remembrances of obtaining any
information at all concerning your gender differences.
I'm sure that most of us connect with one or more of the very few publicized early transitioners and/or crossdressers. Go to Transgender History to find Cyrsti's "connection".
The other day the Every Lovely Mrs J sent me a link around How to be an Ally to Trans People (link here
if you're curious), bless her. We had a bit of a chat - and a few
laughs about the training we'd had over the years - some good, some
great, some that *ahem* might need a spot of improvement.
Since many significant others, associated with those who are trans, read T-Central, I thought I'd note Lynn's recent post, which links to an article on the Vice TV Network website (great channel, btw, for those of you who can receive it). The article is titled 100 Easy Ways to Make the World Better for Trans People and includes, among a lot of other subjects, some discussion on the politically incorrect questions that those who are trans sometimes get asked.
In addition to this link, and just for fun, Lynn wrote up her own list of politically incorrect questions, if turned around, asked by trans folks and directed to those who are cis. Here's an example:
Are they real? [points to top] I mean, they look pretty real. Can I touch one?
It's all in Lynn's post, Just for Fun.
I was very undecided whether I should go or not because my invitation
came with my deadname and since everyone knew that I had transitioned I
wondered if it was a slight.
Was it a slight? Well, you will just have to go to Diana's 70th Birthday Reunion to find out. Oh, and be sure to read her "observations" at the end of the post.
I’m
sitting in front of the big portrait mirror, watching the incremental
improvement in my hair under the expert scissors of my lesbian
hairdresser. I can talk comfortably about my partner – and hers – and
indeed about being trans. I told her early on, half presuming it was
already obvious from my thin hair on top, my characteristic hairline,
and to signal that I was OK to be identified.
This is such a well written and easy to read blog post, from Andi. Most of it is just relating a conversation with her hairdresser, but do read it to the end. You don't want to miss her chat with a homeless girl on the street.
On the subject of flying pretty, airport security is pretty much aware
of the existence of transgendered people these days and had no problems
at all with me. I do carry a self made "identity challenge" set of
photographs in where I hold my passport using my both appearances, and
if that doesn't work, there sits a time-lapse on my phone showing how I
go from one appearance to the other. I both didn't need them, and hotel
reception was also totally cool with it. My only worry was about the
body scanners at Schiphol, but that also checked out just fine. Iceland
being a Shengen destination also helps I guess.
I don't believe I (or any of the current or former TC Admins) have ever featured a post from Mireille, who's been blogging for 10 years. Mireille's current post, Reacquainting people at the RIPE meeting, talks about traveling en femme while attending an internet service providers convention in Iceland. In this post, she writes about the journey and the like-minded friends she met while there.
While browsing her blog, I found a nice post titled, Defense mechanisms..., written almost 10 years ago, where she writes about coming out to her brother. Her posts are easy reading and include lots of photos.
Good news is that my wife does not mind that I go out as a woman. While
discussing the matter, though, she has asked, "Aren't you afraid of
being seen by the neighbors?"
You already know the answer, right? Read what Stana has to say about neighbors!
A sitcom might say the word ‘transgender’, but translated that category
to deception, freakishness, and revulsion. A newspaper feature would
describe a person as ‘transsexual’ but make it clear that they would
forever be the sex/gender they were assigned at birth, and all the rest
was delusion and mutilation.
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So it was not just that a woman assigned male at birth should be
prevented from living her life as she saw fit, but that ‘he’ should be
made culturally legible again, and categorised as a sinner.
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When I finally found those key words for myself, the histories they
unlocked did not present these past lives as they were lived, but
instead upheld and promoted the authors’ gendered beliefs. All people
assigned female at birth who lived as men – no matter how much they
insisted they were men – were described as lesbians.
CN Lester has written a brilliant essay: A Future Without a Past - trans history, erasure, and possibilities. A few excerpts, above, should wet your appetite for more.
Go to A Gentleman and a Scholar for the link.
The Fog: know your escape routes and beware the Pink
Fog. If you can't dress up, are there things you can do to turn the
volume down a bit? Paint your toes, play a video game as a female
character, bake/cook, paint, go cycling, take a long walk, etc. Anything
to help keep you from being drawn into the Pink Fog and losing yourself
in there. Maybe you get Friday Nights to be Fabulous: if so, great for
you, but don't let it take over if you can. Remember to enjoy what you
have, try not to go nuts with the freedom you've got.
It's yet another great post from Yet Another T-Girl's Blog! The Fog, is just one of 10 suggestions Lynn includes in this post for those just now coming out.
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How do you deal with waking up each day with a body that you have so much
hate towards and a physical appearance that you obsess over how vile it is.
Hav...
1 week ago
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We’ve got five minutes…
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He wanted me though and, as he waxed me, made occasional comments about his
hardened state, moving the hand that was nearest to him to touch for me to
find...
1 week ago
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Georgia Queen
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May I present: From our recent travels, a picture taken in Savannah, GA. We
had a fun ride, and the lunch from thee snack bar was actually decent! Mandy
1 week ago
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Weekend trip crossdressed: lunch and departure!
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After the visit to the “Kunstmuseum” on Sunday morning, Franziska was about
to look for a restaurant to have lunch, when she heard a very familiar and
ve...
1 week ago
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Transandrophobia: we need to ditch this word now
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Where transmisogyny was a clarifying word that helped us understand
something about the specific attack on trans women, transandrophobia is a
muddying word...
2 weeks ago
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Las Vegas 2023
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I had a lot of high hopes for this trip. The last trip I went on ended
abruptly after I got COVID before I could even dress up – that was ten
months ago....
2 weeks ago
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The Monday Ritual
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It's Monday morning, and I've just completed a ritual that has been part of
my weekly routine since January 2019. I've refilled my Parker 51 fountain
pen. ...
3 weeks ago
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Skirts and Boots.
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So I went to my niece's wedding as planned. Here we both are:
Obviously she wins in the fashion stakes there. And it's very nice to see
her looking so happ...
3 weeks ago
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Lesbian refugees in Kenya teach us that the fight against homophobia and transphobia is a global struggle
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*Nakafeero Swabulah and her lesbian activists in the Kakuma refugee camp in
Kenya teach us that pro-LGBTQA rights activists face similar challenges all
o...
3 weeks ago
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So… How did it go?
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Well, all in all my hair appointment went about as well and as badly as I
expected. I wore some stretchy jeans and a flattering top to make sure I
was comf...
3 weeks ago
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Tennis Anyone?
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Image Courtesy Renith R
on UnSplash
Years ago I felt the need to attempt to copy many of the most popular
feminine mannerisms and/or activities I could f...
3 weeks ago
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Tennis Anyone?
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Image Courtesy Renith R
on UnSplash
Years ago I felt the need to attempt to copy many of the most popular
feminine mannerisms and/or activities I could f...
3 weeks ago
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Kind of Curiosity
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“I’ve got to get stuff from the garage and the boots so we can clear the
table” I heard him say from behind the garden fence.“Oh, that’s ok. Go sort
it out...
4 weeks ago
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Forced feminisation photos
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I imagine there’s going to be a ton of disappointed people suckered in by
the title of this entry… This year I celebrate 40 years of crossdressing
and HOLY...
4 weeks ago
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Look! There’s a groomer! And one over there!
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Years ago, a country had a huge edifice of learning called the Institute
for Sexual Science. The primary topic they discussed was being transgender
– why p...
4 weeks ago
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[Fashion] An Accidental Damsel in De-Stress
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So, I’ve had a craptastic couple of weeks. Sure, the world is bloody awful,
everything is getting so expensive and we’re one megolomaniac’s bad day
away fr...
4 weeks ago
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Montana-hang your head
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Montana legislature.... what are you thinking? Well, it's clear you're not
thinking. You have elected to attempt to tell people who they are, and who
th...
5 weeks ago
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Birth Control and Trans
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I recently received a question, via email, from a young person about birth
control. “I am a 17 year old closeted trans guy who is looking for ways to
mitig...
