Gender Martyr
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Rob Hoogland has been jailed, and the extreme Right are up in arms against
it. He was jailed for refusing his child medical treatment which doctors
said wa...
The Visible T-Girl
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I need a break from (gestures all around) all this. No, not from writing or
being on social media. I need a break from the seemingly unending string
of an...
Combating discrimination at work - some tips
-
Having provided a lot of advice to people over the years on discrimination
and bullying at work, I've been asked to share tips and best practices
here. ...
That’s a potty?
-
During the trip which brought with it “cable car pictures”, we also
experienced the following, nicknamed “Street furniture.” From current
internet offerin...
Changes
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It took me a lifetime of living to partially understand what we all should
know. Life is but a series of changes. Once we quit changing we die.
Years a...
Can A Man Wear Women’s Clothing? Daaah!
-
From:
Yeah – you read that right…
Can men wear women's clothing?
Now before you jump to conclusions… Hear me out.
No – I'm not talking about cro...
Changes
-
It took me a lifetime of living to partially understand what we all should
know. Life is but a series of changes. Once we quit changing we die.
Years a...
The Rise of the Left-handed Cult
-
*The 20th century saw a dramatic rise in the number of left-handed people.
Was it all part of a leftist conspiracy? Read on to find out!*
Right now ant-tr...
Thrown for a Loop
-
Back in May, I purchased a corset online for $12.99. At that price, I did
not know what to expect, but I was so happy with my purchase that I bought
a se...
Sunday with RO
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I like this peacock so much, that I figured I'd post his image one more
time. It's nice to be among the half of a species who gets to use color to
at...
Dogs Are So Underrated
-
I am so happy that Ginger and I have really bonded. She wakes me in the
morning so we can go on a walk. She goes on many of my short walks that I
have to d...
My Transversary Celebration of One Year on HRT
-
I will start and say this was the third transversary I have celebrated. All
of them at Bone Fish Grill. The first two were My One Year Mark of
Transitionin...
The Battle Between Light & Dark
-
There is a battle raging between the love and hate over the lives of
children, we need to make sure that love wins out. One side say that they
are fighting...
Saturday and an unexpected change to my day.
-
Well before I get to today’s blog here are a few pictures of Jennifer and
my beautiful feet after our pedicures yesterday, Jennifer’s is the first,
the one...
GENEVIEVE'S GEMS
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*Empathy is about standing in someone else's shoes, feeling with his or her
heart, seeing with his or her eyes. Not only is empathy hard to outsource
and...
A Karen by any other name…
-
I don’t know which is more annoying, having some unknown man tell me to
“relax” because I disagree with him or having him call me a “Karen” for the
same re...
Ladies don't forget your fascinator!
-
There's a great deal of talk about what the men will be wearing to Prince
Phillip's funeral tomorrow but I was interested to read what the women will
be t...
My New Ferrari
-
Do you remember my recent post about a clever jewelry-designer who makes
nice stuff from crashed cars? Her name is Christi and the company is called CRASH...
Ride
-
Hi, I’ve been struggling to write a post this week. Not for any momentous
reason, but the usual suspects of tiredness and a somewhat busier than
usual few ...
Nude dummies up to hanky panky, I'll warrant
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The second of my 'Taunton' posts. It had been an unpleasantly chilly day
when I last visited Taunton in November 2011, and it's a telling thing that
I kept...
BMI Cutoffs are unscientific and harmful
-
As I’ve written about before, BMI (Body Mass Index) is an unscientific
concept that is often used to deny trans people life-saving surgeries. It
is treated...
Sixteen Months!
-
It has been four months since my last entry and also my first one for this
year too! However, not much to write about so I decided to wait to make an
ent...
Men of the Skull Chapter 66: Toga '87
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Every fraternity at PSU had a "signature" party in my time. For example:
Beta Sig had Regatta, Fiji had the "Islander", and Delta Sig hosted the DG
anch...
Rainbow Reading: April 14
-
Bite-sized reviews of the LGBTQ books I’ve read in the past week. All
titles are linked to their Goodreads page. Between April 7th and 13th, I
read: Stray ...
Musings: Thru With The Two Step
-
Hello all, and a happy mid-week to you. Just wanted to put together a brief
post to stay in the writing zone.
I'm pretty tired tonight; a car alarm kept...
A playpen without sides
-
On October the fourth 1961 Charley was born in eastern Canada. In the
living room of the family home sat a playpen; a four-foot by four-foot cage
with two...
Proof of Life
-
A poem by Jenny Williams. Proof Of Life By Jenny Williams Flickr, Flickr on
the screen Look who’s wanting to be seen. I post a picture, with a certain
prid...
When Did I Get Hips?
-
I had pretty much given up all hope of ever developing hips as I thought
they were part of ones skeletal structure. You either have them or you
don’t. I ha...
Misgendering and deadnaming is violence
-
I chose a strong term, violence, for a very good reason...
I saw a really good guide to getting better with pronouns on Facebook
recently and it includ...
Mini-Update (computer stuff)
-
Components arrived for my 2015-era desktop. (In a gradual state of
rejuvenation) There’s a brand-spanking new Bluetooth 4.0 USB adapter ready
to go to repl...
Ten Years After
-
It is ten years ago this month since I plucked up the courage to seek
active support. I looked up a local trans group that had a weekly drop-in
afternoon, ...
Open letter to Nuffield Council on Bioethics
-
Last month I recieved an email from the Nuffield Council on Bioethics,
inviting me to respond to their new open call for evidence on “the care and
treatmen...
bimbling around the Vale of Pewsey
-
I hopped into my neat little Nissan Micra, and popped over to All Cannings.
(The old Morris Traveller has finally gone, closing the door on over
fifteen ...
One Year
-
Yes, I've been on a one year sort of hiatus. Nothing big happened but just
got wrapped up in things. Will try and post more and start up again. No
chang...
Being Seen
-
I often wonder whether or not I am doing the right thing The realisation
and acceptance that I am trans and living and moving in the wrong social
circles h...
[Philosophy] The 3:00am Train to Insomnia Central
-
WARNING! Here be dragons, again. Ranty Sarah is in the house. Ever had one
of those weeks that feels like someone punching you repeatedly in the
crotch? Ye...
