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Monday, June 14, 2021

Some Me Time

The sea breeze had been blowing my hair all over the place so I put a hair tie in, low down and allowed my hair to drape over my left shoulder. With that top and my hair in it’s more feminine form there was no hiding that femininity away.


 

 

I've said it so many times before....Hannah has such a way with words.  Her writing makes you feel like you're there with her.  This one starts of with a dream of living in the city, followed by life in the country and ending with a walk on the beach.  Go here to enjoy Hannah's writing style and her Me time.

Sunday, June 13, 2021

9 Years Blogging - Back Again For One Weekend Only

It's been about 9 years since I started this blog. How time flies! I feel like I should do some kind of retrospective or something, but life has pretty much stood still for the last 15 months or so, so there isn't really anything to reflect on apart from the amount of time I've spent at home and all of the junk food I've eaten (big thanks to Just Eat and Deliveroo!).


It's a little bit about the past year (not doing much), a bit about shopping, and a lot about makeup.  Our Part Time Girl has an update for us.

Oh, and while you're visting her site, be sure to check out her detailed personal T-History page.

Thursday, June 3, 2021

Codex: Sophie 3.0

This entry will be updated as needed, and it's been a while, so NEW EDITION!.  It's sort of a resource for the Blog.  Here you'll find basic definitions of terms and who the people are that I reference most often.
 

 

 

 

 

Ooh!  It's another update, from Sophie!  I love bloggers who give regular updates and Sophie is one of the best.   This update is especially for those who are new to Sophie's long-running blog and also those who just want to know more about what it's like to be trans.

Monday, May 31, 2021

Back (in black)

So what changed? Partly the realization that I will never be the late teens to twenties girl who has been inside my head for as long as I can remember, but more importantly because, since the middle of 2019, Susie started to venture outside the house and into the wider world. And with that, a realisation of the importance of blending in, of how women of a certain age (it's impolite to ask, but you can make your own estimation from the pictures below) looked and dressed when out and about. 

 

Susie has changed and writes about it in this post.  She has not posted to her blog in 5 years and, perhaps, for good reason.  Read, Back (in black), for the reason why.

 

Sunday, May 30, 2021

De-Transitioning

This story is about me and facing this very same question at times. I am not the only Transgender person who faces this dilemma.


 

 

A very serious, and well thought out, blog post from Aleana.

Wednesday, May 26, 2021

How can you beat gender dysphoria without transitioning?

Felix Conrad has written an interesting article on how you can cope with gender dysphoria if you cannot or will not transition.


Go to Jack Molay's site for the link.

Sunday, May 23, 2021

It’s Hopeless

Why do I continue beating my head against a wall? I recently ran the following personal ad on a web site I have referenced in the past (local arts community), well over a month ago
 

 

 

 

 

Go here to read Kandi's ad and the responses.

Saturday, May 22, 2021

Two days ago

I got my hysterectomy done!


 

 

Congrats to one of our Trans-Guys!

Thursday, May 20, 2021

Smashing through the roadblock

Anyone who has read my ramblings for any length of time will know that since discovering I am trans, one of the biggest worries has been how my mum would react. I was all set to tell her at Christmas but then we were sent back into lockdown and I just could not come out to her over the phone or via video chat.
 

 

 

So, DeeDee told her Mum, but you will have to read the post to find out how it went.

Loved the title of this post, by the way!  Kind of says it all.

Monday, May 17, 2021

Taking care

The good news on the above is having had the cognitive behavioural therapy course, or perhaps having been there before and come through the other side, there’s another approach to things. Rather than let my emotions rule me, it’s about the deep breath and saying Hang on, might I just be a bit knackered? Am I sleeping enough? Eating right? Could it be, that I’ve just had enough?

 

 
Lynn knows how to read her body and seems to follow the same practices I do when I'm down.  I liked this post, and she includes a nice photo from a night out with the Chams.

Wednesday, May 12, 2021

KEEP BEING WHO WE ARE

Sometimes a blog post can say a lot in just one sentence.
 