5 weeks ago
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Tales from the driver’s seat
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As I approach my seventy-ninth birthday, I’m looking back and wondering
“with all the stuff I did, how am I still around?”. No, I remember Arthur C
Clarke’...
5 weeks ago
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Trans Health Under Siege in the 2020s
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Here we have another example of politicians who are sure they know better
than Medical Associations or parents of children who are living with
dysphoria. "...
1 month ago
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April 2023 - It has been a while - Part One
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It has been a few months since my last update, in fact it was last year,
almost five months ago. Strangely it has not been done on purpose, just how
life...
1 month ago
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Manchester Gold!
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This weekend I will be travelling again ~ I seem to have been doing quite a
bit of that recently with a trip to Paris a few weeks ago, then after that
a ...
1 month ago
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Transgender Art
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A new online artwork exploring a personal archive of a trans life will
launch on Saturday 1st April.
Mandy Romero is a creative artist and transgender ...
1 month ago
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A Year Later
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I guess it's time. No time like the present, they say.
A year ago today, I experienced my last real feminine day. I wrote about it
in Wednesday on Saturd...
1 month ago
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New & Improved!
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Kandi’s Land has been significantly upgraded. Check it out!
2 months ago
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Trans Day of Visibility
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After a period of invisibly, no particular reason, pure laziness.... Its
trans day of visibility, your favorite passing fad of the kids who will
move on t...
2 months ago
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Transgender Day of Visibility 2023
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If a picture is worth a thousand words, than how much value is there to a
video lasting more than fourteen minutes? It has been some time since I
last p...
2 months ago
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March 31, 2023 - International Trans Day of Visibility - St. John's Event 12.15 pm out from of the Rooms
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Friday March 31, 2023 is the 15th annual International Trans Day of
Visibility.
Recent events in Nashville USA have caused a global backlash of threats a...
2 months ago
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more evidence that Lisa Marchiano invented "transgender social contagion"
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cover image for my recent Medium post
about Lisa MarchianoIn February 2019, on this very blog, I published *Origins
of “Social Contagion” and “Rapid Onset...
2 months ago
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From The Other Side (Facebook boy-mode)
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(Posted earlier today on the boy Facebook account) Dispatch from the other
side, which I’m more active on. Like I said, take your time exploring.
Latest ac...
2 months ago
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Ten years on testosterone (and also off, on, back off/on, etc.)
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Prior to finally trying testosterone, ten years ago today, I was stressing
so hard about whether to do it or not. Perseverating for years, really. If
I cou...
2 months ago
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Album Review: Anna Secret Poet- Shoutin’ Into The Void
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“You can learn a lot from dead things “, Anna Secret Poet sings in ‘Dead
Things’, “including how to live”. This is a very Anna line: seemingly
throwaway, b...
2 months ago
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What Do The Wives Think of Us?
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This article, going way back to 2002, is still relevant today if not more
so. It was written before the gender identity explosion. It came up in a
conversa...
2 months ago
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It's Now or Never
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Thank you for the emails and your comments here checking to see if I'm
okay. Well I thought I was, until certain things happened that caused me to
get dep...
2 months ago
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I am valuable just by existing
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I just had the most amazing EMDR therapy session that I have to gush about!
One of the strongest messages that I’ve gotten through my early life is
that my...
2 months ago
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My response to the IPSO "Consultation" about its draft "guidance" about the media.
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* The IPSO "consultation" is, of course not a consultation since it attempt
to phrase its questions in such a way that the core assumptions and issues
...
3 months ago
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Out and About - My Regular Escapades En-Fem
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I, like many other TG’s, enjoy days out en-fem and often visit TG support
groups and TG events, but also get to visit national trust properties with
my...
3 months ago
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What’s going on with Justin Cascio: January 2023
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An instructional genealogy series, speaking engagements, and where I'm
writing about health and Mafia families in 2022 and 2023. Continue reading →
4 months ago
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You Otto Learn To Let Things Go
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God, I haven’t been here in so long. Not really sure where to start. Let’s
start with buried emotions. Not that I even knew they were six feet under.
I had...
5 months ago
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Maddie on the Move
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“Let’s go on a road trip” is the best six words you can say to me. It’s no
secret I love driving. I think it all started when I was a baby. My parents
used...
5 months ago
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ferm living glas
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*Glass & Mirrors – ferm LIVING*. WebGlass & Mirrors. We use a broad range
of types of glass in our collection. We use soda lime glass for glass
tablewar...
5 months ago
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Radio Silence
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It’s been a while since I have been around, no real presence on social
media, and not even window shopping for anything femme. Generally, by this
time, I w...
6 months ago
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Ponytail5
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You might only see 4 as the 1st on is hidden. I am posting this now so I
can link it to reddit. I have to say since Stephie came four years ago, I
have bee...
6 months ago
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Some Simple Questions
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The topic of JK Rowlings transphobia trundles on mainly because she
continues to be bigoted and hateful towards trans people. For anyone that
does suppo...
6 months ago
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Do I really need these Gold Heels?
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When my Dad told me he was giving me cash for my Christmas present this
year I had already made my mind up that I did indeed need the gold heels
below and...
6 months ago
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Mischief Night and Turnip Lanterns
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BRING BACK THE BRITISH TURNIP LANTERN! A long time ago, (oh well; the 60's
and 70's) children in the West Riding made Turnip Lanterns and most of us
kids h...
7 months ago
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Flygirl
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Thanks to those lovely folks at Clumsy Cabaret and Tiny Rebel Cardiff I
have danced nearly my entire repertoire of burlesque routines this year,
more than ...
7 months ago
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A Month of Freedom
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Hey, I hope you're all doing OK lovelies. x
So for about the last month my partner had to go away. Can you guess what I
got up to while she was gone? ;)
...
7 months ago
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As good a time as any
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This might be as good a time as any to stop since the beginning of another
chapter of my life seems like a duly appropriate milestone. I can now say
with...
8 months ago
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Hi everyone, just wanted to let you all know that someone has stolen some
of my pictures to use as their own on Trace and possibly other places. I do
not...
9 months ago
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Fairy doors and other encounters
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A long time ago, long enough that I've forgotten where I wrote about it,
when I first started going out and exploring the outside world as Susie
back aro...
9 months ago
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That Letter To My Wife
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Thanks for the mail I received from my last blog. It’s amazing how up
lifting your messages of support are to me. THEY DO MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
Thank you. ...
9 months ago
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Cats, Dogs, Walruses and a Bit of Sex
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I've always been a bit antisocial, preferring the company of animals, even
though I've never possessed a pet, and with my ecological background I am
sens...
9 months ago
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Windows: The Stash, The Dream and The Wardrobe
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ver the years I have, apart from going
on about my stockings, nails and heels, mentioned more than once my
frustration about having my Stash in boxes i...
10 months ago
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My New Novel Disgusta is Here!
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*Available now in print and electronic formats!*
10 months ago
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Thanksgiving
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Trigger warning! This post speaks bluntly about my grandchildren getting
hurt in an accident. It is not happy and uplifting. If you have horrible
me...
11 months ago
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Taking a Break
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I have been writing for a long time. I even won an award for writing when I
wrote for World Wide Hippies. Unfortunately, I am not in a good place. I
lost m...
11 months ago
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Intersectionality – Do you know what it is.
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Do you know about this? Do you know how it fits in your life? I know right
now in the […]
11 months ago
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Space Elevator
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The white body I wear is mine, but ill-fitting and not me. A phantom body
that is also mine and is me rides within like a ghost, teasing my brain
with each...
1 year ago
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#biologicaltrans
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If there is one thing that gender-critical or anti-trans people do not
understand, it is biology. If there is one thing that they and the
anti-woke culture...
1 year ago
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...and then some time passed
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Hard to believe that its been 7 years since my last posting. I've been
busy.
Since I last posted, several positive events have happened with a multitud...