I'm not going to question it...
-
So the last time I wrote in this blog was April 2020 - almost a year ago. I
was doing weekly posts about the things that made me happy. But apparently
the ...
Geocities and Beyond
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31 Match marks trans day of visibility, more a celebration of trans, non
binary and gender non conforming people's. The internet has been a way of
being se...
Guest Author: Joie de Vivre #TDOV2021
-
Today is the annual Trans Day of Visibility, and for trans folks (and our
non-binary/gender non-conforming siblings) its both the best of times and
the wor...
Visibility
-
I wrote this on Facebook today...
Like many things, being "visible" can be a double-edged sword. People need
to celebrate achievement, absolutely. The wo...
Brief Encounter - Lasting Impression
-
OK - have to share this story because I'm still not sure how I feel about
it.
I was on my lunch break the other day (I work in drab) and popped into Mod ...
Being Seen
-
Today is the International Transgender Day of Visibility. I spent 40+
years hiding from everyone, from myself, and even after coming out I was
afraid to b...
Trans Visibility in the Lockdown Era
-
I’ve written so many blogs for Transgender Day of Visibility - TDOV. They
were penned when obstacles to visibility were personal fears. This year
obstacle...
Sound the alarm!
-
In my last, very recent blog entry, I said that I had become unsettled. In
that blog, I referred to instances that can unsettle me, put a proverbial
shot a...
More Small Steps.
-
10 months, or 292 days, or 7,008 hours, or 420,480 minutes, or 25,228,800
seconds since the last time I was able to dress, here is a little back
story. Aft...
Two Years Post-GCS
-
Content warning: graphic descriptions of vaginoplasty recovery, surgery,
biological processes, emotional distress, and sex. There is a wide variance
in pos...
Why I Left Twitter
-
in January of this year I took the difficult decision to leave Twitter. It
was necessary for my own mental health. Having reflected now for a couple
of mon...
Kate and Football vs Transphobia
-
It’s Football vs Transphobia week in my native UK and following on from a
rather unusual trending tweet on Twitter, I have decided to talk about my
own exp...
First pages of my book
-
This excerpt is not formatted or proofread for publishing yet, but I am
excited to share it. Real progress on this telling of my life though is
exciting...
I'm not holding my Breath
-
Lets' be honest, I'm not posting much simply because not much is happening
in my life ~ which makes me pretty much the same as everybody else in the
Coun...
Girly road trip 4: strange new worlds
-
Cosplaying as a character you created yourself sounds like it should be
easy, but there’s always going to be some major detail that buggers
everything up. ...
Thoughts from isolation
-
1 – I don’t know about you, but to me it seems the pandemic and resulting
restrictions and social distancing measures have changed the way I shop.
For year...
Supporting Others Wherever Needed
-
I had an unusual situation this time home recently with put many things
into perspective for me – It’s a long rambling post so grab a cuppa !
We have l...
xF, xM and more firsts
-
xF – my new short way of writing expressing female. Same goes for xM,
expressing male. It’s just more efficient or I’m lazy, lol. So, with the
start of a n...
A Recipe For Happiness
-
This story starts when I was young and naive. It usually takes a lot of
living to find the truth about happiness. Because of my naiveté and a basic
charact...
Insulting behaviour
-
Just lately it seems as if I’m at war with an unknown entity; an elusive,
pervading, mischievous spirit that seems hell bent on disrupting all forms
of com...
new 99 Erics book reviews!
-
So a couple new *99 Erics* book reviews were recently published and I
wanted to share excerpts with you!
This excerpt is from *Kirkus Reviews*:
*Serano...
Been a Little While
-
I have yet again been delinquent on updating my own little chunk of
cyberspace. I don’t have an actual reason aside from perhaps things just
not changing m...
Why I Am Voting Scottish Green
-
I am not some turkey voting for Christmas. I have come to the decision that
I shall be voting Scottish Green 1 and 2 in the Scottish Parliamentary
Election...
Dereliction
-
Missing simpler timesWhen the heart was lacking yet unfracturedLonging for
something that was unknown Broken apartMisled about what was givenDejected
and d...
Short Story: Gloom Dispelled
-
“Who is she?” Tiriana asked. “Who are you talking about?” Virion asked in
return, deflecting his girlfriends question. “You know who I’m talking
about,” Ti...
Happy 14th Birthday CJ!
-
I blinked those tired, hurried, worried blinks of a mom and suddenly I’m
here. A mom with a nearly-18-year-old and a 14 year old. Yes. CJ is 14.
He’s 14 an...
Lockdown #2
-
Or is it #3 now? I'm finding it hard to tell. I'm also finding this one
much harder than the last.
Again, my life has hardly changed really. I still sit at...
Retro Realness
-
I had a lovely surprise in the post today: Bobr Games liked my 2020 SEUCK
Competition entry so much they’ve given it a full physical release on ROM
cartrid...
No Trotsky on the Potomac
-
Retired and nearly a thousand miles from the Washington, DC, that I called
home for much of my professional life, I am now a bystander to events
taking pla...
A day out.
-
Hello friends,
Big day, today.
We (wife and I) went for a drive. It isn't always easy to get my spouse out
of the house but it was mostly her idea.
We...
Brushing up the Static and Stale
-
Every breath of air just one degree above freezing felt worthwhile not just
for the view but the breathlessness of it all. The gravel crackling and
popping...
Review: Anna Secret Poet- Pity Party
-
Another larky album from Anna Secret Poet- drag chanteuse and mischief
maker, that’ll be hilarious, right? After all, she has a way with a zinger
and a sin...
been awhile
-
Hello blog...
Been awhile since I've written and since that time I have dealt with
depression, anxiety, happiness and depression again.
I feel so low...
Heartbreaking
-
Not a surprise. But horrifying nonetheless. Expected. But terrifying. What
is happening in this country and to her people? The depth of anger is
frightenin...
Random thoughts.
-
Half a century of mental isolation due to being transsexual in a medical
truth denouncing world set me up for a quite enjoyable 2020. The air
cleared a...
What is Transphobia?
-
(TW/CW: Discussion of transphobia, discussion of paedophilia, brief mention
of rape counselling services.) Today I want to do a quick (by my standards
– on...