Saturday, May 8, 2021

Swimsuit edition II: boobwatch

Third time was perfect: not too hazy, just enough cloud to give the sky some texture, and a sea that was just about lively enough to be interesting, but not dangerous. I’d already picked my theme: I got a red swimsuit and an inflatable Baywatch-style float, and a couple of party balloons for tits (I didn’t want to accidentally dip my usual falsies in the sea; I’d already done that in a freshwater loch…).

 

Fab post, from Miss Twist.  It's a Bay Watch photo shoot on the beach along the North Sea.  Oh, it must have been cold!

Sunday, May 2, 2021

Purging

So if you think purges work, I am sorry to tell you that they truly never work.  You will dress again, in months, years or even decades, but you will dress again.  And it will feel wonderful.  Just accept it.   
 

 

 

 

I tend to gravitate to the posts I can relate to.  Sadly, this is one of them.  Here's a guest post, in Kandi's Land By Stephanie Julianna, on the subject.

Thursday, April 29, 2021

Sometimes, the best thing to do or say is nothing.

When in doubt, do or say nothing.

 

 

Once in a while, there is a blog post that says a very lot with very few words.  In this case, it's just a few paragraphs.  Marian has some advice, based on experience.


 

Monday, April 26, 2021

Maintenance of Gender Dysphoria via Estrogen

I still live as a male, but when on estrogen, when it kicks in, I may get called madame when shopping or out  and about. Even if I am trying to present as male. I have grown my hair long and wear a ponytail, I would not want to have my hair short ever again, I am happy with my body and the changes and don't regret what estrogen has done, yet I fear going past a certain point. We see ourselves differently to the way other see us and I am  often surprised if I'm taken as female.

What a fabulous post, from Cheryl.  For those who do not want to go to the point of transitioning, read this.

Thursday, April 22, 2021

An academic exercise

Some men choose to identify as women, and some women choose to identify as men. You will be vilified if you deny that they literally are what they identify as. 

 

 

Excuse me?  Seriously?  This statement was made by Richard Dawkins, a somewhat prominent ethologist, and evolutionary biologist.  It doesn't surprise me that Lynn has a few things to say about that comment.

Wednesday, April 21, 2021

Keep on Figurin'

About a year ago, I wrote about how I achieved my figure. Sine then, being quarantined gave me a lot of time to experiment with new things, so almost all the shapewear I used a year ago has changed.

 

Always the practical fashionista, Stana shares her secrets on achieving that "look".   Good post, from the Queen of T-Blogs!

 

Friday, April 16, 2021

Feminine Differential - Wedge Sandals

Are you wanting to wear wedges but you’re not sure how to wear them? Are you afraid you can’t rock them in all sorts of styles? Think again! Wedges range in all different styles with sandal wedges being most comfortable.

 

 

It's all about Wedge sandals and another post from Rhonda's Femininine Differential series.
 

Wednesday, April 14, 2021

Yes, Ernest Hemingway was Transgender

For the wider transgender community it is helpful to know that one of the greatest American authors of all time was transgender. Positive visibility is key in a time of anti-trans prejudices and aggression. (Not that Hemingway was an unproblematic character, mind you!).


This is a very interesting post, from Jack Molay.  There are also some comments worth reading.

Tuesday, April 13, 2021

Makeup Madness

I thought I would share my makeup routine – give you all a bit of insight into what it takes to get my Julie on.


 

 

 

 

Kandi has a new URL and a new logo (love it K!!), but it's the same quality blog it's always been.

One of the skills I don't think I will ever master is makeup.   In this guest post, from Julie, she shares her skills with us.

Tuesday, April 6, 2021

Trans Visibility in the Lockdown Era

I have polled others in the Trans community about their experiences.  Many are gloomy and depressed.  Those struggling to come out have suddenly found lifelines cut.  The support groups and gatherings offering safety in their target gender, have gone.


 

Yeah....I can relate to this.  So nice to see this long-time blogger, from England, do a post.

Sunday, March 28, 2021

Two Years Post-GCS

Things that won’t wait are employment and while I am working now, I’m looking for a new job again. That doesn’t have anything to do with my vagina except for the fact it’s just harder for people who are assumed to have vaginas to find work and when they do it’s for less money than for people who are assumed to have penises. That part sucks.