1 year ago
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Ten Years Later…..
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When I posted about my journey as a transgender football fan last May, I
never pictured that I wouldn’t write anything for nearly a year. There has
been pl...
1 year ago
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Hygienic Hijinks
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I can’t even imagine what someone might imagine I’d be talking about with
such a title in this context… What I do want to talk about is a little bit
of an ...
1 year ago
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A Tale of Two Court Cases
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It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. I’d love to know just
what gets into the minds of Scotland’s judiciary, when they can make two
judgeme...
1 year ago
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Love again.
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She looked and could not find what her heart was missing. Forgetting what
it was like to touch another Gave up the search, thinking she is cursed
Disadvant...
1 year ago
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Purse
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I had it for years. Sandy colour with shiny silver embroidered brand logo
on the face. A single popper to keep it shut and a zip down the edge for
coins. I...
1 year ago
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Matt Walsh & Piers Morgan You Ain’t Trans Experts So Shut The Fuck Up!
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With the increasing inevitably of armed conflict in Ukraine, I’m sure
there’ll be an increasing frequency of barstool generals in Wetherspoons
pubs across ...
1 year ago
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Full Circle
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My blog and I go way back. Way, way, way back. I just peeked back at my
first post in my earliest blog. It was June 2004.
Back in those days blogs we...
1 year ago
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Times Square Was My Beat
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To correspond with my appearance in Crime Scene: The Time Square Killer
(streaming now on Netflix), I publish this article from my archives. It is
a far le...
1 year ago
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Shareable mantras for 2022.
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This past weekend, deconstructing Christmas became absolutely necessary.
More pine needles lay under my tree than remained on the branches. And
Saturday ...
1 year ago
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Stars. Needles. Poop. Plates. Wishes.
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Aside from (very) occasionally checking my horoscope, I am not big into
astrology. That being said, however, I do kinda believe in it and its
impact on us...
1 year ago
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It’s been almost 8 years.
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As someone who is on the neurodivergent spectrum, I often am faced with a
lot of challenges in my daily life and one of those happens to be time
blindness....
1 year ago
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Breasts are Awesome
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A talk about my shiny new cheat assets. Breasts I'm talking about my
breasts.
1 year ago
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I’ve moved the blog!
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Continue to https://schrodingerswardrobe.blogspot.com/ for further
infrequent ramblings!
1 year ago
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Confessions of a Bad Girl
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I did a bad thing. A very bad thing. I watched a YouTube video. I am a bad
girl. Let me explain. (Saffers please feel free to skip the next seven
paragraph...
1 year ago
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(20) One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest - 1975
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First of all, as I would suggest with all these movies, before reading this
review, see the movie if you haven't. I can't talk about this one without
spo...
1 year ago
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It’s a book!
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Dear friends, I just wanted to make sure you knew about my latest news: My
book! (It’s officially coming out in print tomorrow, and you can probably
find i...
1 year ago
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Solderer Of Fortune
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One Year After, and it's been a long year.
One year after what, you say? Last year I came back from the BornHack
hacker camp in Denmark, to find ...
1 year ago
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Magic morning [image: 🌄]
1 year ago
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What is “Hate Crime”?
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You have a few options if you live in Fife and need to report a hate crime.
You can report the incident directly to Police Scotland at Police Scotland
Onli...
1 year ago
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Jenna’s Journal - September 2021
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Normal 0 false false false false EN-GB X-NONE X-NONE
1 year ago
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Coming out of Covid-19 hibernation
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The Covid-19 pandemic has been tough for transgender people. Coming out of
lockdown means having to socially transition all over again.
The post Coming o...
1 year ago
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Another Brief Check In
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Hello all. I hope everyone is having a good summer. This is just (another)
brief post.
As I mentioned in my last post, it's been a difficult few months...
1 year ago
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Farewell
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I’ve been thinking hard about ending this blog and have decided it’s time.
When I first started this it was to leave testament of my coming out and
transit...
1 year ago
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Drifting...
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I'm drifting.
What is “drift”? According to Gretchen Rubin, drift is the decision you
make by not deciding, or by making a decision that unleashes c...
2 years ago
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Rainbow Reading: April 14
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Bite-sized reviews of the LGBTQ books I’ve read in the past week. All
titles are linked to their Goodreads page. Between April 7th and 13th, I
read: Stray ...
2 years ago
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One Year
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Yes, I've been on a one year sort of hiatus. Nothing big happened but just
got wrapped up in things. Will try and post more and start up again. No
chang...
2 years ago
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Why I Left Twitter
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in January of this year I took the difficult decision to leave Twitter. It
was necessary for my own mental health. Having reflected now for a couple
of mon...
2 years ago
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First pages of my book
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This excerpt is not formatted or proofread for publishing yet, but I am
excited to share it. Real progress on this telling of my life though is
exciting...
2 years ago
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Short Story: Gloom Dispelled
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“Who is she?” Tiriana asked. “Who are you talking about?” Virion asked in
return, deflecting his girlfriends question. “You know who I’m talking
about,” Ti...
2 years ago
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Happy 14th Birthday CJ!
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I blinked those tired, hurried, worried blinks of a mom and suddenly I’m
here. A mom with a nearly-18-year-old and a 14 year old. Yes. CJ is 14.
He’s 14 an...
2 years ago
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Help! Jane! Stop This Crazy Thing!! JAAANNNNEEEEE!!!
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Hey Buckaroos and Buckaritas.
I hope the world has been treating you nicely, as you deserve. Depending on
your current location of stomping grounds, Things...
2 years ago
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Reflections on 2020 (Taking Chances) and Looking ahead to 2021 (Making a positive difference)
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Hey Lovelies, It has been a really long time since my last post. Literally
a year! I haven’t written my reflections post in time, so half of this post
will...
2 years ago
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Merry Christmas
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Merry Christmas to one and all, may your day be filled with happiness and
joy. 😁 ❤️ BY FOR NOW
2 years ago
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House of Ill Repair
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*It may be years until the day*
*My dreams will match up with my pay.*
* "Mushaboom"*
* ...
2 years ago
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What is Transphobia?
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(TW/CW: Discussion of transphobia, discussion of paedophilia, brief mention
of rape counselling services.) Today I want to do a quick (by my standards
– on...
2 years ago
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On exceptionalism
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*The exceptional Jennifer Lawrence*
Sometimes I hold my hands out, palm upwards, in the manner of a
Pentecostalist awaiting the descent of the Holy Spirit...
2 years ago
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My Best Sex Ever Was With a Trans Woman
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Why Being Intimate with Your Transgender Lover Could Be the Best Experience
of Your Life Sexual encounters can happen in different ways and between
people ...
2 years ago
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The Love Story
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Before this last week, my most recent memory telling a story which caused
someone to cry was when Katie and I broke up. As we sat in therapy and I
asked th...
2 years ago
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Well, there you have it…
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Time flies doesn’t it? And again, perhaps it doesn’t? When I consider
that three years (today in fact) have passed since I went full time, it
seems lik...
2 years ago
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2020′ Blog addition
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I got a bit sidetracked by a move to my new high-rise in February to a
place all our own just Oscar and I! I’m grateful for my wonderful friends
Ben and Te...
2 years ago
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The last post
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The sun filters through the trees. The dappled shade keeping me cool as I
lay on the sun bed. Pain and discomfort slowly ebbing away as the pain
killers ki...
2 years ago
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Whinge with mother
-
Mick Jagger and his merry men called them ‘Mothers little helpers’. Sadly,
I am not a mother. Antidepressants I’m referring to. I have been popping
these f...
2 years ago
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Posting from the front
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Now that my dad has passed, things have started to settle down to a new
normal. My brother and I have been talking more often, and XGFJ no longer
posts ...
3 years ago
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Brick Wall
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I have not posted in a while. There is nothing exactly new in my gender
journey as the shelter at home orders have taken my Tanya time down to
zero. I'm ...