The Curse Of The Crossdresser
-
Do you think crossdressing is a curse? Thats a question I have answered in
different ways during my life, but is it really a curse?
When I started crossdr...
Blocked.
-
I have known this day was coming for nearly ten years, ever since my
three-year-old child first began to tell me that “he” was actually a girl.
My child ha...
On exceptionalism
-
*The exceptional Jennifer Lawrence*
Sometimes I hold my hands out, palm upwards, in the manner of a
Pentecostalist awaiting the descent of the Holy Spirit...
What do you want?
-
Very often, my journey has circled around the question of “why” (even the
legacy of testimony written in my sidebar on this page still has that
prevailing ...
My Best Sex Ever Was With a Trans Woman
-
Why Being Intimate with Your Transgender Lover Could Be the Best Experience
of Your Life Sexual encounters can happen in different ways and between
people ...
I Saw Myself Again
-
This weekend I did it. After several years or more of not having the time
or the space or the privacy or the patience, energy, enthusiasm or the
right mo...
Transgender Actors
-
Here's a question. You want to make a film where a transgender character is
the lead. Do you need to cast a transgender actor or actress in the role?
Victo...
The Love Story
-
Before this last week, my most recent memory telling a story which caused
someone to cry was when Katie and I broke up. As we sat in therapy and I
asked th...
Well, there you have it…
-
Time flies doesn’t it? And again, perhaps it doesn’t? When I consider
that three years (today in fact) have passed since I went full time, it
seems lik...
Switching from HRT patches to gel
-
I began my “MTF HRT” 27 months ago – and I’ve had some pretty good results.
However, estradiol patches are a right royal pain in the ass, so I’ve
switche...
(1) Citizen Kane - 1941
-
Yeah, I jumped from the bottom of the list to the very top. It just seemed
like the thing to do at the time. Nobody said these blogs needed to be in
order...
Love in the time of Covid-19
-
Jeremy is 2000 kilometres or 1242 miles away. It has been about six months
since we have seen each other thanks to Covid-19, the Coronavirus, “the
Rona”. I...
2020′ Blog addition
-
I got a bit sidetracked by a move to my new high-rise in February to a
place all our own just Oscar and I! I’m grateful for my wonderful friends
Ben and Te...
Neurodivergent
-
CW: self diagnosisTL;DR: ASD, being trans, it is so much larger and
(inter)connected within me.Update 1: Added Hannah Gadsby’s shows at
resourcesOh welp, I...
The last post
-
The sun filters through the trees. The dappled shade keeping me cool as I
lay on the sun bed. Pain and discomfort slowly ebbing away as the pain
killers ki...
To a Crossdresser’s Wife, Part 2
-
Early on in this blog I wrote a post addressed to a crossdresser’s wife,
explaining a bit about what we do and why we do it, and how it can affect
their ma...
Whinge with mother
-
Mick Jagger and his merry men called them ‘Mothers little helpers’. Sadly,
I am not a mother. Antidepressants I’m referring to. I have been popping
these f...
The Third Anniversary
-
Today is the third anniversary of Barbara's death.
I took this picture of her at the first TG party we held at her house in
Folkestone.
Nine months la...
Trans in Quarantine
-
It’s no secret that COVID-19 has changed everyone’s lives. What seems
normal is being challenged on a regular basis. No more hugging other
people. No mo...
The Nasty Party earns its nickname
-
If you've followed British current affairs of late you'll probably be
aware that our Government is probably not experiencing its finest hour. The
Briti...
2020
-
Back in 2016 I felt that I'd reached the point with this blog where I had
nothing more to say and that it was time to move on. I'd completed my
journey thr...
Ask A Crossdresser: Names
-
A friend of mine recently asked me “So how did you pick out the name Liz
Summers?” upon which I searched back for the blog post where I explained
it. Wel...
What’s in a Name?
-
I’ve added a phrase to the main title of my blog. Veronica Vera–Now & Then
describes the schedule and the content of my posts. So far, I’ve published
infre...
Posting from the front
-
Now that my dad has passed, things have started to settle down to a new
normal. My brother and I have been talking more often, and XGFJ no longer
posts ...
Brick Wall
-
I have not posted in a while. There is nothing exactly new in my gender
journey as the shelter at home orders have taken my Tanya time down to
zero. I'm ...
On the limits of expertise
-
“Listen to the experts” sounds like good advice, but it doesn’t cover as
many situations as you might like. The command itself requires prior
knowledge. Wh...
Socially Distant
-
We're 6 weeks into all the "social distancing" that is meant to flatten the
curve and blunt the spread of Coronavirus. Each of us is finding our own
way t...
Make it so . . .
-
Ok, I know that you all sit with baited breath waiting for me to review TV
shows and movies, so here are my latest opinions. Being a life long Star
Trek ...
Transient life, transient humans
-
We are transient – traveling from one state to another, and sometimes
combination of different states at once. Hello once again. Sharing this
blog with som...
Like a dick pic that runs out of the room
-
How’s that for click bait (or aversion therapy)? Read on, or not. I
understand. Obvious CW apply. My mate and I were sharing sexual awakening
stories, as y...
Transitions: From My Heart to Yours
-
On this day, seven years ago my world changed. I learned a new word;
transgender became part of my vocabulary. Along with that I learned about
the differen...
New Year, Same Stef?
-
I know it’s a bit belated, but Happy New Year! It’s finally 2020 and all I
can say is where the hell did all the time go? Didn’t Y2K just happen? When
did ...
Sideways career
-
Right... Second attempt at this post 😀
This is a bit of a long story, but rather than keep everything cryptic, and
saying it at the end I'm going to do it...
Holding on
-
Is she going to die? I ask the firefighter. It’s been 20 minutes since
I’ve dialed 911, my wife is lying collapsed on the living room floor of our
rur...
Time to Upgrade
-
November 5th, 2010 - I began this blog. When I started out, I did what
many bloggers do, I headed to Blogger.com. It is a nice friendly platform
"back e...
Inside Out
-
Surface elements that reveal the core
Abide a moment, Dear Reader, while I reacquaint my fingers with the
keyboard. They (my fingers) are stumbling about ...