Heather has been blogging for exactly 10 years now.  In this post, she has shared her past two years, post GCS.  Some might find this post a bit graphic.  I found it very informative. While some things have changed for Heather, but her humor remains intact.

Wednesday, March 24, 2021

Relationships: secrets and lies

Relationships often, sadly, involve lies on all sorts of things: money, affairs, redundancy, health ... so the fact that you've sneaked out dressed as a woman but said you were at the football is hardly a whopper in comparison. Let's face it, revealing that you are trans to your loved ones is a big topic needing a large dose of courage. I don't blame anyone for creating a hidden life for the girl in them.

 

This is another post that I'm sure many can relate to.  Many thanks to Sue for another good one.
 

Thursday, March 18, 2021

I Love A Success Story - Elliot Page

Elliot Page becomes first trans man to appear on Time magazine cover

 

 

 

 

It's nice to see something written on the success of a transman.  Rhonda links to an article from CNN Style.
 

Sunday, March 14, 2021

What Do You Think?

I am in a quandary I can see both sides of the argument for… a trans inclusive district. In San Francisco the Tenderloin district where the Compton Cafeteria uprising happen, is the home of many trans people. Just like the Castro district was know as the gay district the Tenderloin is know for its population of trans people.


Diana asks: What do you think and having a trans-inclusive district?  In a comment, Stana had a good point.  Go here to read it all.

Saturday, March 13, 2021

xF, xM and more firsts

I’ve always wanted to skate as a girl. We’ll ever since my teens. I finally got the chance early February. I’ve owned women’s figure skates for years just never got them sharpened, but when I saw that our local base rink has adult skating from 1000-1100 on Tuesday and Thursday I knew I had to try them out.


What is "xF" and "xM"?  What does this have to do with skating or perhaps cutting hair?  It all comes together (maybe!) in this post, from Michelle.

Is it possible for your true gender to change over time?

Is it possible for your gender to really Change?

Like instead of just unlocking your true identity (an oversimplification), is it possible for your gender identity to have shifted over time instead of just having been the One True Gender (or lack of gender) the whole time?

 

Interesting question.  Interesting response.

 

Saturday, March 6, 2021

A Recipe For Happiness

Was I happy? Hardly. The person I had spent over forty years loving and 'trying to make happy' said what I was doing was wrong. She told me she wouldn't live with a woman and be thought of as a lesbian. I was very unhappy. I wanted the two of us to be 'the Halle girls'. So this taught me that one transitions to be authentic, not to be happy. Do not let anyone con you into thinking that by transitioning you will 'find happiness'. That is horse-pucks. 

 

If you have followed Halle throughout the years, you know that she's had her ups and downs.  Now, fully transitioned for several years, she has found happiness.

If you're trans, and fairly new to blogging, this is a really good blog to read from start-to-finish.  You'll learn so much, not only about Halle, but about yourself.  You'll read about her early days, when she not only found new friends, but found herself.  She's one of the few bloggers who has continued writing well beyond her social and physical transition.  She's just a wonderful human being, and so many can benefit from her life experience.
 

Sunday, February 28, 2021

Sisters, Sisters, There Were Never Such Important Sisters

As we approach the 1 year Anniversary of the Pandemic Lockdown, I find myself missing many things.
 

 

Like all of us, Julie misses those days when we could all gather and enjoy each other's company.  Read her thoughts here.

Friday, February 26, 2021

I Miss 2012

I think it was the year where I finally grew into myself as a person, in the sense that I don't feel very different from who I was back then, save for the hope for the future.
 

 

 

It's been a while since our lovely blogger, from Brazil posted, so why not take a look?

Thursday, February 25, 2021

Saints

Parents who love and support their transgender children are saints! I can't imagine having such supportive parents when I was growing up.


 

Cyrsti has a short post on a subject that's near and dear to my heart.