3 years ago
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It’s Still OK to Make Eye Contact During a Pandemic (video)
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An update and message of love from yours truly It’s a time that has most of
us practicing physical distancing to prevent the spread of a microscopic
and ...
3 years ago
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Transient life, transient humans
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We are transient – traveling from one state to another, and sometimes
combination of different states at once. Hello once again. Sharing this
blog with som...
3 years ago
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Like a dick pic that runs out of the room
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How’s that for click bait (or aversion therapy)? Read on, or not. I
understand. Obvious CW apply. My mate and I were sharing sexual awakening
stories, as y...
3 years ago
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From the waist upwards [Flickr]
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Sandra M. Lopes posted a photo:
[image: From the waist upwards]
Flattr me!
3 years ago
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Transitions: From My Heart to Yours
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On this day, seven years ago my world changed. I learned a new word;
transgender became part of my vocabulary. Along with that I learned about
the differen...
3 years ago
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New Year, Same Stef?
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I know it’s a bit belated, but Happy New Year! It’s finally 2020 and all I
can say is where the hell did all the time go? Didn’t Y2K just happen? When
did ...
3 years ago
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Sideways career
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Right... Second attempt at this post 😀
This is a bit of a long story, but rather than keep everything cryptic, and
saying it at the end I'm going to do it...
3 years ago
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Holding on
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“Is she going to die?” I ask the firefighter. It’s been 20 minutes
since I’ve dialed 911, my wife is lying collapsed on the living room floor
of our r...
3 years ago
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Time to Upgrade
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November 5th, 2010 - I began this blog. When I started out, I did what
many bloggers do, I headed to Blogger.com. It is a nice friendly platform
"back e...
3 years ago
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Inside Out
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Surface elements that reveal the core
Abide a moment, Dear Reader, while I reacquaint my fingers with the
keyboard. They (my fingers) are stumbling about ...
3 years ago
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I Miss 2012
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I was 16, it was the last year of high school. My school had two different
buildings in different parts of the city, the first had from kindergarten
to the...
3 years ago
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Transferring to a new Blog
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Due to circumstances beyond my control, I am forced to close down this blog
and open up a new one. Please visit my new blog, "Dotting I's and Crossing
T...
3 years ago
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Standing Up, Speaking Up, Moving Up
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It’s almost a year since I posted anything on this blog. Just a case of
real life taking over I suppose. During all the years when I was
desperately hopi...
3 years ago
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Working on a New Book
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Hi everyone! Excited to announce I am 21k words into writing my first
novel! It’s an adult vampire-lesbian action sci-fi thriller. Vampires!
Lesbians! Tran...
3 years ago
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September 2019 - New Mk 3 Blog commenced.
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I have not updated this blog for a while for many reasons but I have now
decided to commence Mark Three Blog of K.D.s life were you will now find it
here -...
3 years ago
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‘Modern Love’ essay: the gift that keeps giving
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The essay that keeps giving returns to the spotlight, in a manner of
speaking. Modern Love editor Daniel Jones has revised his compilation of
essays to coi...
3 years ago
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Lucy's thoughts - one year on
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Recently it was the 1 year anniversary of the Sunday Mirror article. So
much has happened in that year, personally for us and for Trans Radio UK.
As part o...
3 years ago
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I Am Female
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If you have been reading some or all of my blog, the title of this post
will seem a bit odd. From previous posts it should pretty obvious that I’m
a woman....
3 years ago
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Full Circle
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Felix stood at the edge of the clearing. Within it stood a small, homely
cottage. A simple sign on the door read “A Tailor’s Touch.” This is the
place, rig...
3 years ago
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Life as a Trans Opera Singer
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The National Opera Studio asked me what it was like, to be a trans opera
singer – and how we could all make our industry better. So I wrote them
this – I...
3 years ago
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Cold
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When everything is dark and the church gives no light, what should you do?
3 years ago
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A Smile That Could Light up a Room
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"I have a lot of questions for you. Do you have any for me?", I asked.
"Yes!", she said. "How do you do it? How have you kept yourself from
transitionin...
4 years ago
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I'M BAAAAAACCCKKKK!!!!!
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I AM BACK BIACHES!!!
HAHAHA!!!!!
Did y'all miss me?
I've had such a great, difficult, exhausting, confusing and wonderful few
years since I last posted.
...
4 years ago
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Easter Rising
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It’s been a few months since my last blogpost, and I felt today was a good
day to count my blessings. Tonight is the 3rd night of Passover, and the
day tha...
4 years ago
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The Southern Strategy Is Real
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The Southern Strategy is real and I have the proof – a PDF of a May 17,
1970 NY Times article where they interviewed Kevin Phillips, the man who
created th...
4 years ago
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Wow..so, where to start!?
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Its obviously been quite a while since I wrote here. Truth told, I had
almost forgotten about this page until I was listing relevant experience
for a magaz...
4 years ago
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Clearing Dad’s house
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When Dad died, it didn’t shock me — I’d been expecting it for a while. And
coping with his funeral was OK, too. But neither affected me so much as the
chor...
4 years ago
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What The Heck Is A Conservative Christian TG Gal?
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I use the phrase "conservative christian TG gal" to describe myself, but
wanted to clarify that phrase briefly in a blog post. The "conservative"
in my d...
4 years ago
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Afterword
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If you’re wondering where the rest of this blog has gone, I’m sorry to
disappoint but after hinting at it for a while, after reaching a particular
mileston...
4 years ago
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Sometimes
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Sometimes I look in the mirror To make sure I’m still there I trace the
scars That I made Five … More
4 years ago
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They Taught Me
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They taught me that I’m pretty. But I shouldn’t talk, because nobody will
listen. I shouldn’t try hard, because nobody will care. I shouldn’t cry,
because ...
4 years ago
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GRS – 3 Surgeries and One Beautiful Nightmare (Part 3/3)
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[Content warnings for graphic depictions/images of bodily functions,
surgery, suicide, mental illness, swearing] This is Part III of my little
tale about h...
4 years ago
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Detaching Myself from My Dysphoria
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The other day, I was trying to imagine how my life would be different if
I’d never suffered from gender dysphoria. The point wasn’t to create a
fantasy lif...
4 years ago
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Purging -- Part 2
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Last month I wrote about how I have emotional attachments to everything in
my closet. I'm thinking there are many others like me.
Occasionally I am asked...
4 years ago
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Notes for a sketch - thinking on Mermaids
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Small cafe, two middleaged women, A and B, sitting down at a table talking
in Northern English accents.
A - So whats been happening whilst I've been down So...
4 years ago
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2018 Review - Part 2
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Part 1 of my review of 2018 covered the goals I set myself. Part 2 deals
with all the other things that happened this year, and there has been quite
a bit ...
4 years ago
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Progress, slowly slowly.
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So things seem now to be heading in a scary but ultimately more positive
direction for me at last. After a recent discussion with my wife she now
seems to ...
4 years ago
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Nothing to Say...
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Just kidding. I have some stuff to say, my loyal readers.
I'm sorry I haven't kept up with this blog, but do you people really want
to know each week that ...
4 years ago
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see postings on facebook 11 17 2018
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i haven't posted anything in awhile mainly because i spend most of my
posting time on facebook.
so any of my followers can catch up on my postings there
4 years ago
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Time to Say Goodbye
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In honor of Samhain and Scorpio season, I’m making a decision to clear
something from my life that hasn’t really been active for a while. I’ll no
longer be...
4 years ago
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Life Update
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Where has this blog been? Where have I been? Where am I going?
4 years ago
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Ok, just to spout out an opinion and my understanding of UMBRELLAS.
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There often and lately seems to be a question of who is trans? Who is more
trans? Who suffers more? Who has it harder? Who is an ally and who is part
of th...
4 years ago
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Brighton
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So last Tuesday we took ourselves orf to spend a couple of days away and
stay with friends in Brighton. Well it got slightly extended and we came
home on S...
