What does it matter?

I turned and looked, he was stooped over looking at me and shouting for an answer from me. “Oy, you. You a man or woman?”








Hannah was walking the empty streets of London, when a drunk asked her the question.  How did she deal with it?  Read, What does it matter?, for another beautifully written post from Hannah.

Walk A Mile In Her Heels - Chrissy

SCA: So, like so many, you suppressed your feminine side. How were you able to deal with that situation until you felt ready to transition?


In a very nicely done Q & A, Shannyn interviews an on-line friend.

Guest post – Caelan (my spouse!)

It’s funny that we didn’t talk much about our gender identities with each other, I cocooned myself a bit and started parsing out what felt good and what didn’t. “She” was icky, so I asked Kameron, some close friends & family members, and co-workers to start using “they/them/theirs” for me. Ah, a sigh of relief. Then more discomfort would surface, I couldn’t wear bras anymore, not even sports bras. I threw them all away and got advice from Kameron.


I love this guest post, from Kameron's spouse!

This is what 5 years worth of testosterone bottles (300 injections) looks like

I am honestly tired of having to inject myself every week. I struggle emotionally with getting it started and would avoid it if my fiancee wasn’t helping me with my shot.

Despite what you see, above, this transguy is happy, and he does show us what 5 years worth of T bottles looks like.

The excitement is building.

I'm to a point that I just wish to be myself. Heather is me, I'm no longer him and I feel that I'm taking the effort to live as I need to for MY own best interests.  





Heather is excited!  She's out-and-about and headed to my former state of residence.  This is a short post, mainly to introduce Heather to those who have yet to find her blog.  I believe this is the first time Heather's blog has been featured on T-Central.  She wasn't always as "out-and-about" as she is now, as you can see from this 2016 post.

What’s In My Tool Box?

One thing I have for sure learned is that you need the right tools to do a proper job when it comes to makeup. I was once more than happy to use those little sponge applicators that came packaged with eye shadows, I had no idea how much better a decent set of brushes would help with even simple eye looks.


Everything you need to know about makeup and the right tools *may* just be in this post from Cynthia. It's one of those that you might want to bookmark for future reference.

Training Day

By an odd turn of Fate, matters aligned so I could pop out midweek and run another outreach session. This was for a group out of my usual stomping grounds, so I took a chance to be a little more trans visible.




There's something about Lynn's posts that make them....well....so "featureable" (that's probably not a word, but you know what I mean).  They're never too long and they are always so interesting.  And, who can resist that YATGB logo that jumps right up to you when you check out her page?

In this post, Lynn tells us about another one of her T-Workshops to educate the public. 

On being non-binary and bigender and the fear of coming out to the family

A common factor I find in the stories about failed relationships can be characterised, often unfairly, as selfishness on the part of the crossdresser. I can see why it may look like this to others.  After years of repression, you are finally able to ask for what you want or need – but this can be very hard on the partner. She did, after all, sign up for a relationship with a man.

This is a guest post, from Jeremiah, as introduced by Jack Molay:

In this guest post Jemimah writes about being non-binary and bigender and the fear of coming out to their family. Jemimah is assigned male at birth, but they may switch between a male and a female gender identity.

“Inventing” trans children and young people

Books like this cause bullying and make children seek medical treatment. If the authors think that medical treatment for trans-identifying children is a problem, they exacerbate it. Trans children know who they are. Social transition improves their lives. The campaign against trans children, and trans people generally, encourages social conservatives to noisily oppose transition and bully trans children. One author in the book encourages teachers to tell children that transition is not possible.


As someone who wishes I grew up in a time when puberty blockers were available and parents were more accepting of trans issues with children, this post struck a nerve with me.  There has been so much progress in the area of dealing with trans kids, yet those opposing treatment continue to speak out.  For more on this topic, go to Clare's post, “Inventing” trans children and young people.

