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Friday, August 29, 2014

The Chance To Be A Boy

Frankly, I don't have a clue what motivates transmen to, um, well, be a man.  It's certainly not on my bucket list!

But, it's important that we, who are trans, understand what motivates our brothers who are trans.

Our featured blogger has this to say about himself:

I am a Sephardic Jewish guy in my mid-twenties. I blog under the pseudonym Rimonim Pardes (pronounced ree-moh-NEEM par-DES, in case you’re wondering). I am transgender; I transitioned in my late teens/early twenties. I live in the American Southwest. I am in grad school for mental health counseling. I am engaged to my soulmate, who occasionally blogs here under the name Alma. I live in a funky old house with Alma, a good friend, and two dogs (pictured). I’m a vegetarian. I have 6 tattoos and counting. My interests include mysticism, music, and good beer.

His current post, The Chance To Be a Boy, is so well written and so helps me to better understand transmen.  He says a lot in the post.  Please do check it out.

This is a blog that I'm going to read from the "bottom-up", starting with the first post.  I did glance at several of Rimonim's posts and found many enlightening comments, such as this one:

I find it easy to talk to women.

A lot of straight guys really struggle to communicate with their girlfriends and crushes. I have enjoyed fairly open, direct communication in all my intimate relationships. I have always found it easy to show someone I am flirting–and just as important, to show when I’m not flirting. My fiancée and I have our share of misunderstandings, but we resolve them easily. I feel comfortable talking with female friends, classmates, coworkers, and strangers. It’s simple and enjoyable.

I think being socialized in a female gender role–and the results of that, like having many female friends growing up–gives me some extra insight into women’s communication.

And then there's the subtle humor, in this post titled, Why I Have No Plans For Bottom Surgery:

Pretty much the only thing I can’t do is pee standing up in a convenient, splash-free fashion. From my observations in public restrooms, it appears that a large proportion of men have this problem.

If you want to know more about your brothers in the trans community, I strongly recommend this blog.


  1. Thanks so much for the link and the kind words!

  2. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with us.



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