4 years ago
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UPDATE ON MY HEART AND MIND
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People have been asking me how things are going in our families journey in
the transgender world, but also my heart. Here is how my heart and soul
are fee...
4 years ago
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Turns Out I Was Right
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Seems the setbacks I deemed minor actually were minor. I’m down 1.2 lbs
from yesterday, and right back on track with where I was two days ago. I
could se...
4 years ago
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Review of The Fence by Lusty Soul
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At one time in my life — for most of it actually — I was a male of the
species. As I read this story by Lusty Soul, long forgotten memories of the
overpow...
4 years ago
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May You Find Peace
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I have made peace with myself, and can no longer in good faith leave or
recommend the content I once posted here. Those writings were my best
desperate ho...
4 years ago
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It’s been awhile
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Warning: this post is different. It talks about things that may make some
readers uncomfortable – especially ones that know me personally and in
parts it ...
4 years ago
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Panties – A Special Pleasure
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In our recent poll on lingerie that trans girls and crossdressers prefer,
panties tied for first place with 25% of the vote. I don’t profess to
having th...
4 years ago
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Profile: Alex
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You can call me… Alex I identify as… Gender-fluid/non-bianary As far as
third-person pronouns go, … they/them and female pronouns sometimes he/him
feels ri...
5 years ago
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This Ain’t About Jobs (10/20/17)
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Maybe you saw or heard about the memo put out by Attorney General Jeff
Sessions on October 4th that essentially ordered the Justice Department to
do a comp...
5 years ago
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Last indolent Spinster Almost Daily Report from DOXA 2018
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My last laconic lazy one take video chatting about the last couple days of
the festival DOXA 2018
5 years ago
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Finale
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Unfortunately, I am finding that this blog and my life is being used far
too often as a political football to promote various agendas and the actual
messag...
5 years ago
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Finale
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Unfortunately, I am finding that this blog and my life is being used far
too often as a political football to promote various agendas and the actual
messag...
5 years ago
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Interesting Article on CNN - Why girls can be boyish but boys can't be girlish
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One topic that I find fascination is the idea of shifting gender
stereotypes and how people, particularly "men" who enjoy trandtionally
"female" things, ar...
5 years ago
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one more cup of coffee
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TW The hustle for work continues, which is discouraging but necessary. I’m
having relationship issues, as all anyone wants to do is date. Decided
that’s ...
5 years ago
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This Week's Calogrenant
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Herder Grin
calogrenant.com
5 years ago
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Online competition redux
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Back in April 2016, I mentioned an online competition where I won a
voucher, which I used to buy a skirt and dress, both in size XL.
According to their si...
5 years ago
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Day 1,245: Moments Frozen in Time
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I have to admit, we had a pretty good run here at So There’s That. 21
podcast episodes and 32 blog posts over the course of a year. And a little
bit of n...
5 years ago
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Flying Solo in Vegas, Part 2
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While I was happy I had arrived at my hotel room without any problems, I
was tired, hungry, and a little sweaty from the journey. I was also behind
my pla...
5 years ago
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I wasn’t sure what my curtains are trying to tell me, but then I clued in…..
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40 Days till surgery. 😂😂😂😜 I’m really excited, somewhat petrified but
not of the actual procedure and the pain after, but of the stay in a
hospital. I ...
5 years ago
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What's in a Name?
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Many years ago, while the internet was still in its infancy, I started
looking to find out information from other transgender individuals. At that
time bul...
5 years ago
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Sunday November 19, 2017 - Finally
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I started this Journey in Feb/March of 2010, when after the early death of
some clients and friends , I decided at 54 years of age, it was now or
never.
B...
5 years ago
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Where is the Washing machine?
-
We were watching tele and caught the end of a who-dun-it. It involved the
death of a rugby coach and he was murdered for being a cross-dresser or
transgend...
5 years ago
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25 October Journal
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Well Folks, I am still working on my other post. I think it will be part of
the next book of my life, rather than the end of this one. I am closing
this bl...
5 years ago
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Fingernails
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little things aren't they, fingernails? Certainly nothing to get upset
about. But for me fingernails seem to have become the straw that broke the
camel's...
5 years ago
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Apples & Apples
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It was my second year at the Hendersonville Apple Festival in NC. The
previous year I went with my wife, we had a great time and enjoyed the day,
despit...
5 years ago
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The Penultimate Post
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It has been a while since I have blogged on here.... a long while. The
gaps between my blog posts have slowly widened as I have begun to find
myself, more...
5 years ago
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Excuse our dust, but we have moved!
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I have moved my blog over to a dedicated hosting provider, and we have
successfully migrated over to the WordPress platform. We have our own
domain name, a...
5 years ago
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On the Pride Center of the Capital Region, terfs, and Why Martha Harvey Needs to Resign
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CW: lots of swears, lots of terfs (A quick aside on the word terf because
I’m going to use it about a thousand times. It’s not a slur. Here’s a
doctor tell...
5 years ago
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Trying to reconnect with my children
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A lot has been written in the media about cis parents who grow to accept a
transgender child. Sadly, very little is available about the opposite
scenario ...
5 years ago
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That’s all folks……….
-
Between 1955 and 1959, 143 episodes of “The Adventures of Robin Hood”
emerged from a tiny studio in Walton on Thames and burst onto black and
white telli...
5 years ago
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That’s all folks……….
-
Between 1955 and 1959, 143 episodes of “The Adventures of Robin Hood”
emerged from a tiny studio in Walton on Thames and burst onto black and
white telli...
5 years ago
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ABC TV Cancels Downward Dog Show
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“Every Day my dog looks at me exactly the same way, like I’m the most
beautiful thing he’s ever seen. And, I just thought, what if we could see
ourselve...
5 years ago
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With Purpose
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The title of this post really highlights the way I’ve felt the last several
months and the experiences I’ve had the chance to take in. Since my last
updat...
5 years ago
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With Purpose
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The title of this post really highlights the way I’ve felt the last several
months and the experiences I’ve had the chance to take in. Since my last
updat...
5 years ago
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Transgender and LGBT++ Rights promised in UK Party Manifestos
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This piece is not written to influence how you vote in the general Election
on June 8th. it’s too late for that and in my humble opinion getting May
out of...
5 years ago
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Trans Twitter Gives Bad Dating Advice
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Trans Twitter Gives Bad Dating Advice — “You have much gold upon your
head,” They answer’d all together: “Buy from us with a golden curl.” —
Christina Ro...
5 years ago
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It has been a long time…
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since my last post. I’m still here. I am still battling with the trauma
of multiple surgeries, a disfiguring scar on my forearm, a devastating
betrayal f...
6 years ago
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I'll miss this platform
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But I don't think I'm going to keep using it. It's sad, because I've been
writing here for such a long time, and blogging for myself is therapeutic,
even i...
6 years ago
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Sex, Drugs and Southern Hospitality: An Interview with Sam Peterson
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Sam Peterson’s Trunky (Transgender Junky): A Memoir of Institutionalization
and Southern Hospitality is the rare book that’s formally experimental AND
impo...
6 years ago
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India Willoughby, transvestites deserve protection too
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Hi India, How are you? Years ago we used to frequent the same forum site
so even though we’ve never met, I view you with the same fondness I feel
for a...
6 years ago
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Thoughts and Updates
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I can't believe it's been almost a year since I've posted anything. Time
flies and we don't...
So...my marriage is still going strong. It's pretty much ...
6 years ago
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And happily ever after...
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Family snuggle timeI've retired from blogging. I've been channeling my
creative energy into other hobbies, and I'm feeling uninspired to write
about my wi...
6 years ago
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Questions related to the surgery
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As mentioned in my previous post i said i would post the questions i asked
the surgeon’s assistant. Also, this post is NSFW as there are some details
regar...
6 years ago
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We Need A “Standards of Care” for Detransitioners
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One of my biggest takeaways from attending the recent USPATH conference is
that many clinicians and other providers sincerely want more information on
unde...
