one of our biggest challenges

Most of us don’t marry thinking that we are going to try and deceive our spouses in fact quite the contrary; we think we can eliminate the feelings or at least manage them through periodic crossdressing or in some other manner.

I so relate and I think many late transitioners do also.  Dealing with being trans and being married is, indeed, one of our biggest challenges. 

I want to note that in Joanna's post, she references an interesting and candid post, Those Pesky Torpedoes, from Femulate's Stana.