I Miss 2012
-
I was 16, it was the last year of high school. My school had two different
buildings in different parts of the city, the first had from kindergarten
to the...
Transferring to a new Blog
-
Due to circumstances beyond my control, I am forced to close down this blog
and open up a new one. Please visit my new blog, "Dotting I's and Crossing
T...
Standing Up, Speaking Up, Moving Up
-
It’s almost a year since I posted anything on this blog. Just a case of
real life taking over I suppose. During all the years when I was
desperately hopi...
Working on a New Book
-
Hi everyone! Excited to announce I am 21k words into writing my first
novel! It’s an adult vampire-lesbian action sci-fi thriller. Vampires!
Lesbians! Tran...
September 2019 - New Mk 3 Blog commenced.
-
I have not updated this blog for a while for many reasons but I have now
decided to commence Mark Three Blog of K.D.s life were you will now find it
here -...
‘Modern Love’ essay: the gift that keeps giving
-
The essay that keeps giving returns to the spotlight, in a manner of
speaking. Modern Love editor Daniel Jones has revised his compilation of
essays to coi...
Lucy's thoughts - one year on
-
Recently it was the 1 year anniversary of the Sunday Mirror article. So
much has happened in that year, personally for us and for Trans Radio UK.
As part o...
epilogue
-
While this blog is most definitely over, I wanted to explain that part of
the reason is that it was getting in the way of writing my next book called
"Note...
I Am Female
-
If you have been reading some or all of my blog, the title of this post
will seem a bit odd. From previous posts it should pretty obvious that I’m
a woman....
Full Circle
-
Felix stood at the edge of the clearing. Within it stood a small, homely
cottage. A simple sign on the door read “A Tailor’s Touch.” This is the
place, rig...
Trucking Along
-
Well… Hello there! Life happens ya know? Just straight up, get in the
groove and forget your computer exists and then you go to write and you’re
like, holy...
Life as a Trans Opera Singer
-
The National Opera Studio asked me what it was like, to be a trans opera
singer – and how we could all make our industry better. So I wrote them
this – I...
A Smile That Could Light up a Room
-
"I have a lot of questions for you. Do you have any for me?", I asked.
"Yes!", she said. "How do you do it? How have you kept yourself from
transitionin...
I'M BAAAAAACCCKKKK!!!!!
-
I AM BACK BIACHES!!!
HAHAHA!!!!!
Did y'all miss me?
I've had such a great, difficult, exhausting, confusing and wonderful few
years since I last posted.
...
Easter Rising
-
It’s been a few months since my last blogpost, and I felt today was a good
day to count my blessings. Tonight is the 3rd night of Passover, and the
day tha...
The Southern Strategy Is Real
-
The Southern Strategy is real and I have the proof – a PDF of a May 17,
1970 NY Times article where they interviewed Kevin Phillips, the man who
created th...
Wow..so, where to start!?
-
Its obviously been quite a while since I wrote here. Truth told, I had
almost forgotten about this page until I was listing relevant experience
for a magaz...
Clearing Dad’s house
-
When Dad died, it didn’t shock me — I’d been expecting it for a while. And
coping with his funeral was OK, too. But neither affected me so much as the
chor...
What The Heck Is A Conservative Christian TG Gal?
-
I use the phrase "conservative christian TG gal" to describe myself, but
wanted to clarify that phrase briefly in a blog post. The "conservative"
in my d...
Afterword
-
If you’re wondering where the rest of this blog has gone, I’m sorry to
disappoint but after hinting at it for a while, after reaching a particular
mileston...
They Taught Me
-
They taught me that I’m pretty. But I shouldn’t talk, because nobody will
listen. I shouldn’t try hard, because nobody will care. I shouldn’t cry,
because ...
Risk to human rights after Brexit?
-
This recent article from the Guardian gave me some cause for thought
https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2019/feb/13/post-brexit-trade-partners-ask-uk-to-l...
Detaching Myself from My Dysphoria
-
The other day, I was trying to imagine how my life would be different if
I’d never suffered from gender dysphoria. The point wasn’t to create a
fantasy lif...
Purging -- Part 2
-
Last month I wrote about how I have emotional attachments to everything in
my closet. I'm thinking there are many others like me.
Occasionally I am asked...
Notes for a sketch - thinking on Mermaids
-
Small cafe, two middleaged women, A and B, sitting down at a table talking
in Northern English accents.
A - So whats been happening whilst I've been down So...
2018 Review - Part 2
-
Part 1 of my review of 2018 covered the goals I set myself. Part 2 deals
with all the other things that happened this year, and there has been quite
a bit ...
Progress, slowly slowly.
-
So things seem now to be heading in a scary but ultimately more positive
direction for me at last. After a recent discussion with my wife she now
seems to ...
Nothing to Say...
-
Just kidding. I have some stuff to say, my loyal readers.
I'm sorry I haven't kept up with this blog, but do you people really want
to know each week that ...
see postings on facebook 11 17 2018
-
i haven't posted anything in awhile mainly because i spend most of my
posting time on facebook.
so any of my followers can catch up on my postings there
Nails III - Press on Nails - Part Four
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[Ed: Dear Reader, please find a link to Part Three or Part One if you
landed here via an exteral link.]
hile writing this mega post I went browsing in...
Time to Say Goodbye
-
In honor of Samhain and Scorpio season, I’m making a decision to clear
something from my life that hasn’t really been active for a while. I’ll no
longer be...
Brighton
-
So last Tuesday we took ourselves orf to spend a couple of days away and
stay with friends in Brighton. Well it got slightly extended and we came
home on S...
UPDATE ON MY HEART AND MIND
-
People have been asking me how things are going in our families journey in
the transgender world, but also my heart. Here is how my heart and soul
are fee...
Turns Out I Was Right
-
Seems the setbacks I deemed minor actually were minor. I’m down 1.2 lbs
from yesterday, and right back on track with where I was two days ago. I
could se...
Review of The Fence by Lusty Soul
-
At one time in my life — for most of it actually — I was a male of the
species. As I read this story by Lusty Soul, long forgotten memories of the
overpow...
May You Find Peace
-
I have made peace with myself, and can no longer in good faith leave or
recommend the content I once posted here. Those writings were my best
desperate ho...