6 years ago
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What I’m talking about
-
Ok so many of you will have seen this photo, absorbed and passed it by. I
just caught it on a video artical on the BBC website. Quite frankly I was
surpr...
6 years ago
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Watching When We Rise on ABC
-
I've been watching *When We Rise*, the four part miniseries on ABC about
the birth and development of the LGBT movement in America and the parts
played in ...
6 years ago
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The door is open
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One of the things that is true; and that I have been pondering, is
that when you come out, your family comes out. I mean; once I am full time,
then al...
6 years ago
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Trying Out A New Name
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I wrote just over a month ago about my anxieties about going away. It’s now
less than a week until I actually go which is really exciting. I’m pumped
to se...
6 years ago
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Stuck In The Middle Again
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How to start? I said long ago when I made my choice to back our new
President that when he did things I felt were wrong I would call him out on
it. Today i...
6 years ago
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New pics … at last!
-
Finally got some long overdue “girl-time” yesterday – first time for over 2
years. I really shouldn’t leave it so long because it isn’t good for my
genera...
6 years ago
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Why I'm so passionate about the issues of others.
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*It's been 2.5 years since I've posted. I said I would post if I had
something to say and today, I do. Please note the experience I write about
does not in...
6 years ago
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We Interrupt This Program
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After writing once a week for four years. I’ve finally decided is time to
switch things up and stop posting on schedule and only post when I feel
like it. ...
6 years ago
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Love and Loneliness
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*"I've looked at love from both sides now".... Joni Mitchell.*
Down on the seawall in my town, a few blocks from where I live, the benches
that look ...
6 years ago
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New Year, big changes.
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*Happy **New** Year!*
I begin the new year letting go of some important things. First up is the
pseudonym I have used for years. ‘Haust’ is gone, ...
6 years ago
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Questioning the Fluctuations
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This isn't the scribbling I intended (or promised) to note as I stated in
the last entry. However, it is part of my developing thoughts on this
future sub...
6 years ago
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Yuletide greetings.
-
*Soon be nobody left now that Leonard Cohen is gone too... Someone else who
had to deal with depression and his music soothed my troubled soul. Just
sad to...
6 years ago
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Victoria’s Secret – The Show
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Hey, so yesterday it was time for the amazing show. I haven’t seen the show
but I took a look at a lot of pictures and it seemed amazing and I can’t
wait t...
6 years ago
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Week 85:Top Surgery Update:The collage above starts at 8 days...
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*Week 85:*
*Top Surgery Update:*
The collage above starts at 8 days post-op (image bottom left) and then
clockwise shows my chest at 10 ...
6 years ago
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Heroes and Hope
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It’s times like these that make me feel the most hopeless. I haven’t always
been good at dealing with feelings like this. But when the future looks
bleak, ...
6 years ago
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Cultivation Corner Starting Seeds
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So you want to sprout those ganja seeds you found in your stash?
First off I want you to be sure that your grow space will be warm enough
for seed germinati...
6 years ago
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I am able to talk again
-
I am back on deck and I think more in control of myself than I have been
for quite some time. Will be making more additions to this blog as I go
along. The...
6 years ago
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Ringing the changes part 2
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So, my first post about how I changed my name with various organisations
was starting to get a bit long, so this is a continuation. The first can
be seen ...
6 years ago
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September 22 2016
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Thank you. Thank you for the last four years. Thank you for letting me
into your hearts, for letting me be a part of your day, for letting me
bounce my th...
6 years ago
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My response to a post by Tyler Charles Austen
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Dear Mr Austen, On 26th August 2016, you made a post on your eponymous
blog (that means you named it after yourself) called “I Can’t Believe I’m
Saying Th...
6 years ago
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Last Post
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So this is it. The last post I’ll make here (for the foreseeable future
anyway). I’ve moved my fitness adventures over to
http://transtriathlete.com and I’...
6 years ago
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A rediscovered poem
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I found this in my 2013 dream journal, from when I was still in the closet.
My dreams were born from above, not below, or if below, in the primal
ember ...
6 years ago
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This is goodbye (A happy one)
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This is going to be my last post on It’s ok to be a glow stick. I am sad to
be saying goodbye but my life has changed dramatically and sadly, there is
no r...
6 years ago
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Identity Crisis
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I have lost my identity.
I'm not sure if I'm still mom, wife, daughter or 911 dispatcher.
If I'm not any of the above, then who am I besides lost?
6 years ago
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Goodbye
-
It's been a couple of months since I last posted, despite my desire to do
an A-Z on the issues I find important. My absence was caused by many
things, but...
6 years ago
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The gym experience
-
My fitness in recent years has been something that I have felt has become
very important to me. I remember starting running back in the time when I
was dea...
6 years ago
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The Post-GRS Blues
-
On Twitter during the week, I joined in a conversation about Gender
Reassignment Surgery and general fears regarding such a huge operation.
Personally, GRS...
6 years ago
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Me...
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Realized I hadn't posted in a while. That will change starting with an
updated picture of me.
6 years ago
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A new audience
-
I am feeling a little humbled. I was asked last week at my college to talk
about transgender issues, to my college group of counsellors in training. I
star...
6 years ago
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A new audience
-
I am feeling a little humbled. I was asked last week at my college to talk
about transgender issues, to my college group of counsellors in training. I
star...
6 years ago
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Mid-Year Check In
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At the beginning of this year, I wrote a post about my love of new
beginnings and my resolutions for 2016. I was not too lofty in my goals; I
attempted to ...
6 years ago
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My Return and First Time Out… again
-
I’ve been trying to collect my thoughts the last few days. They have been
a jumble of emotions, mostly good. I haven’t felt this way in a long time
and f...
6 years ago
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Thoughts on the Orlando shooting
-
There is something surreal, in moments like this, about being a privileged
member of an oppressed minority. I can breeze through airport security
with whi...
6 years ago
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Honestly Geraldine, why do you need to crossdress?
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This is the very tentative first step by a somewhat bewildered ordinary man
who discovered that at sixty years of age, I needed to crossdress. I hope
to de...
7 years ago
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At work
-
It's definitely time for me to start thinking about when and how I'm going
to transition at work. Outside of work I'm now living as myself pretty much
full...
7 years ago
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The First Mothers’ Day
-
If last year we celebrated the last Father’s Day, this year we introduced
the first Mothers’ Day. And yes, the apostrophe is in the right place. I
admit to...
7 years ago
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On Being A Transwoman in a Bathroom
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To be perfectly honest, I am actually really surprised this is a topic that
presidential candidates are addressing. Seriously, it’s one thing for
people to...
7 years ago
-
Feeling Positive Again :)
-
I had been feeling really down about things over the last few months and I
know that my recent posts on here haven’t been very positive about my
situation....
7 years ago
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A good weekend
-
It’s been a good weekend. I actually feel pretty confident that I could
pass one day. I know that’s not the most important thing, but it matters a
lot to ...
7 years ago
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A good weekend
-
It’s been a good weekend. I actually feel pretty confident that I could
pass one day. I know that’s not the most important thing, but it matters a
lot to ...
7 years ago
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Goin' to North Carolina. Why Do I Feel Like A "Freedom Rider"?
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In NO WAY am I comparing what Transgender people are going through in North
Carolina to what Black Americans went through before and during the Civil
Right...
7 years ago
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My 100th post…
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This is my 100th post. I was hoping to make it a special one with a
description of another outing as Valerie, in my new modern “blending”
outfit. Unfortuna...
7 years ago
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Back
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Where is she? When is she coming back? What's happening in Tammy World?
These are all questions I've gotten over the last few months. Questions
shouted...
7 years ago
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Ghosts
-
So it has been almost a year since I last posted. It is not that I’ve had
a lack of things to write about, more of a case of writers block – finding
words...
7 years ago
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Not sure what to say..
-
I am not sure what to do, or what to say, depression is my only constant
“friend”, with me all the time, someone I hate, yet never hates me back.
Medical m...
7 years ago
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Back to the Stone Age.
