“regret rates” are not the sole measure of outcomes

Because I transitioned 20 years ago, I know many MTF transitioners that were in my cohort or even 5-10 years before. What I see is concerning. I am the only one out of them that has detransitioned, and most of them would not say that they regret their transition and continue to go by feminine pronouns and feminine names. In terms of life outcomes, I would say economically they are mostly doing well. However, socially they are struggling. Most of them are alone. I see a lot of social anxiety, people being unwilling to leave the house. In addition, they still continue to deal with dysphoria and have emotional difficulties.

Strong observations from TWT, which have drawn some interesting comments.  The post is titled, “regret rates” are not the sole measure of outcomes, from the blog, Third Way Trans.

I want to point out that Third Way Trans is not a blog that necessarily promotes detransitioning or not transitioning.  It is simply the thoughts of someone who did transition from male to female, and then detransitioned.  The author remains open minded but promotes, as it says at the top of the page, "alternate ways to think about gender dysphoria, gender identity, retransition, detransition and transgender issues from a former trans woman and psychology grad student".

In looking through this blog, I also want to point out a post that might be of interest to some considering a gender transition:  To the young gender questioners, I was you.

The Biggest Changes Come in the Smallest Packages

Imagine that you're single, a male, and have completed your transition.  You want to adopt a child.  What do you think your chances are of actually being accepted into the adoption process?

It's a wonderful blog post from Trans Canada Coyote, with a happy ending, proving that, indeed, The Biggest Changes Come in the Smallest Packages.

Trans Canada Coyote also features a really good FAQ page on transitioning, the result of collecting some of the wealth of information from the late Matt Kailey's blog Tranifesto blog.

Interview with Yuni Carey

Monika: At the time of your transition, did you have any transgender role models that you could follow?

Yuni: Not really. I did my whole transition following my heart and staying true to who I was inside... And not giving up no matter what. When I first started I felt very lonely but somehow while listening to Mariah Carey's songs and believing in my dream I just didn't give up. I knew someday somehow I would accomplish everything I ever dreamed of. The power of hope and belief. I can say Dreams are real today.

 

The question, above, is just one of many from Monila Kowalska's in-depth interview with model, Yunii Carey.  I don't think we have ever featured Monika's blog on T-Central.  It's listed on the right side of the T-Central page, under "Other Stuff We Follow".  And good stuff, it is!

 

I don't know how she does it, but Monika has somehow managed to interview 320 notable transgender folks for her blog.

 

If you haven't browsed Monika's blog, now is a good time to get started.  

 

Great job, Monika!  The current post is titled, Interview with Yuni Carey, from Monika's blog, The Heroines of My Life.