Educating my Dermatologist on Gender Dysphoria

But my dermatologist didn’t know any of this. She just knew the typical outsider viewpoint, ‘he was a he, and now I have to remember to properly call him a her, oh here is my chance, yay I didn’t mess up his pronouns.’ Okay, yes, I don’t know for a fact that is what happens in cis people’s brains, but I highly suspect it is something along those lines.

 

You're going to have to read Kelly's whole post to understand the comment, above, but the title of her post is a hint.  What this girl went through with her therapist was just devastating.  Go here to read the post.

You’d Be A Lot Cuter If You…

In male mode, I am aware of when I say something the person I am speaking to not only listens to what I am saying but they are also considering that a masculine presenting person is saying it to them. If I am describing something to a feminine presenting person I choose my words very carefully so she hopefully doesn’t feel I am manspaining it to them.
 

 

 

 

You can complete the sentence in the title with "smile".  This really great post goes well beyond that, however.  I consider it one of those "must reads".....perhaps because I so relate to it.

Points of Light

I spotted a woman standing in front of me, she had a short ponytail and just as it dropped away to it’s ends it had a dash of blonde highlight lines. It almost looked like a previous colour being grown out because there was so little left.

 

 

When Emilia described the bit of blonde and the end of the woman's ponytail, her friend said, “That sounds like a Balayage.”  So that's what it's called!  Emilia liked the idea and gave it a try on her own long hair.  Read Points of Light, to see how it turned out.

 

Ghosts of the past

There are times when it feels a strange thing to be a blogger. To be someone who writes and shares what they do and who they are. Occasionally, these can be very personal moments.

 

 

I have followed Lynn's blog for about as long as she's been writing.  I've loved her sense of style, her sense of humor and her support of her local trans group and the trans community.  I've also greatly respected her love of family. 

I have sensed, however, that some of her posts, as of late, have been a bit dark. There's nothing wrong with that.  Looking back at my own blog, there have been numerous dark posts but it was my way of working through my own demons.  More importantly, Lynn's current post, gives us an insight on just how she keeps herself "grounded" by going back through her own writing over the years to revisit the good times and the not so good times and perhaps making her realize that life in 2005 is really not that much different from life in 2022.