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Saturday, March 6, 2021

A Recipe For Happiness

Was I happy? Hardly. The person I had spent over forty years loving and 'trying to make happy' said what I was doing was wrong. She told me she wouldn't live with a woman and be thought of as a lesbian. I was very unhappy. I wanted the two of us to be 'the Halle girls'. So this taught me that one transitions to be authentic, not to be happy. Do not let anyone con you into thinking that by transitioning you will 'find happiness'. That is horse-pucks. 

 

If you have followed Halle throughout the years, you know that she's had her ups and downs.  Now, fully transitioned for several years, she has found happiness.

If you're trans, and fairly new to blogging, this is a really good blog to read from start-to-finish.  You'll learn so much, not only about Halle, but about yourself.  You'll read about her early days, when she not only found new friends, but found herself.  She's one of the few bloggers who has continued writing well beyond her social and physical transition.  She's just a wonderful human being, and so many can benefit from her life experience.
 

Sunday, February 28, 2021

Sisters, Sisters, There Were Never Such Important Sisters

As we approach the 1 year Anniversary of the Pandemic Lockdown, I find myself missing many things.
 

 

Like all of us, Julie misses those days when we could all gather and enjoy each other's company.  Read her thoughts here.

Friday, February 26, 2021

I Miss 2012

I think it was the year where I finally grew into myself as a person, in the sense that I don't feel very different from who I was back then, save for the hope for the future.
 

 

 

It's been a while since our lovely blogger, from Brazil posted, so why not take a look?

Thursday, February 25, 2021

Saints

Parents who love and support their transgender children are saints! I can't imagine having such supportive parents when I was growing up.


 

Cyrsti has a short post on a subject that's near and dear to my heart.

Wednesday, February 24, 2021

Two-Year HRT Anniversary: Time Flies

It's still the second anniversary of getting approved for estrogen (Estradiol) and the T-blocker Spironolactone. If you follow the blog, you know the Spiro is long gone now (three months post-orchiectomy) and I am just taking Estrogen now.


I love updates, and this one is short and sweet.

Thanks, Shannyn, for including a link to T-Central on your blog!

Tuesday, February 23, 2021

A Daughter and Her Father (and her mother too)

So, here I am. Torn between a supportive father by his actions, and a non-supportive father by his emotional responses. Will this situation ever be resolved? I think about asking him point blank about what his feelings towards me are as his daughter. Stay tune, if I ever do broach the topic with him. For now I will know in my heart that he loves me as he always has, no matter what my successes or failures. 


This really well thought out post, from Stephie, will take a few minutes to read, so grab a cup and enjoy.  It's primarily about her relationship with her father who would appear to be a typical guy.  I think she and her Dad are going to be just fine, but read her post and come to your own conclusions. 

Stephie also mentions her Mom and brothers.  I feel for her, regarding her current relationship she has with her Mom, and it has nothing to do with being trans.  Been there, done that Stephie.  I get it.

Thoughts of the Day

I’ve been pondering a career change. “But Beth, during a pandemic, as a trans woman, in your 50s?” I know, great idea, right?! It’s just wearing, especially considering the “career” I have is one that was thrust upon me and not one I was intending to do.


 

 

Beth is thinking about life again.  She's sharing her thoughts with us, which include HRT, privilege, mammograms, career, the movie, Soul, and even more!  Lots of thoughts and an interesting blog post.

Monday, February 22, 2021

More steps in trans living 4: coming out to lovers

......nature can be cruel because often in our early twenties we want to suppress our transness, marry, raise families, only to find that our gender variance bursts out again with a vengeance twenty years later, leaving us to square the re-emergence of a status we thought we'd overcome with our startled spouse and children. It can be a shock to them after all that time to find that dad is really a lady, that the man or woman you married is anything but.

 

Wow, Sue!  Quite a few similarities in my own life.   I'm sure many others also can relate to your comments on coming out to lovers.

Thank you, Sue, for including a link to T-Central on your blog!





 

Sunday, February 21, 2021

A look back – February

In 20 and 14 that’s what I call my Compliment Dress. I’ve had it for a fair few years and whatever I wear it, someone usually says something nice about it. It’s length is such that I keep it for when opaques are called for.


 

To use the title of a song, by Roxette, She's Got the Look!  So, why not show it off?  Lynn shows us some of her February outfits over the years.  Which one is your fav?  I love that dress, from 2019, and it does show off "the look", along with some attitude! 

Trans People Are The Same As Everyone Else

'People think we wake up and decide to be trans' 

 

 

 

 

Don't you just love that comment?  It's from an article in The Guardian.  Go to Rhonda's blog for the link.

Saturday, February 20, 2021

Another excellent day…

After the usual “do you have one of our cards, Ma’am?” and “do you want to apply for one?” questions, the elderly female clerk commented on my name, how it used to be a man’s name, but in the last 25 years, only young women are given the name.
 

 

I love "feel-good" blog posts!  This one's from Mandy.

