My sexuality

Deeply repressed in my twenties, so ashamed of cross-dressing that I had aversion therapy, not knowing my own feelings, I wanted a girlfriend like a repressed gay man might- to make me normal, to make me appear normal. I believe a woman fell in love with me at University, saw the gentle soul below the layers of terror and arrogance, and took years to recover. I did not see it.

This is one of those brutally honest posts and well worth reading.  My apologies to Clare for posting this so late.

Wigging Out

Recently I wrote a post which detailed a few of my trials and tribulations I experienced with wigs before I was able to grow my own hair to a feminine length

 

Here's the link to Cyrsti's original post.  In the most recent post, Cyrsti features Connie's comments on wigs.  Both are good reading.

Ten Years Later…..

Realistically, if that hadn’t happened, I would probably still not have been abroad at any point, and from a trans perspective, I still probably wouldn’t have even started, whereas I type this having been post-op for about three and a half years. That’s still crazy to even think about.

It's been a while since we've seen a post from Kate.  Ten years ago, something happened that changed many things in Kate's life.  Go to Ten Years Later to find out just what happened.

To distinguish

The elective taking up of gender variance in adulthood is something I cannot relate to but I know it exists.

 

It's one of Joanna's typically short posts, that says a lot.  I have known a few who claim not to have discovered that they are trans until well into their adult life.  A couple of those have fully transitioned.

 

The strange lens

As I was getting ready the other night, I had one of those moments of why am I doing this? That sightly off-centre thought that makes you question what’s going on. It’s all the…. malarkey and faffing about. A close shave, packing a bag, strapping in to shapewear, painting my face various colours, and then putting on fake hair. It’s all a bit…. confusing at times.

 

With the paragraph, above, along with the following paragraph, Lynn had me rolling on the floor (figuratively speaking) laughing.  Yes, she did finish getting ready and has a few brief comments on her evening.

The Angel Known as My Wife

Did I hide this from her for almost 30 years?  Absolutely, but the truth of the matter I hid it from myself for almost 50 years.
 

 

 

 

This is just a lovely post, from Kandi.  If you're trans and married, or have a partner, it should always mean compromise on the part of both partners.  Do read The Angle Known as My Wife.

Sunday and a relaxing time as Susan

Now every time I post something like this, I get people reaching out to me about me transitioning and that is not what this is about, I am not transitioning. What it is about is I have come to accept this part of me as an equal part of who I am and is just as important to me as my male self.

 

Susan shares her day with us and even included some photos!
 

Interview with Lexi Schmidt

Monika: We all pay the highest price for the fulfillment of our dreams to be ourselves. As a result, we lose our families, friends, jobs, and social positions. Did you pay such a high price as well? What was the hardest thing about your coming out?

 

Monika has done it again with a series of really good questions directed to her guest, Lexi Schmidt, a 40 year old transwoman who began her transition in 2017.
 

A story I shared with my Therapist last year

It was one of my last sessions with her and we sat facing each other in her office and she asked me her last question.

"Have you ever regretted being a male...when you look back are there any regrets?"

I told her "no, I never had any regrets presenting male."

I then explained my answer to her.

This is a Way Back Wednesday post from 2011.  You can read Annah's explanation here.  Anna stopped posting in August, 2011, but you should check out her blog.  Lots of very good posts.

Study of trans adolescents confirms puberty blockers and HRT are associated with improved mental health

Transition helps trans youth survive. Studies like these provide evidence that constrains what “child abuse” looks like in an environment where that important notion is all too often misused by the baseless, antiscientific and overreaching policy dictates of the Texas state government and beyond. And these are not the outcomes of abusers.

I'm always interested in any studies on transgender youth.  Puberty blockers can save lives.  Go here to read more.