It’s been awhile
-
Warning: this post is different. It talks about things that may make some
readers uncomfortable – especially ones that know me personally and in
parts it ...
Panties – A Special Pleasure
-
In our recent poll on lingerie that trans girls and crossdressers prefer,
panties tied for first place with 25% of the vote. I don’t profess to
having th...
Profile: Alex
-
You can call me… Alex I identify as… Gender-fluid/non-bianary As far as
third-person pronouns go, … they/them and female pronouns sometimes he/him
feels ri...
This Ain’t About Jobs (10/20/17)
-
Maybe you saw or heard about the memo put out by Attorney General Jeff
Sessions on October 4th that essentially ordered the Justice Department to
do a comp...
Finale
-
Unfortunately, I am finding that this blog and my life is being used far
too often as a political football to promote various agendas and the actual
messag...
Finale
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Unfortunately, I am finding that this blog and my life is being used far
too often as a political football to promote various agendas and the actual
messag...
one more cup of coffee
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TW The hustle for work continues, which is discouraging but necessary. I’m
having relationship issues, as all anyone wants to do is date. Decided
that’s ...
Online competition redux
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Back in April 2016, I mentioned an online competition where I won a
voucher, which I used to buy a skirt and dress, both in size XL.
According to their si...
Day 1,245: Moments Frozen in Time
-
I have to admit, we had a pretty good run here at So There’s That. 21
podcast episodes and 32 blog posts over the course of a year. And a little
bit of n...
Flying Solo in Vegas, Part 2
-
While I was happy I had arrived at my hotel room without any problems, I
was tired, hungry, and a little sweaty from the journey. I was also behind
my pla...
So, it's been a while.
-
How've you been? It's been a while. Almost a year, looking at the last
post. Starting to feel old, but maybe that's because the kids are becoming
people an...
What's in a Name?
-
Many years ago, while the internet was still in its infancy, I started
looking to find out information from other transgender individuals. At that
time bul...
Sunday November 19, 2017 - Finally
-
I started this Journey in Feb/March of 2010, when after the early death of
some clients and friends , I decided at 54 years of age, it was now or
never.
B...
Where is the Washing machine?
-
We were watching tele and caught the end of a who-dun-it. It involved the
death of a rugby coach and he was murdered for being a cross-dresser or
transgend...
25 October Journal
-
Well Folks, I am still working on my other post. I think it will be part of
the next book of my life, rather than the end of this one. I am closing
this bl...
Fingernails
-
little things aren't they, fingernails? Certainly nothing to get upset
about. But for me fingernails seem to have become the straw that broke the
camel's...
Apples & Apples
-
It was my second year at the Hendersonville Apple Festival in NC. The
previous year I went with my wife, we had a great time and enjoyed the day,
despit...
The Penultimate Post
-
It has been a while since I have blogged on here.... a long while. The
gaps between my blog posts have slowly widened as I have begun to find
myself, more...
Excuse our dust, but we have moved!
-
I have moved my blog over to a dedicated hosting provider, and we have
successfully migrated over to the WordPress platform. We have our own
domain name, a...
Trying to reconnect with my children
-
A lot has been written in the media about cis parents who grow to accept a
transgender child. Sadly, very little is available about the opposite
scenario ...
That’s all folks……….
-
Between 1955 and 1959, 143 episodes of “The Adventures of Robin Hood”
emerged from a tiny studio in Walton on Thames and burst onto black and
white telli...
That’s all folks……….
-
Between 1955 and 1959, 143 episodes of “The Adventures of Robin Hood”
emerged from a tiny studio in Walton on Thames and burst onto black and
white telli...
ABC TV Cancels Downward Dog Show
-
“Every Day my dog looks at me exactly the same way, like I’m the most
beautiful thing he’s ever seen. And, I just thought, what if we could see
ourselve...
With Purpose
-
The title of this post really highlights the way I’ve felt the last several
months and the experiences I’ve had the chance to take in. Since my last
updat...
With Purpose
-
The title of this post really highlights the way I’ve felt the last several
months and the experiences I’ve had the chance to take in. Since my last
updat...
Trans Twitter Gives Bad Dating Advice
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Trans Twitter Gives Bad Dating Advice — “You have much gold upon your
head,” They answer’d all together: “Buy from us with a golden curl.” —
Christina Ro...
It has been a long time…
-
since my last post. I’m still here. I am still battling with the trauma
of multiple surgeries, a disfiguring scar on my forearm, a devastating
betrayal f...
I'll miss this platform
-
But I don't think I'm going to keep using it. It's sad, because I've been
writing here for such a long time, and blogging for myself is therapeutic,
even i...
Thoughts and Updates
-
I can't believe it's been almost a year since I've posted anything. Time
flies and we don't...
So...my marriage is still going strong. It's pretty much ...
And happily ever after...
-
Family snuggle timeI've retired from blogging. I've been channeling my
creative energy into other hobbies, and I'm feeling uninspired to write
about my wi...
Questions related to the surgery
-
As mentioned in my previous post i said i would post the questions i asked
the surgeon’s assistant. Also, this post is NSFW as there are some details
regar...
We Need A “Standards of Care” for Detransitioners
-
One of my biggest takeaways from attending the recent USPATH conference is
that many clinicians and other providers sincerely want more information on
unde...
Apology
-
Recently, I undertook the task of going through my blog posts to get a
sense of my history. It has been a bit of a humbling experience – so much
so that ...
What I’m talking about
-
Ok so many of you will have seen this photo, absorbed and passed it by. I
just caught it on a video artical on the BBC website. Quite frankly I was
surpr...
Watching When We Rise on ABC
-
I've been watching *When We Rise*, the four part miniseries on ABC about
the birth and development of the LGBT movement in America and the parts
played in ...
The door is open
-
One of the things that is true; and that I have been pondering, is
that when you come out, your family comes out. I mean; once I am full time,
then al...
Trying Out A New Name
-
I wrote just over a month ago about my anxieties about going away. It’s now
less than a week until I actually go which is really exciting. I’m pumped
to se...
Stuck In The Middle Again
-
How to start? I said long ago when I made my choice to back our new
President that when he did things I felt were wrong I would call him out on
it. Today i...
New pics … at last!
