First Photo Shoot (A Preview)

The week before the shoot, the photographer emailed me a list of outfit types to bring; solid tops for the head shots, a cocktail dress, two more casual brunch type outfits, sporty workout clothes, and a good variety of heels, sandals, and sneakers. The night before I tried on a bunch of outfits and did a little fashion show for Kath. Thankfully it wasn't too hard as I have a closet full of plenty of fun choices.


Faith did a photo shoot.  She looks gorgeous (lots of pictures in this post), yet she got clocked.  Voice?  Certainly not by her appearance. Read all about Faith's first photo shoot.

Who Are We?

I heard a newscaster ask one day “Just who are crossdressers we hear about from time to time?” It started me thinking about that very question and the more I thought, the more I decided it might be a good idea to put it down on paper. Here are the results.


Wow, what a wonderful blog post!  This time it's from Missie Cook, guest posting on the Crossdresser Heaven site.

Avoiding transition

I knew there was something wrong before I went to school, and when I went to school I worked out what it was. I was a girl, and I am a woman. I did not feel as the boys felt. I did not want to play with the boys. Now, I do not like to be with the blokes. I much prefer being with women.




What does it mean to be a woman?  Must you fully transition?  Clare shares her thoughts.

Before the clouds break

I’m so excited seeing this finally come to fruition. 4 years waiting. The fits of anger and jealousy. The self loathing and depression. Watching my kids play at the park and I can’t even swing on the monkey bars without the damn binder riding up to become a push up bra. Not being able to lift my arms to grab something off the top shelves without it doing that either.
No more. Not after tomorrow.


He's one happy guy by now!  It's a really good post from one of our female to male bloggers....now all man.

Blogs were an Electric Ladyland...

As a student in the 70’s I had scoured the university library in search of writings about transsexuals and even though it included a medical school I found nothing. Surely over three decades later this new fangled internet would tell me all, surely a few taps on the keys and all would be revealed… I knew that I would tap those keys given half a chance and had done all I could to keep that temptation at bay.


I'm sure some of you can relate to what Caroline says, above.  With the coming of the Internet, it was the transgender blogs that led to changing Caroline's life for the better.  Having long since transitioned, it is indeed a treat to hear from her again in a rare blog post.

Portuguese transgender girl drugged by force to stop her from expressing her identity

Independent women were treated for “hysteria”, homosexual and trans people were given so-called “conversion therapy” using electroshock and nausea inducing drugs. This is no longer possible in civilized countries, Portugal included, but it is possible to use the system in other ways.

The "other ways", in this case and used at a psychiatric hospital in Portugal, means the use of the anti-psychotic drug, Xepilon, to keep this MtF transgender youth compliant and docile.  Jack Molay has detailed her story in a blog post he authored for The Medium.  If you read it, and you should, you're going to come away feeling sick and perhaps even crying for this young transgender girl.  

Jack is convinced this case represents a clear violation of the human rights of a transgender person and is doing all he can to assist her.

Helping in little ways

"We were expecting, Lynn. Is she not coming?" Cue a quick apology around names, given that mostly I'm Richard, except when I'm not. That seemed to do the trick and it was all systems go.




A day (actually two I believe) in the life of Lynn....umm....Richard....umm....Lynn who is always helping in little ways.

A letter to address transphobia

Your show from two weeks ago, and your discussion about transgender puberty blockers as institutionalized child abuse, however, hit me right in the gut; I feel so strongly that I decided to write from my own experience in the hopes that it’ll bring up new considerations.




Kameron, who volunteers as a DJ at a community radio station, heard some comments he didn't agree with, made by a fellow DJ at another station.  He wrote a letter to that DJ and shares it with us.

Trans Radio UK

So for sometime she has been toying with the idea of creating a Trans Radio Station where all the DJ's would be trans/non binary but also would be a place for people to also advertise their trans related services.






I'm loving the music as I write this!  Lucy includes a link to Trans Radio UK.

Gabi Talks – Dressing Age Appropriate

What’s your take on things? Should we be consulting some kind of “style-by-number reference guide”, based on age?





Gabi includes a written blog and also links to a short video she did on the subject of, Dressing Age Appropriate.

Advice on choosing and buying wigs?

 It seems like most "first" wigs bought are blond,straight hair down partway to the middle of the back. These wigs may be "sexy", but they are impractical and difficult to maintain.  


Robyn has some good and practical advice on wigs.

one month reflections

Physically, I don't have much to report except that I feel my skin has gotten a little softer and some extra sensitivity around my breast region.  My facial features seem a little more feminine but I am wondering if that is the mirror and my brain fooling me into thinking.









Jaclyn shares her one month reflections.

Transition transition

This post is about some of the practical side of transitioning, as I’ve been spending the past few weeks thinking about the order in which everything needs to happen administratively.





The stuff you've got to do.  Changing your name, dealing with human resources at work, passport, driver's license, etc.  Ruth is thinking about all of this in Transition transition.

Colin’s #metoo…

“I don’t like what that man did to me,” Colin blurted.

I doubled checked for cars and kept walking beside him, “I bet you don’t,” I agreed.

“He made me feel uncomfortable,” he continued. “Some women wouldn’t think that was sexual assault because it only happens to women.”

“Except you’re a woman,” I pointed out.


This is another wonderfully written post by Colin's wonderful mom.  Kathleen describes an appalling incident of sexual harassment, directed towards Colin, aboard a bus.

Why It’s Not Too Late

Many wasted years of living what others perceived me to be and not my real self.  Study these 7 reasons and start your escape today.




Rhonda re-posts from Femme Secrets, on 7 reason why it's not too late.

Trans children II

Which would you prefer? To be always noticeable as a trans woman, to be subject at any time to others’ prejudices, but to be fertile and able to father a child, or to be indistinguishable from any other woman, albeit one without a womb, but sterile? Can you decide, aged even 18, whether you will want children at some time?


Another post from Clare that makes you think.  Puberty blockers can delay or stop the secondary sex characteristics that begin to appear at puberty. Should the child transition, stopping those secondary sex characteristics can make such a difference for that child later in life.  It's call passing.  For a male-to-female transgender child, that means a female voice, no head hair loss while also preventing the growth of facial hair, breasts, slower body growth, etc.  For a female-to-male transgender child, just the opposite.  Regardless of the birth gender, it may also mean sterility.  When it comes to transgender children and puberty blockers, should it be the child's decision, the parent's decision, or the doctor's decision.  Clare's comments can be found at Trans children II.

I am not a drag queen

You seldom see the media showing appropriately attired transpeople. That would be boring. The media prefers to show drag queens.







If you haven't seen this one, from Stana, it says a lot with few words.

I am Somewhere

How can I build a new life in an old place surrounded by empty ghosts. It makes me eternally sad for something that probably wasn’t that good.






That "old place" Hanna is referring to was her past.  She began thinking about it.  The 90's, and the thoughts were triggered by music from the 90's.  A simple trigger, like a song from the 90's brought the depression in.  How often has something like this happened to you?  It's happened to me, and I know the fix.  So does Hannah.  Read, I am Somewhere,to find out just how she brought the good thoughts back into her life.