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I think the song is fitting, It is not mine, the opinions on this page are
mine. In posting this video, I am in no way saying that this group believes
as I...
7 years ago
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Come Up to the Lab: My Gender Workshop
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Ever since Time Magazine proclaimed a “Transgender Tipping Point” a year
and a half ago, I’ve been exploring trans identities and expressions that
aren’t i...
7 years ago
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hiatus
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just wanted to let you all know that Will is doing fabulous in recovery
(tracking everything diligently on @journeyintomanhood) and in England for
his se...
7 years ago
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Reminder: Follow my new blog! This one is closing imminently
-
This is just a quick reminder, in case anyone who cares missed it the first
time, that GenderDrift is being turned into a private blog where it can
rest pe...
7 years ago
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Time to myself
-
Recently I have been lucky to have a few evenings to myself to let Jenny
out of the wardrobe. Most of these occasions have been just in my room as
usual, ...
7 years ago
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Being a Gender Critical woman born trans is a very lonely place to be
-
My understanding of gender critical theory is limited.
There's no reference text anywhere explaining it, and questioning GC
theorists on their own turf nev...
7 years ago
-
Blogging about it….
-
I started this blog because I wanted to help people in a similar situation
to me. I was younger and never proclaimed to have all the answers.
Sometimes the...
7 years ago
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Debunking Bathroom Myths
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*Debunking Bathroom Myths*
Original article by *Brynn Tannehill *can be viewed *Here*
*When the Houston Equal Rights Ordinance was defeated, the ostens...
7 years ago
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RUMBLED. BUT IT TURNS OUT TO THE GOOD
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As per usual on a Wed evening I make my way to the Butterfly Club support
premises to get my self ready to face the world. Nothing new in that. And
as per ...
7 years ago
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Caitlyn Jenner Speaks at Chicago House Event
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Caitlyn Jenner Speaks at Chicago House Event:
grvsmth:
sometranslady:
grvsmth:
sometranslady:
snowflakeespecial:
This isn’t a funny story. Trying on y...
7 years ago
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Postscript
-
I thought that my urge to blog had departed. It hasn't... but I do need to
move on. Angie's Aspirations — aka About Angie — was written from the
perspecti...
7 years ago
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Got A Little Beautified…
-
Not much here, but I went out for a bit of a day, treated by a couple of
friends, and had my brows waxed and got my hair done. Here’s the results.
I s...
7 years ago
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17 Months on T Update
-
17 Months on T Next week marks 17 months on T, nearly one and a half
years. I cannot believe I have not posted any update for 5 months, time
just really h...
7 years ago
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10 Ways to Destroy the Earth
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my mother died in this room now it is occupied by my nieces whenever they
sleep over a playroom i currently occupy it sleeping on the lower bunk of
their l...
7 years ago
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U want to be her!
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[image: U want to be her!]
7 years ago
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Become a girl
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[image: Become a girl]
7 years ago
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Still Here
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I realized last week that I hadn’t written a blog…or a Facebook post…or a
journal entry…or much of anything in five or six months. Part of me was
bothered ...
7 years ago
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5 months in
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*Continued**, from April 5th 2015*
5 months since the hospital I still don't know much about it.
Dissociative Identity Disorder.
My amnesia isn't just ha...
7 years ago
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Through The Looking Glass
-
I’m not sure exactly when it happened, but it did. That is, I stopped
considering myself “transitioning.” What does that mean, exactly? Am I
where I want t...
7 years ago
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*Hey!*
So... tomorrow school begins again.
This schoolyear I am planning to come out and start dressing, acting,
talking, etc. like a girl. Honestly, it's ...
7 years ago
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Been Sick
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Isn’t amazing? We tend to think we are the masters of the planet. Then, a
debilitating illness hits and we become subservient cry-babies. Something
crawl...
7 years ago
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Transition Is A Banquet
-
Transition is not a one-way street, or a bowling lane with the bumpers up.
Transition is not a recipe with precise measurements, or a fixed
curriculum, or ...
7 years ago
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It’s Inherent
-
The frequency and unexpectedness with which being transgendered asserts
itself is ever a source of amazement. Regardless of how deeply in
background one ma...
7 years ago
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This Rain
-
Originally posted on chester maynes:
Abruptly, water gushes from the sky. I hear the storm drops too loud. Wind
creeps cold on my skin. Thunder slits these ...
7 years ago
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Telling a Friend
-
I recently told a friend about Amy. I didn't go into many details or show
him pictures or anything, but it felt good to talk about and get a positive
reac...
7 years ago
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And Last
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I used that subject last week as well.
It happens. Click to enlarge (the cartoon not the imagination)This is a
hard post to organise and a hard post to wr...
7 years ago
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The world keeps on turning.
-
So I guess it’s time to get back into this blog of mine. I mean I’ve been
gone for so long and really it’s just time to start again. Since my last
real b...
7 years ago
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Why Bruce Jenner, Andreja Pejic and other Trans Celebrities Still Don’t Matter
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Recently there have been a number of celebrities that have come out to
announce that they define as transgender. For some of them it wasn’t a
shocker, for ...
8 years ago
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On Reconciling my Beliefs, Depression and Gender
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Howdy. Sorry it's been a while, I am simply the most infrequent blogger in
the world... I've been buried under piles of work for what seems like
forever, a...
8 years ago
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End game...
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So things didn't get better...I slipped further and last Tuesday I went to
my scheduled appointment...when she saw me the choices were go home for a
matter...
8 years ago
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Handbags & Glad Rags……….
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I always feel a bit rotten about writing a new post when I have so many
posts from others to …
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8 years ago
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Commenters and deep thoughts
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I would like to start by apologizing for the long break between posts. A
little thing called life intervenes and my writing suffers. Family, health,
work, ...
8 years ago
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Jenna Talackova, and the importance of transitioning when young
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I greatly admire Jenna Talackova, the beautiful, sexy, and courageous M2F
transgender model, beauty contestant, reality television star, and actress.
I ...
8 years ago
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Motorhead Girls
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Motorhead Girls ... we are girls who love cars, trucks, bikes, planes, and
boats. Anything with a motor. Maybe we love some of them, maybe we love all
of ...
8 years ago
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Shutting down
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I've decided that I am not, after all, the blogging type.
I never managed it in my other identity either, so I don't know why I
should be surprised.
So,...
8 years ago
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Dangerous Situation
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***** This post might be triggering ***** Something really scary happened
last evening. I was standing outside with a friend (who is also homeless
and we u...
8 years ago
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Saying goodbye
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I came to a turning point about 12 months ago when I read an article by
Mary Jacklyn Moss. In the article she talks about when her child
transitioned and h...
8 years ago
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Could it really be THAT easy?
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So, not going to get too excited here, but bear with me, kay? Last night, I
decided to talk to Phyl about her withdrawals and pulling away. I wanted to
try...
8 years ago
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One Year as Me!
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Dianne Piggott
10/30/2013
One year. Just one year. One entire year. All of one year. One circle of
the Earth around the Sun.
A year ago t...
8 years ago
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Cumberbatch and his offense offence
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Poor old Benny Cumberbatch…him and his big old posh, ex slave owning gob.
Actually I feel for the bloke. Trying to do his best for British actors of
colour...
8 years ago
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Coming out on Facebook.
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I have a relatively small number of friends on facebook, I keep it that
way, I don’t add anyone I meet. Everyone on my friends list is actually my
friend o...
8 years ago
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New Hair … :) Trying different looks :)
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So the new wig arrived… and figured a day off would be fitting to try it on
:) Here are a few pics… Ya short and sweet post … :P Peace and Love!
Tamara :)
8 years ago
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Transgender Q&A
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When it comes to the subject of transgender and the LGBT community, I think
that there are three different types of people. The first (and the fastest
gro...
8 years ago
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I is for Identity Politics
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Hello all. For my first post of 2015, I am going back to blogging through
ye old alphabet. Today I is for identity politics. Identity politics are
how ...