Mojo recovered

There was also a bit of personal history because they wanted to hear about the issues I'd faced and therefore what other trans folk (at least like me) might also encounter. I spoke about coping mechanisms and what they - as counsellors - might encounter and, with careful listening and coaching, help a T person and/or their family with. We talked briefly about terms, longer on experiences, and they asked some great questions. How does it feel when you're able to be your other look? or Do you think your struggle in the early years was more internal or external issues?

It was so nice to see this post from Lynn.  She spoke to a leading counciling organization about.....well, I'll let Lynn tell the story.

Zero to 60... in the wrong body

I was very good at making friends with and talking with women, but I would never close the deal so to speak. This happened all the time, talking, flirting, nothing. I never would make a move, ask her out, hold her hand or kiss her. Looking back now, I believe it was due to my instinct as a female deep down inside. I just didn’t get the male-female mating ritual. I wasn’t programed like the other guys.


Stana has recently featured some terrific guest posts.  I especially loved this one, from Paula Gaikowski.   She tells us her story, starting from her very early years and brings us up to the present.  I never tire of reading posts like this one, which I so relate to.  If you haven't read it, grab a cup of tea or coffee and enjoy.

Why I Hate Talking on the Phone (#misgenderedagain)

I’ve trained myself to gently ask them, as soon as it happens, to refer to me as “Dara” and not “ma’am.” The person apologized, as they always do, and a few seconds later they forgot that I had mentioned it, which is also what they usually do.


Dara is one of those rare gender therapists who can actually relate to some of the problems faced by those with gender related issues.  In this post, Dara discusses mis-gendering over the phone, a topic I'm sure many can relate to.  

Damn Hormones

Many people over the years have asked about the process.





Cyrsti comments on how hormone replacement therapy has affected her over time. She sums it all up in a very short post, well worth reading.

No Guarantees

Everyone has had a splinter. Maybe it was a bit deep or it broke and was in there for a while. Splinters are nasty things. Ignore one and you can get an infection and die from blood poisoning. Mostly they eventually work themselves out and we move on.




Halle uses a splinter as an analogy.  You probably know where she's going with this, and you're probably right.  Nevertheless, it's a good analogy and it does make for good reading and good sense.  No Guarantees, is the latest from Halle.

Cassi-DJ (a/k/a Listen To The Radio)

Hey folks, just a heads-up: I'll be sitting in with my friend Mike on his weekly radio show ("Mike on the Mike" - great name, eh?) tomorrow morning. So, if you ever thought to yourself "Gee, I wonder what a sleep- and caffeine-deprived Cassidy sounds like?", well, here's your chance to find out! :c)


Want to hear one of our bloggers on the radio?  Cass is on-the-air (and streaming) Saturday, from 9:00 AM until 11:00 AM Eastern Time (1300-1500 GMT).  Go here for the post and the streaming link.

Beard Shadow be gone

Okay, I’ve heard lots of people asking lately, “How do I hide my beard shadow?”  I decided I would ask a pro because I also wanted to know.  It took a bit of courage, but I rang a local store where I’ve bought makeup from before. 



The answers are laid out, step-by-step, in this post.

HRT supply worries

I'm not of course the only one in this position, but I do wonder who at my local surgery - besides my usual doctor - really understands why I can't do without my twice-weekly hormone fix. I suspect I'm one of only a small handful of patients handled by the practice who need HRT for special and urgent reasons. Say a maximum of five out of several thousand. We might easily get overlooked. It's concerning.


Long time blogger (and one of my two favorite photographers), Lucy Melford, is concerned about a possible shortage of the hormones she requires weekly.  This is a blog topic I've never read about.  Those who have transitioned or are in the process of transitioning must rely on regular HRT doses.   Have you ever considered the ramifications of not being able to obtain your regular HRT treatments?

Jamie and Carla: A Transgender Family

The story of Jamie and Carla is part of the project Self Evident Truths, where photographer iO Tillett Wright has set out to photograph 10 000 people who identify as some kind of not straight.


This is a short one, from Sally Molay.