-
Finally got some long overdue “girl-time” yesterday – first time for over 2
years. I really shouldn’t leave it so long because it isn’t good for my
genera...
Why I'm so passionate about the issues of others.
-
*It's been 2.5 years since I've posted. I said I would post if I had
something to say and today, I do. Please note the experience I write about
does not in...
We Interrupt This Program
-
After writing once a week for four years. I’ve finally decided is time to
switch things up and stop posting on schedule and only post when I feel
like it. ...
Was only a reader, till now
-
Me thinks it is time to write something. I’ve been reading T-Central for
almost 7 years now. I have much …
Continue reading →
Love and Loneliness
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*"I've looked at love from both sides now".... Joni Mitchell.*
Down on the seawall in my town, a few blocks from where I live, the benches
that look ...
New Year, big changes.
-
*Happy **New** Year!*
I begin the new year letting go of some important things. First up is the
pseudonym I have used for years. ‘Haust’ is gone, ...
Question
-
Is looking for an excuse and opportunity to link to and out Susie to my
family and friends on Facebook possibly the most stupid and potentially
self-destru...
Questioning the Fluctuations
-
This isn't the scribbling I intended (or promised) to note as I stated in
the last entry. However, it is part of my developing thoughts on this
future sub...
Yuletide greetings.
-
*Soon be nobody left now that Leonard Cohen is gone too... Someone else who
had to deal with depression and his music soothed my troubled soul. Just
sad to...
Victoria’s Secret – The Show
-
Hey, so yesterday it was time for the amazing show. I haven’t seen the show
but I took a look at a lot of pictures and it seemed amazing and I can’t
wait t...
Heroes and Hope
-
It’s times like these that make me feel the most hopeless. I haven’t always
been good at dealing with feelings like this. But when the future looks
bleak, ...
Cultivation Corner Starting Seeds
-
So you want to sprout those ganja seeds you found in your stash?
First off I want you to be sure that your grow space will be warm enough
for seed germinati...
I am able to talk again
-
I am back on deck and I think more in control of myself than I have been
for quite some time. Will be making more additions to this blog as I go
along. The...
Ringing the changes part 2
-
So, my first post about how I changed my name with various organisations
was starting to get a bit long, so this is a continuation. The first can
be seen ...
September 22 2016
-
Thank you. Thank you for the last four years. Thank you for letting me
into your hearts, for letting me be a part of your day, for letting me
bounce my th...
My response to a post by Tyler Charles Austen
-
Dear Mr Austen, On 26th August 2016, you made a post on your eponymous
blog (that means you named it after yourself) called “I Can’t Believe I’m
Saying Th...
Last Post
-
So this is it. The last post I’ll make here (for the foreseeable future
anyway). I’ve moved my fitness adventures over to
http://transtriathlete.com and I’...
A rediscovered poem
-
I found this in my 2013 dream journal, from when I was still in the closet.
My dreams were born from above, not below, or if below, in the primal
ember ...
This is goodbye (A happy one)
-
This is going to be my last post on It’s ok to be a glow stick. I am sad to
be saying goodbye but my life has changed dramatically and sadly, there is
no r...
Identity Crisis
-
I have lost my identity.
I'm not sure if I'm still mom, wife, daughter or 911 dispatcher.
If I'm not any of the above, then who am I besides lost?
Goodbye
-
It's been a couple of months since I last posted, despite my desire to do
an A-Z on the issues I find important. My absence was caused by many
things, but...
The gym experience
-
My fitness in recent years has been something that I have felt has become
very important to me. I remember starting running back in the time when I
was dea...
The Post-GRS Blues
-
On Twitter during the week, I joined in a conversation about Gender
Reassignment Surgery and general fears regarding such a huge operation.
Personally, GRS...
A new audience
-
I am feeling a little humbled. I was asked last week at my college to talk
about transgender issues, to my college group of counsellors in training. I
star...
A new audience
-
I am feeling a little humbled. I was asked last week at my college to talk
about transgender issues, to my college group of counsellors in training. I
star...
Mid-Year Check In
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At the beginning of this year, I wrote a post about my love of new
beginnings and my resolutions for 2016. I was not too lofty in my goals; I
attempted to ...
My Return and First Time Out… again
-
I’ve been trying to collect my thoughts the last few days. They have been
a jumble of emotions, mostly good. I haven’t felt this way in a long time
and f...
Thoughts on the Orlando shooting
-
There is something surreal, in moments like this, about being a privileged
member of an oppressed minority. I can breeze through airport security
with whi...
Honestly Geraldine, why do you need to crossdress?
-
This is the very tentative first step by a somewhat bewildered ordinary man
who discovered that at sixty years of age, I needed to crossdress. I hope
to de...
At work
-
It's definitely time for me to start thinking about when and how I'm going
to transition at work. Outside of work I'm now living as myself pretty much
full...
The First Mothers’ Day
-
If last year we celebrated the last Father’s Day, this year we introduced
the first Mothers’ Day. And yes, the apostrophe is in the right place. I
admit to...
On Being A Transwoman in a Bathroom
-
To be perfectly honest, I am actually really surprised this is a topic that
presidential candidates are addressing. Seriously, it’s one thing for
people to...
Feeling Positive Again :)
-
I had been feeling really down about things over the last few months and I
know that my recent posts on here haven’t been very positive about my
situation....
A good weekend
-
It’s been a good weekend. I actually feel pretty confident that I could
pass one day. I know that’s not the most important thing, but it matters a
lot to ...
A good weekend
-
It’s been a good weekend. I actually feel pretty confident that I could
pass one day. I know that’s not the most important thing, but it matters a
lot to ...
My 100th post…
-
This is my 100th post. I was hoping to make it a special one with a
description of another outing as Valerie, in my new modern “blending”
outfit. Unfortuna...
Back
-
Where is she? When is she coming back? What's happening in Tammy World?
These are all questions I've gotten over the last few months. Questions
shouted...
Ghosts
-
So it has been almost a year since I last posted. It is not that I’ve had
a lack of things to write about, more of a case of writers block – finding
words...
Not sure what to say..
-
I am not sure what to do, or what to say, depression is my only constant
“friend”, with me all the time, someone I hate, yet never hates me back.
Medical m...
Back to the Stone Age.