8 years ago
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Leelah, and all the others who struggle
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Happy New Year!
I'm so sorry I don't update regularly! I have been off school for a couple
weeks, so I have no good excuse, but I hope you all had a wonder...
8 years ago
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A New Christmas with family
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As anyone can expect the end of the year can bring surprises and lots of
joy to one's heart and soul. This year is really an exception for Kay and
I, as w...
8 years ago
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On the other side!
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It’s been a few days since I last posted on my blog, and for good reason.
Thursday, 11th December 2014 I finally had the surgery I had been waiting
so lon...
8 years ago
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Saying goodbye
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The time has come for me to say goodbye and put this blog to bed. I doubt
anyone reads it anymore, but I’m the type of person who likes closure, so I
gue...
8 years ago
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Xmas 2014
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I thought I should drop a post in, and wish everyone a happy Xmas.
If you should be reading this, and you are a Pagan like my son, or any of
the non-christ...
8 years ago
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11-18-2014 Entry: Pulling Back the Transgender Curtian
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Two days from now will be Transgender Day of Remembrance, which I am sad to
say that before this year, I knew nothing about. I just finished scrolling
thro...
8 years ago
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No Big Deal
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My daughter started high school last month.
The other night she told my wife and me that there's a transgender girl in
her homeroom. During the summer ...
8 years ago
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I finally legally exist!
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On July 1st, 2014 it finally happened. The law that made it impossible for
me and many others like me to change their gender on any official documents
drop...
8 years ago
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A Controversial Stance On The Word “Queer”
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Controversial new video about the use of the word queer in the LGBT
community.
8 years ago
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8 Steps on How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Immediately
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If you are trying to get your ex boyfriend back, but are fighting and get
no results, then you should know this is a common thing that tons of girls
go thr...
8 years ago
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Pigtails
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Last night as I was hugging Kegan good night, I started playing with her
hair and realized her hair is at that almost long enough to put into a
super short...
8 years ago
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She Returns
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Gee, that was a long time coming, wasn't it?
I managed to survive from February to July at the Good Samaritan House at
Westgate. This is a Christian-run fa...
8 years ago
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The Maker of Noses
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Like many of you, I enjoy music, and I look to it for inspiration and
support. My taste in music is quite eclectic, ranging from hymns through
jazz and roc...
8 years ago
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July 18th 2014
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I know I haven't posted in a long time, things have just gotten crazy
around here. We were finally able to get pregnant with our third, and
recently found...
8 years ago
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been proven wrong
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I have had many people walk in and out of my life. And a lot of them have
been anything but nice to me. Over the years most of my friend have turn
against...
8 years ago
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Tumor no more
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On January 8, 2012 I was informed that the fight to live was over, I would
not be getting my last Chemo treatment, all scans have no cancer traces in
them ...
8 years ago
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*I think it is time to completely let my fears of letting those who know me
in my life, but may not know 'me' now because I did what I needed to do for
my ...
9 years ago
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Vote for Sophia
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I'm running in a mock election and I need your votes. You might be asking
why I need your vote, and *how in the heck did I wind up in politics?* Well,
my ...
9 years ago
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Keepin’ On
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When I was driving home from work this afternoon I started to think of this
blog and its lack of updates. I think the general trend is that when I
dress mo...
9 years ago
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A Question
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So, I've been doing this girl thing for a while now.
It's good, but there is some weirdness...
Has anyone else experienced this?
[Bumps into a doorjam, o...
9 years ago
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Day 105: Whiskey Aging… DONE!
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So after nearly 3 and a half months it’s done! I ended up with a bottle
and a half of sweet, dark whiskey. It’s amazingly easy to do. At this
point, I’m ...
9 years ago
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Here's a Little Something No One Told You
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Milestones are things to be celebrated. In our culture we have only a few
of them high school graduation, marriage, parenthood, (divorce), and death.
Other...
9 years ago
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Sweeping the Ashes
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“Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn't stop for anybody.”
“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems
don't rhyme...
9 years ago
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Another new chapter
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*or the next stop on the timeline...*
*Anyway, as some of you may remember, in a galaxy, far, far..wait, wrong
story.*
*I married my other half 13 years a...
9 years ago
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I'm coming out and I want the world to know...
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As the weeks went by I've became more and more emboldened with my
transition. I started buying more clothes, and started laser hair removal.
On Christmas...
9 years ago
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It has been too long since last I blogged
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Yes, I know, more than two years have gone by, and some of you may be
wondering if all is well. YES! Everything remains wonderful. We've now been
happily m...
9 years ago
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It's "her's"
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I've been living as woman for two years now, two really good years. I was
and still am one of the lucky few. I have gone through this transition
without lo...
9 years ago
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Paula Deen Quote
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“I feel like ‘embattled’ or ‘disgraced’ will always follow my name. It’s
like that black football player who recently came out. He said, ‘I just
want to...
9 years ago
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Link to my daughter’s blog post
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Here’s something my daughter posted today… Hexydezimal A fallen angel
returns. hexydezimal.wordpress.com Questions for the Transgender Community
Happy bela...
9 years ago
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Holiday Time
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I hope everyone’s been safe and sane all year, and that the holiday season
brings you joy and happiness – and lots of good prezzies. Here’s hoping
those ...
9 years ago
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Three Unwise Men
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Yet another bawbag is frothing at the mouth.
This latest cretinous oaf, a Russian actor of whom this reporter at least
has never heard, says he would "stuff...
9 years ago
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Hanging in, hanging out, hanging on
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It has been a while since I have posted anything here. Up to this point, I
have maintained this blog as a combination of sporadic articles, and the
occasio...
9 years ago
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I Dreamed a Dream in Times Gone By...
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This past week has been especially difficult because of the second coming
out of 'Marcy' Michael's female alter gender identity. My strife is
entirely i...
9 years ago
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I realised to day that I still have this account open.
I have moved all of my blog to my website, www.sarah-savage.com
Thanx
9 years ago
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Enough
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Originally posted on Nuclear Unicorn:
My approach to Cathy Brennan has long mirrored my approach to Ann Coulter;
I generally refuse to dignify their delibe...
9 years ago
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Ether Radio
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Last Tuesday I took the day off work to run errands. Around 8:30 in the
morning I was sitting in my boyfriend's car by a gas pump. Peter was
inside colle...
10 years ago
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Hatred, Transphobia & Twitter storms..
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I'm far from surprised that this has blown up like it has.. To be honest it
was only a matter of time, Trans people put up with an awful lot, I don't
want ...
10 years ago
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Solace for the Soul
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I made it back to Arizona safely. No cops, no sandstorms, and no video. I
tried filming a quick vlog but was repulsed with the way I looked. With the
rela...
10 years ago
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The Wedding and the Beach House
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It was a balmy June Saturday in Napa valley, California. The winery
Heather’s cousin Rosalind had chosen for the wedding was beautifully placed
amidst rol...
10 years ago
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Retrospect - Spring 2011 - The Highs and Low of being a TGirl
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Widemouth Bay, CornwallBy the spring of 2011 I felt that things were going
quite well and that with my new image I was well on the well to achieving
the g...
10 years ago
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Queer Utopia
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Up until last month, I hadn’t been abroad for years. Two trips to Crete,
aged 13 and 14, and then I found myself in a desert. A travel one. As a
student in...
11 years ago
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I suppose an introduction is in order...
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I'm a woman living on the Left coast of America with a very much
appreciated spouse of over a decade and a half. We can usually be found
co-living our lif...
12 years ago
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A BLOG ON BLOGGER? OLDER POSTS FOUND BY LINK.
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After a flat out hectic two months I am sitting here with no pressing
commitments except perhaps to try and cure this terrible cough and sore
throat. In th...
14 years ago
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Reality TV
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I was reassembling the bike last weekend with radio 4 on drip-feed and
heard a piece about people who live a second life on the Internet. It
appears that f...
14 years ago
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