Wednesday, February 24, 2021

Two-Year HRT Anniversary: Time Flies

It's still the second anniversary of getting approved for estrogen (Estradiol) and the T-blocker Spironolactone. If you follow the blog, you know the Spiro is long gone now (three months post-orchiectomy) and I am just taking Estrogen now.


I love updates, and this one is short and sweet.

Thanks, Shannyn, for including a link to T-Central on your blog!

Tuesday, February 23, 2021

A Daughter and Her Father (and her mother too)

So, here I am. Torn between a supportive father by his actions, and a non-supportive father by his emotional responses. Will this situation ever be resolved? I think about asking him point blank about what his feelings towards me are as his daughter. Stay tune, if I ever do broach the topic with him. For now I will know in my heart that he loves me as he always has, no matter what my successes or failures. 


This really well thought out post, from Stephie, will take a few minutes to read, so grab a cup and enjoy.  It's primarily about her relationship with her father who would appear to be a typical guy.  I think she and her Dad are going to be just fine, but read her post and come to your own conclusions. 

Stephie also mentions her Mom and brothers.  I feel for her, regarding her current relationship she has with her Mom, and it has nothing to do with being trans.  Been there, done that Stephie.  I get it.

Thoughts of the Day

I’ve been pondering a career change. “But Beth, during a pandemic, as a trans woman, in your 50s?” I know, great idea, right?! It’s just wearing, especially considering the “career” I have is one that was thrust upon me and not one I was intending to do.


 

 

Beth is thinking about life again.  She's sharing her thoughts with us, which include HRT, privilege, mammograms, career, the movie, Soul, and even more!  Lots of thoughts and an interesting blog post.

Monday, February 22, 2021

More steps in trans living 4: coming out to lovers

......nature can be cruel because often in our early twenties we want to suppress our transness, marry, raise families, only to find that our gender variance bursts out again with a vengeance twenty years later, leaving us to square the re-emergence of a status we thought we'd overcome with our startled spouse and children. It can be a shock to them after all that time to find that dad is really a lady, that the man or woman you married is anything but.

 

Wow, Sue!  Quite a few similarities in my own life.   I'm sure many others also can relate to your comments on coming out to lovers.

Thank you, Sue, for including a link to T-Central on your blog!





 

Sunday, February 21, 2021

A look back – February

In 20 and 14 that’s what I call my Compliment Dress. I’ve had it for a fair few years and whatever I wear it, someone usually says something nice about it. It’s length is such that I keep it for when opaques are called for.


 

To use the title of a song, by Roxette, She's Got the Look!  So, why not show it off?  Lynn shows us some of her February outfits over the years.  Which one is your fav?  I love that dress, from 2019, and it does show off "the look", along with some attitude! 

Trans People Are The Same As Everyone Else

'People think we wake up and decide to be trans' 

 

 

 

 

Don't you just love that comment?  It's from an article in The Guardian.  Go to Rhonda's blog for the link.

Saturday, February 20, 2021

Another excellent day…

After the usual “do you have one of our cards, Ma’am?” and “do you want to apply for one?” questions, the elderly female clerk commented on my name, how it used to be a man’s name, but in the last 25 years, only young women are given the name.
 

 

I love "feel-good" blog posts!  This one's from Mandy.

Changing the T’s and C’s

I genuinely don’t believe that most people are educated to the sheer level of fear and worry that has to be overcome to openly transition, it impacts every facet of our lives, quite often the whole idea of coming out to people is terrifying simply because we are changing the T’s and C’s of the relationship and can never know if folk will continue merrily on or just walk away and leave.
 

 

DeeDee wants to break out of her "homemade prison".  This can mean ending some relationships but also making new relationships.  Read more here.

Friday, February 19, 2021

Asked about HRT

As anyone can tell you, it's a slow process.  First, the drugs have to build up in your system, then they take effect.  Like a cisgender girl, the effect is then gradual.  I didn't just wake up one day with big boobs!  (That would've been hard to explain!)
 

 

 

 

What a nice post, from Sophie!  Sharing her experiences with HRT is what trans-blogging is all about.

In this blog post, following a question from a reader, Sophie looks back on her eight years of hormone replacement therapy.