-
I think the song is fitting, It is not mine, the opinions on this page are
mine. In posting this video, I am in no way saying that this group believes
as I...
Come Up to the Lab: My Gender Workshop
-
Ever since Time Magazine proclaimed a “Transgender Tipping Point” a year
and a half ago, I’ve been exploring trans identities and expressions that
aren’t i...
hiatus
-
just wanted to let you all know that Will is doing fabulous in recovery
(tracking everything diligently on @journeyintomanhood) and in England for
his se...
Time to myself
-
Recently I have been lucky to have a few evenings to myself to let Jenny
out of the wardrobe. Most of these occasions have been just in my room as
usual, ...
Blogging about it….
-
I started this blog because I wanted to help people in a similar situation
to me. I was younger and never proclaimed to have all the answers.
Sometimes the...
Debunking Bathroom Myths
-
*Debunking Bathroom Myths*
Original article by *Brynn Tannehill *can be viewed *Here*
*When the Houston Equal Rights Ordinance was defeated, the ostens...
RUMBLED. BUT IT TURNS OUT TO THE GOOD
-
As per usual on a Wed evening I make my way to the Butterfly Club support
premises to get my self ready to face the world. Nothing new in that. And
as per ...
Caitlyn Jenner Speaks at Chicago House Event
-
Caitlyn Jenner Speaks at Chicago House Event:
grvsmth:
sometranslady:
grvsmth:
sometranslady:
snowflakeespecial:
This isn’t a funny story. Trying on y...
Postscript
-
I thought that my urge to blog had departed. It hasn't... but I do need to
move on. Angie's Aspirations — aka About Angie — was written from the
perspecti...
Got A Little Beautified…
-
Not much here, but I went out for a bit of a day, treated by a couple of
friends, and had my brows waxed and got my hair done. Here’s the results.
I s...
17 Months on T Update
-
17 Months on T Next week marks 17 months on T, nearly one and a half
years. I cannot believe I have not posted any update for 5 months, time
just really h...
10 Ways to Destroy the Earth
-
my mother died in this room now it is occupied by my nieces whenever they
sleep over a playroom i currently occupy it sleeping on the lower bunk of
their l...
Still Here
-
I realized last week that I hadn’t written a blog…or a Facebook post…or a
journal entry…or much of anything in five or six months. Part of me was
bothered ...
5 months in
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*Continued**, from April 5th 2015*
5 months since the hospital I still don't know much about it.
Dissociative Identity Disorder.
My amnesia isn't just hav...
Through The Looking Glass
-
I’m not sure exactly when it happened, but it did. That is, I stopped
considering myself “transitioning.” What does that mean, exactly? Am I
where I want t...
-
*Hey!*
So... tomorrow school begins again.
This schoolyear I am planning to come out and start dressing, acting,
talking, etc. like a girl. Honestly, it's ...
Been Sick
-
Isn’t amazing? We tend to think we are the masters of the planet. Then, a
debilitating illness hits and we become subservient cry-babies. Something
crawl...
Transition Is A Banquet
-
Transition is not a one-way street, or a bowling lane with the bumpers up.
Transition is not a recipe with precise measurements, or a fixed
curriculum, or ...
It’s Inherent
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The frequency and unexpectedness with which being transgendered asserts
itself is ever a source of amazement. Regardless of how deeply in
background one ma...
This Rain
-
Originally posted on chester maynes:
Abruptly, water gushes from the sky. I hear the storm drops too loud. Wind
creeps cold on my skin. Thunder slits these ...
Telling a Friend
-
I recently told a friend about Amy. I didn't go into many details or show
him pictures or anything, but it felt good to talk about and get a positive
reac...
And Last
-
I used that subject last week as well.
It happens. Click to enlarge (the cartoon not the imagination)This is a
hard post to organise and a hard post to wr...
The world keeps on turning.
-
So I guess it’s time to get back into this blog of mine. I mean I’ve been
gone for so long and really it’s just time to start again. Since my last
real b...
On Reconciling my Beliefs, Depression and Gender
-
Howdy. Sorry it's been a while, I am simply the most infrequent blogger in
the world... I've been buried under piles of work for what seems like
forever, a...
End game...
-
So things didn't get better...I slipped further and last Tuesday I went to
my scheduled appointment...when she saw me the choices were go home for a
matter...
Commenters and deep thoughts
-
I would like to start by apologizing for the long break between posts. A
little thing called life intervenes and my writing suffers. Family, health,
work, ...
Motorhead Girls
-
Motorhead Girls ... we are girls who love cars, trucks, bikes, planes, and
boats. Anything with a motor. Maybe we love some of them, maybe we love all
of ...
Shutting down
-
I've decided that I am not, after all, the blogging type.
I never managed it in my other identity either, so I don't know why I
should be surprised.
So,...
Dangerous Situation
-
***** This post might be triggering ***** Something really scary happened
last evening. I was standing outside with a friend (who is also homeless
and we u...
Could it really be THAT easy?
-
So, not going to get too excited here, but bear with me, kay? Last night, I
decided to talk to Phyl about her withdrawals and pulling away. I wanted to
try...
One Year as Me!
-
Dianne Piggott
10/30/2013
One year. Just one year. One entire year. All of one year. One circle of
the Earth around the Sun.
A year ago to...
Cumberbatch and his offense offence
-
Poor old Benny Cumberbatch…him and his big old posh, ex slave owning gob.
Actually I feel for the bloke. Trying to do his best for British actors of
colour...
Coming out on Facebook.
-
I have a relatively small number of friends on facebook, I keep it that
way, I don’t add anyone I meet. Everyone on my friends list is actually my
friend o...
XXY: Reflections of Gender in Children
-
A while back, I read a very sad story not related to Leelah Alcorn although
that is another sad story. This one is about an XXY child who was gender
denie...
New Hair … :) Trying different looks :)
-
So the new wig arrived… and figured a day off would be fitting to try it on
:) Here are a few pics… Ya short and sweet post … :P Peace and Love!
Tamara :)
Transgender Q&A
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When it comes to the subject of transgender and the LGBT community, I think
that there are three different types of people. The first (and the fastest
gro...