Changing the T’s and C’s

I genuinely don’t believe that most people are educated to the sheer level of fear and worry that has to be overcome to openly transition, it impacts every facet of our lives, quite often the whole idea of coming out to people is terrifying simply because we are changing the T’s and C’s of the relationship and can never know if folk will continue merrily on or just walk away and leave.
 

 

DeeDee wants to break out of her "homemade prison".  This can mean ending some relationships but also making new relationships.  Read more here.

Friday, February 19, 2021

Asked about HRT

As anyone can tell you, it's a slow process.  First, the drugs have to build up in your system, then they take effect.  Like a cisgender girl, the effect is then gradual.  I didn't just wake up one day with big boobs!  (That would've been hard to explain!)
 

 

 

 

What a nice post, from Sophie!  Sharing her experiences with HRT is what trans-blogging is all about.

In this blog post, following a question from a reader, Sophie looks back on her eight years of hormone replacement therapy.

 

Why Ladyboys Have It Harder In Finding A Serious Relationship ?

If you are curious to know why ladyboys find it harder or if you’re a ladyboy yourself, please keep reading.

 

Here's a topic you rarely see on T-Central.  The author, Amanda, is a transwoman.  The subject matter is clean and it's worth a read.

Wednesday, February 10, 2021

Trans widows

“Trans Widows Voices” is a particularly poisonous site. It encourages women to stew in their hatred, and foments the myth of autogynephilia. The self-righteous victimhood damages the relationship with the former partner, and harms both the divorcing wife and the trans woman.


 

A very interesting post, from Clare, with a message to the wives of trans women at the end. 

Thanks, Clare, for providing a link to T-Central on your blog!

Saturday, February 6, 2021

Drifting

As I nodded off, I found myself thinking on what might it be like to have had my nails done.
 

 

 

So, I'm sure you're all wondering: Does Lynn want her talons or toes done?  If the suspense is killing you, you're just going to have to go here for the answer.

Friday, February 5, 2021

Yet another post-surgical complication

I’m so tired of having to worry about my new vagina and whether something is wrong. I really wish I had just been born with the right hardware in the first place so I didn’t have to think about it all the time and I had something I could rely on to work properly. 


 

Just giving Haven an opportunity to vent......

Sunday, January 31, 2021

Musings: A New Year, and a New Start

Something is wrong, I remember thinking. Profoundly wrong.


You can't keep feeling like this.

You can't keep going like this.

You have to do something.

Anything.

And you have to do it now.
 
 
Those words, above, have Cass reflecting on the dark times in her life.  
 
In those rare instances when I see a post from Cass, I always gravitate to it.  Why?  Well, Cass is one of the few bloggers I've actually met.  Such a lovey girl, with an awesome personality, who shares my own musical tastes.  Cass always includes music links with her blog posts, which I love to listen to while reading.  In this post, she includes several links, including a song by one of my favorite artists, Mary Chapin Carpenter.

In her latest post, Cass goes back to some of the darkest times in her life.  I know those feelings and I do believe many can relate.  Overall, while things are not perfect, life is OK and this post will give you an update.

 

Inquiring Minds Want to Know

If you could crossdress 24/7/52, would you? And how would that change you?

 

 

 

A reader of Kandi's blog asked the question.  Go here for Kandi's reply.

 

Saturday, January 30, 2021

A Name Change Update +

I had been logging into my Social Security account online to check to see if my name was change yet. Two days ago, Bingo!, there it was as plain as the nose on my face bringing a big smile to my face to see my name in “lights.”

 

Stephie hasn't posted in a while.  This one is an update on her name change (yay!) and some other news.

Some ‘Personal’ Developments

So I have some ‘personal’ news I would like to share… I am thinking of dropping the _______
 

 

 

 

So, just what is Daniella thinking about dropping?  You will have to read the post to find out!  I must say that I totally relate to this one and have been considering writing a similar post on my own, much ignored, personal blog.

Friday, January 29, 2021

This is turning into a full time job

It’s fair to say that I, like so many others, found the isolation extremely hard to cope with. There was the occasional opportunity to meet up with friends from the group, and I did get out a couple of times each week just to have a coffee with someone close to the group, but at the end of the year my friendship with that person deteriorated to the point of no contact.


Although Tish mentions the isolation many have felt since the beginning of the Covid19 pandemic, her post is really about her work with the local trans group.  As I have mentioned many times in the past, I am a firm believer in the benefits of belonging to a local transgender group.  I have belonged to my local group for years and benefited so much from the friendships and support.  I gave back for many years, co-running a sub-group.  Tish says it's turning into a full time job, but I know she loves it.  Read her post to see where her latest focus is with her group.

Wednesday, January 27, 2021

Trans in 1970

It wasn’t easy. First, you had to hear that other people were like this too. In her teens April Ashley had attempted suicide and been admitted to mental hospital, where she said she wanted to be a woman.


 

 

Clare relates an interesting story on what it was like to be trans in 1970.  We must always remember those who paved the path for us.