 

Why Ladyboys Have It Harder In Finding A Serious Relationship ?

If you are curious to know why ladyboys find it harder or if you’re a ladyboy yourself, please keep reading.

 

Here's a topic you rarely see on T-Central.  The author, Amanda, is a transwoman.  The subject matter is clean and it's worth a read.

Wednesday, February 10, 2021

Trans widows

“Trans Widows Voices” is a particularly poisonous site. It encourages women to stew in their hatred, and foments the myth of autogynephilia. The self-righteous victimhood damages the relationship with the former partner, and harms both the divorcing wife and the trans woman.


 

A very interesting post, from Clare, with a message to the wives of trans women at the end. 

Thanks, Clare, for providing a link to T-Central on your blog!

Saturday, February 6, 2021

Drifting

As I nodded off, I found myself thinking on what might it be like to have had my nails done.
 

 

 

So, I'm sure you're all wondering: Does Lynn want her talons or toes done?  If the suspense is killing you, you're just going to have to go here for the answer.

Friday, February 5, 2021

Yet another post-surgical complication

I’m so tired of having to worry about my new vagina and whether something is wrong. I really wish I had just been born with the right hardware in the first place so I didn’t have to think about it all the time and I had something I could rely on to work properly. 


 

Just giving Haven an opportunity to vent......

Sunday, January 31, 2021

Musings: A New Year, and a New Start

Something is wrong, I remember thinking. Profoundly wrong.


You can't keep feeling like this.

You can't keep going like this.

You have to do something.

Anything.

And you have to do it now.
 
 
Those words, above, have Cass reflecting on the dark times in her life.  
 
In those rare instances when I see a post from Cass, I always gravitate to it.  Why?  Well, Cass is one of the few bloggers I've actually met.  Such a lovey girl, with an awesome personality, who shares my own musical tastes.  Cass always includes music links with her blog posts, which I love to listen to while reading.  In this post, she includes several links, including a song by one of my favorite artists, Mary Chapin Carpenter.

In her latest post, Cass goes back to some of the darkest times in her life.  I know those feelings and I do believe many can relate.  Overall, while things are not perfect, life is OK and this post will give you an update.

 

Inquiring Minds Want to Know

If you could crossdress 24/7/52, would you? And how would that change you?

 

 

 

A reader of Kandi's blog asked the question.  Go here for Kandi's reply.

 

Saturday, January 30, 2021

A Name Change Update +

I had been logging into my Social Security account online to check to see if my name was change yet. Two days ago, Bingo!, there it was as plain as the nose on my face bringing a big smile to my face to see my name in “lights.”

 

Stephie hasn't posted in a while.  This one is an update on her name change (yay!) and some other news.

Some ‘Personal’ Developments

So I have some ‘personal’ news I would like to share… I am thinking of dropping the _______
 

 

 

 

So, just what is Daniella thinking about dropping?  You will have to read the post to find out!  I must say that I totally relate to this one and have been considering writing a similar post on my own, much ignored, personal blog.

Friday, January 29, 2021

This is turning into a full time job

It’s fair to say that I, like so many others, found the isolation extremely hard to cope with. There was the occasional opportunity to meet up with friends from the group, and I did get out a couple of times each week just to have a coffee with someone close to the group, but at the end of the year my friendship with that person deteriorated to the point of no contact.


Although Tish mentions the isolation many have felt since the beginning of the Covid19 pandemic, her post is really about her work with the local trans group.  As I have mentioned many times in the past, I am a firm believer in the benefits of belonging to a local transgender group.  I have belonged to my local group for years and benefited so much from the friendships and support.  I gave back for many years, co-running a sub-group.  Tish says it's turning into a full time job, but I know she loves it.  Read her post to see where her latest focus is with her group.

Wednesday, January 27, 2021

Trans in 1970

It wasn’t easy. First, you had to hear that other people were like this too. In her teens April Ashley had attempted suicide and been admitted to mental hospital, where she said she wanted to be a woman.


 

 

Clare relates an interesting story on what it was like to be trans in 1970.  We must always remember those who paved the path for us.

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