I is for Identity Politics
-
Hello all. For my first post of 2015, I am going back to blogging through
ye old alphabet. Today I is for identity politics. Identity politics are
how i...
Leelah, and all the others who struggle
-
Happy New Year!
I'm so sorry I don't update regularly! I have been off school for a couple
weeks, so I have no good excuse, but I hope you all had a wonder...
A New Christmas with family
-
As anyone can expect the end of the year can bring surprises and lots of
joy to one's heart and soul. This year is really an exception for Kay and
I, as w...
On the other side!
-
It’s been a few days since I last posted on my blog, and for good reason.
Thursday, 11th December 2014 I finally had the surgery I had been waiting
so lon...
Saying goodbye
-
The time has come for me to say goodbye and put this blog to bed. I doubt
anyone reads it anymore, but I’m the type of person who likes closure, so I
gue...
Xmas 2014
-
I thought I should drop a post in, and wish everyone a happy Xmas.
If you should be reading this, and you are a Pagan like my son, or any of
the non-christ...
No Big Deal
-
My daughter started high school last month.
The other night she told my wife and me that there's a transgender girl in
her homeroom. During the summer ...
I finally legally exist!
-
On July 1st, 2014 it finally happened. The law that made it impossible for
me and many others like me to change their gender on any official documents
drop...
Pigtails
-
Last night as I was hugging Kegan good night, I started playing with her
hair and realized her hair is at that almost long enough to put into a
super short...
She Returns
-
Gee, that was a long time coming, wasn't it?
I managed to survive from February to July at the Good Samaritan House at
Westgate. This is a Christian-run fa...
The Maker of Noses
-
Like many of you, I enjoy music, and I look to it for inspiration and
support. My taste in music is quite eclectic, ranging from hymns through
jazz and roc...
July 18th 2014
-
I know I haven't posted in a long time, things have just gotten crazy
around here. We were finally able to get pregnant with our third, and
recently found...
been proven wrong
-
I have had many people walk in and out of my life. And a lot of them have
been anything but nice to me. Over the years most of my friend have turn
against...
Tumor no more
-
On January 8, 2012 I was informed that the fight to live was over, I would
not be getting my last Chemo treatment, all scans have no cancer traces in
them ...
-
*I think it is time to completely let my fears of letting those who know me
in my life, but may not know 'me' now because I did what I needed to do for
my ...
Vote for Sophia
-
I'm running in a mock election and I need your votes. You might be asking
why I need your vote, and *how in the heck did I wind up in politics?* Well,
my ...
Keepin’ On
-
When I was driving home from work this afternoon I started to think of this
blog and its lack of updates. I think the general trend is that when I
dress mo...
A Question
-
So, I've been doing this girl thing for a while now.
It's good, but there is some weirdness...
Has anyone else experienced this?
[Bumps into a doorjam, or...
Day 105: Whiskey Aging… DONE!
-
So after nearly 3 and a half months it’s done! I ended up with a bottle
and a half of sweet, dark whiskey. It’s amazingly easy to do. At this
point, I’m ...
Here's a Little Something No One Told You
-
Milestones are things to be celebrated. In our culture we have only a few
of them high school graduation, marriage, parenthood, (divorce), and death.
Other...
Sweeping the Ashes
-
“Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn't stop for anybody.”
“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems
don't rhyme...
Another new chapter
-
*or the next stop on the timeline...*
*Anyway, as some of you may remember, in a galaxy, far, far..wait, wrong
story.*
*I married my other half 13 years a...
I'm coming out and I want the world to know...
-
As the weeks went by I've became more and more emboldened with my
transition. I started buying more clothes, and started laser hair removal.
On Christmas...
It has been too long since last I blogged
-
Yes, I know, more than two years have gone by, and some of you may be
wondering if all is well. YES! Everything remains wonderful. We've now been
happily m...
It's "her's"
-
I've been living as woman for two years now, two really good years. I was
and still am one of the lucky few. I have gone through this transition
without lo...
Paula Deen Quote
-
“I feel like ‘embattled’ or ‘disgraced’ will always follow my name. It’s
like that black football player who recently came out. He said, ‘I just
want to...
Link to my daughter’s blog post
-
Here’s something my daughter posted today… Hexydezimal A fallen angel
returns. hexydezimal.wordpress.com Questions for the Transgender Community
Happy bela...
My Outfit Tonight
-
Tonight I'm wearing:
Red Off the Shoulder Batwing top,
White Racer Back Vest,
Black Wet Look Leggings and
Black Leather Over Knee Boots.
An outfit insp...
Three Unwise Men
-
Yet another bawbag is frothing at the mouth.
This latest cretinous oaf, a Russian actor of whom this reporter at least
has never heard, says he would "stuff...
Hanging in, hanging out, hanging on
-
It has been a while since I have posted anything here. Up to this point, I
have maintained this blog as a combination of sporadic articles, and the
occasio...
I Dreamed a Dream in Times Gone By...
-
This past week has been especially difficult because of the second coming
out of 'Marcy' Michael's female alter gender identity. My strife is
entirely i...
Enough
-
Originally posted on Nuclear Unicorn:
My approach to Cathy Brennan has long mirrored my approach to Ann Coulter;
I generally refuse to dignify their delibe...
Ether Radio
-
Last Tuesday I took the day off work to run errands. Around 8:30 in the
morning I was sitting in my boyfriend's car by a gas pump. Peter was
inside colle...
Hatred, Transphobia & Twitter storms..
-
I'm far from surprised that this has blown up like it has.. To be honest it
was only a matter of time, Trans people put up with an awful lot, I don't
want ...
Solace for the Soul
-
I made it back to Arizona safely. No cops, no sandstorms, and no video. I
tried filming a quick vlog but was repulsed with the way I looked. With the
rela...
The Wedding and the Beach House
-
It was a balmy June Saturday in Napa valley, California. The winery
Heather’s cousin Rosalind had chosen for the wedding was beautifully placed
amidst rol...
Queer Utopia
-
Up until last month, I hadn’t been abroad for years. Two trips to Crete,
aged 13 and 14, and then I found myself in a desert. A travel one. As a
student in...
Reality TV
-
I was reassembling the bike last weekend with radio 4 on drip-feed and
heard a piece about people who live a second life on the Internet. It
appears that f...
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