Tuesday, January 26, 2021

Transgender Infantry

Staff Sgt. Patricia King did as many have done by trying to lose themselves in the masculinity of  the infantry. The difference, in this case, is 16-year veteran SSG King is still on active duty making her the very first out transgender infantry sergeant.


Great story!  Thanks to Cyrsti for sharing.

Saturday, January 23, 2021

Since 2006

The run up to going was quite nerve wracking if I remember correctly.


 

 

 

Now just what could have been nerve wracking for our Lynn Jones?  You'll just have to read the post for the details (but the title of this post may give you a hint).

Friday, January 22, 2021

Clothes, expression and thoughts

I don’t spend time gazing at myself in the mirror but just go about my day as I would if I was expressing male. I’m me, just happen to be a woman.


 Such a nice and positive outlook on life, from Michelle.

been awhile

Been awhile since I've written and since that time I have dealt with depression, anxiety, happiness and depression again. 


 

 

 

 

 

This girl just needs a virtual hug and the more, the better for her.  It can be done easily by leaving her a comment on this post.  Go back and read some of her previous posts while you're visiting her blog. 

Thursday, January 21, 2021

A Dream Deferred

I have a very dear friend who is an artist. They work in pencil, water colours, pen and ink, and among other things also engrave on glass.


 

 

This post, from Tish, comes with a message that is much deeper than the subject matter on a beautiful video she has included with the post.

Saturday, January 16, 2021

new map of Genderia

Three years ago Yvonne Aburrow mentioned their survey of the continent of Genderia, demonstrating that it is rather more of a complex landscape than often represented by a binary, a line or spectrum. And I did a hasty map to accompany that work. But we thought it was time to update and improve it, so here's the new version.
 

 

Oh, you've got to see this really cool map of the continent of Genderia!  The surveying was done by Yvonne Aburrow and the map was done by Dru Marland.  Nice job girls!

 

Thanks, Dru, for including a link to T-Central on your blog.   💓

Friday, January 15, 2021

What It Was/What It Is

What It Was:  Disgust.  Guilt.  Self-hate.  A compulsion.  Anxiety.  Tension headaches when an opportunity arose and I attempted to ignore the urge. Almost 50 years of internal struggle.  Stupidity.  Horrendous “outfits”.  Hair, all over.  A crappy mustache.  The almost complete avoidance of photographs.  Certainly never smiling in pictures.  Never, not one single time (and there were many) enjoying “it”.  Denial.
 

 

 

Now, you know What it Was.  Read the post to find out What it Is.  This is a wonderful, from the heart, post, from Kandi.  If you haven't already read it, you should.  There are several great comments and I'm sure Kandi will welcome more.

Thursday, January 14, 2021

Random thoughts.

It reminded me of countless fellow bloggers and almost without exception their online work has vanished. There used to be much grumbling as each blogger did their time, got as far as they felt they could or needed to, and went “stealth”. This was considered a dubious and bad thing, why would they abandon us like that?

 

What a wonderful post, from one of the longest running bloggers listed on T-Central.  I absolutely connect with what Sweet Caroline has to say in this post.  Love you, girl!
 

Wednesday, January 13, 2021

THE Surgery

Suffice it to say this is THE surgery. Yup, that one. THE one, lol.
 

 

 

 

Oh, I love this girl's sense of humor!  A lot has been going on in Kelly's life and she shares much of it with us in this post.

You Must Read This Book

Paria's dedication at the front of the book tells you much about her and the book:

For Ava, who always teaches me much more than I can ever hope to teach her, and every other child brave enough to live their truth.

And for every parent struggling with making the best decisions for their child with the knowledge that they have.
 
 
The dedication, above, says a lot about the author and the content.  Thank you, Halle, for letting us know about this book, written by the parent of a child transitioning from male to female.
 
Thank you, Halle, for including a link to T-Central on your blog! 

 

Tuesday, January 12, 2021

Freedom to be me

I've talked about my plans for fully coming out a few times already and now it is done! I am no longer hiding myself away, concealing the real me from those in my life and that is liberating in so many ways.


She can finally be herself!  Very nice post, from Jo.  

I'll also note that this is one of the nicest Blogger templates I've seen.


Thanks, Jo, for including a link to T-Central on your blog!

Tuesday, January 5, 2021

She Got That Right.

Kourtney Kardashian implicitly debunks the transphobic "autogynephilia" theory in a new article on her Poosh site. She explains why women may get aroused by their own bodies and sensuality, a kind of sexuality that is used to invalidate the identity of transgender women.
Cross Dreamers
January 1, 2021


 

Diana's comments on a Crossdreamers post involving Kourt.

Sunday, January 3, 2021

Not a Life Choice – Comparisons

We really need to look into ourselves and become who we were meant to be. One of the things I used to tell them was to venture into Walmart or Target and take note of all the varieties of women. Big women, short women, women kind of plump. Some dressed to the nines and some in sweats. Why are cisgender women allowed so much variety but transgender women have such a narrower space to conform to.

 

It's a short post, from Emma, but says a lot.

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