Letting Go

It's always nice to see the wife of someone who is trans sharing her thoughts with us.  Lucy refers to herself as, "An ordinary wife in an extraordinary marriage". 

In her post, Letting Go, we get to see just how difficult it is for the non-trans person in a relationship to understand what is going on in her spouse's world as well as in her own thoughts.  I'm sure she echos the thoughts of those somewhat rare non-trans spouses who are accepting or even just tolerant of their trans partner.  In this case, the problem for Lucy right now is total lack of control.  

In her words,  

Have you ever gone down to the ocean and try to stop the waves from coming in? No... .it's impossible. I'm not in charge of the waves. I live in earthquake country and I have no control or power over when the ground starts trembling below me and everything around me starts to shake. None.  Yet I can accept it and not try to control it.

My emotions after reading this post are mixed.  As someone who is married, part of me so feels for what she is going through while the other part of me is so happy that Lucy's life partner is so fortunate to have such a loving woman in her life. 

Please take a look at Lucy's blog, The Trans-Gentle Wife.